While We Were Waiting

"You’re Really Good!" - with Ruby Wendell

October 12, 2020 While we were Waiting Podcast Season 1 Episode 23
While We Were Waiting
"You’re Really Good!" - with Ruby Wendell
Show Notes Transcript

On episode 23, AJ and Martha VOTE on-air! The duo also pays homage to World Mental Health Day and chat about the absurdity of a $42 appetizer! Service dogs in restaurants? Yay or nay? They also discuss how to find  "inspiration" during chaos.

Our "Storytime" guest is a comedian, home staging designer, and former restaurant server! Friend of the podcast, Ruby Wendell, tells a full circle tale about her encounter(s) with her teenage Hollywood crush @jaredleto. Ruby also shares her perspective on why comedians are typically better actors than non-comedians, and she also shines a light on the unique challenges of being a woman in both the comedy world AND the restaurant world. It's another can't miss episode of #WaitingPodcast

Unknown Speaker  0:03  
Maybe two hours ago.

Martha Madison  0:21  
Hello friends and welcome to another episode of while we were waiting, where we share expert insight and true Tales from inside the restaurant industry. I'm your host Martha Madison, and I am your co host and

AJ Gilbert  0:33  
Martha's husband AJ Gilbert.

Unknown Speaker  0:36  
Our friend and Uber successful comedian, home staging designer and former restaurant server Ruby Wendell tells a full circle tale about her encounters with her teenage Hollywood crush. Then after her story, stay tuned for our interview, where we discuss why comedians are typically better actors than non comedians and I can vouch for that that's true. And Ruby shares her insight on the unique challenges of being a woman in both the comedy world and the restaurant world. But first,

AJ Gilbert  1:05  
so Martha, what do you have in front of you?

Unknown Speaker  1:08  
I have our mail in ballots because we are officially Texas residents, just temporarily living in LA and I did not want to give up my Texas vote. So we requested our mail in ballots, and they just arrived and I'm super excited to fill it out.

AJ Gilbert  1:27  
I didn't remember how I had signed my registration. I have two names. I don't need to explain why that is criminal.

Unknown Speaker  1:34  
But he doesn't like his name. So he goes by a different name. But it's not a legal name.

Unknown Speaker  1:40  
There was the name I people. Yeah, I have to

Unknown Speaker  1:44  
say that AJ doesn't stand for anything. And actually, it's It's short for Ajax. Yeah. AJ x witches wasn't like a mythological character or something.

Unknown Speaker  1:57  
I don't know. I don't think my I think my parents were too stoned to know how they pick the name. I've heard three stories. One, it was the mountain in Aspen where they were living. Another is it was a little boy who they found lost in Golden Gate Park.

Unknown Speaker  2:18  
You actually don't belong?

Martha Madison  2:21  
Yeah, maybe that would

look way too much like them.

Unknown Speaker  2:24  
I had to name so I had to send a new i'd called the register of voters and I had to send a new application and to make sure I was signing the correct name because one of the things that they can check either automatically or if the ballots disputed is if your signatures match. So we've done all that we're going to send these I'm going to spend $22 to send these, and I'm not recommending everybody do this, I'm going to spend $22 to send these Priority Mail with tracking. Because Yeah, I mean, we've Texas is likely going to be a swing state this time.

Martha Madison  3:01  
I think it's gonna be blue. I think it's going blue this time. That's my prediction.

Well, that's the plan.

Unknown Speaker  3:07  
It is because there's more than like half a million people moved to Dallas and 2018 from California, New York and Chicago. So I mean, probably all Democrat.

Unknown Speaker  3:17  
Here's the deal that demographics in Texas are exactly the same as California, same number of Hispanics, same number of Asians, it's almost exactly the same group of people. The reason that California so blue and Texas is so red are two things. White people in Texas vote republican and much greater numbers than white people in California,

Martha Madison  3:37  
because they go to church.

AJ Gilbert  3:39  
Yeah, different white people. And

Unknown Speaker  3:42  
a lot of people don't vote. And one of the reasons that a lot of people don't vote is because they make it. I actually think it's really easy to vote in Texas. But historically, I think it's been hard. In Texas, you can do early voting. You go to any fire station in your county, and they have a machine and you just walk in and they give you the ballot and you vote and you're done. And it literally I mean, you can park right in front, it takes like 30 seconds. I've never gotten the part where it's supposed to be hard to vote in Texas. I think it's much easier than California, but apparently it is for some people.

