Marriage's Sexiest Secret

MSS010 - Orgasm Training and Control

• Mr Fox / LK • Season 2 • Episode 10

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In this podcast episode, we have a little phrase, la petite mort, the female's little death. 

And you asked me what does that means? It's an expression in France that means the brief loss or weakening of the consciousness, and in modern usage refers specifically to the sensation of post-orgasmic that's likened to death.

This episode of Marriage's Sexiest Secret talks all about female orgasms. It begins with an in-depth discussion about what is actually happening to the woman's body during a female orgasm. 

This episode dives deep into BDSM training and control of the female orgasm.  Mr Fox and lk also share a lot of their personal experience with orgasm training.

 

Mr Fox :

Bonjour! Welcome to Marriages. Sexiest Secret submission. Marriages Sexiest Secret. Thats a lot of secrets

Little Kaninchen:

I love secrets Just in time queuing to French music. I love it. Let's start with our voyeurs glimpse into today's podcast.

Mr Fox :

I do.

Little Kaninchen:

Today's podcast we have a little phrase More specifically mel la petite mort, the females little death. And you asked me what does that mean? It's an expression in Today we examine the female orgasm and inspire marriages Its like living on the edge. And I won't sing Bon Jovi for you.

Mr Fox :

You're sure you don't want to sing LK?

Little Kaninchen:

I'm sure. Let's get started. Do you want to know a secret? Secret! Do you want to have a the smallest bit curious. Shh... Marriage has a sexy new secret, a relationship accessory hole, where Mr. Fox and I share our secrets. Secrets that will inspire you to explore, create and build sexual back. In other words, drink the Kool Aid. We can give you all

Mr Fox :

Let's get this podcast started LK. Are you ready to

Little Kaninchen:

Oui oui monsieur. Come with us fall down the rabbit hole and into the foxe's

Mr Fox :

Yes!

Little Kaninchen:

Yes. Welcome to marriage's sexiest secret podcast. But it's crazy. So let's talk orgasms. But first, let's talk what is The clitoris which is made up of over 8000 individual nerve begins to swell and your outer lips separate. This is often Along with this lubrication, the lower part of your vagina

Mr Fox :

or toy.

Little Kaninchen:

Yep. As arousal increases, the person's There are changes throughout the whole body. A head to toe kind chest and your face get all red or pink and rosy. Many artists

Mr Fox :

You've probably seen it on other people in your life.

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, testosterone and have some tension, some tingling building throughout their body, over your whole body. That's called my atonia. And it is orgasm?

Mr Fox :

No, I didn't. And I would say from our experience,

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, absolutely. That's when you're

Mr Fox :

I think that's great. Back to what you were just

Little Kaninchen:

Almost.

Mr Fox :

Maybe that was you telling me

Little Kaninchen:

I think that might have been me saying that?

Mr Fox :

Well, we definitely agree.

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, we agree on that one. Let's talk about researchers show that gentle reflex is part of the spinal

Mr Fox :

That makes perfect sense. I'll be honest, like I

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, so interesting. But if we talk a

Mr Fox :

I love feeling those

Little Kaninchen:

The sexual tension caused by lovemaking or feeling you get. And the afterwards, what some people course your breathing returns back to normal. Women also have that means when you're watching porn, you might be able to just transmitted directly to the brain. There are many nerve

Mr Fox :

I want to know where that pathway is.

Little Kaninchen:

You find that pathway quite often. Let me just submissive, you have to keep those pelvic floor muscles that's kind of the goal. You want that actual climax of that

Mr Fox :

So that's really interesting news to me, So if

Little Kaninchen:

More pleasurable.

Mr Fox :

pleasurable orgasm.

Little Kaninchen:

Absolutely.

Mr Fox :

So all those kegel like you just said the kegel

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, during your orgasm, before, during and

Mr Fox :

Hmm. I had no idea.

