Before You Engage This Holiday Ask Yourself One Question - Fox Tracks Series

In this episode of Fox Tracks, I share a moment almost every man has experienced—you see something online from someone you respect, and it shifts how you feel. Maybe it was a meme. Maybe a comment. Maybe a holiday dinner conversation that went sideways.

The easy move? React. Engage. Fight to prove a point.

But leadership isn’t about convincing others. It isn’t about being right. It’s about presence. It’s about discipline. It’s about knowing when not to step into the chaos.

This episode explores:

• Why unfollowing someone might protect connection—not end it
• How algorithms distort our perception of people we care about
• The difference between ego-driven reaction and masculine leadership
• And the one question every man should ask before responding this holiday

Whether it’s online, at the dinner table, or in any moment of tension—you can take the bait…
or you can lead.

💬 I want to hear from you.
If you’re listening on Spotify, share your thoughts in the comments. Or find the post for this episode on husDOM Facebook or Instagram and add your story there—especially if you’ve lived through a holiday moment where things went off the rails.

Let’s talk about it. Man-to-man.

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

Transcript

🎙️ FOX TRACKS — 

You’re listening to Fox Tracks.

This is where I pull back the curtain and let you hear the thoughts I don’t script, polish, or prepare.
 No production. No filter. No bullshit.

Just something real. Something I’ve experienced, seen, or had cross my radar this week.

I’m not much of a social media guy.

In fact, I only created my personal Facebook account last year — and I did it for one reason: to promote my charity motorcycle ride over the summer. That’s it.

 Yesterday, I logged in.

I saw a post from a colleague I’ve known for over 25 years. One of the funniest men I know.
 Kind. Empathetic. A strong man. Masculine in all the right ways.

 But the post?

 Way out there politically.
 And the comments under it… same direction.

We’ve all been in that spot.

You see something online that doesn’t line up with your values, and it impacts you. Some harder than others. Not because it’s thoughtful — it usually isn’t.
 Most of the time, it’s a meme. A jab.
 Something designed to provoke, not to deepen understanding.

It’s not about truth — it’s engineered to trigger.

 But here’s what I reminded myself…

He’s still the same man I know.
 Still one of the funniest, kindest, most grounded guys I’ve worked alongside.
 And I genuinely look forward to working with him again.

He just has a different opinion than I do — and like so many people right now, he’s getting drawn into the vortex of social media.
 That place where “my opinion matters more than yours” feels justified…
And the algorithm keeps feeding you more of what you already agree with,
until it starts to feel like you — and everyone around you — think the same way.

 That’s not reality.
 That’s programming.

So I unfollowed him.
 Not to disconnect… <slight pause> but to protect the connection.

I’m going to let that sink in for a minute.

 So… where am I going with this?

The holidays are coming.
 We’re going to be spending time with people we care about — family, friends —
 and some of them are going to believe things we don’t.

Dominance — leadership — is not about always having your opinion heard or understood.
 It’s not about convincing anyone of anything.

It’s about presence — how you show up.
It’s about discipline — how you affect the people around you.

Don’t misunderstand me…
 I’m not saying agree just to pacify someone. That’s not leadership. That’s surrendering to comfort.

What I’m saying is: don’t engage when there’s no fruit in it.

If the only thing to be gained is speaking louder than someone else… arguing just to prove I’m right…
 That’s not leadership.

 That’s ego.

A dominant husband doesn’t need to fight every battle to prove his masculinity.
 There will be moments in life where he must fight.
Choose those moments wisely.

Avoid the chaos.
 Know the difference.

 You don’t take the bait.
You don’t react or attack — you lead.

Because…

“I care about the relationship more than the argument.”

 That… is masculine discipline.

 Don’t let the loudest version of someone be the digital one.

Challenge for the week:

“Before you respond this holiday… ask yourself — is there any fruit in it?”

I know almost every man listening has a story or a moment like this.
 You’ve seen something online… maybe even from someone you respect… and it shifted how you felt.
 Or maybe you’ve got a holiday story where things went off the rails at the table.

I want to hear it.

If you’re listening on Spotify, drop it in the comments.
Or find the post for this episode on husDOM Facebook or Instagram and leave it there.
 
Let’s talk about it. Man-to-man.

That’s the track.
 Let that settle before the next gathering.