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A Tale of an Emasculated Man

• Mr Fox • Season 3 • Episode 13

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In today's episode, I will give you my perspective on today's Emasculated husband. 

I will begin with the origin of today's topic, an elevator ride in my hotel in Iceland.  Here I witnessed an all too common interaction between a husband and wife.  

Was this shell of a man always this emasculated, or had it been a long journey through life that left him this way?

 Did his wife take his masculinity throughout their marriage, leaving him emasculated?  Or did he surrender his masculinity over time by taking what looked like the easier way out?  In essence, did he surrender his masculinity?

Join me as I wrap my thoughts around my short interaction on an elevator.


Leading with integrated masculine energy!

Mr Fox :

Hey, guys, it's hump day, a perfect day to put out a experience that I had a few weeks ago while I was in relationships, their marriages and in their lives in general. are we the victims? Or are we to blame

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Mr Fox :

Welcome everyone. This is Mr. Fox, the host and founder for excellence and fulfillment in all areas of our lives with In today's episode, I'm going to give you my perspective on ride in my hotel in Iceland. Here I witnessed what is thoughts around my short interaction on an elevator of an interesting thing happened the other day. I was in Iceland floor to have some breakfast. My room was on the eighth floor. opened, there was an elderly couple there waiting to get on. that. The elderly man asked if the elevator is going up. And I to get on the elevator at all. His wife entered the elevator. We are going down. Why would you think that we're going up. As to have breakfast. The concierge lounge was on the eighth floor. demanding almost as if he was a five year old boy. Right? And it restaurant. At that point, the old man Saunders into the into his head down looking at the ground. Right the ground right shoulders were slumped as if he had no life left in him at all. say for himself. He really looked as if his flame had been seen this man before, right? I mean, maybe not this man. But also also want to say that I realized I don't know anything emasculated. I don't know the He was, he definitely displayed don't know what they were doing. I mean, I don't know their to me personally. Once they were both on board the elevator and morning marital scuffle, or spat. And she looks at me and her. By that I was two. As the elevator ride continued, she She said, Well, we've been married for 39 years. And again, married couples just bicker. All right. So I smiled, and I Then I congratulated them. It truly is a remarkable said, I have been married myself for 34 years this year, that we notice of, of them of his body language of what was really have wanted, or really any capacity for what he was even like, Hey, do you think that breakfast may be better in the the lounge that you really wanted? Right, there could have leader doesn't just bark out commands like that. Leader has a dislikes. Everyone, and I mean, everyone wants, has the right for himself or for them, or for her for that matter. He just journey to the first floor. I was thinking to myself, just how some couples as it is in others. But oftentimes, it's there, we can see it. The older man doesn't even look up as I make honestly, I felt sad for this man. And again, I don't know judging either way. This just got me thinking got me thinking Always says you don't know a stranger. Right? And I'm relationships. I like talking to people. Well, as it turns out, hotel. They were just going to grab some breakfast before scenario, right of the emasculation of a man, or how it typical to me. Maybe not to this extreme, but it exists, guys. I which could be the case. And I think that would be even more slowly, right bit by bit over time. The latter is what I and then just over Time. It's insidious as we as we give it from guys like you wanting to know how you can help support me the most powerful thing that you can do to help support me and podcast app, rate the husband podcast with five stars, and And on a personal level, it allows me to know that you the It's like candy to me, I love it. I love it when I know that Guys, let me know that you want more. This process doesn't I believe that most of the time the husband surrenders his absence, the lack of masculinity. So when I say that emasculated. I'm not blaming his wife. She most likely didn't do explain. Often when people first get together as a couple men They take care of us, they nurture us, they support us, attractive to us as masculine men. They like to pour that that respect. So in the beginning of a courtship, it energy. And we as men, we love it, we relish it. And I think woman to want to take care of her man in a relationship. But expect it. At work, he probably remains forward leaning, he his masculinity. And he uses it daily. So he keeps that part of Right. And again, like I said, I think he enjoys it too much. He be forward leaning in life. He needs to have goals, right? He courtship phase or the honeymoon phase. And then eventually, we relationship, a standard for her taking care of us. And not so call it a responsibility. Because it is it is a a while they both start sensing it, both the man and the woman, She wants somebody to begin to make some decisions for someone Once we're on this path, those decisions won't be what she because it relationship structure has already been built used to leading at this point, she's used to making those sure you've all heard this, that it takes 21 days to form a environment, right? 21 days of constant, strong, consistent they say today that it's much longer than 21 days. And it's really probably is 90 days, 120 days. But again, that's just 90 days later, it's changed for you. That's not the case. So And it's also going to be different, probably for whatever our lives. My point is that just because we want to make changes relationship, and we're both willing to work hard and yourself and especially your partner, some grace. And back to attempt to take the leadership role, and to make some decisions And remember that she has been making these decisions because have that masculine energy for the rest of our life. Right for feminine partner starts to take care of us, right? That's what anybody else making the decisions. When and if the level of resistance, then this isn't because of some sort of leadership at home has already been established. Her decision mindset at home has moved from the feminine that we relished so resent. This happen out of necessity, though, there was the not move from the feminine energy to the masculine energy, and the masculine. She did not take your masculinity. You using it. Us men are not the victims. Our lack of masculine seen so many men that try to lead with masculinity. After smallest amount of resistance. Right? That resistance just They also don't see any value and fighting over what is often trying to say would be that whatever it is that we're our wives. So it's not that it's insignificant. But it's like the about out, they retreat immediately. This retreat responsibility of masculine leadership. This scenario is all with embarrassment on her face, embarrassment, because she her husband. And we can both clearly see that there is a with that old man in Iceland, he would have had a story similar journey has really been like throughout his life. But I with him slowly checking out, slowly, not caring about the because it's easier than offering his honest opinion. And fight or an argument. And when I say somehow, it's because I know, it's sad, because when you listen to a lot of older sadly, there's probably some truth to that comment. We hear not take your opinion, that she does not live to make her It's not that you're not allowed to have your own opinion, too much of a struggle to have your own opinion. And then you you. Your wife is the one filling the void.

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Back to the couple in the elevator,

Mr Fox :

I can almost guarantee that there was a point in their from her husband. Could it have been five years into their when she was starving for it. And he couldn't see it. He far. And 39 years later, this is where their relationship ended relationship. Do you see any similarities? Are you two on a anybody that is? Friend, brother, a sister, somebody that about this, you do you know somebody? And frankly, that's restore your relationship

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and quality base here, The Eagle has landed.

Mr Fox :

Thanks for joining me for today's episode. I wish forward into your lives and be sure to lean forward and part to lean forward into. Maybe it's because it's our personal are headed to the Carolinas. We're gonna ride the tail of the and then we're going to rent slingshots. There's a lot of weekend as well. So super excited about the weekend and

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