Stop Leaving Life On The Table - Successful and Still Misaligned w/ John Salzwedel

You can do everything “right” and still feel like something is quietly slipping away. That tension is where our conversation with coach, speaker, and author John Salzwedel gets real, fast. We talk about how a life can look stable and successful on the outside while feeling out of alignment on the inside, and why the first step back isn’t a dramatic reinvention, it’s learning to listen again. John shares what changed from his younger years of being “always right,” and why rebuilding trust takes time, consistency, and the kind of integrity you can’t fake.

We also dig into career change and identity, especially what happens when people only know you as “the insurance guy” or the person with a pitch. John breaks down how to redefine yourself without performing, how to spot the gradual warning signs that the “right thing” isn’t right anymore, and what alignment actually means when your daily actions don’t match your deepest beliefs, gifts, and passions.

Then we challenge a favorite phrase that deserves to retire: work life balance. John explains why work is part of life, why balance is seasonal, and how prioritizing what matters keeps you from burning the dinner while you chase distractions. We close with a grounded take on faith, coaching, and “showing the gospel” through presence, care, and a steady joy that runs deeper than mood.

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Transcript

Welcome And Meet John

SPEAKER_01 0:19

Welcome back to one on one with Mr. U. Of course. I'm your host, Mr. Yu, in studio with us, coach, speaker, and the author of Stop Leaving Life on the Table, John Solzweedles in the House. John, how are you, man? Good to see you today.

SPEAKER_00 0:32

I'm good, Mr. U. Great to see you today. I'm doing well. It's uh it's a good day.

SPEAKER_01 0:38

We got yellow snow out here, so I'm not thrilled about that part, but it is what it is. Uh, before we get into the conversation with you, which I think is going to be uh incredible, uh listener of you are gonna love what you have to share. But before we get into that, if you're watching and listening for the very, very first time, first again, thanks for making us part of your week. We definitely appreciate that. Uh, if you're listening to us, of course, that means you're listening to us on Apple Podcast, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Pandora. Thank you for doing that. Uh, we are live, so we're live on YouTube and Facebook right now as we speak. So if you have any uh questions or comments, you can drop them in the comment section where you see the episode. We'll see. If you got a question for John, by all means, about his book, his coaching, his uh public speaking engagements, whatever it is, work life balance, all the things he may talk about today, drop them in the comment section. We'd love to hear from you guys. Maybe John answer questions right here live or on the show. So thanks again for making us part of your week. We're excited about the conversation and the topic for today. So, one of the things that you talk about is leaving life on the table, and that's kind of in my weird house. That's where I live, but I want to get into that's on my table just for a moment and kind of ask you uh about you. What was life like for young John? How'd you get from where you were to where you are today? What's a what's a key factor in your mind that got you from your the young John to the person who are there beside age, besides growth?

From Always Right To Listening

SPEAKER_00 2:01

Yeah, I got a lot of that age too. Yeah, yeah. You know, that I think one of the biggest things that that I learned over the years that got me from young John and people that that would know me from from my early 20s, I was always right back then. I don't know if you had that, but I was always right. And uh I made sure everybody knew that I was always right. And uh as I've gotten older, I I figured out I know less and less and less. And so I spend more time listening now than I used to. And and the biggest thing was it just um, I think because uh I could tell when people just you know they didn't want to talk to me anymore because I wasn't listening. And uh and that's a terrible thing. Nobody likes to feel like they're not being heard, and uh when I recognize that I still struggle, but uh, but I'm working on it and I uh I I try to listen a little bit better and make sure that everybody knows I do want to hear what they have to say.

SPEAKER_01 2:58

I love that. I want to ask you a question about that real quick. I think it's really uh incredible. Immediately I'm thinking about the little boy who cried wolf. I don't know why that's coming to mind right now, but that's what I'm thinking about right now. And I love to ask you because this is something I believe that, especially if you frame this for listeners and viewers, they're making something out of this. When you are at a place where you have been known to be a certain kind of person, a person that in your case, a person that wouldn't listen. What did you what would the transition like to become somebody who uh people can start to trust again? No, there's some personal change in you, but did you do anything different when you knew that you know people weren't listening because of how you were? Did you stop talking? Did you talk more? Did you uh were you more emotive? What was different that kind of got people to begin to trust you again?