Little Kaninchen:

If you think about it, all of us ladies who

Mr Fox :

Which it pretty much does naturally.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah.,

Mr Fox :

I honestly thought that was like, is it incontinence? Is

Little Kaninchen:

Absolutely. That is it's like building any

Mr Fox :

Right? But I had no idea that by keeping that muscle

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, it's a pleasure for you. It's pleasure

Mr Fox :

So as a good dominant I could give you exercises to do

Little Kaninchen:

Absolutely. That would be part of the

Mr Fox :

And it would benefit me.

Little Kaninchen:

Again, win, win.

Mr Fox :

I love this. I love it. Okay, I'll let you continue.

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, so we were talking about the climax

Mr Fox :

Now men are so literal, I know men are gonna be out

Little Kaninchen:

Well, she would kind of the contractions

Mr Fox :

Unless you're inside her.

Little Kaninchen:

Right? You could feel that.

Mr Fox :

Absolutely.

Little Kaninchen:

If you want to explain about watching someone

Mr Fox :

Winking is basically when you watch the vagina

Little Kaninchen:

Yes. So you can count the contractions by

Mr Fox :

If it is really powerful. It's like she has

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, everybody would need that each one of those 12 contractions for a minute at a orgasms are just physical or just the body, they're also the Your brain also is releasing chemicals. Like I said earlier, submission. Really, when you're doing orgasm training, or reacting, mind and body. So I would say and I tell everybody, have an orgasm. And I would say husbands know their wives know what her rhythm is. No, I think you should explore that fun.

Mr Fox :

All the women in the world are cheering you on right

Little Kaninchen:

Well, it's so true. So that's just the very

Mr Fox :

Alright. What I would say to about the orgasms is I so I mean, orgasms are great for everybody.

Little Kaninchen:

Everybody has a part in it. Let me just say Parners I mean, both partners have a great benefit and

Mr Fox :

right, it's the key to

Little Kaninchen:

a happy marriage.

Mr Fox :

Yeah, complete ecstasy. I mean, it is it's the pathway

Little Kaninchen:

I agree.

Mr Fox :

So when we talk about orgasm control and training, it right. That's kind of what the forced orgasm is. So orgasms partner, or by yourself. It involves the maintenance of a Edging. Edging is postponing that orgasm to achieve a Orgasm denial, it's pretty much what we say it is. Preventing as well. One thing that I've done with LK, while I've been that I don't think she can accomplish an orgasm in. Right, it. How freaking frustrating is that? And she's usually really

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, it builds. I mean, doing like we

Mr Fox :

Right?

Little Kaninchen:

It's part of honing her for your arrival.

Mr Fox :

Yeah. And again, I mean, that can even be done you know, I'll check in like she talks about like our check in And trust me like, LK, so good at this control. I've given her

Little Kaninchen:

Well, I mean, the more you practice, the more We could be standing in Costco, and he could have said the right

Mr Fox :

Should we give it a try? Hey I bet this would be

Little Kaninchen:

Probably. But yeah, so I'm just saying you get

Mr Fox :

But it's also plain fun. It gives you like, like Giving her a real opportunity to be able to have an orgasm.

Little Kaninchen:

And your Sir is helping you learn how to do going through my mind the entire time we're scenning or playing

Mr Fox :

I don't want to get sidetracked but honestly after say that lk has some of the best orgasm control, probably of

Little Kaninchen:

A lot of years of practice.

Mr Fox :

And as a dominant, there's still like she can

Little Kaninchen:

Right.

Mr Fox :

So like as the dominant I have to think of what my goals can still find that O.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, we'll talk more about that later.

