Strung Out Episode 239: THE RESPECT PERSPECTIVE WITH MARCUS GENTRY

Part of an ongoing series about the cultural need for respect.  Marcus Gentry, an expert in the field and known as "Dr. Respect" unfolds why these difficult times are due to the erosion of respect.  Join us as we delve into this complex and very urgent topic.

Transcript

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Welcome to Strung Out, the podcast that looks at life through the lens of an artist. Your host is the artist, writer and musician Martin Lawrence McCormack. Now here's Martin. Back to the respect perspective. I am with, Marcus Gentry. Also known as Doctor Respect, a name that he has been given by people who have had the pleasure of having him, give his talks about respect.

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Unknown
And you are well respected. What's this? Nice, right? You've been picked up, a lot of different agencies, and I have to talk, and, So that's why we're here with him. Because, it's there's so much, the world needs respect right now, and, one of the things that you and I, have witnessed in the this at the time of this filming is, is, and we want to use this angle when we talk about goal setting.

00:01:05:20 - 00:01:38:46
Unknown
Okay. Is the fact the we had the tragic loss of life of six and seven people in an instant? Yes, in an instant. And, I don't know about you, but that did hit home with me. That idea that, it could have been me and, Yeah, but also that idea of, like. Those people that were on that plane or in the helicopter that, had their life snuffed out in an instant.

00:01:41:43 - 00:02:12:35
Unknown
They all could have been at different levels of being at peace with their self. You kind of say the ultimate goal of this whole thing is to to come up with an understanding of, of being at peace and, and I want you to maybe start this podcast expounding on the crash, and how there like, that notion that, you know, we seem to live with the idea that our time on Earth is, in infinite.

00:02:12:40 - 00:02:39:49
Unknown
But in many ways it's very finite. And, so what you are teaching is something that we need to put into practice. And then, rather than trying to say, oh, well, you know, I will get to this later, right? Yes. You're absolutely correct. It's about valuing each and every moment that we have and every once in a while.

00:02:39:57 - 00:03:01:28
Unknown
So again, so much can be said about this every once in a while we get reminders. That could have been us, right. Every once in a while we we don't know what we are avoiding because we were delayed in traffic. We don't know if we had been moving fast or what we would have run into if we had went to the store early on.

00:03:01:33 - 00:03:19:42
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The car in front of us had moved fast and we don't know what we have avoided, what tragedy or disaster we may have missed because we were delayed somehow. So every once in a while, we'll get a reminder of how close we could have been. We'll see something on the news, said man, I was. I was just at that store.

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Unknown
Yeah, just on that highway. Yeah, yeah, man, I was just on that plane. My cousin told me about the accident. The plane crash, and helicopter, collision, that he was just on an American Airlines just a few days earlier that traveled that exact same route. Oh. Well, so it it makes us value every single moment that we have, because at some point, there are things that seem to be constant.

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We will evolve, we will expand, and then we will expire. Transform to another state, whatever. However you look at that, and that happens to everybody who's been on the planet, the question is, how are you living your life? Up until that moment, there was a guy millions of stories. Obviously, it was a guy that I know was a good friend of mine, and he was in the hospital and, he had just had a surgery, and they were going to find out if the surgery was a success.

00:04:19:43 - 00:04:45:53
Unknown
And I asked him while he was in the hospital, I said, man, how you doing, man? Are you doing okay? He said, man, I'm doing good. He said, the doctors are doing everything they can. He said, but you know what I'm good at? If it turns out I'm okay. And that was the first time that I ever heard so clearly from someone that I know saying that, however, turns out, yeah, he is.

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Unknown
He was at peace. He he hadn't given up, right. He was he was he was not suicidal. Okay. He he wasn't trying to end his life. He was still fighting for it. But he was also accepting that whatever happened, he was okay with that. And I said, man, that is such a a peaceful place to be able to be.

00:05:03:45 - 00:05:29:46
Unknown
And so even in thinking about the crash, it reminds us that every second is is precious. Were the people on the plane living the life that they chose to live? It seems that some of them were aspiring towards different goals from what the news media had said. Right? But even if we think about the people who were there, survivors, did they say what they needed to say while they were with that person?

00:05:29:51 - 00:05:59:06
Unknown
Right. Did they whatever that was, did they apologize that they need to? Did they say, I love you if they needed to? Did they whatever. Did they maximize the moments that they have or did they build everything all well? And next time we get together, I'm going to do this or that and we can't pack everything into the moment, but we can sure make our moments as meaningful as possible so that they are rich and filled.

