While We Were Waiting

"Trust what you know, not what you feel." - with Frankie Marrs

August 24, 2020 While we were Waiting Podcast Season 1 Episode 20
While We Were Waiting
"Trust what you know, not what you feel." - with Frankie Marrs
Show Notes Transcript

On episode 20, Martha and AJ work through a recent argument about "vocabulary elitism." They also recount last weeks' Democratic National Convention and roll call the list of the latest iconic restaurant closures. Story Time guest, Frankie Marrs, also shares a breathtaking story about how a difficult restaurant patron became completely explosive! Stay tuned after the story for a completely adorable chat the three of them have about Frankie's new podcast, "Shuttle to Marrs," and how they all share some common history. It's another can't miss episode of #WaitingPodcast!

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Music credit: "How Did I Get Here" by Sean Solo 

Music credit: "Sex And The City Closing Theme" by Pete Charles Sesko

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Hello friends and welcome to another episode of while we were waiting where we share expert insight and true Tales from inside the restaurant industry. I am your host Martha Madison,

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and I am your co host and Martha's husband AJ Gilbert.

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That was amazing. On today's episode, we have a story by Frankie Mars. She's an actress and host of the wildly popular podcast shuttle to Mars. As most of us actresses have done at one time in our lives. Frankie was working as a waitress and I high end restaurant when one guest made a difficult night, completely explosive. AJ and I are also going to chat about the Democratic National Convention, some iconic restaurant closures. And also we'll chat about when it's appropriate to use big words in small groups. But first, I did want to touch on one more thing. And that is our little big word debate that we had yesterday very publicly.

Unknown Speaker  1:30  
Well, what made it public?

Unknown Speaker  1:32  
Well, you and I decided to make it public because we needed some feedback. So let's give some context. First, I want to say when whenever AJ and I have conversations and he tends to use really obscure words or you know, sayings that most people don't use and, and I like to Well, I do believe you do this because you like to be the most intelligent person in the conversation, right? So like your way of pointing out that you're the smartest person in the room, right?

Unknown Speaker  2:05  
But what if there's another explanation?

Unknown Speaker  2:07  
Well, but what if there isn't? So let's just go with this one explanation that 17 years in our relationship I'm pretty, pretty confident about. So yesterday, AJ and I are just sitting around the kitchen, and he says, you know, I'm gonna, I just want to make sure my car stays clean. He just got a new car, I want to make sure the car stays clean. And so I was, you know, every time Charlie gets in and out, I'm, I'm going in there and I'm, I'm making sure that I take out all her mishegoss like, What's mishegoss? You know, just cuz I know where he's what he's doing. And he said, you know, all of our stuff, just this and that.

Unknown Speaker  2:43  
And I said,

Unknown Speaker  2:44  
Why do you always use words that of course, you know, I wouldn't know. Is it just so that I'll stop and ask you a wise one, what that means? And he said, What did you say? You said, Everybody knows what that means. I said, Nobody knows what that means. And he said, Well, we're in California or in Texas, and I said anywhere, nobody knows what that word means. And he also so I put it on Facebook,

Unknown Speaker  3:10  
as well. But let me finish let me interject something before you tell the rest the story as you so often do, you took the opportunity to be right and made yourself wrong.

Unknown Speaker  3:18  
I didn't make myself wrong.

Unknown Speaker  3:20  
I may have. Well, first of all, I still think you can use it as a noun. And what I was saying was, you know, Charlie is surrounded by like a cloud of stuff. She's got her stuffed animals and her, you know, fruit leathers and her water bottle, and she takes off her shoes and throws her socks up in the air. And it's it that that's mishegoss. It's craziness.

Unknown Speaker  3:43  
But you said what is that you said, you know, this and that. I remember that because I thought, Oh, that makes sense, right? Because I thought that's what it meant. So anyway, Flash forward, since you made the comment about people in California, meaning because it's a Yiddish term that people in California is more Jewish people in California then Texas. I said, Well, why don't I put it up on Facebook because I have equal amount of Facebook friends who are both from California and from Texas. And let's just see. And of course, everybody from both states unless they were in fact, Jewish had never heard that word and had no idea what it meant. So we google it mishegoss as a noun, and it says craziness, right? craziness or foolishness So in fact, you were wrong and your elitist vocabulary, but also proved me right that nobody unless they were actually in fact Jewish had ever heard that word before.