SPEAKER_00 3:52

The biggest thing was time. It took a long time. I had to prove myself over and over again. The um if the Stephen Covey's book, um Seven Habits, he talks about listening to understand rather than listening to respond. And when I started taking that to heart, I think people started noticing, but it still took a long time because they were just waiting for me to jump in and and tell them. But I'm getting there.

SPEAKER_01 4:20

Yeah, I feel like that's so that's so powerful in in so many ways. I don't want to go off into a tenant. I do that on this show sometimes, but you know, it just it just feels like there's a lesson in that for us. We can't do things just because we want to, and not think about the impact they have on people. Look how long it took. I don't know how many years it took. Look how long it took for you to regain trust after with lost. It's not it's not easy to just flip on a dime and turn a light light switch on and be back to being relevant, be back to being uh trustworthy, be back to being, you know, what you become now. So big lesson in that, man. We'll get into that. I I don't in a shape of a point you want to share about that. I'll I'll keep on moving. Any any thoughts about that that you want to touch on?

SPEAKER_00 5:05

You know, that's one of the biggest lessons I I taught taught my kids was your integrity is the only thing you can control. Um and and it's also has the biggest positive or negative effect, and when you lose some of that, um takes a long, long time to bring it back.

Escaping The “Insurance Guy” Label

SPEAKER_01 5:24

Yeah, absolutely, man. One thing you talked about that was kind of almost along this line was how you had to redefine yourself. You said you were known as the insurance guy, and I I I relate to it to a degree because and I I'll ever share the story, but I'm gonna share it today, and the people know what I'm talking about. I'm not I'm not afraid of it. I used to be involved in it in network marketing for uh a short period. A short period is like a handful of years, it wasn't a lot, a long time. But when you're in that kind of space, and this is not about all network marketing, I don't even want to get into that part of the conversation. I'm just saying, generally speaking, when you're in that, people see you coming like the insurance guy. If you walk in the street, people go come inside the house and they close their blind. They better mow in the yard, they'll stop mowing, they'll put the get in the garage, close the blind, shut the door because they don't want to hear the pitch that's inevitably gonna come from you. So when I call people to check on them now, years after I've been uh removed from network marketing, guess what happens? People wonder what's the pitch? What do you need? You call before you were trying to sell me something now, it's like you just call them for no reason, they don't know how to react and how to respond. You were the insurance guy. Yeah, how did you redefine yourself from the person you used to be using the tactics and strategies you used to use to just be the person who just cares now, who cares about somebody who's trying to do something for others more than you're doing for himself? How do you how'd that redefinition go?

SPEAKER_00 7:00

It's it's a long process. Uh, one thing that was a little bit different. My my uh my insurance business was was an insurance wholesaler, so it was working with other insurance people, but the people in my life and my other circles at my church friends, whatever, they knew me as as insurance, and and now I'm retired and I'm working more hours than I ever worked before.

SPEAKER_01 7:22

But of course, you guys are listening.

SPEAKER_00 7:24

Yeah, but I'm having a whole lot more fun doing it. But the it's really a time thing, and I can't tell you entirely how it's happened because I'm still working on it, and it's just a matter of having those conversations and just saying, no, I don't do that anymore. This is what I'm doing now, and say it over and over and over again. And uh yeah, that's just kind of the the nature of the beast when you make an entire an entire industry shift that people just don't think of me in that route, and that's okay, I'll get there.