Unknown Speaker  4:14  
You know, it's so funny and 2018 when I went in person to vote in the primary in the midterm elections, you know, when you walk in and you give them your driver's license, it says next to your name what your registered party, right. And I'm probably the only Democrat in our little very red district where we live and I gave him my my ID and she just like she like did the very movie esque pulled her glasses down to the tip of her nose looked me up and down. And when

Unknown Speaker  4:44  
you're projecting that Congresswoman, you're not the openly gay Congress with a woman that was running for Congress as a Democrat in the last cycle got 45% of the vote in our dead.

Unknown Speaker  4:56  
So I'm really excited that I am voting for MJ Hager to be the Senate.

Unknown Speaker  5:06  
So as we speak on Twitter from Texas, I'm filling in that box for MJ Hager, who's running against john Conran who's

Martha Madison  5:13  
born in john Cornyn, who's a piece of

Unknown Speaker  5:16  
he did help me with my SBA stuff or his office to but I'm sure that MJ Hagar will do the same. And she rides a motorcycle. They were trying to make fun of her because she's like military, right? She's a veteran, right? And she has tons of tattoos and the republicans in Texas thought that they would post revealing that she was tattooed on wine and that would embarrass her and so she took pictures of all of her tattoos and diagram them. And if you think I'm embarrassed about my tattoos, guys, you've got the wrong person. So I mean,

Martha Madison  5:46  
it only makes her so much cooler.

Unknown Speaker  5:48  
And she's it's neck and neck. It's like 46 to 47 right now.

Unknown Speaker  5:53  
Yeah, she's gonna win. She's gonna win, you know? So john Cornyn like part of that group with Lindsey Graham and Mitch McConnell. They're all like super tight and very old Mary white. You know, and I made you know, this is actually a really long ballot, we're only sharing our our sender choice and our presidential choice here on the podcast. But you know, I in the primaries, I didn't there were so many people running and I didn't do all the research, but what I did do is I down ballot, female voted. So I voted simply just women all the way down the ballot. And I see so many now on this. On this ballot, so many women really neck and neck with the incumbents and I'm excited.

Unknown Speaker  6:34  
It is women, it is women that are saving the Democratic Party, it is the the women that are stitching it back together and making it make sense. Okay. Okay. So president and vice president, we have four choices. We have Donald J. Trump, and then somebody named Michael R. Pence, Pence, Joseph R. Biden and Kamala D. Harris. And if you don't say her name correctly, that's bad. So I think I said it right. He said it right. Joe Jorgensen and Jeremy spike Cohen, libertarians, I guess this bike is his only campaign hope. Howie Harkins and Angela Walker Green Party. So I am going to vote for Joseph r Biden and Kamala D. Harris.

Martha Madison  7:23  
So did I filling it in,

just filled it in?

Unknown Speaker  7:27  
Okay. And with this vote, may we hope and pray the return of the restaurant industry per normal within the next year, may God bless this ballot that I'm sending to Texas.

Unknown Speaker  7:41  
May we keep intact the greatest asset that any of us were born to possess, which is the citizenship of free democracy, where reason and choice dictate how we make decisions. And it will benefit everybody who lives here, if we go down the route where we make decisions based on opinion, and not fact, we will be poor, sicker, and less prosperous. So this is what this election means to me.

Unknown Speaker  8:07  
For me, I think it's really important to remember that even the people you don't agree with, you're voting for their best interest to and to remember that you're only going to be as safe and as strong and as, as, you know, prosperous as the people in your community are able to be and so vote for your community vote vote for yourself, but for your neighbors, whether they're trumpsters or not, because we're all better when we are together. as cliche as it sounds. It's true.

Unknown Speaker  8:42  
Well said, Okay, so now I am signing the outside of the ballot that will make you have

Martha Madison  8:49  
to put it in the white ballot first.

AJ Gilbert  8:51  
Why can sign it first? Okay. All right. Well, we'll do

Unknown Speaker  8:53  
well, you can't sign it until you close it. That's how they know it's never been opened. Oh,

AJ Gilbert  9:00  
yeah, I know.