Unknown Speaker  4:38  
Okay, well, we have two different disagreements whether whether anybody, whether that's a word that's that's commonly understood, and I, I mean, obviously, not everybody knows the word but I think a lot of people do and I would say that if you grew up in New York, you probably know what it means

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to maybe

Unknown Speaker  4:56  
well here and then the next thing is I will call my father tonight. who grew up speaking Yiddish? And we'll find out if you can use it to kind of refer to Oh, like a messy room or something.

Unknown Speaker  5:06  
Oh, yes. I also would like to point out that your Jewish sister had never heard of.

Unknown Speaker  5:13  
So I was just so right. I was so right. And I never win these arguments because aj aj Hoge because AJ is usually the smartest person in the room and I will give him that is one of the things I love most about him. But the arrogance around it is what drives me crazy. So there

Unknown Speaker  5:32  
Listen, I think you're brilliant. And I always

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I wouldn't. I

Unknown Speaker  5:37  
don't say that. I'm cute.

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And I know I

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let you It's okay. Everyone else knows I'm brilliant. It's okay if you think I'm cute.

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This took a dark.

Unknown Speaker  5:51  
I believe I tell you all the time how smart you are, and I'm always impressed with your reasoning but you you have As you're kind of an autodidact you taught your own

Unknown Speaker  6:06  
autodidact to me, AJ.

Unknown Speaker  6:11  
Okay, well, let's use this one right now. I can say autodidact expecting you not to know what

Unknown Speaker  6:16  
I actually do know what an autodidact means that someone who teaches themselves the stuff because nobody.

Unknown Speaker  6:22  
Excellent, excellent. And I'm very happy that you know what that means. I don't I don't want to be the one that knows what that means. And for you not to the point that I was trying to make is that you've taught yourself you you went to college and you studied dance, right? No,

Unknown Speaker  6:38  
I went to college and I studied psychology and I was like,

Unknown Speaker  6:41  
You dance. Right? And and it's

Unknown Speaker  6:44  
extracurricular. And so and I also worked a full time job. So there it is. I slept four hours a day for four years and graduated from college.

Unknown Speaker  6:52  
Right? And then you taught yourself all of these things about running restaurants and doing recruiting and acting and TV production and all that stuff. And you Brilliant, you know all that stuff? You You haven't, you know you you're not into

Unknown Speaker  7:06  
vocabulary. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker  7:09  
So there's just things that you know that that that I are kind of common to me that are not to you and we come from very different parts of the country and we have different ways of speaking and we, you know we have that gap, but you interpret it as as intentional or arrogant and we just have different. We have different toolboxes of language. Yes, I know, I didn't know that that something that had no dairy in it could be called cheese and Spanish.

Unknown Speaker  7:39  
Velveeta is cheese and Texan.

Unknown Speaker  7:46  
Here's how I know that I am actually smarter than you is that we have a brilliant child and they say that children get their IQ from their mothers. So there

Unknown Speaker  7:57  
I was. I was we were watching something on TV the other day and there was a Jewish man who married a Gentile and they had a beautiful little girl and she pointed to the girl and she said, You're welcome. I think that every, every, every, every Gentile that's married a Jewish man will point to their child and say, Yeah, I did that. I made the beautiful kid.

Unknown Speaker  8:19  
So you're

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welcome. She is gonna take grass. She is both beautiful and intelligent. You're welcome.

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Unknown Speaker  8:34  
All righty. Let's change the subject. Democratic National Convention. AJ thoughts?

Unknown Speaker  8:42  
Well, let's listen to something. It's about two and a half minutes.