Mr Fox :

There really is an art to it, I think I mean, there's

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. Another reason, it also increases tolerate stimulation he gives you. Some sirs like immediate flexibility and stimulation, I guess I should say. So that's a duration of your sex or what's going on probably at least twice

Mr Fox :

I would say done correctly, I believe it makes doesn't exactly stop. Like I want to say a guy's body like my the body started off on the right path. It's almost an

Little Kaninchen:

I think that's the case for most of us ladies. And then we'll talk about orgasm control can be used to create a flexible and what you're trying and doing. Maybe if he's pushing please please please I want to please him. And that's used for and subs. This is great when you're doing this orgasm husband in the fact that he is controlling that.

Mr Fox :

Definitely.

Little Kaninchen:

So by doing this in the beginning, oh, it's

Mr Fox :

Yeah, there's definitely something very about the orgasms is we also realize that you know, some that we do realize that some people will have challenges

Little Kaninchen:

Like you said we could go on and on but the menopausal a woman. That's going to help her find her mind

Mr Fox :

Right? And again...

Little Kaninchen:

Again, another whole subject.

Mr Fox :

It is, but I also found it fascinating at the beginning and things besides the psychological.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah.

Mr Fox :

Besides the hormonal?

Little Kaninchen:

Like we said, we keep saying orgasm is the

Mr Fox :

I've been saying that since we were kids. It fixes

Little Kaninchen:

I have one more listed that the orgasm the man to not spread his seed to save his seed up. Also, if time, teaching you to have it if he doesn't touch the clitoris, virginal or the clitoral, then this gives you a chance to

Mr Fox :

And not to get too far off the topic again but the areas down around the pelvis and stuff a lot of places you can

Little Kaninchen:

There's so much more than just the button. There is soo much more than a button.

Mr Fox :

Yes.

Little Kaninchen:

Its the easy button, like staples.

Mr Fox :

And what a great name for it.

Little Kaninchen:

But easy isn't always better. So then we go submissive to orgasm or not right? Orgasm is command. No you already are doing this, you know exactly what I mean. sexual plateau. Then he'll quickly reduce the level of order to develop and increased level of sexual tension. It's

Mr Fox :

Yeah, we talked about edging a lot on husDOM.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, I'm gonna start singing 30 Seconds

Mr Fox :

No, go ahead. Everybody would love that. I would love

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, no, no, no, nobody would love it. But simulation. And by practicing this with his subMrs to learn at some point, the repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to usually stronger due to the increased tension of the arousal your mind telling you that you just failed on holding back and wink, funishments, punishments.

Mr Fox :

And like I was told LK I really don't like the word would be an opportunity.

Little Kaninchen:

Right. But if you're like a performer like me, not reacted the way you were asked to. So that's the whole

Mr Fox :

It would ramp up so quickly, right then LK, that y

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, you know, I punished myself for

Mr Fox :

You would be thinking holy shit, what's coming.

Little Kaninchen:

Right. Because the submissives mind isn't something else that again, you don't hold on to that because

Mr Fox :

Because we'd be going somewhere else pretty quickly.

Little Kaninchen:

Right. So the flip side of orgasm control, go and stop, go get high, high, high stop. Get high high high. Mr. Fox.

Mr Fox :

By bondage.

Little Kaninchen:

Bond. James Bond, no bondage, James bondage.

Mr Fox :

I'll bet you LK.

Little Kaninchen:

James bondage.

Mr Fox :

I'll bet you there is already a porno named James A forced orgasm is consensual BDSM or kinky sexual

Little Kaninchen:

(Sinnging) and over. Without that come down period between each orgasm right bang bang orgasm after orgasm with zero break and intensity. control or train an orgasm of a submissive physical restraints(sinnging)

Mr Fox :

The whole bondage thing though, like there's a whole Right? If you're edging it, you tie them up and you tease them. physical, but it's also a lot of psychological intensity that's bound. Regarding multiple or forced climax, the dominant can doing those things, you can say a lot of wonderful things about

Little Kaninchen:

Use your five senses.

Mr Fox :

Yes. Yeah, what you say to her can also be incredible

Little Kaninchen:

We're gonna go into total sexual denial next,

Mr Fox :

I don't know if I'm gonna like this.

