Boundaries…..

What’s been preventing me from counting sheep? Personal space and boundaries.  In this episode I discuss people feeling it’s OK to invade your personal space? To disrespect both physical and personal boundaries. 
I feel boundaries are very important. We need to let others know what is/is not acceptable? What you will tolerate as a partner, parent or friend. Allowing people to walk all over you, is not OK. 
I feel physical boundaries are important, as well. If we live in a city and have neighbors, a fence is nice to have. Establishing what s our. Where the property ends/begins?  We don’t want someone trespassing, camping out in our yard or helping themselves to our stuff. So, we have fences, walls, doors and security. Why is it so wrong to implement this very thing, when it comes to our borders? 
America having a wall establishes a boundary. Which is a good thing, in my opinion? 
I discuss this and fake people. People that may not be who they say they are? Influencers or your neighbor, may not be who they claim?  I bring this up because of the crime lab van and three cop cars across the street…. 

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Ramblings of an Insomniac. I'm Courtney. Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening. So full disclosure, I'm doing this podcast where I may I may not air it because you're gonna hear leaves crunching. Um and you probably don't want to listen to leaves crunching. You might hear cars, you might hear dogs and trains, which of course I always allow dogs and a good train once in a while. But the leaves that are crunching, I don't know, and the amount of cars. Uh so we shall see. I am in I'm in the city. Courtney loose in the city. Um I am dog sitting and I have a lovely dog that I'm watching. We are on a walk. But let me just tell you something that was a little disturbing that I saw. Uh not this morning, technically, we are in the afternoon. So um, well, first of all, hello, hello, hello, welcome. I'm working at this whole not just jumping right into my podcast. I'm trying to do a little chit-chat, a little, you know, I always say foreplay, but that just sounds so crass. Um, you know, I try to do a little chit-chat and not just immediately jump to my podcast. And I feel I've been doing a good job at that, but today I was just gonna jump into it. Oh my god, that smell is like laundry soap on steroids. Holy cow. Sorry, sidetrack. Squirrel, squirrel. This is why I shouldn't do my podcast while I'm walking through a neighborhood I've never been in. Because, like I've discussed on many of my podcasts, I'm a peeping Tom. I have no shame about it. It's I am. I will gooseneck to look in a window. I'm not gonna sit in your tree with binoculars. I'm not, you know, I'm respectful, I'm not gross, but I'll slow down and I might look in your window just to see what you're cooking, what your decoration is, what your decorations are. Um, I don't know. I again I'm I say all the time, I'm very intrigued by humans. Humans are freaking fascinating. So any chance I can get, I guess I'm a voyeur, but anyway, you guys are like, okay, that's creepy, and more information. Uh-oh, plane. All right, there is a this might not work because there's going to be a lot of planes flying overhead. But um, anyway, so because though I'm fascinated by people, this morning I was this afternoon, I was getting ready, and across the street from where I'm staying, there is a I look out and I'm like, uh okay. There are two cop cars, which I was like, all right, you know, that's that's I mean not fine, but okay, I can accept that. But then um there was a van, and on that van it said crime scene lab. Crime scene lab. And then they were outside on the sidewalk putting down the little evidence markers, you know, like that are numbered and they're like little, you know, little tents, little upright, you know, the evidence markers. And then I look over to my left, and quite a way, like, you know, like to the left, um, there's a four-way stop, and on the other side of that four-way stop, there's another cop car, and they look like they are taking pictures, and I was like and talking and stuff, and I was like, okay. Now I stayed up pretty darn late. I stayed up until like 1:30 in the morning this morning, and I woke up several times because again, ramblings of an insomniac. The insomniac part, I'm not kidding around. I I really truly have insomnia. Um, and you know, I hear lots of things, but I try to get used to what noises are normal, you know, the noises that are uh normal, acceptable noises. And I haven't been here for too long, so but I've stayed here before. I've been at this person's house before, but usually only for a couple of days or whatever, and I'm trying to get used to the norm. But I had switched rooms and I had even told somebody that I was like, gosh, I'm hearing different noises, and I'm hearing like all different strange noises that I'm just very much not