Time Is Your Real Wealth - Stop Chasing And Start Managing

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Time is the one thing you can’t earn back, refund, or refinance and that’s why we’re putting it under a microscope today. We hear people say they want “more time” for family, rest, travel, and unfinished goals, but we press the real question: would more hours actually fix the problem, or would we just mismanage a bigger pile of time the same way? 

We dig into the tension Charles Hummel names in The Tyranny of the Urgent and how constant “right now” pressure crowds out what matters most. From there we break down Parkinson’s Law, why work expands to fill whatever time you give it, and how clear expectations and boundaries can shrink the chaos. Then we walk through Stephen Covey’s time management matrix, sorting life into four quadrants: necessity, opportunity, deception, and waste, with real-world examples like social media arguments, emotional interruptions, and the tasks that quietly build your future. 

We also talk about responsibility: the more you have, the more you must manage, and that includes your calendar. A key takeaway is learning to budget your time like money by tracking where your hours go before you promise yourself a brand-new plan. We wrap with our new listener Q and A segment and rapid-fire answers that range from serious to light. 

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Hey friends and families, it's Mr. You. Now, I wanna try something fresh and something different, especially during our slower months in this season. So, starting this season, we're gonna release random but timely episodes from our first few seasons, which I gotta tell you are the most popular seasons of our entire podcast brand history. I think when you hit them, you'll know why they're so popular. It's gonna be great for new listeners and great also for long time listeners who've been following us for a while. So stay tuned. I thank you for watching us and for listening. Hope you enjoy this new experience. We're going into the archives. Here's a blast from the past right now. I think you'll enjoy. Have fun

A Surprise Drop From The Archives

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Happy Friday everybody. Welcome to They Call Me Mr. You. I'm your one-stop shopper that kick in the pants that you need to get that W. Mr. You come on! It's so great to have you again this week. Thanks for joining us on Lake Call Me Mr. You. I'm your host, Mr. You. So glad to have you again for another week with us. Hope it went well for you. My week was kind of crazy. Yours might have been too, but guess what? We're on the other side of it. Anybody out there grateful for that? I know I am. We got a lot to talk

Why We Are Here Today

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about, so we're gonna go ahead and jump right on into the podcast today. Hope everybody's doing well. Thank you for all of the comments on our social media. Along with my cell phone. We get a lot of info with a lot of comments from you guys, suggestions. We appreciate it. Please keep them coming. We got a new segment that we're gonna debut today on today's episode at the end of the episode. At the end of every episode that we do here, they call me Mr. You. We're gonna have a little question and answer, a little QA going on. So you guys are gonna send me the questions. No matter what they are, they can be wide open. I'll do my best to try to answer them. Please employ a little common sense with some of those questions. There's some things that I want to put out on the airwave, so just think about that before you ask the question or you sit submit a question to us. But generally speaking, no topics, pretty open. We'll do our best to answer those questions for you. So we'll be doing that at the end of every episode, starting with today's episode. So

New Listener Q And A Segment

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keep those questions coming to us on our social media platforms. Now, one of the things that I want to discuss today is something I've been noticing, not just in coaching sessions that I've had with people, or just what I'm hearing on social media, but just in general. It seems as though there is an issue that people are talking about a lot, and I think for the most part, people are not even dealing with it to the degree they should. You know, we're talking about what's the most precious resource in the world, if I could ask you that today. Some would say money, some would say credit, some might even say precious metals or bitcoin. But what's the most valuable resource today? Think about that as we jump in. On a previous episode,