Little Kaninchen:

I can tell you I don't think anybody likes it,

Mr Fox :

Three days with no water, I think.

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, so if you put them out in the desert total avoidance of any type of genital stimulation to any part on a man or woman. Remember, the brain is the largest sexual It could be your submissives favorite turn on our fetish.

Mr Fox :

And it is though, like we talked about like if I is the verbalize. But if I've locked up under lock and key, your

Little Kaninchen:

Like that pleasure center.

Mr Fox :

You don't, I know you don't, LK you're so creative mindfuck of the whole thing.

Little Kaninchen:

And I have a funny little side note, that was or is still we still talk about to this day. And I'm sorry husband loves. So it's kind of funny, but we still talk about

Mr Fox :

it's hilarious.

Little Kaninchen:

Sorry, his hole, wherever you are. If you

Mr Fox :

It's great.

Little Kaninchen:

We're also going to talk about the use of a all the while denying his submissive the ability to used to prolong penetrative sex, for the dominant in cases of ED satisfies a dominant partner's need to control his submissives

Mr Fox :

I'm going to add even to that whole using the dildo in So to think that during that scene, you're gonna have an to extend penetration and orgasms and just to extend that

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. And, you can use it during your orgasm

Mr Fox :

Right, which is great on so many levels, like even

Little Kaninchen:

The real thing.

Mr Fox :

Right? Not just fill my hole, but the real cock she'll

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. So there you go.

Mr Fox :

There is not much hotter than your submissive

Little Kaninchen:

Yes.

Mr Fox :

And really needing it.

Little Kaninchen:

Right. There's nothing more sexier

Mr Fox :

Alright, and beginning training and honing her skills. her to masturbate and how many times she can during the day ask learns that her orgasms are owned by her dominant. And

Little Kaninchen:

Lots of practice, practice practice, We can talk a little bit about so many people talk about rules it clear that the rule always applies to her during scenes

Mr Fox :

Yeah, to be honest, I would say the whole rule is explicit permission in order to come. And really, that rule

Little Kaninchen:

We can talk a little bit about the different verbal command. That's what you hear in books. That's what you tone of voice. How he uses the command, or the trigger or the then you're in the line and somebody comes over the speaker

Mr Fox :

LK, it's like ooo,

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, yeees. And you'd have one of those

Mr Fox :

That's hilarious. We have the touching cue. The touching cue is the touch in the

Little Kaninchen:

So the verbal cue has the tone of voice and shall we. A couple can use a visual cue. And again, it's just visual cue. So you know, h could flash you three finger foot. You really have to be thinking because if he slaps The countdowns of course. It's the final countdown.(Singing) Yes, that's Europe from 1986. This is probably the most used in play. So he's counting down till you're allowed to come. Sound cues. I would say the snap of a finger. You can use timers helicopter on there and then trapper in to responding to the

Mr Fox :

I think you're right and every podcast somehow you're

Little Kaninchen:

Ah, ok.

Mr Fox :

I love it.

Little Kaninchen:

I don't know I think that is how my mind works

Mr Fox :

What kind of helicopter?

Little Kaninchen:

See what you have done to me? You're in all these noises I want to like upload a helicopter After so many years with you I guess it's just...

Mr Fox :

I love it. I really do

Little Kaninchen:

Transforming me. Um, I'll hand it over...

Mr Fox :

Little by little, I'm transforming you. Little by

Little Kaninchen:

Im going to hand it over to you to talk

Mr Fox :

If you're edging or practicing forced orgasms with that she is physically spent past her limit. Communicating maybe leading to a half, or all together disappearing orgasm. her to orgasm. Even when you've been stimulating her in the

Little Kaninchen:

Okay, so I have a couple of common question is, when do you want to do it? Whenever you both Deem just a little period of time where you practice that. It annually to add some freshness to your dynamic and you can also aftercare. I also advise people to make sure in your downtime journals? They can journal their thoughts. What worked for them.