When The Right Path Turns Wrong

SPEAKER_01 7:55

No, that makes a lot of sense. So just just so much so much so much cool life stuff in this that kind of staying here in this vein with this next question. For those people who are watching, listening, who may be in a place where, and I know this through this show, what I've noticed if people come through who are deep in business, they did things the old-fashioned way, if you will. Good job, college, four years of college, get a job, stay there for 30, 40 years, and then they re they discover the the entrepreneur inside of them and they go out and launch out and do their own thing. It happens on so many episodes of our show right here, even in the comment section as well. How do you know when the right thing isn't the right thing anymore, John? How do they help by people who are watching listening right now? Because sometimes people are are staying in that so-called right thing. I'm using finger quotes now, and I said the right thing, and it wasn't right at all for them. And it took them years to figure it out. And then once they figured it out, it took some additional years for them to break out of it and go into what the real right thing was. How do you know when the right thing is the right thing anymore? Well, when the right thing isn't the right thing anymore.

SPEAKER_00 9:07

Excuse me. You described uh my path very, very well. I have found that there's there's two different two different ways people end up in that I'm no longer in the right thing. One is some big sudden thing happens, and then it's blatantly obvious. You know, there's uh a death in the family, or the business you work for closes and you have to do something, or whatever. There's some big, huge, tragic thing or life-changing thing. So you notice it right there. Those are those are the easy ones to identify, not necessarily easy to deal with, but they're easy to identify. For me, and I think it's true for a lot of people. When when I got into the insurance business, I was there for almost 30 years, and it was a gradual, gradual thing that the industry was doing one thing, I was growing a different way. And kind of like that old story about you putting a frog in the in the pot, you know, if you put them in hot water, it'll jump right out, put them in cold water and turn it up, he'll stay there. Whether that's true or not, I don't know. But the story is you have those little tiny changes, you don't notice them. And then at some point, you don't want to get out of bed anymore. You delay stuff. Well, I'll do it next week when you perfectly well could do it today. You you ignore things that you know need to be done, you just don't have that excitement about the job anymore. For me, that's that's how it all came about, and it it lasted a long time, and then moving from that to where I am now took years. It uh because it's a it's a scary thing to, you know, I had I had the outward trappings of success, everything we're supposed to supposed to go for. Nice house, good family, good income, and everything we're told we're supposed to seek. But I didn't have that inner peace anymore. And to make the change that I did, I tried to do the in smaller ways. And there's that's a great way to do it if you can. I tried to just adjust the job that it was that I was doing. Um eventually got to the point I couldn't adjust it enough to feel that peace, to feel that alignment, to be excited, to get up in the morning. So I made a huge change. And to suddenly go from all of that to nothing. I mean, that's that was scary. That was really scary.

What “Out Of Alignment” Feels Like

SPEAKER_01 11:36

Yeah, good way to describe it, man. A lot of people are doing that and they don't have anybody to help them, they don't have a coach, they don't even have a mentor. They just kind of just saying, no, I'm gonna just bet on myself, and they don't need to even know why they're doing it, just know something they just feel compelled to do. So yes, definitely scary, definitely scary. But I think it I think it matters. I don't know people how to do those kind of life situations, and even as a coach, I try really hard to not tell folks what to do. I want people to understand whether it be a client or somebody a mentor, I want them to understand all of the all of the factors, all of the the risk, and then decide, you know, yeah, because naturally like I ain't a uh magnet, there's a pull, and I want them to find that pull. I don't want to push anybody into anything. When you this something that you talk about, you I think you like talking about uh and it's definitely a buzzword in spiritual circles now. I feel like it should be uh globally a thing, but it doesn't seem to be that as far as the word itself is alignment. What does it mean to you, John, to be out of alignment? What does out of alignment look like in your mind? Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

To me, out of alignment is when your day-to-day activities and the direction you're going don't line up with your very base beliefs, the very essence of who you are. Something is just a little wrong, maybe not totally contradictory to it, but but you're not using all your gifts and talents that you've been given, and where your heart and your passion is lying is not being used. So you have that that alignment issue. Doesn't mean you're doing anything evil, anything wrong. Um, it just means you're missing something.

