Marriage's Sexiest Secret

MSS007 - How to ask your husband for Dominance and submission

• Mr Fox & Little Kaninchen • Season 2 • Episode 7

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The Formal Acceptance is the key to getting started to this dynamic. This act or ritual is the rite of passage that must happen between husband and wife before they can really begin to build the relationship. And then another reason we thought this might be great is that many times this dynamic Well, I would say 90 plus percent of the time, this dynamic is brought into a marriage by the wife. So while we'll be talking from the submissives perspective, during this most time, Mr. Fox will help us with his perspective or the Dom's perspective along the way. On this podcast, we are going to answer:

  • How do you ask for your Marriage's Sexy, Secret dynamic? 
  • What is a Formal Acceptance? 
  • How do you do the Formal Acceptance?


Mr Fox :

Welcome to the Marriages Sexiest Secret

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, so today, on this podcast, we're Why we chose the subject matter, for this month is in the method really begin to build the relationship. And then another we'll be talking from the submissives perspective, during dynamic? What is a Formal Acceptance? And how do you do

Mr Fox :

Okay, we have a lot to go over here. LK.

Little Kaninchen:

I'm ready.

Mr Fox :

All right. Why don't you take my hand? Let's do this.

Little Kaninchen:

I thought Theresa just something else

Mr Fox :

We're gonna do that in the Fox's Den

Little Kaninchen:

It sounds good to me.

Mr Fox :

All right.

Little Kaninchen:

Do you want to know a secret?

Mr Fox :

SECRET

Little Kaninchen:

Do you want to have a secret? A dirty little

Mr Fox :

Oh, come on. You must be curious.

Little Kaninchen:

Marriage has a new secret or relationship your marriage ever getting cut. Welcome to married with a twist

Mr Fox :

Greetings everyone. Mr. Fox and little kaninchen or lk?

Little Kaninchen:

Oh man, you just told him the secret secret. So let's talk community first. subMrs. February and review. So things self love. And I know all you dirty minds out there the quote says loving thyself helps us love others more. But workshop for toys and tools and we have a wonderful elf subMrs.

Mr Fox :

nice gift.

Little Kaninchen:

It was a it was a wonderful discussion. One you get your dessert together. Just be careful not to get it in

Mr Fox :

I was gonna say something's going in the crack

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, a little bit but you have to be careful. really one of the best group discussions we've ever had about discussions we have every single month on subMrs. So I encourage that your brain is your largest sex organ. But even more a confidence every single Sunday, we posted a great thing chakra, great information. If you're not a part of journey, what steps to take what method what parts of the method Valentine's night? everybody enjoyed that so much. So I would

Mr Fox :

I'm gonna leave all that with one more comment. And just go subMrs.com/events and you'll be able to see everything goes to the calendar, or backslash events, and you'll be

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, anything you want to know about the

Mr Fox :

Alright, let's get some good stuff then.

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, the good stuff, the cream of the Oreo,

Mr Fox :

Yep.

Little Kaninchen:

How to ask for Marriage's Sexy Secret Dynamic, of it, if you boiled everything down, that there's one word that going to start,

Mr Fox :

Right is crucial if you don't put in the work, but you and you bring this up to your husband or your spouse, if it's

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. So the preparation, we'll just talk I'll back us up just a little bit and say that you know, your something new, that might be a little bit shocking. You know,

Mr Fox :

You need to build the atmosphere, you need to set that

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, the framework, that's a good word journal or just a notebook and start writing some stuff down. or some paper, just write down these few things in preparation. general. You can find those terms on subMrs on husDom, you

Mr Fox :

Right. So terms would be I mean, just some ideas get or Dominance and submission style relationship, if that's down the rabbit hole, but just have an idea in your mind

Little Kaninchen:

Right.

Mr Fox :

So again, when you're reading it, and you go search your partner of what this relationship or lifestyle is

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, and if you're not sure, we'll just you covered this before, but it is based on the relationship first, There's that question of how could you want something like promote monogamy. That's one big huge difference. I'll just state

Mr Fox :

Yeah, I'll just say I don't think that's hot topic at might draw on their mind probably doesn't have to do with

Little Kaninchen:

So the second thing I would do is, go through or you don't even know what those would be, you can get on place someplace where cruelty is shown. I don't know. You know, it's real, and things are happening and happening the way

Mr Fox :

That's the entertainment value I think but pain. They don't want to disrespect her in any type of pictures of somebody humiliating and degrading and punishing and instantly put up a barrier or a wall because he would never want into if you get hurt you and it becomes a more selfish point of Yeah. Like I basically, in the whole entire thing says stay would say. And back to I think you said this in the very beginning of people, we would recommend starting somewhere where it's

Little Kaninchen:

So I would say the next thing is copy excerpts can just get your iPad out and just show him that. Again. This also suggest to him to go to husDom.com and register there concerns, when they start a dynamic like this, he's going to

Mr Fox :

And as you're talking about that, I can even think of resolve the feelings that I was feeling inside about, you know, anything it was trying to find resolution in my own mind and

Little Kaninchen:

Yes. And then, you know, I always tell would be great that you guys have found this couples site. just add a lineup of BDSM, images, tumblers, again, don't doing this as as you're showing these pictures, don't just show quite like we do or they wouldn't guess that we feel. so then he can get a better idea of what it is that you're wanting,