Unknown Speaker  8:45  
I think it's under control. I'll tell

Unknown Speaker  8:47  
you what, how 1000 Americans are dying a day they were dying. That's true. And you have it is what it is. Donald Trump is the wrong president for our country. He has had more than isn't enough time to prove that he can do the job but he is clearly in over his head. He cannot meet this moment. He simply cannot be who we need him to be for us. It is what it is. I have sat in the Oval Office with both of the men who are running for president. I never expected that my successor would embrace my vision

Unknown Speaker  9:24  
or continue my policies.

Unknown Speaker  9:28  
I did hope for the sake of our country,

Unknown Speaker  9:31  
that Donald Trump might show some interest in taking the job seriously. no interest in treating the presidency as anything but one more reality show that he can use to get the attention

Unknown Speaker  9:44  
he craves.

Unknown Speaker  9:48  
Donald Trump hasn't grown into the job because he can't.

Unknown Speaker  9:53  
President takes no responsibility refuses to lead blames others cozies up to dictators and family The flames of hate and division. He'll wake up every day believing the job is all about him. Never about you. Is that the American you want for you, your family, your children.

Unknown Speaker  10:15  
So this is the argument that the democrats are making, right? Right that Donald Trump is not capable of being president. And why does that matter? It matters because the country is in tatters. And we have evidence all around us that Donald Trump is not capable of being president. I do understand why people voted for him. I do understand the resentment that people feel because, you know, government doesn't work and there's a lead ism in culture that makes people who don't participate in the culture feel badly about themselves. I get all of that. But I think the democrats made a very good case. And how high the stakes are and that our economic prosperity for our generation and future generations, and our very democratic systems are dependent on getting this election right. And I thought it was a really compelling presentation. And I also was just proud that they made such a good TV show after the first night. So

Unknown Speaker  11:20  
rough. Well, that was gonna be my first response to this was the I was worried that because there wasn't going to be a huge studio audience, a studio audience that there wasn't gonna be a big live audience what it is,

Unknown Speaker  11:33  
that's what it is, when and having them focus on the viewer at home is a much more honest presentation the sincerity Yes, and was greater because that's what it really is supposed to be about.

Unknown Speaker  11:45  
100% so I felt like I was worried that the energy level is going to be weird because there wasn't an audience reacting to everything. But honestly, by the second night, I started to recognize that for who Joe Biden is and who he is presenting himself and his leadership style to be as very empathetic and very interpersonal and very, very good listener. You know, all this kind of stuff that's so intimate between people. I think that the intimacy of this production worked in his favor. I was so moved. I mean, every night I probably, like, teared up about 10 times and I don't know if it was just because you have all of these people sharing their very personal stories, and and also like, sounding like real leaders. Or if our country is just so messed up right now that is entirely sad to hear at all. I don't know. I was just I was in tears. It was wonderful, but they did a great job.

Unknown Speaker  12:44  
So what's gonna happen next week is in some form, and you know, listen, Donald Trump is a good TV producer. He is he is the Cable Guy though he's

Unknown Speaker  12:55  
not he's not good at that.

Unknown Speaker  12:57  
Let me make my point. I don't think it was particularly good hosts, but Donald Trump is a creature. He was created by television. This is a old man who sits in I'm sure his den smells in, you know, whatever in, in New York and he would say some den air, eating m&ms and watching incessant amounts of TV. And that's what created his personality. And he took all that energy that he learned from watching TV and what makes people feel and what makes people respond. And he turned it into a presidential campaign and it won him the presidency. So next week, this energy, his abilities, what he's good at is making TV in some fashion. You watch the apprentice, I didn't.

Unknown Speaker  13:50  
I did watch the apprentice.