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Unknown
You know, listening to you talk, it, the thought came into my mind in one way or another were we are all on that plane. Well, and I touched your life, right? I mean, yeah, I mean, it's it's, you know, it our lives will eventually come to an end, right? So with respect and, using that analogy of the, the DC plane crash, how how does one get to that point of peace, the point of, respect for oneself?

00:06:38:57 - 00:07:22:26
Unknown
Again, the four steps. Respect for oneself, respect for others, respect for the environment in respect to the process. The the four keys we're talking about here. How does one realize one has, like your friend achieved? That is is what I'm saying. The reason why I ask is I think so many people are hung up on the idea of, like, if I do a, I should have b or, you know, if if I look back if, if, if I was handed, you know, today, if I was told, you know, you're not going to move past 5:00 today, you know, was it a good day for you?

00:07:22:34 - 00:07:47:17
Unknown
Was it a good day for you? Yeah. You know. Yeah. So that's, I just expound a little bit on that. Yeah. To. Because respect to me now sounds like it's, it's, it's not a spiritual thing as much as it's, exercising oneself to be open to, what's another word for respect? Yeah.

00:07:47:19 - 00:08:14:56
Unknown
Honoring everything and including the process. Right. Including the process. Again, another story talking with one of my other cousins. And she had, just came out of the hospital and, I said, man, are you are you okay? And she said, yeah, I'm okay. She said, well, you know, everybody's got a season. And but she stays positive it that's right.

00:08:14:57 - 00:08:42:49
Unknown
I, I just, I just love her so much. She just stays positive and I think it is such a beautiful thing. If you can recognize that you have a season that we have a season. Because so many people have a difficult time accepting that their season will end at some point, they embrace a lot of concepts and ideas and things that might make them think this season is going to last on and on and on.

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Unknown
And so they don't really give the best that they can because they are believing in another season of life. But when you can accept that your season will end at some point, then you do what you can to maximize the season. We out here now because we realize this season is going to change. So we're maximizing, we're taking advantage of the time we have while it's here.

00:09:05:43 - 00:09:25:35
Unknown
Yes. Right now knowing this season is going to change. And so it's doing what we can while we can because at some point something's going to happen. My my dear friend big Bob used to say, we're all going to have a suddenly and I where suddenly something is going to shift. You're going to get email, text, phone calls, something is going to happen.

00:09:25:35 - 00:10:02:52
Unknown
And I now say we're all going to have a moment where everything happens at once. It's going to feel like that. Yeah. Washing machine goes out, the roof starts leaking. The car's got a problem, you know, you get sick. It seems like sometimes everything happens at once. One diagnosis after another diagnosis. And I think the remedy for finding peace and with respect has to do with knowing what it takes to cause a person to be centered, regardless of what happens.

00:10:03:41 - 00:10:26:00
Unknown
Be grateful for the life and existence they have, regardless of what happened. Setting the tone so that with a practice. So we talked about goal setting and things like that. Part of having a goal is having a practice that you're involved in on a regular basis to help you reach the goal. So a lot of people don't reach their goals because they just have a goal.

00:10:26:00 - 00:10:51:14
Unknown
They don't have a practice, okay, that that leads to that. So one of the practices, I think to a respecting self, getting to a place of peace, gratefulness, when incidents like, the plane collision happens is a moment of gratitude. And I start the day, I don't wake up hoping I have a good day. I wake up planning to have a good day by starting off with.

00:10:51:19 - 00:11:04:08
Unknown
I do my own reading and and just being quiet, okay and still and grateful. Even though I may not have everything or may not have.

00:11:04:13 - 00:11:09:43
Unknown
The strength and then go back.

00:11:09:48 - 00:11:37:24
Unknown
It doesn't mean that everything is going exactly as I would like it to in terms of bank account or or health or maybe something that's not 100%, but I am 100% grateful that I'm able to see still hear what abilities I have. I'm able to, and I'm still with gratefulness for that to start my day. And that centers me.

00:11:37:29 - 00:11:55:59
Unknown
So it doesn't mean that I won't experience that everything all at once happening, but I'm in a little better shape to be. I just had this happen, a week ago. Okay. Where I was a week just before I traveled out of town. Out of state to work. That week, it seemed like everything happened all at once.

00:11:56:29 - 00:12:17:01
Unknown
And, and the only way I was able to make it is I have people who I can count on. Okay? I have places that I can go to, to cinema myself. And I have some things that I can do to help me be at a good place in the midst of the chaos. Was right guard Kipling.