Time As The Most Precious Resource

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I gave you guys a book recommendation by a gentleman named Charles Hummel. A book called The Tyranny of the Urgent. It's kind of the inspiration for today's episode because I'm hearing about this problem that Mr. Hummel highlighted in his book, and I'm hearing about it so often, I just felt compelled to discuss it with you guys, talk about it on our social media platforms, in our Facebook mirror time community, just to kind of begin to flesh this out a little bit. I'm a type A personality. Anyone that knows me kind of knows that. I'm a multitasker, I got a hustle mentality, but I got a heart for people. I think one of the game changers was understanding the concept that came out of this book, Tyranny of the Urgent. I want to kind of go through a few things that I believe might be helpful, which are some of the complaints that I've been hearing, mostly from people who are professionals with busy lives. Many are having a homeschool now because of the pandemic. Many are in college and have to do virtual learning, which has become exponentially harder for them, from what I'm hearing. Many of the college students out here that may be listening today can attest to this. You know, is it just me or do we spend our lives looking for more time? I'm asking that because that's what I'm hearing. I'm hearing that a lot. Time for what? Time to finish a trail of unfinished tasks. Time to travel to places that we wanted to enjoy and visit. Books that we wanted to read that we never got a chance to finish. Family and friends that we hope to visit, more time, more time to save money, more time to do fun things and create moments. The most common theme I'm hearing right now is that people just want more time. And I have a question about that. Question I want to pose to our audience today. Do you really need more time? Excuse me. Do you really need more time? Is more time gonna solve the problem? If the good Lord would see so fit to give you 48 hours in a day instead of 24, would that solve the problems that you're having right now? Would that kind of ease what you're dealing with right now? Would you be able to manage your situations better if you had 48 hours instead of 24? Is this really a time problem or is this a management issue? It's something we're gonna discuss at length and we're gonna flesh it out. I think we need to. Number one, I think we gotta first recognize what we have. My old mentor, he said it so well, Dr. Miles Monroe. You're probably gonna hear his name on multiple podcasts because he affected my life to that degree. And I really love his work. I do recommend that you check some of his work out. Very profound, still timeless, even though he's long gone now. Still timeless. It still speaks, it's still relevant. But he mentioned that if a purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If you use a wrench for anything other than to untighten screws, it's being misused. If you use a computer or a pair of scissors for anything other than what it's for, that's considered misuse. If there's a manufacturer's warranty on it, it will be voided because you didn't use it in a proper way, in the way that the manufacturer intended for you to use it. Recognizing what you have, you've been given a privilege that separates us from the animals, to be quite frank. We've been given a resource of time. We've been given that. Yes, tomorrow's not promised to any of us. I think we mostly recognize that and understand that. We've been given the resource of time. We've been privileged to have 24 hours in one single day. So, firstly, we need to recognize what we have. We have a responsibility and an obligation to use that time in the proper way. I think if we did that, it would solve a lot of the outcries that I hear privately and on publicly on our social media platforms. I think it would solve a lot of that. Because we recognize that we have the responsibility. It's not our boss's fault. It's not our spouse's fault. It's not our children's fault. I'm here more blame toward the children during the pandemic than anything. It's not their fault they're not in school. It's not their fault they had to be home with you while you're working from home. It's a circumstance that many of us have to deal with because of what's going on. What's going on in our world. But it's not their fault. We need to recognize that we have a provisioned amount of time in every day. We'll come back to why that's important. But the second thing is recognizing how to use that time. So we need to first understand why what we have, and then secondly, understand how to use it. We're still talking about the resource of time. Spoiler alert. In my opinion, time is the most precious resource in the world. It's more important than money and credit and bitcoins. Look at all of the trends that have happened way back in my day. Certain kind of clothes that we wore, hairstyles that were cool. Let's use bell bottoms as an example. It's kind of cyclical, it kind of comes back around again, but it's not a mainstay. It doesn't last the test of time. Some trends come and some trends go.

Why We Make Time For Some Things

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But for the most part, generally speaking, time is what we have. When Bitcoin is no longer in style, when it's no longer fashionable, guess what? We'll still have time. We'll still have the resource of time. Look at the iPods and the pages. Innovation has come and innovation is gone. But at the end of the day, we still have time. We need to understand how to utilize that. A lot of distractions around us, we need to understand how to use what's been given to us. We want more time to do what we want, but we want less time doing what we don't enjoy. If I come in at 6 a.m. we want to leave at 10 a.m. If we're at the beach for three hours, can we stay for another hour? Because we're really enjoying being here at the beach. Swimming in the water and putting our feet in the sand and getting some sun. See what happened there in that scenario? Our view of time was different based on what we enjoy. Based on what we prefer to do, what we like to do. I used to be in a recruiting game for several years before the pandemic. And what I heard most was when I called somebody for a job and I'd offer a position to somebody who was not working, who came to my office, interviewed with me, and told me with a straight face that they would do any kind of work. I didn't try to find any kind of work for them, I tried to find something that matched what I thought they would like. I called them for a job, stand out at the work site waiting for them to show up, and guess what would happen? They never make it. For one excuse or another. They make time for what they care about. Don't you do that too? Don't you make time for what you care about? This is a law called Parkinson's Law. You ever heard of it? It essentially means that people usually take all the time allotted to accomplish any task. I saw that a lot in project management. Didn't know what it was called, but I saw it many times. If we had five hours to complete a task, now there are some a personalities that will try to get it done in two or three. I was one of those. Just always competitive, competing with myself, competing with expectations given to me by somebody else. That's just how I was. But for the most part, as a rule of thumb, if you got five hours, most folks are gonna use five hours, or at least four hours