Unknown Speaker  13:52  
I watched one anyway. That's gonna that's gonna be the republican convention and they're, I predict they're going to have videos of people rioting. They're going to have videos of people getting, you know, victimized by criminals and all this stuff to scare people. And then the message will be that Donald Trump is the only one who can protect them. And I think this is a powerful message. And I think that oddly that people who live in safe communities that do not have a lot of crime tend to be a lot more afraid of crime. And people that live in communities where there is crime realized that it's often pretty contained amongst the criminals, if that makes sense. But I think that that is going to be the message is you should be terrified of electing democrats because you know, the society will fall apart and people will come and take your things and I think that's what they're going to portray next week. Well,

Unknown Speaker  14:48  
I think that's what they're gonna portray next week, and maybe four years ago that would have worked but here's the difference. People like me are the difference, right? I am a college educated White suburban mother. And for the last four years, Donald Trump has been messing with the children and we aren't having that shit, right? We're not gonna let this man and his administration continue to separate kids from their parents and put them in cages. We are not going to sit here and homeschool our fucking children for the next year because he won't, you know, put a mask on and do the things that the medical community is doing. We are smart enough to recognize those things. And I think that, you know, he lost that white educated female suburban mom vote last time he wanted last time, he is not going to win at this time. And that is gonna make a huge difference. So he can talk all he wants to, you know, to the gun lobby and to all the people who are so afraid you're going to take their guns away, there aren't enough of them to sway the vote.

Unknown Speaker  15:50  
Well, they were just barely enough last time. So I was I went for a bike ride and the kind of main park in Dallas as I often do, and There was somebody on rollerblades and I didn't really see what happened. I was actually there at the moment. I couldn't really tell what was happening. But there was some, he had he hurt somebody, I don't know if it was intentional, or by accident. There was some screaming and then the guy rollerblade it off. And I continued, it's a big circle that you go in around a lake and the police had I'd never seen it before. They have like a little motorcycle that they can chase people down and they chase this guy down and the rest of them and my initial thought when I saw it is Boy, that kind of stuff happens every day in Venice Beach in Los Angeles, and nobody would say anything. Now Dallas is a big blue city. You know, every city wide official is a Democrat. But there is a different kind of tolerance or belief in you know, what is normalized crime in Texas than there is in California. And so the election i think will turn on. Do you want crime everywhere. Like there is in Los Angeles and again, I think Angelenos? No, it's just, you know, it's just where people live. It's not like your entire life is consumed by it. And then the Biden democratic argument is going to be this guy is insane. And and just what you said, and you know, the kids are not going to be able to go school and stuff. And I think they're both compelling arguments. And I think we have to recognize that I don't believe in the sincerity of the Trump argument. And and I believe that crime is I know that crime has gone up since he has been president. So I don't know how you make that argument in.

Unknown Speaker  17:32  
These aren't people here about data? I mean, obviously, they aren't looking at the data. These aren't people that I think that the typical Trump voter isn't, you know, looking through all of the true numbers and things like that so you know, they're just taking what they're being told and running with it no matter how crazy it sounds. But I think you know, that happens also have to remember what what causes crime And who are criminals? Right? Like a lot of the people who are, you know, petty theft or things like that are selling weed and, and all this kind of stuff, you know, what's the motivation behind that? Well, they're broke. They're coming from disenfranchised groups of people and areas of big cities, because they need to feed their kids and they, you know, can't get health insurance or whatever it is that's causing someone to feel the need to do those things. And Joe Biden speaks to that, right? Like our system is broken. And yes, we do need medical coverage for people. And yes, we do need better jobs, and we do need a higher wage, and we need to do this for everyone. Because it's when you know, we're only as good as our most disenfranchised citizens. Right. Yeah. And so he gets that I think he gets that and I think that it came across so well, in the four nights of the DNC.

Unknown Speaker  18:54  
I agree. And I but it is, it is, this is all at the election against you know, it is like from Star Wars, it's it's the light side versus the dark side. And I mean, they even

Unknown Speaker  19:05  
that's what Meghan McCain said today on Twitter, by the way, well, your light is light versus dark now. Right?