used to. And um, and very much just kind of like okay, uh these seem like strange noises, but again, I kind of, you know, started. I'm like trying to get used to what's normal and what's not, and well, I mean, I haven't gotten used to what's not yet, but I'm trying to listen to stuff to know, you know, okay. But I point being I didn't hear anything yesterday or early this morning, and yet I'm seeing this crime scene lab van outside, and they're taking pictures, and they're doing like they do on TV, and they're putting down these markers, and I'm like, shit. So then um I'm noticing a woman on her porch and she's sweeping, and so I'm like, okay, so someone maybe broke in, or maybe someone maybe didn't break in, maybe there was like a domestic fight, and someone punched like something glass, you know. I couldn't tell what she was sweeping up, but she was sweeping off the porch. And then I see um, like I said, them putting down markers. And I'm like, oh, I wonder if that's blood. So maybe they punched some, like a glass, maybe she had a glass door and then another door because her other door, her wood one, seemed fine and intact. So maybe she had like a glass one in front of it, and maybe they punched it, and maybe it made cause them to bleed, and maybe that blood is what they were marking on the sidewalk because maybe it was the burglar's or potential burglars' blood. Um, but originally I was like, oh, maybe it was domestic abuse um gone wrong, and maybe there was, you know, some violence or something. But um, when I saw that they were fixing the door, I was like, oh, I wonder. Or maybe someone got into a heated argument and they punched the door, but I don't know why they'd have evidence because I'm assuming the person, if it was a domestic violence or someone in the house, that it was like a domestic thing, obviously they would know the person. Um, oh gosh. Okay, anyway, I had to pause because of an airplane. Now there's a train and stuff, but um anyway, I was trying to piece together what happened, and then I didn't want to look like a nosy person, so I waited a bit and I went outside later after everybody had left and they were still out there, and I am walking the dog that I am sitting, and I hear the gentleman out there, he's out fixing the door and he looks like he's trying to fix the frame of this door. And I hear him scream, hold the fucking door, hold the fucking door. And then I hear the woman go, I'm trying, I'm trying. Only she sounds very shaken and like she's crying, you know, like she had been crying anyways. You know how after you've been crying and then you've stopped, but you've cried a lot, and so your voice is still kind of shaky. It sounded like that. And obviously he didn't do anything to her because with all the cops there and stuff and the damage, he would have been arrested. So it obvious and by the way, I don't always think that it's a man that hurts the woman. I'm well aware and agree that women can abuse as well. Women do abuse as well. So it's not just, I'm not man-hating, but he just sounded very gruff, and obviously he was, you know, I'm sure, shaken too, and pissed off too, and he's just grumpy, you know, and and I'm sure he's not trying to be that way. He's just also shaken, and his way of showing it is just, you know, he's kind of angry about it right now. Um, plus they're probably angry. But I don't know if that's what happened. My point is I was trying to piece together what the scenario was. I was trying to piece together what could have happened. And then it just got me thinking of, you know, personal space and borders. And I think, gosh, aren't borders great and personal space? Aren't those great things? Because I mean, man, if you don't have personal space, then people are all up in your business. And people don't need to talk right next to your face or scream at you right next to your face. They don't need to be touching you and in your bubble, you know. Um, and boundaries. Boundaries are fantastic. We need that. Boundaries are very important, whether it's personal boundaries, like, hey, my boundaries are I don't accept people that lie and cheat and um, you know, whatever it is, whatever your things are. I don't want someone that's an alcoholic. I don't want someone that's a Democrat, Republican, Catherine, Catholic. Sorry, Catherine. I didn't mean Catherine's. Um, I don't want someone that's Catholic, Mormon. Whatever your boundaries are, it's good to set boundaries. Boundaries are very important, and it's good that we keep those boundaries. It's good that those boundaries are solid and stable, and that people don't cross them. And people need to be aware of what happens when you cross boundaries. I'm not saying we need to get violent, I'm not saying we need to like teach them a lesson. I'm just saying, you know, people do need to have consequences or be told, hey, look, here are my boundaries, and if you cross them, we can no longer be partners or we can