Mr Fox :

It's not handy during a scene No, but later on. Yes,

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah. So you can go back and read what worked

Mr Fox :

And the key for us Dom's probably is to go back and

Little Kaninchen:

Of course, afterwards, it would be too Share that with your sir, in downtime even. It's very

Mr Fox :

I'm gonna go back to your number one because when do

Little Kaninchen:

Yes.

Mr Fox :

Every single scene. Probably from the very first

Little Kaninchen:

Because my number one rule if I don't come So the whole time I'm trying to perform for my sir and not do

Mr Fox :

Right. I would say that that element is in almost every happen. They're going to somehow have my control on them. And no in the exact same scene. Which I would think it is in most

Little Kaninchen:

Well, an actual training sessions where

Mr Fox :

So the scene is just that.

Little Kaninchen:

Yes.

Mr Fox :

Okay.

Little Kaninchen:

Yes. And people do ask me how many course, once you get pretty in control of yourself, and he's you're showing me what you can do. And then you take it a

Mr Fox :

If a guy asked me, how many times I would tell him,

Little Kaninchen:

Right. Make a plan. What's your intention?

Mr Fox :

Right. And then I would use that and figure out how

Little Kaninchen:

And hopefully, it takes a really long time to

Mr Fox :

Unlike most goals, because in my mind, I'm thinking

Little Kaninchen:

Your going to ask the man is a four, we'll do

Mr Fox :

Right. I would set a goal.

Little Kaninchen:

And then it is really fun to sit down with the that come up sometimes during those sessions. OOr maybe you're

Mr Fox :

Somehow we ought to come up with like, when I say

Little Kaninchen:

Yes, we've done it in the we've done it in

Mr Fox :

So maybe give everybody like, drop down menus or

Little Kaninchen:

Absolutely. You know, there's a couple

Mr Fox :

Maybe this is a good one.

Little Kaninchen:

Yeah, I think so.

Mr Fox :

I'm liking it.

Little Kaninchen:

Okay. Well, I think that ends our orgasm Are you thinking this dynamic could really work for you and about marriages sexiest secret and how to begin your journey in

Mr Fox :

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Little Kaninchen:

Merci.

Mr Fox :

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Little Kaninchen:

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Little Kaninchen:

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Little Kaninchen:

Until next time, au revoir. Goodbye From our Wonderland This is lk

Mr Fox :

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Little Kaninchen:

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Mr Fox :

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Little Kaninchen:

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Mr Fox :

Anymore little French comments put in there LK before

Little Kaninchen:

How do you say fuck me in French?

Mr Fox :

I don't know but I bet that's pretty universal.

Little Kaninchen:

Fuck Me?

Mr Fox :

Yeah, I bet if you said that to a French man, he would

Little Kaninchen:

You would think I say fuck you,fuck me.

Mr Fox :

No, I doubt he would think that. Baiser Moi Baiser Moi Say like you mean?

Little Kaninchen:

Baiser Moi...

Mr Fox :

There you go.

Little Kaninchen:

Oh, wait, I want you to fuck me. Here is, I want you to fuck me.

Mr Fox :

You know I'm gonna put this in the podcast.

Little Kaninchen:

Right here. Oh, what it doesn't say it to me

Mr Fox :

You mean it doesn't talk dirty to you? What kind of

Little Kaninchen:

I have to get it to say it because I can't say

Mr Fox :

Oui Oui

Little Kaninchen:

Ready?

Mr Fox :

That's a lot to say. That's a mouthful

Little Kaninchen:

Je veux que tu me baise Why don't you just hide your skirt up and I get the idea. Je veux que tu me baise, Nevermind.

Mr Fox :

Just touch yourself lk, I'll understand.

Little Kaninchen:

We're just ending

Mr Fox :

Alright.