Unknown Speaker  19:11  
Oh, I don't have that audio. I thought I had that. Yeah, that's I mean that Biden said that in his speech last night, he said, this is light versus dark and, and the dark side is very powerful, and people respond to fear. And I do think that the conservative argument is always more emotional. And the and the liberal argument is, you know, use your head look at the data. And the conservative argument is Doesn't it feel like there's a lot of criminals around you? Doesn't it feel like you need a gated house? Doesn't it feel like police should shoot people and you know, it's it gets really dark? And I don't know why people see the world that way. I really don't. And it's it's a puzzle to me, because you know, since we moved to Texas, and to hear people talk about crime in communities where there is no crime, right, and the amount of fear that they have about you know this thing that's not happening it's just I just don't understand it and and then to motivate yourself to vote for somebody who's kind of telling you that your fantasy is real it's just over there just over there just passed where you can see there's all this crime just over there and and it is just the strangest hallucination

Unknown Speaker  20:22  
it's not a hallucination though this is generations of people, you know, dating back all the way to the Civil War, right when the South lost and the things that they cherished were taken away from them right and so it's this you know, generations old custom of now I need to make sure I have a small you know, Army in my house in case somebody ever tries to come in and take my shit again. Right? It Well, I grew up here. I mean, this is i that is it's very ingrained, I think, and people have always lived in the south.

Unknown Speaker  20:58  
If we're gonna go there. I mean, If you've got people who are your property who live on your house, who you may not treat very well, who sleep, you know, 50 yards away from you, you should be afraid. Right? chair. I mean that that is a reasonable thing. And so I do think that that creates a lot of this. And I agree.

Unknown Speaker  21:20  
That's the racism. That's I mean, and I while I, I think, you know, having lived now in Texas and New York City and Los Angeles and San Francisco, what I can say is that Texas is much more progressive than one might imagine if you didn't live here, but there is more of that overt racism that I see here than any of the other places I have lived.

Unknown Speaker  21:43  
Right and you just replace the name of the minority with crime or criminal exam. That's exactly and that's exactly what the Trump campaign is going to do. And I again say that this is powerful and you know, I whatever reason whether it was right or you know, Emotional the democrats chose to go all in on love and flower power and stuff like that. And it felt great. And this is what I believe will make the world a better place.

Unknown Speaker  22:11  
And I think I know that I think I've lived long enough to say

Unknown Speaker  22:14  
that they're not trying to get you you're already gonna vote for them. They're trying to get the people who did not turn out to vote last time that caused Donald Trump to get elected. And that was very clear in their presentation right

Unknown Speaker  22:26  
there to two groups that didn't turn out to vote last time. There are minorities and there were

Unknown Speaker  22:31  
me white, white suburban women. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker  22:34  
Well, now the women, white suburban women voted a little bit for Trump. In the midterm election, they voted democratic. No, there were a white man without a college education, particularly in the Midwest, who voted for Trump or didn't vote at all. And I don't think they made much of an appeal to that group. I trust they know what they're doing. I will say that. You know, I've been following the polls on Most religiously since this race became between

Unknown Speaker  23:03  
badly upset,

Unknown Speaker  23:06  
they just don't move. So and I do you know, I think that one of the things that Trump has done is he's been whining and and victimizing himself so much that if he has four days to do it next week on national TV, everybody's heard his stuff. Everybody knows his routine, Hickory Dickory Dock, you know, we can do the material ourselves. So I don't know how powerful it's going to be. But that's what I'm bracing myself for is, you know, for fortunately, we're going to be traveling for most of that week. But for Trump, you know, standing in front of the White House, you know, whining about all the crime that isn't real and how he is going to protect us, I guess in the next term, because he didn't do it this time. And he needs to get reelected and and that's, that's his. That's his pitch. And there are people that will feel afraid and will will identify with that, right.

Unknown Speaker  23:55  
Well, I guess we'll see. You may the May the best man best old white man wins.

Unknown Speaker  24:00  
So I've seen over the last couple of weeks and I think that this is probably to be expected in the cycle of the kind of pandemic and restaurants being operating at reduced business but some really iconic places, particularly in San Francisco and I think that probably just has to do with how outdoor dining works there and some of the architecture of the buildings. Fairlawn is closed. So this was I forget his first name Mark Mark frons who worked at stars under Jeremiah tower and then went off and opened his own restaurant I guess about 25 years ago. We ate there once with Brad and Monica.

Unknown Speaker  24:38  
Oh, right with the purple velvet

Unknown Speaker  24:41  
is lightly fishable

Unknown Speaker  24:42  
velvet everywhere. And we had we had their two small kids with us. It was so weird.

