Masturbation: Under Your Command

“Commanded to Touch: Leading Her Through Erotic Surrender”

This episode is not for the passive, the polite, or the performative.

This is for the men who are ready to lead—not just in life, but in the bedroom.
Inside this bold, unapologetically dominant episode, Mr. Fox guides you through how to incorporate masturbation into your D/s-M dynamic—not as fantasy or kink theater, but as a powerful tool for control, connection, and erotic growth.

You’ll learn how to:

• Reframe her masturbation as a submissive act of trust and obedience
• Build psychological safety and intimacy through communication and calm command
• Use your voice, presence, and structure to lead her into vulnerable surrender
• Introduce mutual masturbation to reinforce mirrored desire and erotic authority
• Debrief every scene like a true leader—refining and evolving her submission

This isn’t what you were taught about intimacy.
This is what no one ever taught you—but should have.

If you’re ready to lead her deeper than she’s ever gone before—emotionally, mentally, and sexually—press play.

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

Chapters

• 0:00 Overview
• 2:53 Welcome
• 4:18 Why Her Masturbation is About More Than Her Pleasure
• 5:59 From Insecurity to Obedience: Creating the Space for Her to Go There
• 8:14 Leading the Scene: Voice, Presence, and Erotic Obedience
• 8:46 Voice Commands
• 9:15 Mental Check-Ins
• 9:34 Progression
• 9:58 Affirmation
• 10:15 Flip It
• 10:38 Leading by Example: Mutual Masturbation & Erotic Play
• 11:55 Actionable Steps
• 13:45 Closing

Transcript

🎙️ “Commanded to Touch: Leading Her Through Erotic Surrender”

🎧 INTRO

Mr. Fox:Gentlemen, let’s get into it.Today, we’re talking about masturbation.But not in the way most people do. Not in private. Not in secret. Not as something disconnected from intimacy.We’re talking about it as a deliberate act of Dominant leadership in your marriage—a tool that, when used intentionally, creates deeper trust, stronger connection, and more powerful arousal.And here’s something you should know…Every month, inside our husDOM and subMrs Discord channels, we dive into a Monthly Themedesigned to elevate couples’ sexual intimacy and connection.We wrap that theme in articles, exercises, positions, scenes, and real-time chat discussions to give you actual guidance—so you’re not just fantasizing about a stronger connection… you’re building one.The first Tuesday of each month, I’m going to touch the surface of that theme right here—so you have the framework, the mindset, and the momentum to lead.So if you’re ready to elevate your sexual game—or better yet, your prowess—you’re in the right place.This episode is different.This is kinky. This is dominance and submission. This is D/s-M in its most intimate form.You won’t hear this anywhere else.Because this isn’t about technique—it’s about transformation.This is how we take our sexual intimacy to heights that vanilla couples can’t even imagine.These are the lessons no one ever taught us—the ones that make relationships magnetic, that charge your home with an energy no one sees, but everyone feels.This is what separates us from the crowd.This is what makes us husDOMs… and what makes them our subMrs.You leading her. Her body. Her obedience. Her pleasure.This is Mr. Fox, and you’re listening to the husDOM Dominant Leadership Podcast, where presence, power, and partnership aren’t just ideals—they’re practiced.Let’s lead.

🔹 SECTION ONE: Why Her Masturbation is About More Than Her Pleasure

Mr. Fox:When I instruct my wife to touch herself for me, I’m not asking for a performance.
I’m not watching a show.I’m watching surrender.And that surrender, gentlemen, is erotic because it’s built on something far more powerful than lust: trust.When she spreads her legs and follows my voice, she’s not chasing orgasm.
She’s obeying.And when obedience is given freely, not under pressure, not for manipulation—but because she wants to please me—that is leadership in action.You want to know what that moment feels like?
It’s not just arousing—it’s bonding.She is vulnerable, exposed, and willingly offering her body because she trusts that I will hold that moment.
That I’ll protect it. Guide it. Elevate it.She might even learn something about herself—about what turns her on, about what she needs—because I’ve created the space for her to go there.And I get to witness it. Lead it. Be the one she submits to.That’s not porn.That’s possession.You’re not just leading her orgasm.
You’re leading her confidence. Her connection. Her courage.