no longer be friends or whatever it is. And then there's also physical boundaries like fences. Oh god, here goes another airplane. Hang on. So then there are boundaries like fences, you know, physical boundaries, fences and you know, walls. And those are great too, because if you live in a crowded neighborhood like I'm in right now, and everybody is right next to each other and on top of each other, well, you want to have some type of boundary so people know not to go cutting your yard. Well, I mean, I would love it if someone would just randomly cut my yard for me, but so that someone doesn't chop a tree down in your yard, someone doesn't start, you know, letting their dogs and stuff loose in your yard, someone doesn't start partying in your space because it's your space. You pay for that space, you maybe you maintain that space, you know, it's yours. And so people don't have a right to be unless invited to be in your you know space, to be crossing that wall, to be crossing that fence. And again, I think this is especially important when you are in the neighborhood. Okay, I gotta turn this off. But I think this is especially, especially important when you are in a neighborhood, when you are in a city, and you know, you take pride in your space and you want to make sure that your space is how you want it and you pay taxes on it. Oh man, I went down a very uh noisy neighborhood. But cute. I mean, speaking of boundaries, everybody's outside working in their yard, which is awesome. Um, hang on. Um, sorry, I got sidetracked by dogs in a neighborhood. But so, you know, when you're in a city, you take pride in your own space and you pay taxes on that space and it's yours. And you don't want people just coming into your yard and camping out, having a barbecue in your yard, tanning in your yard, do you? I don't feel like people want that. I don't feel like most people want strangers just coming over and helping themselves to your yard, camping out in it and sleeping in it, and you know, I'm assuming you don't want people opening up your door, you know, especially if you've locked it. You've locked it so that nobody, you know, comes in uninvited. You don't want people to come uninvited because you've locked that door for a reason. You want whoever you invite in, whoever you welcome in. And I feel that way about our country. You guys knew where I was going with this. You guys are like, oh, I'm on to you. But I mean this. I think that we should feel that way for our country as well. Because it is important to not just invite everybody in, because unfortunately, if you invite everybody in, you're gonna get just that. You're gonna get every person of all walks of life, which sounds fantastic, but you don't want people that haven't basically been, you know, vetted, for example. You you don't want people who in their country commit crimes, you don't want people who in their country don't contribute and don't have jobs and aren't helping out society. So you don't want people, you know, just chilling out in your yard and stuff. And I feel that way about our country because if you've committed a crime in your own country, I don't know what's gonna stop you from committing a crime in hours, you know. Um, but I also don't necessarily like how ICE is doing it. I don't think you should sit outside of a Home Depot and pluck up people who are genuinely very obviously trying to find work and trying to contribute and and want to. And maybe they've been here for quite a while and they love this country more than actual American citizens. And maybe they're actually contributing more than American citizens. I don't think that every single illegal immigrant should just be plucked off the street and taken back to their country and deported. I don't think that. I think though that we need to have guidelines and we need to have boundaries. We need to be like, hey, look, if you've been here and you've already been in our country for a few years and you're clearly not causing any problems, you are trying to work and you want to become a citizen and you love this country and you genuinely want to contribute and you're trying, but because you're not a citizen, you're being held back and you haven't committed crimes, because the key to me is if you've committed a crime, you shouldn't be allowed in this country, and I don't even care if it's a petty crime, really. Sorry, that's loud. Um, and I think that if you are allowed here, I love to stay as an illegal immigrant. I think though, if you commit any type of a crime, you have to go back. If you commit, you know, I'm sorry, if you get a speeding ticket, you should have to go back. And I just mean this until you are a legal citizen. Like if you're still an illegal immigrant and you are being allowed to stay here while the government knows you are illegal and you're being allowed to work and have benefits and reap the rewards, then you know, you then need to be respectful of that and