SPEAKER_01 13:25

You got some many facets to you, man. We'll try to see if they can use the rest of this time to get into that. Hopefully, I can do that without leaving anything on the table. No pun intended. So one thing you not shared uh some discussions about was coaching. Uh I believe we're both in the in the coaching space and we're both believers. Uh the the fancy term these days is Christian. I I I have a big challenge, even after we talked last, I had a just I was just thinking about this so much. I'm like, we're we going on our conversation, I'm thinking about the interview, trying to craft it, and I just went on to in a tangent, if you will, mentally about Christian cultures. There's so many of them out here. So I won't I can't I can't even say us and align myself with them because of what they do, generally speaking. But there's so many Christian cultures out here, and they claim that and they there's so many things they don't they don't have. One, they don't have anybody that's uh uh an accountability for them as cultures themselves. They don't have that, they refuse to have it, they don't want anybody to be uh overseer over them in a way, they want to be free agents, if you will, and then on top of that, they also don't really have Christ. They have a knowledge about the things of God and and Christianity, uh as you know, generally speaking, but they don't have the relationship that makes that engine go, you know what I mean? And they offer something that they don't have access to. And I and I don't I don't understand that. And I see so many people who come out of those kinds of relationships and they're just like they're more confused than when they went in. As a coach who is a believer, just tell me your perspective on that. What do you do to safeguard yourself before you try to coach people? Just talk to me about a little bit about uh as brief as you can about that experience and your mindset surrounding that, if you can't, please.

Coaching With Faith And Humility

SPEAKER_00 15:36

Sure. And and I'll actually take it a little bit even outside of the the Christian realm, just to coaching in general. Um I I call myself, uh, I try not to use life coach for the exact same reason. There are an awful lot of people that call themselves a life coach because they heard they could do it without having a license and they could have five minutes of training and uh and do that and go out and do that. Um and the same, it's not any different in doing that same thing and calling yourself a Christian life coach. I actually changed my term to life crafter. Um I don't know if it fits any better, but it separates me a little bit. Um and the the so I I think that it's the same whether it's Christian or non-Christian, the um in the in the coaching realm as a coach, you have to well, one of the big things you gotta do is shut up and listen and and not give all of the answers on everything. The the nice thing in in someone who hopefully is calling themselves a Christian life coach is that Christ does mean something to them. And having that um in in my book, I talk about everything in the book can be used by someone who isn't a Christian, but I spend an awful lot of time talking about I am a Christian, this is the glasses that I wear when I talk about something, this is what I'm thinking. And if you don't think that way, you'll have to kind of interpret this stuff to fit for you because that's the only way I can think. And you hope that anybody that's calling themselves a Christian life coach, a Christian coach, a Christian mechanic, a Christian street sweeper, whatever they are, that crisis is in their heart that means something to them. And the idea that we are all given gifts, God wants us to use them, he's there to help us to use them, he wants us to find them. And it's important that um that we spend the time talking to him prior to these meetings. Actually, when I be before I I had a little conversation with him before I tuned in with you today. Give me the right words to say because I'm not smart enough to have the right words, but there's people that need to hear things, so put them in my mouth so I can get them out here and and make them available for people who need to hear them, whatever that might be.

SPEAKER_01 18:06

He's answered your prayer. Thank you for sharing that, man. That's that's fantastic. If I'm not mistaken, you're podcasting too, right?

SPEAKER_00 18:13

No, I'm I'm uh I don't have my own podcast at this time. Down the road, probably, but I'm not there yet. I got too many new things I'm doing right now. I can't do that one yet.

Why He Wrote The Book

SPEAKER_01 18:22

You got your handful. You're a fantastic podcast guest, that's for sure. Let's get into the book a little bit. Stop leaving life on the table. What's been the reaction to the book? What was your intention for the book? What do you what do you what are you seeing now?