Martha Madison  9:03  
So what would you do without me?

Unknown Speaker  9:06  
Alright, so we're not putting it in naked right, now you're

Martha Madison  9:09  
gonna, you're gonna close up the white envelope.

Unknown Speaker  9:11  
So 10% they call it a spoil belt if it's not done correctly, and 10% of valid mistakes are because of these two envelopes, which is completely unnecessary.

Unknown Speaker  9:23  
So you put it inside the white envelope, and you seal that up. And then you put the white envelope inside the yellow envelope, and you seal that up. And

Unknown Speaker  9:31  
when you wire them up inside the yellow envelope,

Unknown Speaker  9:34  
and once you've sealed the envelope, the yellow envelope, then you sign it, so they know it's not been out. Now the X is

Unknown Speaker  9:41  
connected. So that makes sense. Right? So now

Unknown Speaker  9:43  
that x is connected now,

Unknown Speaker  9:45  
I'm signing with my given name on my passport because Texas wouldn't accept my alias when I had to get my Texas I still carry my California driver's license, even though it doesn't work anymore. All right. I actually gave it to a police officer. The other day, oh my god. Okay, I have signed and you do not believe we need to sign the witness thing here, right?

Unknown Speaker  10:08  
The witness thing is for if you're unable to sign your own name, if you're disabled or can't sign your own name, someone else has to sign your name or witness that you've tried to sign your name or whatever.

Unknown Speaker  10:19  
Okay, so all we need to do is place a stamp on this, which I'm actually not going to do because we're gonna send it express mail and we'll return it to that p o box. And we'll have voted and

Unknown Speaker  10:29  
I want to I want a prize if I if Texas is blue on a prize for calling it,

Unknown Speaker  10:34  
it just makes me nervous that you say it, I have to say in the whole time we've been married your powers of prediction, ar ar, ar AR AR retro retro grade.

Unknown Speaker  10:47  
I manifest everything. And the first thing a blue, Texas and joining 20. See I came up to there, I'm literally physically manifesting it.

Unknown Speaker  10:59  
Alright, I listen, I will say that Biden is advertising in Texas, which is a really good sign. So there you go. Hopefully you're right. All right. God Bless America, we have voted. And we will see what happens.

Unknown Speaker  11:13  
Yes, otherwise, Toronto, we're coming to

Unknown Speaker  11:18  
Australia or Canada.

Unknown Speaker  11:21  
Well, and other news, October 10, which was Saturday was world Mental Health Day. And I love I have to say I love I've so many friends and family and all kinds of people, including myself, who have definitely struggled with different types of issues, mental health issues, and ranging from depression to anxiety to, you know, all sorts of different degrees of mental health issues. And people are posting about it now, which I think is so nice to see this, this idea of normalizing mental health problems, and, and D stigmatizing them. And I think it's really great. And so I wanted to really highlight that. And then you and I were talking earlier today about, you know, kind of how this relates to politics and the economy and everything right now. And so I wanted to kind of tee that up for you, because I thought what you said was really interesting. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker  12:18  
well, I guess I have kind of a political take on Mental Health Day or what have you. But I it's just been this discussion. So President Trump got himself COVID. Right, and said that he was a miracle and he was all better and it was a blessing from God. And he almost died. He said he could have been one of the dyers, and he also dyers. And, but he, when he came back from the hospital, he said, don't be afraid of this, which, you know, if you really parse out the message, I think that the statement is don't be afraid of getting a disease and dying because being afraid causes all sorts of problems. And they point to, of course, the economy, which leads to mental health problems and drug abuse and suicide, and you know, terrible things. And I listen, I we're living in I'm so sick of, you know, I'm ready to go out and work and travel and all that stuff again. It sucks, right? But, you know, Trump, 74 years old, almost died? probably would have

Unknown Speaker  13:32  
could, he didn't die because he got like the magic cure that nobody else can get

Unknown Speaker  13:36  
the million dollar experimental magic medication. Right. Right. But I wonder what the deductible was on that, but the

Unknown Speaker  13:45  
four year presidency,

Unknown Speaker  13:48  
the you know, what else? I mean, what was when I was thinking when he was making this and and they don't, they would never say it, they would never say you know, you should all people should die. So that, that other people don't have to be depressed and stay inside and lose their job and start using drugs and stuff. But that really is what we're being asked to consider.