00:12:17:35 - 00:12:42:33
Unknown
From his poem if, if, if keep your head but all about you is losing theirs. And so that's a that's a challenge. But that's that's it. But I didn't wake up at that place. I had to evolve to that place with very intentional efforts. Let's take a little break here and come back and further mind what you're talking about, because I think, it's right there.

00:12:42:33 - 00:13:07:04
Unknown
The, what you just talked about waking up in the morning and saying, okay, quiet. I go through my gratitudes or whatever you want to call it, my listing of gratitudes. I do a little reading. Yeah. So you, you are practicing, you're creating a a practice of, of, of setting yourself up for respect. Exactly, exactly.

00:13:07:09 - 00:13:38:55
Unknown
Got it. And and that I think is something that might help a lot of people in this very tumultuous world. But because there's so much coming at you and, let's keep along on this because I. I think you're on to something here about, people trying to get centered, and, and, and because of the centering is what's necessary to be able to practice, the whole notion of respect.

00:13:39:06 - 00:14:18:22
Unknown
It is. Okay. All right. We're going to take just a pause, and we're going to be back with more of Marcus Gentry, Doctor Speck, we're on the, respect perspective. And, you are also, strung out. Don't go away and man back down to express. Coming up. I'm good this time off again. This time you you.

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00:18:40:41 - 00:19:24:16
Unknown
And, we're, enjoying this beautiful day. And, I'm grateful for that. And we are talking about, the, Yeah, the exercise, the the planning, of of of getting oneself into a state of respect, a respectful, mindset, I guess, and with Marcus Gentry here and Marcus, you know, the the analogy of the, the plane crash, and the idea of, wondering how many of those people woke up that morning and, and did what you do every day.

00:19:25:35 - 00:19:55:27
Unknown
One wonders. Yeah. You know, and and again, every once in a while we get reminders that could have been us. Yeah. Now there is something that interferes with that reminder. And I think it's important that we examine that interference and that interference because to get that reminding, you have to be still to process what happened.

00:19:55:32 - 00:20:27:21
Unknown
Then you can put it in perspective. Then you can do something with it. But we have lost the capacity for compassion. And we have lost the willingness and in some cases the skill to go deep versus wide because we are inundated with information. So before you could feel great or in terms of reflection at least and really consider what this means about these 67 people who lost their lives in a plane crash a day later.

00:20:27:21 - 00:20:47:39
Unknown
You hear about some people dying, in Philadelphia, right from, another plane incident. And then a few days later, you hear about something else happening, then something on the news happens where someone has has gotten shot or someone else has gotten killed or another car accident. And you, you start at some point, the brain just by default starts shedding down.

00:20:47:44 - 00:21:09:44
Unknown
It's, it's reaction to some of that. And when the brain shuts down or reaction, you hear it, but you don't hear it, it almost becomes a form of entertainment as opposed to information that you can do something with to cause you to become a better you or to reflect later on in life. So yeah, the idea ideally is to use that reminder to help you to be grateful.

00:21:09:44 - 00:21:37:15
Unknown
But if you just look at it almost as entertainment, right? And then you caught up on the next news clip, that happens until it shows up at your door, right? Let me ask you this, like, person like myself, I will look at the news and I will look at the political stuff, especially. And, I have family that's, you know, all over the political spectrum.

00:21:38:36 - 00:22:07:26
Unknown
And we don't necessarily see eye to eye. What I get out of it is I get a feeling of, I find myself getting anxious, you know? Is that the same is like, you know, obviously I'm not being entertained, but there is something happening. It's like I'm not surrendering to that feeling of peace, I guess.

00:22:07:31 - 00:22:27:43
Unknown
Would that, how how would you, you know, how would you treat a person like me? That saying. Hey, you know, Mr. Gentry, I, I feel I'm in a world of so much chaos that I can't control. You know, people go out of their way to pay for things they do, you know? But you're not talking about control, right?

00:22:27:43 - 00:22:53:38
Unknown
Right. And and it's important to know what's your business and what's not your business. And sometimes we can get frustrated, overwhelmed, anxious about something that's not our business, that used to be a time when they used to use the expression, hey, mind your own business. But now I don't actually hear that anymore because people have made their business your business and you, you have started that you specifically.

00:22:53:38 - 00:23:13:13
Unknown
But people have started to believe that their business is what somebody else is doing. Right? So they're okay. They're not only reading comments on social media, they're reading the comments to the person who made the guy. It's not their mail, you know, it used to be, again, a time when someone get mail and they say, hey, oh, this is addressed to you.