SPEAKER_00 18:36

The reaction's been good. Um, the everyone who who has read it that I've had a chance to talk to has um found something in it. And my hope for the book, the the whole idea behind it is to make sure everybody knows you matter, you have a purpose, you matter just because God made you, and you don't have to prove anything in order to have value. Success is different for everyone. Find what success means to you, not what you're told success is supposed to be, and live that live that life. Build it, design it, see where you want to go. Don't just take what comes your way and and go with the flow. Because going with the flow may not be the way you're supposed to be going, and it's very easy when you're going with the flow to go the wrong way. Things that are against your beliefs and against your values. Um one of the key things in the book that I tried to do, and people people will notice I I try not to talk using big words and talking fancy. I'm I'm just a guy, and I'm not a theologian, I'm not a doctor, I don't have any of those letters behind my name. And friends of mine who have read the book, they say, I can hear you talking. It's just it's just a guy talking in the book. And um that was one of my chief goals was that it would be accessible to anybody. They wouldn't get bogged down on page one saying there's no way I'm gonna be able to read through this because it's just too hard to read. It isn't. And that's been that's been fun to hear.

Priorities And The Burnt Dinner Lesson

SPEAKER_01 20:13

That's really good, man. That's really good. I like that, I like that. When you mean one of the things as a I'm a publisher author, I haven't written uh haven't published a book, I've written a few books, haven't published a book since this is the very first one. I think about 10 years now. Uh when you write a book like this on a topic like this, I feel like you almost are compelled to live up to that on a on a on a daily basis. The the public life, everybody thinks that you're doing that. It's already kind of assumed. You're writing a book about it, you must be doing that then. But privately, what's what's John's private struggle with leaving life on the table if there is one?

SPEAKER_00 21:07

The good part about it is is I wrote the book from my own experiences. So it is close to home. But I got a long way to go. Um, there is so much that I don't know. Um, I still have to get myself listening better. I still have to, the biggest thing I think my biggest struggle is um I need to do all of the things right now. Well, I can't do all the things right now. I gotta I gotta put them in order and and I talk about that in the book. You gotta prioritize because you don't have all the time in the day. Um, I tell a story in the book about um when I'm cooking a meal on the grill and I get distracted by my wood shop and I go off and I start cutting stuff and I come back and all the foods burn. Oh wow, really? Yeah. So, you know, it's it's just uh getting my priorities in order. So, my biggest struggle is staying focused on what I need to be doing in that moment. So, my general direction, I think I got I got that part down pretty good. But in the moment, sometimes I lose my priorities. Wow.

The Myth Of Work Life Balance

SPEAKER_01 22:15

Okay. I I couldn't help but break out into a cheer at this part of your book when you were talking about the myth of work-life balance. I've heard that so long and honestly, be real, I believed it. Yeah, this is this. I don't know if it's just the wrong word choice or just a fallacy all by itself. Share with me what you think about that and what you were trying to say through the book.

SPEAKER_00 22:44

The myth of work life balance. Uh, well, let me ask you this question. It might illuminate what I what I feel. Do you ever hear anyone talk about their sleep life balance?

SPEAKER_01 22:54

I've never heard that ever.

SPEAKER_00 22:57

Nobody talks about why is work not part of life? Work is part of life. Sleeping is part of life, eating is part of life, hanging out with friends is part of life. It's not a work-life balance, it's just balance and finding and it changes as you go through life. It's not 50-50. It's sometimes when you're starting a new business, you're gonna spend 70% of your time in the business, maybe 80% of your time in the business. Sometimes the business is going smooth, but you got problems at home. You're gonna spend 70% of your time, 80% of time at home working on that. Sometimes it's all going okay, and you're 20% and across the board, whatever it may be. But to isolate work out as the single most important thing and is counterbalancing life, it's not separate from life. It is life. So get your life in balance. Work is just a part of it.

SPEAKER_01 23:50

The one place that I've never heard anybody talk about work-life balance is people who are entrepreneurs, could just be a coincidence, but people who are in business for themselves. I've never heard I don't care if they wrestle on tours, I don't care if they're private chefs. I've been uh all these people in one way, shape, or form. I don't think there's a coach, owner of construction companies. I never heard anybody in those veins talk about work-life balance. These people who work the the classic corporate retail, quote unquote, those kind of places. Never heard anybody else outside of that do that. Yeah, it is a career ones, but I I don't think it is.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

No, I don't think I don't think so. And it's it's you just gotta find what that balance is for you because your your balance isn't the same as mine, and and you you won't meet anybody that has the same percentages or anything the same as yours. It's it's all different. There the balance is takes as many shapes as there are people in the world.