Unknown Speaker  14:06  
That is their message without saying it. Yes,

Unknown Speaker  14:08  
right. But what what else causes mental health and problems is death. I mean, death is not a positive experience in people's lives. And what made me kind of put this connection together was you have two friends that had been kind of going through the loss of a parent recently. And and you know, it's, it's not a good place for people to be. I would say, when we listen to this language, let's recognize what we're being asked to choose. And I don't accept that we will have super long lasting economic damage. If we handle this correctly. The 1920s, which were one of the greatest times of economic expansion in the country's history, the roaring 20s came after influenza, right? The economy has a natural momentum. What we have a value is, you know, this country and we education's in our institutions and all this stuff, it's not going to go away, we will be okay. It is healthy to shut down to prevent people not i'm not shut down in the term where everybody has to lock themselves at home again or whatever. But it is healthy to take a break economically so people don't die because death is bad for our mental health. So that's Yeah,

Unknown Speaker  15:18  
this is true. losing your job having kids at home not being sure how to feed your family. I mean, this is these are problems happening all over the world right now and tragic in their own right, and definitely lead to depression. And, and in cases, it seems like rising cases of suicide. But yes, watching someone you love die of a disease that could have been prevented, and the ripple effects through the family and all that that will mean also can lead to excess depression and in time suicide. So it's not it's a false choice.

Unknown Speaker  15:53  
It's a choice. It's a child's choice. I know that therefore I take the other mean, this is the kind of discussion we have Charlie all the time. I want to eat the entire thing of ice cream, what will make you sick? Well, I want to be sick. Okay, but you're six right? So that's, that's a different, that's a different thought process and an adult should have.

Unknown Speaker  16:12  
Right then a 74 year old man should have

Unknown Speaker  16:16  
been generous, but

Unknown Speaker  16:17  
yeah, well.

Unknown Speaker  16:19  
But in the spirit of world Mental Health Day, you know, I also wanted to kind of touch on my own issues with it. And I think, you know, hopefully and sharing my own and you sharing, you know, not you personally but other people sharing their own, we can help to destigmatize having mental health disorders, and I have had panic disorder, most of my life. So did my mother. And it's, it's very scary. Sometimes, you know, I've had panic attacks, you know, that were sort of triggered by a traumatic experience. And I've had panic attacks that were completely out of nowhere, and they're completely, you know, disabling and terrifying and make you feel like you're not sure if you're having a heart attack, I, I've had a panic attack so bad that I had full facial paralysis. You know, it's been terrible. And it brings with it when that's happening to you a lot of shame. You know, it's because you, you feel like you should have been able to control it and you can't, it's your body is completely out of control. And thank goodness for drugs and good doctors, and times when that happens. And and I think I've carried that as a secret for a really long time, or only few people in my close circle know about this. And so here I am coming out on world Mental Health Day. I have terrible anxiety. And, and it's all under control for now. Until tomorrow,

Unknown Speaker  17:50  
or the next day. Yeah, well said, I. I wonder why we carry so much stigma about mental health and not physical health, I think that there's the kind of belief is, people should be able to be stronger. And you know, we do this with addiction and all sorts of things of the mind. Just Just toughed it out, just Just do it. And I mean, I'm sure it never works.

Unknown Speaker  18:13  
Having having something like depression or anxiety is not does not mean that you don't have self control, it does not mean that you are weak, it does not mean that you are broken. It just means that your your brain works differently than people who don't have them. And, you know, one is not greater or better or stronger than the other. This is just how my brain works. And yours works the way yours works. And Trump's works the way his works.

Unknown Speaker  18:40  
He's got some powerful disabilities, and they do a lot for him. What is it the Kanye West said about mental disease or mental illness? I don't know. We're watching that David Letterman thing. And he said, If you guys want some crazy, good artwork, you better put up with some crazy people.