Unknown Speaker  24:48  
Yeah, it was a lot. But you know, it was always one of the you know, it was considered one of the best seafood restaurants in San Francisco. It has now gone forever. I believe lived in the Richmond district for a number of years, which is a fine place to live. It's not like a fancy neighborhood in San Francisco. It's kind of more of a Jo lunchbox kind of neighborhood and there weren't a lot of really cool restaurants there and there were but there were two that I loved. One of which was Tong King, which is a dim sum restaurant that has been open for I got it as long as I can remember and they just closed and that made me really sad because that was you know, Sunday you go wait outside on the sidewalk and go inside and you know have have dim sum the place was packed and friends would eat chicken crow so kind of

Unknown Speaker  25:39  
friends. Did you have you?

Unknown Speaker  25:45  
Oh, this one broke my heart. Nate now's in Los Angeles. So Nate now's there's there's probably four delis in Los Angeles. That are kind of the best Wouldn't save in the best better institutions. There's a langurs, which is one of the best delis in the country. As far as I can tell. They're they're Fond Du pars

Unknown Speaker  26:08  

Unknown Speaker  26:10  
well do pars is more of a dial. But

Unknown Speaker  26:12  
Nate now, somewhere between like a Langer's and a diner.

Unknown Speaker  26:16  
Yeah, that's fair. But now as there was a real Jewish deli, whereas DuPont has had some elements of that, but there's brands in the valley. We went there, kind of out in the middle of nowhere. Yeah, which is fine. People love brands, I'm not sure I always loved arts,

Unknown Speaker  26:32  
and then nearly in

Unknown Speaker  26:34  
our neighborhood deli, where we would go almost every Sunday and Charlie still refers to it as the sucker restaurant and then Nate now is we didn't live very close to Nate now. But Nathan house is just awesome. You know, it's just a Hollywood institution. Charlie was approached by some kind of talent agent The last time I was

Unknown Speaker  26:51  

Unknown Speaker  26:54  
He was just this sweet old grandfather who was like, boy, I could get her so much work. It wasn't creepy.

Unknown Speaker  27:00  
Matt, we met your cousin there for the first time, right?

Unknown Speaker  27:05  
Yeah distant cousin who, who knew us and and then we connected after many years and, you know, our one of our partners in the app who became our very good friend, Bob Shapiro from San Francisco that was like, who passed away that was like his favorite place to go in Los Angeles. And I will say that Nate mouse was not the best deli in Los Angeles. that distinction goes to langurs. And now there's all these new hip new delis that are that are probably better than even Langer sometimes, but Nate nows is just awesome. They have egg creams and they have a deli case filled with cookies and, and pureed fish and all sorts of stuff. Martha would never, never and I will say it's not completely closed. Apparently they're trying to find a new location and maybe they will. I think that there's like a bunch of like Hollywood agents that are like, you know, whatever it takes we're going to get this place reopened, but it just breaks my heart that

Unknown Speaker  27:59  
Hollywood agent Even agents are out of a job right now.

Unknown Speaker  28:03  
Yeah, they still have plenty of money.

Unknown Speaker  28:07  
I and I think that just to acknowledge and we've talked about this before, but these places, you know, what does it mean to a community? You know, the history and I The reason I brought up like Bob Shapiro a good friend who passed away and the reason I bring these things up, is that the the, the feeling or am I Oh, my friends that when I was in college we used to go to talking together is, you know, these emotions are attached to these places, these memories. Of course, the memories don't go anywhere. But there's this real sadness of the time passing when these restaurants vanish. And I think that it's it's worth acknowledging how that makes us feel. And it's it, it should feel sad, I think for people to look at these places that they that they've spent time and and had these memories that are no more that are no longer.