00:23:13:13 - 00:23:48:24
Unknown
This is this is you. Now you read other people's mail and and then question, well, why did they send you this? Well, it wasn't sent to you. So it. Right. So, the problem is sometimes that we are confused about what's our business and what's our job to try to control somebody else and my, my husband for many years, he and I came up with this, this analogy of life as an amusement park, okay?

00:23:48:25 - 00:24:14:20
Unknown
And everybody has their own ticket. And that is the honest to goodness truth. And when you really recognize or accept that in terms of respect for self and respect for others, I have to recognize that you were given on your day of birth, your own ticket into the park of life, and you really get to choose how you want to spend that ticket, because that's yours.

00:24:14:24 - 00:24:35:27
Unknown
I want to travel when it expires. I didn't give it to you. But I somehow, if I'm caught up in a control, defect, I'm going to try to control who you vote for. Or when you go to worship what you should or should not wear, how you should eat. Look at your ticket. Right? You really get to choose how you want.

00:24:35:27 - 00:25:07:21
Unknown
And when. We respect other people enough to allow them to be who they are as well as who they are, is not encroaching directly on our existence. Right? Then what is the matter? You know, I see people who get as many friends who get very upset in traffic. Sure. And you can't control somebody else there. And, the thing is, did you leave early?

00:25:07:25 - 00:25:31:42
Unknown
You know what? Are you going. So sometimes I'm frustrated with others is because we say we didn't do what we needed to do. We didn't eat our breakfast that morning or take our pills. It's we are old age. And so we, the world is as we think it is. And so if we operate with this sense of anxiousness and people out of here crazy, and then that's what shows up for us.

00:25:31:49 - 00:25:55:38
Unknown
Sure, the world is exactly what we think it is. There are many shamans and other great teachers who talk about the world as what we think it is. There are authors who who write, the power of our thoughts is what we ultimately create in many senses. So in respect for self, we go back again to the power of taking control of your thoughts.

00:25:56:35 - 00:26:21:27
Unknown
And your vision about who you are and respecting that someone else has the right and the authority to make their own choices and in different areas of life. So whatever someone's view is, there's probably somebody else that's going to agree with them somewhere. No matter, no matter how extreme it is, is probably somebody else who's going to agree with them.

00:26:21:27 - 00:26:52:55
Unknown
And if this be your last day, is that how you want to spend your last day being upset with somebody else's use of their ticket? Wow. That's, this is great. That we're talking about this because it's, it's it makes a lot of sense to me. And, we're going to take a little break, and, we're, you know, I've been enjoying this podcast so much because, the whole idea about suddenly and everything like that, it makes so much sense.

00:26:53:42 - 00:27:18:21
Unknown
And we are in a tumultuous time, as I like to say, I guess somebody that was living in the, the, the fifth century or whatever century would probably be saying the same thing. So what we're talking about is something that, you know, is never really going to go away. We what I understand is, and when we come back, I would like to just expound on this a little bit.

00:27:18:25 - 00:27:44:38
Unknown
We have to take responsibility. This is what I hear. It is so respect is responsibility to oneself. Absolutely. First and foremost. Absolutely. And and then, what that looks like and what that looks like when we do take responsibility, then we're going to attain a measure of peace. And in dealing with the other steps, really, we show up in the world differently, right?

00:27:44:42 - 00:28:22:47
Unknown
Okay. We're going to talk a little more about how to show up in the world differently. And I hope you're enjoying this as much as I am. We've got the train horns blaring, but it's reality, man. Your, the respect perspective with Marcus Gentry. And again, his website is Marcus gentry.com. And, shoot some questions will will be on the next podcast, we'll be reading some of those questions that we've been receiving your, strung out mighty fine art fans.

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00:29:19:39 - 00:29:55:05
Unknown
We're back. And, in this last part of our podcast, I always kind of like us to to wrap things up, but, you have you have talked about a lot today. And, and I'm beginning to now start to see, how these steps are starting to take life. The first part of respecting oneself first, in light of the the tragic plane crash and the idea that, you know, we fool ourselves to think that we live, that our lives are not quite right.

00:29:55:10 - 00:30:21:18
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. So and you, you talk about, you know, everybody eventually, someday, at some point, faces and suddenly and love that that notion and your friends also being at peace. But that peace coming from being a respect with themselves and, we also talked about the amusement ticket that I love that analogy. Everybody is handed a ticket.