not cause any issues. Because you're technically an illegal immigrant who is getting a lot of benefits, a lot of rewards. So that means you need to mind your Ps and Q's. I think that about everybody, whether you're illegal or not. I mean, obviously, I've had speeding tickets. I'm not saying you're a piece of shit if you have a speeding ticket or whatever. There's people that commit crimes that are good people. I'm not trying to say that. And we all know that American citizens commit crimes all the time. But I am saying there can be a balance, you know. We can let illegal immigrants stay as long as they haven't committed any type of crime. They don't commit a crime, and if they do, if they do, well, then yeah, then they're sent back. But until then, maybe we can help them get their citizenship. Maybe we can help them get their paperwork, you know, and maybe we can, if they're contributing members of society, and they're genuinely trying. You know, I feel like, heck, if you're trying, let's let's do this, you know? So I just feel like there could be a happy balance. We don't need to sit outside of Home Depots plucking citizens who are genuinely trying to contribute more than a lot of Americans do right now. Um and man, there's a lot of a lot of noise. Sorry about that. Um, so I mean, you know, it's all about the balance. Like I've said forever, all about that balance, about that balance. We've got to have one and the other. We have to, it can't be extreme one way or the other, you know. We need to have that, you know, we unfortunately, I've talked about this in so many of my episodes, we've got to have the balance. We have to have the um pretty and the ugly, the happy and the sad, and unfortunately the hate and the love. Um but extreme, extreme anything, even extreme love, even extreme love, I feel like is no good, you know. I think we do need to have that balance. And it's amazing to me because lately I feel like we, you know, if you were to watch social media, you would think the entire population has absolutely gone mad, which a large majority I feel truly have. That said, I've talked about this again many times, when you're actually out in the real world, in actual 3D ville, you know, where with actual humans walking around upright, people have been pretty lovely. I mean, I went to Lowe's and Home Depot the other day, and everybody was in a great mood. It was on Labor Day, actually, and everybody seemed to be in a pretty wait, was it Labor Day? No, that's a lie. It wasn't Labor Day. Anyway, irrelevant. Point being, it doesn't matter. People were in a great mood. Friendly, happy, asking how people were, and not just asking, but then continuing to engage, not just being like, hi, how are you? You know, and when people say that a lot of times they don't really care how you are, they don't want to hear how you are, they they don't want an answer. Oh, that's gonna be loud. Um, my name is what? My name is what Slim Shady. Sorry, that's the song playing right now. Slim Shady. Um, anyway, you know, people ask that, but they don't really want to hear. But this person or these people all day were not only asking, but they had follow-up questions. They had follow-up questions. That's pretty fucking awesome. They weren't just casually asking, and and for the most part, I mean, of course you're gonna run into assholes because again, no matter what you do, no matter how much you throw a fit and cry and throw a temper tantrum and protest and riot, assholes will always exist. I say this constantly. Assholes will always be, well, they may not always be assholes, they might learn, we hope. That's the goal, right? Oh my goodness, that was kind of terrifying. Sorry, I have to stop for a second. I just ran across a street that was busy, and no one nowadays, when I'm at a crosswalk, I was at a crosswalk, I want it noted, and no one stops now for pedestrians at a crosswalk. And I don't know what country you're in right now listening to me, but in America, at least in Oregon, you're supposed to legally, if a pedestrian is at a crosswalk, you're supposed to stop. And this is a busy street, it's no joke, it's not just you know, it's a busy street, you guys. Anyway, uh, so shoot. I don't remember what I was saying about border. Oh, hate. There's always gonna be hate no matter what you do, no matter what we do, no matter how much rioting and picketing and throwing temper tantrums and all of that that we do. I hate to be the bearer of terrible news, but hate will be around. Hate will always exist, it's never going away, it's just not. No matter how many fits we throw, no matter how many riots and you know, times we scream and yell, it's just hate exists, and um I don't feel like we should be wasting our time trying to get rid of it. What we can do is educate people. We can be the best we we can be. We can focus on us and educating ourselves and being kind and respectful and giving grace to others. We can control what we