Parkinson’s Law And Clear Deadlines

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and 59 minutes. They're gonna use as much as they can. That's that's that's called Parkinson's law. Check it out. Tell me what you think about it. Tell me if you agree or disagree with that with that law. How do you fix something like that? How do you fix a situation like that? Well, a few things you can do. One thing is to have a clear task, knowing what the expectation is or what you're supposed to be doing. Can't we use that right now? We got all these things going on, all these distractions going on, and we're trying to figure out what should we be doing and how do we get this prioritized? We don't have clear deadlines, we don't have clear boundaries, we don't have clear start and stop times. We just work and work and work trying to get all these tasks in. Are they important tasks? Are they urgent tasks? Are they tasks that can wait? We have to realize, and I ain't preaching to you guys, I'm just telling you something I learned the hard way from a personal experience, professional experience as well. If we don't recognize the resources that we have, we're bound to misuse them. One thing that you're gonna see, excuse me, one thing you're gonna see, if you do check out the book that I recommended, Tyranny of the Urgent by Charles Hummel, or you just listen to this podcast today, you're gonna hear a lot about time management. And you can get that in a seminar, you probably can find it on the internet somewhere. But what I hope is that you get a real world experience from somebody who has tried and failed. And I'm trying to learn from that. I'm trying to be better. I'm trying to encourage you guys to do the same. Take a hard look at this. We don't need more than 24 hours. Sometimes that's more than enough for the tasks that matter, for the tasks that have real consequence, for the tasks that should be our narrow focus, not the wide focus we have right now. We kind of do five, six, seven, eight different things and we pride ourselves in being called a multitasker. Is that a good thing? If we're a multitasker and we have seven, eight different tasks at the same time, you're not giving each task 100%. I will probably say, venture to say it's probably more like 1.2% or 12% for each task. Think about that from a professional standpoint, from an efficiency standpoint. Is that a good thing? Just something to think about. This is a book by a gentleman named Stephen Covey, fantastic author. He deals with, or he I believe he developed a time management matrix, which I think is pretty cool. The name of his book is Seven Habits of Highly Affective People. You know my stance. I believe that leaders are readers. So every once in a while, you're gonna hear book recommendations from me. So just be ready for that. You already heard two in this episode today already. Seven Habits of Highly Affective People by Stephen Covey. And he deals with four quadrants. This is how his matrix kind of handles the different matters that come up in our life and where it and what quadrant it should be placed in.

Covey’s Four Quadrants Of Priority

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Quadrant one is necessity. Sounds like exactly what it is. Something that we need to address. It's important and it's urgent. If your child is sick of the daycare and you're at work, it's important and it's urgent that you go leave your job, go pick up your child, and take them to the hospital or to the clinic, whatever. That's important and it's urgent. Make sense? If you're on a budget with very strict restrictions, you ordering that new pair of shoes, is that urgent? Is that important? Oh, you might look fly, but is that important and urgent? That might not fit in quadrant number one for necessity. Quadrant number two, opportunity. But it's not urgent. It's something that we can do. Maybe perhaps it's a sale or something that we wanted for a long time. But we didn't want to pay that full price. It kind of took us out of our budgetary restraints. But it's 75% off. Oh snap. That's important. It's not urgent. You don't have to do that. But it's important. Did that make sense? Use your own examples there. But quadrant number two is opportunity. Quadrant number three, deception. Now, why would Mr. Covey use deception as a quadrant? Excuse me. It's urgent, but it's not important. That means when you get that phone call from that friend who needs to borrow $75. This friend is always asking for $75. This is not the first time they called you with an urgent message. Yo, man. My car just got told. Yo, I just got arrested. Can you help bail me out? It's urgent. But it might not be important. Especially when this happens twice a week. Or twice a month. That's why they that's why Mr. Covey highlights that as deception. It pulls on your emotional heartstrings and tries to get you to react. Without taking the time to think, to ponder and consider, to meditate on. Trying to get you to move on emotion, on pressure, on stress. That's why it's deception. Because it might sound urgent, it might be somebody's 911 call to you. But you may not want to answer it. Quarter number four. Waste. That means it's neither important nor urgent. Don't even put in the time. Let's use social media as an example, shall we? Can you look at anything on your timeline that you responded to, perhaps got into a debate about, a heated debate, a back and forth, where somebody got unfriended at the end of it and somebody's blood pressure went up? Which quadrant would you put that in? That might be a fitting place for waste. Because you wasted your time. It wasn't urgent, it wasn't important. You could have been reading a book that might be edifying you and help build you up personally and professionally. Even if you watched a documentary or spent time with your family, there's a number of things that would have been better than you arguing with somebody, having to unfriend them, getting heated, getting ready to lose your religion over a post from somebody you don't even know. Make sense? We have in your hands the most precious resource, which is time.