00:30:21:20 - 00:30:49:24
Unknown
Yeah. And also the idea of, the, the death, if you will, of mind your own business. Yeah. That we now no longer live on a mind your own business world where everybody's business is everyone else's business. And, I want for this final segment, just a little more of what Marcus Gentry does, to to bring himself to a place of peace.

00:30:49:39 - 00:31:16:31
Unknown
You know, and you talk about how you you start the morning, how do you deal, with when, there are attacks, from the outside world on your sense of peace? I I'm can't even think of a good, example, but I'm sure there is one. Yeah, there is one that that comes by default with showing up a certain way in the world.

00:31:16:36 - 00:31:42:43
Unknown
So as another analogy of, of a fishing. So. Okay, say that, you know, if you want a certain kind of thing then you use a certain type of bait to attract that. So I, I, I have thoughts about this law of attraction and there's value there. But I have a lot of thoughts about it. But so when you show up a certain way, you attract some of what it is that you're looking for, just like showing up a certain way.

00:31:42:47 - 00:32:07:15
Unknown
But if you use the analogy of fishing and you fishing for a particular kind of fish, yes, you will attract that. But they're also scavengers that will come and eat anything. And so you will by default also attract the scavengers that are just looking for something to eat. That's it. So as a good fisherman, you have to know how to get rid of those things and continue focusing on the things that you're actually searching for.

00:32:07:18 - 00:32:39:21
Unknown
Okay, same thing happens in in my life, in the life of others, when you become a certain person, you will attract people of like minded, but you will also attract toxic people. You'll also attract those scavengers and perpetrators out there as well. So how you stay centered is developing inside and courage so the inside to be able to see people as they show up, not as you would like them to be.

00:32:39:48 - 00:33:07:44
Unknown
And sometimes our emotions can cloud our ability to see people as they are. Desire for something, or our hatred of something keeps us. Emotions can cloud our vision. Sure. So it is. It is great when we can be still long enough to develop the insight to discern what is this person showing me? Who are they?

00:33:07:49 - 00:33:33:04
Unknown
And if they are the kind of person that helps to enrich who I am and, is valuable to me, and I can add value to them, then I can embrace that individual and we can embrace each other and grow stronger together. If not, yeah, we have to have the courage to set the boundaries of knowing when and how to say no.

00:33:33:08 - 00:34:00:00
Unknown
Wow, that's that's brilliant. Because so many people, don't have that courage. I know, and that's that's a big thing. That's it's major. What was going through my mind when you're talking about, thinking like so in other words, to respect someone doesn't mean you necessarily have to like them. No, no, no, it could be somebody that is, you know, it could be detrimental.

00:34:00:00 - 00:34:21:22
Unknown
Let's just say to your, your health, your emotional health or whatever, but respect is, is having the courage to put that boundary in place to say you're to get your ticket right, like tickets might ticket right. You can respect them as a human being. You can respect that they have the right to choose what they choose to do, because you respect yourself.

00:34:21:36 - 00:34:46:38
Unknown
And you know what would be detrimental to your wellness? You can respect them by setting proper distance to allow them to continue to be who they are. You to be who you are is the practice, then, of gratitude, mindfulness, being centered in respect for oneself, being at peace with oneself. That that sounds to me. Then that is the first necessary thing you have to do.

00:34:46:46 - 00:35:15:31
Unknown
Absolutely. In order to take on the world. You really you have to be able to sit on yourself. And and it's a process to grow, to develop the courage and the strength because everybody's not going to be like you for setting certain boundaries. It's easy to set boundaries with people that you don't know. Well, I'm not going to let them in my circle, but there's some people who are in your, who are close to you by default.

00:35:15:33 - 00:35:39:37
Unknown
Maybe you have the same last name, or maybe you go to the same church, or you're in the same political organization, or you work at the same job, or where the same kind of uniform. So there's certain things that will put you in relative proximity with other people. It's easy to set boundaries for people you don't like. It's more difficult to set up for people that you that you are family with, right?

00:35:39:48 - 00:35:58:39
Unknown
I mean, that's I was just going to ask you, so, Marcus, then what do you do with those people that you can't escape? Right. You know, then you have to get under your skin. Absolutely. Then you push your buttons. Yeah, well, you have to make sure that you don't give them access to your buttons, you know? So.

00:35:58:39 - 00:36:16:11
Unknown
So you know that there are some people who will do that. And it's easy to get your buttons pushed if you're not centered and grounded where you are. But if you see them coming right, then you know how to prepare yourself. You know when this person shows up, they're going to say this, they're going to do that, they're going to do these things.