do, you know. And I feel like we should focus on that. If we want to help others, then focus on helping others. If we feel that people could use some education on something, okay, focus that. If you want to save animals or work with veterans or the elderly or whatever it is, focus on that because unfortunately, the more we try to focus, and I say this for myself, by the way, I say this as a reminder to me because I get caught up in, you know, wanting to fix everyone else. And I'm like, well, who the fuck do I think I am? I don't need to be trying to make everybody else see. You know how I see. I need to just be like, look, these are the things I believe in, these are the things I learned. Turn right into 15th Street Southeast. That was my uh Google there. I need to work on being the best me I can and work on my issues, and you know, I can't be sitting here focusing all my time and energy on wishing that other people would, you know, be kinder and not be so hateful and not be so racist and ignorant. I mean, I can want that all day long, but the fact is there are always going to be those people on this planet. So I can wish and want and want something forever, but it takes actions. I mean, yeah, sure, sometimes people get lucky and things just fall into your lap, you know, people win the lottery. It happens. But usually you can't just be like a genie and blink your eyes, you know, cross your arms and blink your eyes and have things just happen. You have to work for it. And I mean, God, in this day of influencers and people making money off of social media, that's great. But you know, I did learn that it's a little harder work than I thought. I honest to God thought it was a lot easier. Oh my god, there's a lot of noise. Hang on. But in this day and age, you know, people can make money being an influencers. And I used to be like, I used to think, God, what an easy job. And I still think it's an easy job. However, it does take work even if you have apps. Even if you have apps, it does take some work to edit and to make your video look polished and professional. I just don't do it, so I think it's easy because I'm like, professional schmessional. That didn't make sense, but you know what I'm saying? I'm like, I don't put the time and energy into my podcast or my videos, which I should. If I want to make money, I should, but that wasn't my goal. I mean, gosh, don't get me wrong. I would absolutely love to make money off of my podcast and my videos. That would be fucking awesome. Um that'd be great. But my intention was just to get the information out there about my experiences with my mom and assisted living and COVID and all of that. That was the reason originally that I started it. It wasn't for attention or for some kind of, you know, um, to make money. But again, I'm not gonna lie, if I get a lot of subscribers on my my social media videos, I will of course be happy because obviously I'm not gonna not gonna say no to um making some money. But um being an influencer is actually you have to come up with original content. You have to come up with things that people haven't seen, and you have to come up with ways to get people's attention. And nowadays everybody wants attention. And I'm doing this podcast, so again, I can't claim I don't, I want my I don't want attention me personally, but I want my podcast to get attention because of course I feel now it's loud again, hang on. I feel that I have things that you know, point of view that maybe people might like, maybe people might identify with, maybe people might go, yeah, I've been there, I get that, you know, and I wanted to educate people on what was going on in Oregon with COVID and our governor and in assisted livings and with the elderly. And I really felt passionate about getting that message out, and so that's why I started it. Golly, these airplanes. Sorry guys, I have to keep pausing, so it's gonna sound weird when you guys listen to this, and I apologize. Um, but um so things are, you know, we like to think we know what we're talking about, and humans like to think that we are the expert on things that we know nothing about, things that we don't observe ourselves with our own eyeballs. We think we know what goes on behind closed doors. And now with social media and influencers and reality TV, we are learning that a lot of times even reality TV is scripted, even reality TV is scripted and edited and pieced together to make things maybe look different than how they are. And social media people, a lot of times, will film things how they want others to see them. They will film things specifically to show what they want to show and edit out and crop out things they don't want others to know. And I get that, I do, but at the same time, sometimes it's because people are struggling, people are going through abuse, people are going through, you know, things in their lives, and they are scared, or maybe they just don't want people to know because