You’re Okay As You Are

SPEAKER_01 24:51

I love it, I love it. What's your biggest aha moment in your life so far?

Stop Comparing To Highlight Reels

SPEAKER_00 24:58

My biggest aha moment is that I'm okay as I am. I'm not as good as I want to be, but I'm okay. God loves me as I am. Um and I can do the stuff that I'm doing, but I have to um um yeah, it's it's it's kind of in in that vein, and it's a realization, and and aha, I'm okay as I am, but I'm not good enough. So it's it's kind of just a weird thing that that I don't have to prove, I don't have to do anything in particular to have value, but there's a lot that I want to do, and the better I get at those things that are important to me, the better my life is going to be. The more happier I'm going to be, the more I'm going to enjoy life. Not based on someone else's ideas, but based on my ideas and and just knowing that's my value is not in that, but my enjoyment is. So when did you find that out? Um daily. I have to, it's a you know, it's an ongoing thing because you know, society is constantly telling you you're not good enough, and you go onto Facebook and you see all the amazing things happening in other people's lives, and you watch TV and everything's all glamorous and whatever. Well, you you don't talk about it in the book. You don't see the B sides. Um, for those of you who don't know what the B side is, for the youngers, records. We used to listen to records, they were round black things. The big hit that it played on the radio, that was the A side, and on the back they put another song that nobody ever figured was going to be anything. Well, you you don't you don't hear those. People don't display those on Facebook, social media, they just show the great things. So we're constantly comparing ourselves to the best of everybody we know, and not the real life. So it's an ongoing thing to to keep myself remembering how I'm doing, as long as I'm going forward and working my plan, and uh then that's good. Just keep working it.

SPEAKER_01 27:13

I didn't intend to ask about this, but I'm just kind of just curious. I've I've been a big fan of uh a big fan. When I say fan, I have to think about what that sounds like that. I'm not I'm not I'm not a fan in that sense that I'm a fan of my team. I've been a big, big fan of John Maxwell, of his books and his work. And through our conversation, you kind of shared that you were a part of his team. Yeah, tell me, you don't have to get into what that how you got then if you'd like to, but what are the benefits of that? I see all of people's profiles and they plaster it. As a matter of fact, the first thing that they mentioned, they'll they'll mention that they're a father or a husband or a wife or a mother. They don't. The first thing that they show is I am a member of the John Maxwell team, and then I'm a speaker, and then I'm an author. So tell tell me, I you can't speak for them, obviously, but tell me what the benefits are in your mind for being a part of the John Maxwell team.

What The John Maxwell Team Adds

SPEAKER_00 28:19

The training was by far the biggest. Um, when you when you join the John Maxwell team, you get access to um just lots and lots and lots of training materials, one-on-one interactions if you want them, group interactions if you want them in speaking, in leading, um, and in coaching. And you learn a lot of skills and all of the you you dig in deeply to John's books, and you learn how to teach John's books, you learn how to lead groups with John's books, which he's got, I don't know if he's broken 100 yet, um, but he's got a lot of books. He's pretty close to 100 if he hasn't broken it yet. And most of them fall within the leadership realm. And you learn a lot by really digging in and learning how to teach those, but you also learn the skills of coaching. And I had the benefit that the um when I joined in, there was one um kind of head educator for the coaching team, and during my time there, that has shifted to another person. The basic idea is the same, but some of the methods are a little bit different, so I get the benefit of both of those. Um, but it's the education is the biggest thing that for me that they offer is just the in-depth, in-depth uh dig into into John's works and other people's works as well, but primarily his. I love that, love that.