00:36:16:16 - 00:36:41:53
Unknown
So I can't avoid them, but I can I can set how much time I'm going to spend with them. I'm going to be here with them for another ten minutes. And no matter what, they can do that for ten minutes away. You know, they're they're, there are some people who who call me that I know that are on a time limit, you know, because I know that they bring certain toxic, elements to the conversation.

00:36:41:53 - 00:37:07:07
Unknown
Okay. There's some people who are not. But when it turns that way, I'm okay because I'm always paying attention. So really, you are showing respect? Absolutely. Because you you are saying, I know, I know that you, you know, present to me a certain toxicity. You're right that, you know. Yeah. And you're not passing judgment. What you're doing is you're just passing boundary, right?

00:37:07:11 - 00:37:26:51
Unknown
To protect yourself and protect that person. Right. And this is too often we let people into our lives that are going to I just recently do that where I brought in somebody that I thought, you know, this would be, you know, a nice person to have. And bla bla bla bla. But in the back of my mind I had this, you know, there's something not right.

00:37:26:56 - 00:37:57:49
Unknown
And I didn't listen to the something's not right. That's a story. That's, that's a whole piece right there was the thing that inside messenger that says this is not the right match here. Right. And then having the courage and the wisdom and the skill of how to have that conversation. Right. Because just because you choose to not bring someone in your inner circle doesn't mean that you can't be in a conversation with them, right?

00:37:57:54 - 00:38:15:20
Unknown
Doesn't mean that you have to make them an enemy. Doesn't mean you have to get an argument about it. Right? You know, trying to take control of that ticket. You just trying to make sure that you handle your ticket well. We have covered a lot of great ground here today, and I hope you folks are enjoying this as much as I am.

00:38:16:14 - 00:38:57:39
Unknown
Because, get a lot of wisdom coming out of, doctor respect here. I want to kind of, we'll just wrap things up again. From the perspective of the 67 souls, they're no longer with us, right? If you were having to address their families from a place of about respect, what would it be that you would say to them that might give them a measure of comfort?

00:38:57:43 - 00:39:18:30
Unknown
I would tell them the first thing that comes to mind is that, I've not been in their shoes. I don't know what that feels like. I know what loss feels like, but I can't imagine what the loss of a family member in a plane to them feels like. And I would encourage them to give themselves permission to feel what they feel.

00:39:19:23 - 00:39:53:58
Unknown
Feel what you feel and see what you can learn from this experience to make you a better person, to go forward. Right. What can you expect from that? Because as ugly as it is, as painful as it is, everything is an opportunity. And it's a question of what is this an opportunity for you to see, for you, to feel, for you look at and I'm not here to be the one to tell you what that is, right?

00:39:53:58 - 00:40:44:01
Unknown
That has to be an inside job that you look at. But I can guarantee you that there is something there. There's always a seed of equivalent value in every chaotic experience that happens. We're going to leave it at that. And I think, that's a wonderful thing for all of us to to reflect on because, again, we're all going to at one point encounter the suddenness and, and to look at life as a learning experience, even when it hands us the most gut wrenching tragedy, when it feels like everything is happening all at once, that's respecting what life is exactly, exactly the learning experience it's supposed to be.

00:40:44:01 - 00:41:14:19
Unknown
And, and, the old adage, to bloom where one is planted to somebody, right? Yeah. I want to thank you. As always. We're going to be back, with this as we continue along our journey. And, I want to encourage people one more time. Marcus gentry.com and, respect that. Marcus gentry.com is the email you can find contact again at the website.

00:41:14:41 - 00:41:37:42
Unknown
I highly encourage you to take advantage, of this gentleman who is just a great teacher getting us to think, really kind of be in touch with our life, you know, feel it on our fingertips instead of just going through the motions, which, in this day and age, there's a lot of pressure to go through the motions.

00:41:37:42 - 00:42:01:47
Unknown
So we'll leave it at that. And, hopefully next time, it'll be, five degrees warmer. Wouldn't that be nice? We we, we we are enjoying this day, but, we're gonna we're gonna end it there. And, we'll be back with more of, the respect perspective on Strung Up. Thanks again. Bye bye. Thank you for listening.

00:42:02:00 - 00:42:18:19
Unknown
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00:42:18:24 - 00:42:47:03
Unknown
It's so strong. Spain, we feel, makes no sense at all. The swan song wasn't part of the deal. Was no good at all. Given no choice. Given us.