🔹 SECTION TWO: From Insecurity to Obedience

Mr. Fox:Here’s the truth, guys—this dynamic doesn’t begin with her on display.For many women, touching themselves in front of someone—especially their husband—is a massive psychological hurdle.You’re not just asking her to be naked.
You’re asking her to be seen.And if you don’t respect that? If you rush it? She’ll close down.So how do you lead her there?You meet her exactly where she is.👉 Maybe she’s self-conscious about how she looks.
👉 Maybe she’s never touched herself without shame.
👉 Maybe she’s actually really experienced—but unsure how you’ll react.That’s why your first job as a Dominant isn’t to command—it’s to communicate.Bring it up outside the bedroom. Use real language.Say something like:

“I want to explore something with you. I’d love to guide you in pleasuring yourself—not because I want a show, but because I want to be part of it. Because I want to be the man you trust with your most vulnerable moments.”

That opens the door.Then, start small.

• Use a blindfold.
• Sit close and talk her through it without touching.
• Let her keep her clothes on if needed.
• Praise even the smallest acts of courage:

“That’s perfect. You’re beautiful. You’re doing exactly what I want.”

This is leadership.
This is building a safe space for her obedience to grow.And when she knows you’re not judging her, rushing her, or using her…She’ll open wider—physically and emotionally—than you thought possible.

🔹 SECTION THREE: Leading the Scene + Mutual Masturbation

Mr. Fox:So once the groundwork is laid, what does it actually look like to lead this kind of scene?First, understand something critical:You’re not directing a show. You’re not detached.
You are fully present.Let’s talk practical tools:🎙️ Voice Command

“Uncross your legs. Slide your hand down. Show me how you touch yourself when I’m not here.”“Eyes on me. I want to watch you surrender.”

🧠 Mental Check-Ins

“Tell me what’s going through your mind.”
“What’s turning you on right now?”

💡 Progression

• Touch while clothed
• Then add toys
• Then restraints, blindfolds

Earn it. Don’t expect it.🙌 Affirmation

“That’s it. You’re obeying so beautifully.”

Feedback fuels trust.🎯 Flip It

• “Masturbate me. Slowly. While you tell me what you want me to do to you with this cock.”
• “You don’t get to touch me until you’ve made yourself come for me first.”

🔥 Leading by Example

• You touch yourself. Instruct her to match your rhythm.
• You touch her, then ask her to finish the job while watching you.
• You both watch each other. Train. Connect. Mirror.

This isn’t just sexy.It’s training, connection, and erotic growth.

🧭 SUMMARY + ACTIONABLE STEPS

Mr. Fox:If you want to integrate this into your D/s-M dynamic, here’s your plan:✅ 1. Discuss first
Bring it up during downtime. No pressure. Total safety.✅ 2. Choose a starting point
Voice only? Blindfold? Just words? Start simple.✅ 3. Lead a scene
Set the environment. Guide with your voice. Observe. Adjust.✅ 4. Debrief
“What did you like most?” “Anything uncomfortable?”✅ 5. Build from there
Add layers: eye contact, restraint, fantasy, shared rhythm.Lead her—not for performance…But for presence, surrender, and intimacy.She’ll give you more than her body.She’ll give you her full erotic trust.

🔚 OUTRO

Mr. Fox:Gentlemen, this isn’t fantasy.This is erotic leadership. This is presence in its rawest form.This is the kind of trust and pleasure most couples will never experience—because it was never taught.You won’t get this information anywhere else.
Not in the mainstream. Not in porn. And definitely not from the culture that raised us.Intimacy isn’t something we were ever taught as men.But if you want to elevate your game—and become a master at intimacy, not just sex—then don’t forget to follow the podcast.And if what you heard today hit home… if it resonated… if this feels like it could change your relationship—that’s amazing.And if you’d like to help me change mine…Please take just a minute and leave us a 5-star rating and a positive review.It helps other men find this path.
It fuels the mission.
And it tells the algorithm that dominant husbands matter.I’m Mr. Fox.Until next time—Lead her. Protect her. Possess her.Stay Dominant.