Unknown Speaker  18:57  
That's true. And I will honestly I will say it's some of the most brilliant, artistic and musical minds and actors and directors and just all kinds of incredible people have brains that function that way that how, you know, they function a little bit differently. And we're a better world for it collectively. So

Unknown Speaker  19:18  
that is the other side of people's brains working differently is there's a beauty to it, there's something new that comes from it. And that's probably why it exists. If you look at you know how this serves the species to have people whose brains are wired differently is to create new things to think of new ideas.

Unknown Speaker  19:36  
Yes, well, speaking of new ideas, so I have been sort of polishing up some of my own ideas for a new project that I'm working on, hopefully in the form of a book. And it got me thinking, you know, how do I I feel like part part of me is very inspired to do this thing. And there's another part of me that is kind of dragging behind like I'm, I'm feeling a little bit stuck creatively. And I'm sure that a lot of that has to do with the times that we're living in. And, and I started thinking that I think a lot of creative people specifically in the restaurant industry may also be feeling this lack of inspiration or this sort of idle mind kind of vibe, because there's not a lot we can do. And I've been trying to figure out how to get inspired. And how do you get inspired? How should How should we go about getting re inspired for when all of this is over?

Unknown Speaker  20:34  
How do I get inspired, I don't, I can't make myself get inspired. It has to be a spark, you know, and then I can't turn it off. So if there's something I'm interested in doing, and that connection fires, I'll keep doing it probably too long, sometimes beyond the point where it serves a value. But I wonder if we put a lot of pressure on ourselves at a time where there's just we're limited in what we can do. I mean, very little you can do collectively with other people. There's, there's, I'm not suggesting that writing a book isn't a good thing. But sometimes it might be okay to say I'm gonna wait for the inspiration to come at a time where I can create something that will have some value to me, rather than try and force something in the time where maybe it's best to kind of chill out. And I'm not saying that there aren't great things that people can do from home, or from these limited lives that we're all leading now. But I do wrestle with this a lot. I mean, you know, I see people working in restaurants all the time, and we have one ready to go. But I'm not I'm not feeling it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to make a successful business at a time where people are, you know, straight up worried that they're gonna die.

Unknown Speaker  21:48  
You know, we we know, we have all kinds of ideas. But I think that, that, for our restaurant, it's about waiting until it's time so that we can do the restaurant that was exciting for us to do in the first place. It's

Unknown Speaker  22:02  
an inspiration. I mean, there are ideas, either mechanical ideas, they're not inspiring. I mean, that's what that's the point is, I mean, I could start working on something like that, and forcing myself to do it. But I don't feel it. I don't believe in it. If there was something in the pandemic that I was like, Oh, this is the greatest idea of how to create a restaurant like concept, given all the restrictions around, I couldn't stop myself, I would be out doing it right now. I just can't think of anything, right?

Unknown Speaker  22:30  
Well, I feel very inspired at some times and not so in other times. And I think because the concept of this idea that I'm working on requires a great amount of retrospection and introspection. And it's kind of terrifying to me, which is part of the reason why I feel like I need to do this for myself. And, and I'm, I am very inspired to do that. But I'm afraid to start because of what you said, like when I start doing something that I that gets me really excited, you know, a project, whether it's a creative project or a restaurant project, I get kind of obsessive, like, I cannot stop thinking about it, I can't stop working on it. And I think that is such a great feeling. But at a time when I also have to deal with Charlie's homeschool, and I have two other jobs. And like, I don't know that I have the time yet to be completely engulfed in this new project. So I don't know, I think I'm listening to myself a little bit and kind of thinking maybe I'll put this a little bit on pause. But I don't know. I don't know. I don't know

Unknown Speaker  23:29  
what we're starting. We're kind of starting something else now. Right?

Unknown Speaker  23:32  
I know. And now we have a new thing, which we're not we agreed weren't going to talk about on the podcast,

Unknown Speaker  23:36  
but we're not talking. Yes.

Unknown Speaker  23:39  
Bound that downtime for me, is when like I I know that when my mind gets bored or idle, I, that's when my anxiety kind of kicks in. And so the busier I am, the calmer I am and the more organized I am and that is when I am at my very peak best is when I don't have a minute of the day to do anything, but the things I've put on my calendar, you know, and healthy or not, I don't know, that's how I cope.