Mr Fox :

Yeah, feelings are really powerful. Most guys don't think that again, as a man, I'm probably just seeing the kink popping into his mind. You have to express it like lk is saying

Little Kaninchen:

Yes. Well, then we get to, once we get preparations in order, you're going to pick the right time to

Mr Fox :

And one of the things that I want to say too, is like these things in our own relationship. There was no trying to choose the right time and not just choose the right

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, I'll give you just a little This is a slept for three days. I think I read everything. Then I started how this could work for us. Mr. Fox is a very dominant person, was just like, I got to figure out a way to do this. This started writing down. How a marriage not really think about could you make this work? I would say it was probably I say representation for the married couple, monogamous couple. There what I did. So yeah, I mean, I would say it was weeks and

Mr Fox :

But planning the event, like what day I would be home a lot of preparation and pre planning and a whole lot of relationship figured out, and then came to me with all the acceptance until they figure it all out, because it's a journey like, what would it look like? So you can answer those

Little Kaninchen:

So when you're picking your time, I kinda like

Mr Fox :

Where ther kids are yelling and screaming.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, where something is stressful, you a getaway, someplace where the stress is not on.

Mr Fox :

Right. And I'm going to add to that it's not just like, me away and kind of like all those got me away from all of

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, and Mr. Fox had the word there, soften I'm going to remind all the subMrs out there or future or make those hard parts soft, I guess I don't know where I'm

Mr Fox :

No the hard parts are hard.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. So like, you know, so have lots of sex stomach, but it really is the penis.

Mr Fox :

Its the penis.

Little Kaninchen:

Then the stomach, I would say you have to

Mr Fox :

Right? Because I cannot eat.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. So think about the point where you can speak to his heart. Some guys you can time or setting up the atmosphere for everything. You gonna get into the atmosphere here. But you know, I bought a you get out of the shower before him, you kind of set up some you step out of the shower, and you have the lighting, maybe and kneel to him, have that all set up for him, when he gets doing this. So you take his hands and you say, you know, I are is mine. But you just asked him, please, we come in here and you just drop your robe. And you kneel to him. And you say, to just at that point, you have to just stop and listen to what don't ask, then zip your lips. And just listen to what he says. of secondary thoughts, you can answer those. So you have to

Mr Fox :

And also though its the power, there's a huge power can do that gives somebody the most humility is first of all, other thing is when somebody kneels in front of you is my emotions into words about like, I didn't understand what Dominant. Like she says, just wait for an answer. It might maybe it was 30 seconds. It felt like a lifetime. Like I just,

Little Kaninchen:

Up until that point, it was a power struggle Yeah. But I don't think there were any signs. I mean, there Yeah, and I would say you're given them a few seconds to you're very serious about maybe more serious about than just marriage, and also do something to enrich it and make it a

Mr Fox :

Yeah, it's commitment and vulnerability, I think. I position in front of me. I mean, it was, I was awestruck, and

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. And then he may even ask you questions sport. Basically this thing we're going to do together. it's kind of like I scratch your back, you scratch mine, you get D|s-M dynamic is based on honest communication, and healthy closet, you're going to have all this other things to do that responsibilities. And this is just not one sided, where the knew, blah, blah, blah, you know, but we none of us have a maybe once he is your dominant, they really do start thinking a things.

Mr Fox :

What I'm about to say is not very common, but it does that, or however they justified in our mind. But it really, that mistaking when you're the man the level of like lk saying be unforgettable. And both of your lives very crucial, right experience, I think and then like, lk said, so there's so

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, like I said, a rite of passage, you depends on you know how things go, some people are so nervous handed it to him like, but then they don't feel it as much. So kind of a really clusterfuck for better other words to use. But I the fact and go back over it and suggest to him afterwards to to other guys at first or feel like they don't want to be away. And it's really great that he gets the gist of from others

Mr Fox :

One of the things that went through my mind when you're it's been if it's five, ten, twienty or thirty years ago, I minute. Would you remember that moment in your life? I mean, intimate manner than that. And that's the whole purpose of

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, it's it's, and and I tell everybody, I mean, it is work. And you do have to make your marriage a to what he says. And most the time everybody kind of reports the type of husband that really has to know everything before he not asking him to like, I don't know, cut off his right arm or

Mr Fox :

So you're not asking him to have any answers. That's with me? Like, I don't have it figured out? I know, you don't

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, the first step is what we're really asking

Mr Fox :

Because if you don't take that you're not on a Right?

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. And it's the best I would say I crack up.

Mr Fox :

The research, the research, once you get on the

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, yes. And it's fun, and you laugh a lot, because we quit learning about one another. And that's, that's partner, but you don't like all of us are ever evolving. You you really, you take the good knowledge you already had. And other shoot, some of us hadn't seen each other naked for 20

Mr Fox :

Yeah. And people will have that communication started on the journey, they're like, I didn't realize the

Little Kaninchen:

Depths that they have never went before and

Mr Fox :

so you might be coming to this with the best other that you never know. Because every single person I've

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah.

Mr Fox :

Out of 20000 people yeah, there has not been a

Little Kaninchen:

So well. Basically that's our you know, time because we know everybody's time is so golden Are you thinking this dynamic could really work for you and drink me toss it back and drink the Wonderland Kool Aid because marriage accessory