frankly it's no one's business. Maybe they're scared, maybe who knows? A vast amount of reasons on why people don't want people to know the full truth or all of their lives. Maybe they just want maybe even though they do social media, and maybe even though they do reality TV, they still want somewhat of a private life. Maybe, you know, there's a million reasons why people don't want to show their entire lives. And then other people are open books. They will share every single thing about their lives. And both of those things I understand, and both of those things have pros and cons, but in today's day and age, a lot of things can be misleading, and we don't know unless we are there and we see it and experience it with our own eyes. I can't tell you how many people used to comment on my videos and say things like, Well, I never saw that, that's never happened to me, that's never happened to me, I've never seen that, I've never experienced that. Well, yippee fucking skippy for you. That's amazing. That's amazing. I'm glad that you never experienced those things. But you are not the center of the universe. Um, I paused where I paused so long. Um, I had to like change and do stuff in the middle of my pot. Now you're gonna hear cricky floors. Um, so now, shoot. Oh, we don't know what's going on behind closed doors. And sometimes, unfortunately, sadly, bad things sometimes go on behind closed doors, and people make it look like nothing to see here, nothing to see here. And they do the smoke and mirrors to sidetrack, just like the government, you know, just like politicians. Politicians love to sidetrack, to be like, look over here, look over here, while they're doing something over there, you know. And so we don't know if an influencer actually has money, if they are actually wealthy. We don't know if they're actually happy. We don't know if they're actually homeless. Maybe they're saying they're homeless, because even homeless people seem to have internet now and cell phone service and cell phones. So who knows what the actual story is? Because there are people that will lie just for the sake of lying. Pathological liars. I've been around them. People that just, I never know if they genuinely believe the lies that they tell, if they are genuinely so convinced at their own lies that they don't think they're lying, or if they just love to lie to see what they could get away with, because they think that they are so smart and that nobody else will catch on to them. And so therefore they just lie and lie, and then they double down because they're so prideful they don't want to admit that maybe someone caught on to them. They're so prideful that they don't want to admit, oh shit, I dropped the ball. I made a mistake. And now, because I made a mistake, because I dropped the ball, or because somebody else is just as intelligent or more intelligent or more observant, they found me out. And those same people will get so pissed off at you because you found them out, because you realized they were a liar. God, I hate people like that. It's like you don't get to have the audacity to be angry with me because you did something wrong, because you lied, because you were dating someone else, because you were not who you said you were. Just because I found out about it, you don't get to be pissed off about that. No, you're the one wrong. I'm the victim. I am the victim. I'm not the one that did something wrong. So those people that twist things around, and people do that. It's all about your perspective and what you want someone to believe. And people will go to great, great lengths to hide what they have done. They will double down and double down. They will, I don't know how people have like these multiple families, men or women that are married to more than one person and have like double lives. You know, they have kids with one person and they're supposedly married to one person and have kids, and then they have a whole other family in another city, state, whatever. How does a person do that? That why? That's the really it's the how and the why. But how and why, why would you want more than one partner? Shouldn't you, isn't one enough? Isn't one who shouldn't we be putting all of our time and energy into one? Because we aren't perfect, which means we're flawed, which means we should be working on our flaws and our imperfections with our partner, and not trying to be one person for someone and another person for someone, and then trying to juggle those things and hope and pray to God that you don't drop the ball. Because if you do, well, if you drop the ball, you're fucked because now the two wives or the two husbands have found out about each other. And these kids now have half siblings that they're being kept from, by the way. These children have half siblings, so the children are involved because now the children are gonna have divorces they have to deal with, and the children have now a dad or a mom that they're