Unknown Speaker  28:52  
That's how I felt after Luna Park closed and a lot of our friends and stuff were like, Oh, I met my husband there. Oh, I got engaged. They're all we used to go there for brunch every Sunday and have bottomless champagne or whatever, you know, you are you become such a part of the community and and those types of things really highlight what a specific period of time is in your life. Right. So I whenever I think of Luna Park, I think of my 20s and like how fun it was, and you know, la was just booming at the time and, you know, the restaurants sort of highlight those periods of time. I think I think not unlike, right, like, you know, when our dog died, I was like, God, I was so sad to lose my dog, but also everything that represented, which was this, you know, 12 year period of critical time in my life, right.

Unknown Speaker  29:46  
Yeah, and I think you're making a really intuitive you're saying what I'm trying to say in a very intuitive way, which is that these places are our memories. Yes. And and like when a parent dies, it's that memory that all that time compressed into that one thing vanishes and it is very

Unknown Speaker  30:03  
well hopefully it will make room for some new and exciting concepts after this is all over. While we were waiting is brought to you by one house hospitality recruiters, a full service hospitality recruitment firm serving all of North America. For more information, check out our website at one dash house.com. That's o n e dash H a us.com. All right now it's time for storytime. And before I introduce our guests, I would just want to let our listeners know that we're trying something a little bit new today. We've we want to be able to have interviews with our guests. But we also want to make sure that everyone's hearing their fun story. So we're going to do a little bonus interview with our guests after the story and we hope you'll stick around for that. Our guest today is Frankie Mars. She's an actress podcaster and former restaurant server, she recounts a traumatic experience involving herself Her manager and an explosive Karen she encountered while she was at work. Here is that story.

Unknown Speaker  31:15  
One summer ago, I had come back recently come back from Italy. I did a little tour abroad there and did a music festival. So I started working in this fine dining type seafood restaurant. Really nice restaurant, a lot of the upper class families would go there because most people I grew up in a small town so like most people didn't really know what it was. But I was like, okay, because I had never worked in a restaurant before. This is my first time. Maybe if I work in like a nice fine dining restaurant that customers won't be that mean to be. It'll be fine. About two months in to me working there. It was a concert night and this restaurant was right across From the concert hall if I am not mistaken I'm pretty sure it was a symphonic concert. You know people are dressed really nice and and so I get this table with these two ladies right? They're sitting beautiful dresses on they look like they're ready for a night on the town the entire night that they were there they were there for like a good hour and a half and I was like oh my god what are these ladies going to leave because I had already been cut at that point in the night and I was ready to go the hell home. These two ladies they'd been giving me hell all night. Especially the one this blonde and like I'm I love blondes. I am a blonde I'm a silver blonde. It was probably the definition of a Karen. She had the the bob cut. She had like the really bad eye lighter eyebrow makeup on. Either the food wasn't cooked right or her salad was wrong or there wasn't enough dressing for the salad or there was something thing wrong with her tea that she was drinking. I could not win with this woman like, and she every time I would go over there, she just glared at me. What are you doing? Why are you here? That was the type of vibe I was getting from.

Unknown Speaker  33:19  
The lady gets up and walks off. And then all my rounds, she's still not back. Five minutes later, I make the round again, still about back. another five minutes go by. She's still not there. Her friend calls me over and she's like, this is a weird question. But like, have you seen my friend after like 20 minutes, this woman and my manager comes out of this little like cubby hole that we had, where the restrooms were. She's not screaming, but she's not happy. And I'm like, Oh my god, am I gonna get fired over a woman who didn't like our tea? At this point? I'm like, almost in tears because when somebody's mad at me, I feel more Trouble and I cry really easily like that. And I really thought I was gonna get fired. My manager comes up to me. It took me a second to realize what she was telling me. This lady had gone in the bathroom and like exploded diarrhea all over are nice classy bathroom, like all over the wall all over the floor all over the toilet stall.

Unknown Speaker  34:33  
I don't think I've ever laughed so hard in my life. Like I had to go to the kitchen. They can't they my manager literally kicked me out of the restaurant for a good five minutes because I couldn't hold it together. And she was trying to blame the food. She was like you guys gave me food poisoning and my manager was like, ma'am, that that's not how food poisoning work. And mind you this lady had a Caesar salad with salmon. On top of it, that's all she had for dinner. It was terrible. I have never felt so horrible or felt so bad for the cleanup crew in my whole life. I was utterly disgusted. And that's probably the worst night of my food service career.