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Chances are you're giving it away every single day. Something to think about, right? I think so.

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Value Brings Responsibility To Manage

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Luke, the 12th chapter, the 48th verse. It's a really universal wisdom. It says, from everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded. The more that you have, and I know this is going to blow somebody's mind. It shouldn't, but it might. For those that have been given more, whatever you do, whatever you define as more, whoever's been given more, they have more responsibility. It's not less. There's more to manage. There's an article that I believe you would love to hear about. Excuse me. I'm losing sight of the gentleman's name, but he is a multimillionaire, probably a billionaire. And he owns Richard Branson. That's his name. Thank you. Richard Branson. He's a business magnet. He is he has his own reality show. He's been in Ford magazine many times. He's owner of the Virgin Group. And I believe he has a vacation spot in Branson, Missouri, I believe it is. If I'm getting that wrong, you guys give me a shout-out on social media. Let me know if I need to make a correction. But he definitely has probably multi, multi-billion, maybe 20, maybe four to twenty billion dollars of net worth. And he talks about in his article that I read that even though he has all of these holdings, all of these businesses and corporations, there are a lot of things that he just he does not have to deal with the hands-on everyday aspect of, but he still has to manage. He still has to manage what somebody else is managing. His name's attached to it. He doesn't get to have a blind eye to what's going on. And one of the things he mentioned that I think was valuable, and some of us may never realize it or have to deal with it. But he talks about one of the biggest things he has to manage is all of the lawsuits that he gets. This is somebody who has billions of dollars, but he still has to manage a multitude of lawsuits. Some are trivial, some are not. But he has to deal with that on a regular basis. That's something to think about. For everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded of you. Let's play a little word association. If I say budget, what comes to mind? Excuse me. I'm pretty sure you think about money, don't you? We've been taught that. Financial advisors preach that. People who are in the business world, when you talk about budget, it's always about money. I want to talk to you about the budget of time. That doesn't make sense in your mind, does it? To budget your hours. On future episodes, we're going to talk about financial health and how it can affect your overall health. If you don't believe that money can affect your health, all you gotta do is look around. Talk to a few folks. They're going through, especially

Build A Time Budget Like A Money Budget

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right now. And it's because they don't have the money to take care of the simple needs that they have in life. To make sure they got food on the table for themselves and for their kids and their family. They can't earn a wage that covers their bills and their debts. Do you think their overall health is affected? There's a tie-in there. And like we already pledged to do from the beginning of our time here on the air, we talk about the five facets of health: spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, and of course financial. So when you hear budget, do you think about time? You probably think about money. If you sat down with a financial advisor, you never begin by making plans for your money. You start tracking where your money is going right now. Let's do that with your time. I'm going to say that again. If you sat down with a financial advisor, you never begin by making plans for your money. You start tracking where your money is going right now, and then you work from there. Let's do that with your time. I can tell you right now, that's gonna be uncomfortable. I feel it coming off of y'all right now. That's uncomfortable to you. Have to budget your time. It's just one thing to open your checkbook and see how many checks you write and where you write them, or see your credit card statement and where you swipe. But where are your time resources going right now? Where's your time resources going right now? I had a old recruiting job and I had to deal with a lot of people who I'll probably say from ages seven to well, probably ages 18, all the way to people in their 70s. Even though it wasn't part of my job description, my boss kind of made it part of my job description. I had to actually coax these people out of bed to go to an 8 o'clock start time on a new job or 8 o'clock orientation. People in their 50s, 60s, 70 years old. The 18-year-olds, I expect that from them. But when you're past 30, I'm thinking that you've been in a professional game long enough to know that if you need to be there at 8 o'clock, what time should you go to sleep the night before? What time do you get up? I've called folks for 8 o'clock start time at 7:45. They weren't even out of bed yet. Is that a time problem or a people problem? Like we discussed earlier in the episode, people want more time. But I would I if you look to me, I wouldn't even give it. Because it'd be mishandled. If you mishandle 24, you surely mishandle 48. If you mishandle 48 hours, you certainly would mishandle 72. Is it a time problem? Do you really need more time or is it a people problem? Let's be real. Are you the problem? Are you the reason why your time is being stretched so much to it stressing you out when you're feeling this immense pressure and you can't get things done? Is it because of a lack