Unknown Speaker  24:10  
You've heard that saying, if you want something done, give it to a busy person.

Unknown Speaker  24:14  
Yes, well, I am that person. Like, the more I have to do the more efficient and more organized I become. And I think this downs it but then I think you know, in six months when everything's really really busy again, am I gonna look back at this time and say, God, I can't believe I wasted all that time just watching the news and doing a podcast, you know.

Unknown Speaker  24:34  
While you're right about that six months.

Unknown Speaker  24:39  
We have found some time for some downtime for date nights, which has been good.

Unknown Speaker  24:44  
That's true. We went so we used to live in Beverly Hills post office, which is an extension why no baby. Yeah, people want that zip code. They pay a premium but part of the Beverly Hills post office is the city of Los Angeles all very nice places, but we didn't actually live in Beverly Hills proper, but we lived above the Beverly Hills Hotel for a while and there's not a lot of places to go there and the Beverly Hills Hotel, it was near our house and we would go there a lot and there's a very old and opened in 1911. I read the other night, the Polo

Unknown Speaker  25:21  
lounge we went to the Polo lounge because they had an outdoor garden seating. And it was nice to sit outside in the garden and have steak tartare and look at all the famous people and it was ours with Tom Selleck. Yeah, we sat next to Tom Selleck. He's out by himself smoking a cigar and just like it felt like he was like watching our day, it was super weird.

Unknown Speaker  25:41  
The Beverly Hills Hotel is a bustling place with valets running around and all sorts of events happening. And there was nobody there. The restaurant was, I guess the outside was relatively full on the inside, they weren't playing music, they had tables stacked, of course, everybody's wearing the PB II and such. And it just just felt so strange to see this iconic hotel, you know, basically half open.

Unknown Speaker  26:14  
I totally disagree. I was I was feeling a lot of nostalgia, because we used to go there all the time. And it's been probably 10 years since we've been there. And they'd remodeled A lot of it, which I thought was lovely. There was some I don't if you notice, but there was this woman out in the like, right where we parked our cars did the valet or whatever. She was coming out. She was like, it wouldn't she didn't have a mask on. She said they wouldn't let me in there. Can you believe that? And I was thinking to myself, um, yes, Los Angeles and a pandemic, anyway, be a celebrity and wear

Unknown Speaker  26:45  
a mask. Because your whole thing is that people recognize your face and you get preferential treatment and now the law is you have to cover your face.

Unknown Speaker  26:54  
Well, only when you're coming and going when you get to your table. You can take it off,

Unknown Speaker  26:58  
you're not going to get a good table. They didn't recognize you. I if I was a celebrity, I would wear a name tag. Hello, my name is Paris Hilton. Or or we can all when our celebrity name tags I could wear a Tom Selleck name tag and I would get his table.

Unknown Speaker  27:14  
You're not gonna pass for Tom Selleck. But anyway, um, what what the two things that I found really interesting. Well, three things I found really interesting there one Pepe the long time maitre D, recognized us,

Unknown Speaker  27:27  
hardcore maitre D. You haven't been there for like 15 years. That was incredible.

Unknown Speaker  27:34  
And he came over and he said, I remember you, too, used to come here all the time. And I was like, holy crap, you have earned your maitre D ism. That was awesome. Unless he's like a deus fan. And then it's not fair, because he just knew me then. And never name tag on. I didn't have a mask on either. Oh, yes. The other thing is that they've like tripled their prices. It's insane. Our I feel bad even saying this, because, you know, it's a terrible time in the economy. And we are super fortunate in the position that we're in. But I expected it to be like, you know, maybe 120 bucks or something like it used to be when we go and have a couple appetizers and a couple of drinks. We had a similar meal to what we've always had there and it was $300 is happening. I had no idea. Like I so we won't go back again. I mean, not until they are reasonable again.

Unknown Speaker  28:39  
Well, that's never gonna happen. The Beverly Hills Hotel is famous for a few menu items like the tortilla soup, which actually isn't, I mean, they probably invented it was one of the early but they have steak tartare.

Unknown Speaker  28:48  
That's my favorite thing in the world steak.

Unknown Speaker  28:50  
usually do it tableside they're not doing it tableside anymore. It's four ounces or so meat. Very good. whatever they're using, it's great.