Unknown Speaker  35:29  
So Frankie Mars, that is probably the coolest name and all of Hollyweird. Is that a real name? It definitely is. You can check my passport. Well, it's such a perfect name too. Because you look like a Frankie Mars like you look like you could front a rock band like an all girl new gogos

Unknown Speaker  35:52  
kind of. I'm here for that. My mom. She is she plays piano for a discussion. Cover bands. So Oh my,

Unknown Speaker  36:03  
I think I want to be your mom's best friend. I

Unknown Speaker  36:07  
love it.

Unknown Speaker  36:09  
So, um, just to let our listeners know a little bit more about you, you're currently a student at amda which is the American musical and dramatic Academy in New York and setting a musical theater. How is that going?

Unknown Speaker  36:22  
Um, well, I actually just came out of an acting class and I did a scene that's been giving me very big anxiety here recently. But it kind of like it was like one of those things that it all came together at the last minute so I feel a little bit better. Now that it's over.

Unknown Speaker  36:40  
What was the scene about

Unknown Speaker  36:43  
it was like one of those stupid little open scenes that you have to like make up your own circumstance. And for some reason, I suck at those because I because I don't have information to kind of go off and build off of so I'm I stress so easily. them when there's there's like 1010 lines. Right?

Unknown Speaker  37:03  
Well there that's nothing an improv class can't fix.

Unknown Speaker  37:07  
Exactly. See I need to take an improv class. Yeah. So, Frankie,

Unknown Speaker  37:11  
two questions about and first of all, are you doing virtual or in person learning now?

Unknown Speaker  37:17  
So as of right now we are virtual. And so I'm on zoom like six hours a day and it is terrible. I hate it.

Unknown Speaker  37:25  
act on zoom.

Unknown Speaker  37:28  
How do I act on zoom? Is it difficult? Oh, um, yes. Because in person, I'm like, you know, you can pull off of the energy of your acting partner. And on zoom, you're kind of like a deer in headlights when it comes to that, and you have to make up your own energy.

Unknown Speaker  37:47  

Unknown Speaker  37:48  
yeah. Well, and who is a famous graduate of amda that I might know.

Unknown Speaker  37:53  
Well, you know, there's this really cool person. She's like, basically the biggest Hollywood star that I know Her name is Martha and she famous person ever have you ever heard of her? I heard her. Well, I asked

Unknown Speaker  38:09  
her I saw her dorm room by a matter of fact.

Unknown Speaker  38:14  
Did I take I think

Unknown Speaker  38:15  
we saw it through the window or there. I'm not even sure if you know exactly where your dorm room was. It seems to move around. But you planted a lot of buildings in the Upper West Side and say that was my dorm room.

Unknown Speaker  38:24  
That's not true. I lived in the Stratford arms, which apparently Frankie did, too, right? Yes, yeah. So I lived in the Stratford arms before the Stratford arms got like a makeover. I lived there when it was still Metro housing for the city of New York. So it was like a bunch of transplant musical theater students living in a building with a bunch of otherwise homeless people. And we had the most interesting dynamic. I'll actually tell you that we had a piano in the basement and there was a woman that lived In the basement, and June was her name, and there was a piano. So we always went down there to practice. And this man came down there one day, he didn't ever talk to anybody. But he came down one day and started playing the piano for us, like so perfectly. It was amazing. And it turned out that he was one of the original cast members of of Oh, God. Now I can't think of it. One of those really early black and white shows. Oh, yeah. Oh my gosh, and it was like, it was kind of magic, but it was also really sad because that's, you know, destitute living in Metro housing with a bunch of the noxious kids.

Unknown Speaker  39:40  
Frankie, Frankie, you recently started a podcast of your own. What is it called? And what's the format? What's it about?

Unknown Speaker  39:47  
I did, it's called shuttle to Mars. But Mars has like two hours because my last name has two hours. I thought I was being clever because you know, space and Mars.

Unknown Speaker  39:57  
I got the I got it when I saw the name right away. I I knew what he meant.

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