going to lose, and or at least lose partially, and then they have siblings that they are, you know, suddenly introduced to, and their world is being torn apart. But you know, narcissists and certain people don't give a shit about how much something traumatizes you, they don't care about that, they don't think about that, they think about what they can do to get by, and if it means lying, if it means double and tripling down on lying, if it means using AI to create fake pictures, they'll do it. If it means telling someone that someone is, you know, dead or something, who knows? Like people will go to great fucking lengths to disappear. They'll pretend that they're dead to disappear. They will fake their own frickin' deaths. I mean, and I just think, why would you go through all of that work though? Why would you create all of that stress for you? Isn't life stressful enough without creating more? Isn't your partner that you have already someone that you should be spending any free time you have with that partner? I don't know. I just think that there are a lot of shit humans in the world that I don't understand why they do things, but then I go out into the real world and I walk around in the 3D actual real world, and a lot of people are great and sweet and kind, and they aren't at all what you see on social media. So things are just it again, it's all about perspective. And like I say all the time, because I like photography, I look at things at all angles, and that's why I am a peeping Tom and I like looking through people's windows. I do, and I will. I mean, again, I'm not gonna stand there and like eat popcorn. I mean, if you would let me, I'm not gonna lie. If you would let me stand outside your window or hang out in a tree and just watch you, I'm fascinated by people. I don't mean that. That sounds so creepy, and I guess it is, but it's because I'm fascinated as fucked by people. I'm always, always trying to understand what makes people do the things they do and say the things they say. And it's not in a judging way. It really is not in a judging way. It's because I'm curious, it's because I it's the scientist part of my brain, it's the logic part of my brain that just fascinates me. Anyway, I'm fascinated by people that will listen to this very clearly imperfect podcast by this very clearly imperfect human. Oh my gosh. And then by imperfect, listen to that. Lord, you guys listen to this very flawed imperfect podcast, and those that do it continuously that have done it more than once, shout out to you, my friends. Honestly, it's it's so so awesome that I have had people that have willingly on purpose wanted to listen to my podcast, not once, but more than once, or all of them. They have downloaded all of them. I mean, that absolutely means so much to me. And I wish I could give you a hug if it's your personal space, because we talked about boundaries. If that's a boundary you have, then a high five. If that's a boundary you have, I just want to see you face to face and say, hey, you know, give you the finger guns. Little action, you know. I appreciate you, I really do. And again, for people that have never listened to my podcast, and this is the first time or anywhere in between, I appreciate every single human that or non-human, if animals are listening or aliens are listening to my podcast, hey, shout out to everybody listening, okay? I don't discriminate. I don't discriminate. But I appreciate it because this is certainly not a perfect podcast. It is deeply flawed, it is unprofessional, it is loud and noisy, it's poor quality. I get it, it's all those things, and yet, and I sincerely do babble and ramble, honestly, and I get sidetracked a lot. So the fact that people can even keep up with my nonsense, again, you have mental fortitude, my friend. They should have that as a Navy SEALs thing, having to listen to my podcast to get people like mentally ready for anything. So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I appreciate it. I hope you continue to do it. And remember to let go of all those pesky, silly, crappy things that you cannot control. Let them go, kick them to the curb and shake them out like a rug and control the things, focus on the things you have solutions for. Focus on the things you can control, that you have solutions, and um, you know, that are your priorities. And remember to breathe in through your nose and let it go slowly out through your mouth. And then tune in. Shout out to um, I give a shout out to my podcast, to your coworkers, to your partner, to your friends, to your family, to everybody. And don't forget to check out my YouTube, my Facebook, my clapper, my Instagram, and my TikTok. Please, please, please, please, please check those out. I would love it if you did. I'm not telling you what to do, but man, I would appreciate it if you would give a like and a sub and a subscribe to any of my social media. Um, and thank you so much. Until next time.