Unknown Speaker  29:00  

Unknown Speaker  29:01  
crazy to me.

Unknown Speaker  29:03  
So here's here's what I think. I think that if you look at the menus at the Beverly Hills Hotel, and the price points, what you're seeing if you want to know what a restaurant tour in California feels like they should charge in order to make a profit, reasonable profit. That kind of pre COVID to make a reasonable profit with the cost of doing business here. That's what it is. So the Beverly Hills Hotel is saying, Listen, the people here have as much money as anybody. They're gonna pay the price. They're in a hotel. Where are they going to go? I mean, they can't You can't even walk across the street there. You're going across sunset and walk 10 blocks.

Unknown Speaker  29:36  
There's no other restaurant nearby where else to go.

Unknown Speaker  29:38  
And they're gonna be laying by the pool or whatever. So how much does it show? How much do we have to charge to make 20% to the bottom line on f&b? 44 ounces of meat that's what it costs.

Unknown Speaker  29:50  
And here's the here's the thought process. Oh, it's so nice to be here. What a beautiful room. I missed this place. Ooh, this food's delicious. Oh, it's even better than before. This these calls Classes are so pretty and blah, blah, blah, right? Get the check what? Sign the check. I'm never coming here again.

Unknown Speaker  30:09  
Then we went to have a drink at the Beverly Hilton. And so this was a learning experience. we'd gone out the week before. And we couldn't find anywhere to go afterwards. And the only places that you can really go are hotels that have like some kind of outdoor bar. And so we didn't want to mess around trying to find someplace. So we just kind of drove right across Beverly Hills to the Beverly Hilton.

Unknown Speaker  30:34  
Well, also this was a trip down memory lane and the night of our wedding. We spent the night at the Beverly Hilton and we had a pool party the next day. And so you know, we had just gone to the Beverly Hills Hotel, which was around the same time that we used to go all the time. And then we decided Oh, wouldn't it be sweet?

Unknown Speaker  30:52  
It's very easy to use the word apocalyptic to describe things today. The the Beverly Hilton, just, it felt apocalyptic. It felt like being so weird. It felt like being in some other country where everything was like half working. I mean, the Beverly Hilton Hotel is where the Golden Globes are, again, bustling all the time, people coming and going celebrities, bars everywhere. It's just a happening place. Beautiful, modernist hotel. There were nobody there.

Unknown Speaker  31:26  
Nobody, nobody in the lobby, it was so weird.

Unknown Speaker  31:31  
We went down to the pool and sat down to have drinks. And like the tables are like they got them at Rite Aid or something like that. They had to replace whatever there there was this weird plastic tables and everything. But everybody was very quiet.

Unknown Speaker  31:44  
And then they had like neon lighting everywhere. Do you notice the purple neon lighting everywhere?

Unknown Speaker  31:51  
I don't know that I did notice that but that there were no valets. They weren't charging for parking, they installed this weird red like panic button to push the gate open for your car.

Unknown Speaker  32:02  
He said, because we said do you do we need to validate the parking ticket. And he said, Oh no, just push the emergency read button a couple times,

Unknown Speaker  32:08  
it'll open. And that's how few people are going there is that they hadn't even like completely thought through how to get cars in and out. During the Great Recession. We had a number of restaurants and it was like I would check every month what the California unemployment rate was trying to gauge where we were and where things were going to get back to normal. And going out was always looking around to see what are people doing? Are people getting busy? Are people getting back to life? And the indications from going out? And just kind of seeing what's happening? I don't want to not be fun. But it's it's it's grim. I mean, there's a lot of things contributing to this, but I find it very unsettling. And I stand by what I said earlier that this all has the potential to switch around very quickly. But we're in a dark place financially right now. I think that businesses need more relief.

Unknown Speaker  33:00  
Yes, they need more relief, which at this Honestly, this brings me to the third point I forgot to make about the Beverly Hills Hotel. But I think this is why we're seeing an uptick in pet ownership and service animals we saw a Great Dane huge animal walk into the Beverly Hills Hotel with his service jacket on. And I thought to myself, while we all really need that extra comfort and love, and it's a Great Dane really a service dog like is that not not a man? Doesn't that cause more problems than not a dog that big in a restaurant?