Discipline And The Myth Of More Hours

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of discipline? Let's talk about it. Do you really need more time? Do you need more than 24 hours a day? Or do you need to value what's important and priority? Or I should say prioritize what's not. There's a parable that I love. It's about 10 maidens. Now, these 10 maidens, their whole education was to meet the master or the Lord that they've been waiting for. That's their entire education. They learned how to prepare. They learned how to be educated in specific areas. They were trained on the importance of being alert and being watchful because they're waiting for this day that came with so much expectation. Now, all 10 of these maidens are in the same school,

The Ten Maidens And Being Prepared

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they were at the same academy, all had the same privileges, not one ritual or poor than the other. They all at the same starting gate on the same level, received the same instruction from the same teachers, had all the advantages, same advantages, and they got an alert that it was time to go and meet the master to complete their training. All ten went, but they were called out to this location at night. Now all ten of them had lamps, but five of them were considered wise because they had their lamps filled so they can see, walking through these dark places to get to the location that they were awaiting all of these years, all these days, weeks, months, and years to get to this location. But the other five are foolish. They left to go to the location with no light in their lamp, so they couldn't see. So, like most foolish people do, the foolish maiden says, Give me some of your light so I can put it in my lamp. But like a wise person should say, Well, if you took care of your business before you got here, you wouldn't need some of my light. I give you some of my light, I won't have enough to get to the rest of the journey. To go meet the master, like we've all been planned and trained to do. What's the moral of the story? The five foolish maidens went to go get light for their lamp. The five wise maidens who were already prepared, already alert and watchful, went to their destination, and the door shut behind them. So obviously, you can probably figure out the rest of the story. The other five foolish maidens finally got some light for their lamp, came running to the location, banging on the door. Let me in, we're here. Can we come in? A voice came from behind the door.

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I don't know you.

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I can only imagine how they felt. Years and years of training, years and years of understanding or being exposed to understanding, but still not understanding. Years and years of learning what mistakes not to make, and then go make the biggest one of all. The one that leads you outside of the door to the place where you want to be, where you need to be, where you've trained to be, where you've pressed through all the hard stuff in life just to get there and find yourself locked out. Ooh, that's deep. Let's move on. You know, I don't know if you see this in your life, if you see this where you are in life, but I want to hit you with another spoiler alert today.

SPEAKER_02 33:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 33:49

We can't control other people. I know, I know that's it's blowing your mind. It's making you crazy. But we can't control other people. Yeah, you probably try from time to time. You want certain people to shut up. You want certain people to line up and do what you want them to do. But at the end of the day, no matter how many appeasements you use, we can't control

Control Your Yes And Protect Time

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other people. We can only control what we say yes to. We can only control how we use what we've been given to manage. We're still talking about time, folks. We're still talking about time. That's what this is all about. I know there's other podcasts out there that are talking about some stuff that might sound like it's more fun. Talking about your favorite TV show, or your favorite song, or some other habit that you happen to enjoy. But they call me Mr. U, like I said from the very beginning, from the very first episode, I'm committed to your health, your overall health, spiritual, physical, emotional, mental, and financial. I'm committed to you being the best person that you can be. So, like I said many times, I want to get you back in the game. I want to help coach you. I want to encourage you. And let you know that you're not alone and that you can do this. But time is the most valuable resources that we the most excuse me, the most valuable resource that we have. It ain't your money, it's not your cars sitting on 24s, it's not your friendship circle.