SPEAKER_01 29:48

All right, final question for you, John. And uh just want to hear your thoughts on this one. After you answer the question, I'd love for you to kind of just uh you know speak to the viewers and listeners about how they can find you and your work and just share whatever's on your heart for for about uh 60 seconds or so after that. But my final question for you, and again, thanks for being here and being a part of our broadcast. So thank you for doing that. Uh talk to me about this because this is the question that you're probably very well suited to to answer. Tough question, it's kind of coming from a coach, another coach. How do you show the gospel? And after you after you answer that question, then you can uh let folks know where they can find you and just share some uh some wisdom or whatever's on your heart after that. Go right ahead.

Showing The Gospel By Living It

SPEAKER_00 30:43

All right. Uh it's a good one. I struggle with it all the time um because it's so important. I could share the gospel by beating you over the head with a Bible every time I talk to you. I could be spouting verses to you constantly. Um, and I have the ability to do that, but I have found most people run from that. Kind of like you said, you close the blinds and shut the garage door. I found that sharing the gospel is living a life. Um, Bruce Carroll had a song, uh, I think it was Bruce Carroll's, I'd rather see a sermon than hear one every day. The you have to live your life in that gospel. And I do that by listening to people, making sure they know they matter, by trying not to cut them off mid-sentence, listen to their what they have to say. See, we're getting back to where one of my weaknesses that I've been working real hard on. But if people don't feel valued by me, how are they gonna feel valued by the ultimate creator of life? I mean, God loves them, but they're not gonna know that if I'm not using my hands to show it. And so I think I think that's what it comes down to, just just being there and and following my beliefs and making sure that my beliefs are in line with his. And um I think that's the best way to do it. And then people can ask questions from a point that means something to them. Because if you just beat them up with it, they're gonna get defensive. I'm doing fine on my own, everything's all good. But if you're living your life and you got a joy that they're not seeing, they may be asking the question, how come, how come you're so happy all the time? And am I happy all the time? No, I'm not happy all the time. You know, I have a contentment, I have a joy that's deep down inside. I don't have a silly grin on my face 24-7. It just doesn't happen because I'm in the world and bad things happen and people annoy me. Uh, even my dogs, and I like dogs more than people, but even my dogs annoy me sometimes. It's uh, you know, it's it's not a matter of happy all the time, but content all the time.

Where To Find John And Hope

SPEAKER_01 32:55

Nehemiah 8 and 10. The joy of the Lord is our strength. Thank you for sharing that, brother. I appreciate it. Absolutely speaker and author of Stop Leaving Life on the Table, John Saul's widow. If you don't mind, just take about 60 seconds. Let us know where they can find you in your work. Sure. Share that from your heart, and we'll be close out.

SPEAKER_00 33:15

My website is uh www.thecoach.vip. And for people listening to the podcast, if you put a slash podcast on the end, uh you'll get to a special page for anybody that's here watching this. But you can go anywhere through there and learn a bit about me and and what I do, what I stand for. Um the biggest thing that I would like to make sure that people know, um, or that I would like people to have is hope. One of the worst things that I've ever seen, and one of the things that really rips at my heart is when I see someone who's just given up on life because it to them, life has given up on them. People have given up on them. They don't see anybody around them that cares about them. And I want everybody to know they do matter just who they are, but I also want them to know that they can share that with other people because there's people around them feeling the same way. If you feel like nobody cares, reach out to someone else and show them that you care about them. You're probably gonna get some of that back, and it's gonna help all of you. And even if it doesn't, they're gonna get to know that and feel that, and that hope is gonna uh grow, I hope. So that's what uh yeah, that's what I would like to share with people.

SPEAKER_01 34:35

Thank you. Thanks for being a part of this show.

SPEAKER_00 34:38

Thanks for having me.

SPEAKER_01 34:40

This has been a lot of fun. Same here, brother. Thanks for being here. I I pray that we uh stand in contact and stay in supportive of each other's work because you know what? Not a lot of that goes on. So there's so much need out there. But thanks again for being here. John Falco. And Mr. U, we're all having a good day.