Unknown Speaker  33:40  
It's not practical. But speaking of service dogs, I told Charlie about the service dog. Great Dane. And she's been writing a lot of jokes. Most of them are puns, but she always remarks that we want to take our luggage on the plane and they make us check it. And she said if they make you if if you have to bring the dog, the service dog, you're allowed to bring that on the plane, then why not make your luggage service luggage? I feel sad if I'm not with my luggage, and they won't make you check it and you put a vest on the luggage. So you'd say service luggage. And that was her joke and

Unknown Speaker  34:20  
it makes perfect sense. I want some service luggage.

Unknown Speaker  34:24  
Yeah, well, I'm under that could be like a whole line of luggage. Maybe this is the inspiration. Let's start working on the service luggage.

Unknown Speaker  34:33  
This is gonna be Charlie is Charlie is gonna be an entrepreneur just like you.

Unknown Speaker  34:39  
Do you put a vest on the luggage or is it just

Unknown Speaker  34:43  
I think it's just a certain color like the luggage is the jacket.

Unknown Speaker  34:47  
Right? Right. You get a note from some doctor from online that says if I'm separated from my luggage I start to experience anxiety and since it is world mental health They I will not be separated from my luggage.

Unknown Speaker  35:03  
I can't be separated from my luggage.

Unknown Speaker  35:05  
Well, we got it.

Unknown Speaker  35:15  
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Unknown Speaker  36:06  
Our friend and Uber successful comedian, home staging designer and former restaurant server Ruby Wendell tells a full circle tale about her encounters with her teenage Hollywood crush.

Unknown Speaker  36:19  
There was consequences against you. weep defense.

Unknown Speaker  36:28  
I'm 17.

Ruby Wendell  36:31  
When I was a young high schooler in Iowa City, Iowa, I took a summer break to go to California and visit some friends of the family and I saw at the Urban Outfitters in Santa Monica on the promenade, someone that I had been dreaming about and had pictures of him on my wall and I was obsessed with my so called life. And I couldn't believe it there. He was standing at the Sunglass Hut or whatever it was a sunglass case, you know, stand Mr. Jared Leto and my heart I mean, I think I don't even know I was I was beating so fast. I was like, this is it. This is my chance. I have to go up to him. And I have to say something to him. So I walked over to the sunglass stand, and this is what I said. I said, Hey, you know, you're really good. And then I walked up the stairs of the Urban Outfitters turning around looking at him, and he was just staring at me. And I thought, Wow, that was great.

Unknown Speaker  37:45  
Years later, I had moved to California, and I was waiting tables at the one on one. And Jared Leto walked in, I think it was maybe 10 years later or something. And I was just like, holy cow. There he is, again, you know, and I told my coworker, Michelle, who had had a very turbulent relationship with very up and down the story as we were, you know, in the back running food and whatnot. I was like, you know, as Jared Leto. I mean, I thought him when I was in eighth grade, or whatever. And this is what I said. I said, You're really good. And she died laughing. And we had a good a good moment about it. And then I went into the back to run some more food or whatever it was. And when I came back out there, Mr. Jared Leto was standing at the computer ready to pay. And he looked at me and he said, You know, you're really good. And I was just like, looking at Michelle, and she was laughing so hard, because she had told him the whole thing. And he was like, you're not gonna introduce yourself again, you're not gonna say hi. And it was really a great moment. I was actually really happy with Michelle for telling him because I wanted to have that moment again with him.

Unknown Speaker  39:08  
Next, in our interview with Ruby, we chat about her rear view perspective on the industry and why she chose to leave it. So I'm so excited to have one of my friends. Ruby went out on the show today. Welcome, Ruby.

Unknown Speaker  39:25  
I'm gonna give myself a shout.

Unknown Speaker  39:29  
Yes, so glad to be here. Thanks for having me.

Unknown Speaker  39:32  
Oh, my pleasure. You're also one of what we call the Luna Park gang. We've had a few of you on the podcast over the last, what 22 weeks now. And I am so happy to talk to you really, just for some context, went on after working with us to do stand up in Los Angeles and beyond which not many women are brave enough to do and I When did you decide to make that transition from restaurants to comedy and why I

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