SPEAKER_00 35:39

Your best friend who you call a do-a-die. It's not the most valuable resource.

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It's not the credit cards in your pocket. It's your time. Yeah, I said before that tomorrow is not promise. It's a true statement. It's a real thing. If you lost anybody recently, you understand what I'm saying. You feel like it was too soon, didn't it? Time is your most valuable resource. The way that you use it will determine your future. The people you allow to steal from it and be a time thief, it will determine your future. Budget your time. Every day. Budget your hours. How much can you afford to give away? If you give away 20 of your 24 hours to somebody who won't even appreciate what you've done, you can't blame them. Don't forget. We can't control other people. All we can do is control what we say yes to and how we use what we've been given to manage.

SPEAKER_00 36:49

Can I get an amen somebody?

SPEAKER_01 37:00

Alright, guys. I promise you at the end of every episode of They Call Me Mr. You from now on. You guys are gonna ask the questions, and Lord help me, I'm gonna try to answer them. I got some good ones so far. Oh, here we go, guys. I'm a little bit nervous. One question I got from Adrienne in Missouri. She asks, why do men wait until they're 40s to get stupid and make bad decisions? Oh my goodness. Starting off with a bang. Well, here's my question. Something to think about. Did these men turn stupid at 40? That's a year they should be mature.

Listener Questions And Fast Answers

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Or were they only operating from a previously undiagnosed deficiency? Were they stupid the entire time? Adrian, I don't believe that whoever you're talking about, who I don't know obviously, but they just didn't become stupid. They're working from what they understand. They're working from what they understand. I can talk about the power of mannership and community, but generally speaking, Adrian, we can rip people who don't know what we think they should know by now. Or we can try to help them. Short answer to your question, they may just be the fruit from whatever seed was planted. They're doing what they know. You may not understand it, but they're doing what they know. Hope that helps a little bit. Next question coming from Deanna in G in Georgia, excuse me. Deanna from Georgia. She wants to know why are blacks so divided? Oh boy. That's a doozy. Well, from a historical aspect, separation in mind and body was key to slavery success. Independent thinking wasn't encouraged. And there was not, even though in the African Americans' native country, Africa, obviously, there was it was more of a communal mind, more of a societal connection, a sense of community. And it got lost, obviously, uh, and it was lost by design. So today, without generalizing that all black people are divided, which I I can't, I definitely can't get behind that, but generally speaking, I see what you see. As an African American male, I see what you see. And there could be a lot of change in that area, but a lot of it is historically relevant, and I think that things are changing, just to be encouraging to you. Things are changing. We're seeing a lot of change in that area. We're seeing a lot more community, a lot more family-minded uh approaches to living and living with other people, living around people, connecting with people and associating with other people is getting better, but historically, that's kind of what happened there. Our last question. This should be fun. In your opinion, what TV series had the best finale and why? That came from Steve in South Carolina. In your opinion, what TV series had the best finale and why? Well, you're gonna hear, if you ask anybody else but me, you're gonna hear The Office, you're gonna hear Breaking Bad, you probably won't hear Lost. I'm gonna go with a show that's from my era. 12 years, 250 episodes. Now, you would think by the time they got to the finale, they'd went out of steam. They'd have nothing to talk about. But this episode had great closure, high emotion, legit tears from your boy. I legit cried. When I saw the finale. When you got closure and emotion, you know you got a very good uh series finale, and it's still the highest rated finale ever. Iconic TV moment in history. Still the best good, still still the best goodbye in history. Answer your question, Steve. What TV series had the best finale and why? I'm going with MASH, brother. Guys, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Really have fun. Don't forget, at the end of every episode, from now on, I'm gonna answer your questions. Two or three questions every episode. After this week, I have no idea what's coming for me next week. I'll do my best to try to answer them. I'm sure they get better over time, but thank you for sending those questions into us. We appreciate it. And for all you guys that have been thinking about what we discussed today, budget your time. Budget those hours. Your time is precious. I don't care what your job is, I don't care where you come from, I don't care what you look like, your time is valuable.

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Your time matters. Think about that. If you got any questions, hit us up on our social media platforms. We'd love to have a chat with you, discuss the topic episode, and even the questions that I asked. I tried to answer today. Have a great weekend. Coach out.