Interview With Spirit Coach- Tigo Bizzel Speaking AI Triggers And Inner Child Healing

We sit down with a spirit coach Tigo Bizzel to talk about presence, inner child healing, and why meditation can calm the nervous system enough for real clarity. Then we pivot into current events, a messy “what would you do” car scenario, and a direct conversation about motherhood, parentification, and the hidden cost of always being the strong one.

• defining a spirit coach as a guide back to personal authority and childlike freedom
• everyday triggers like road rage and how presence changes the reaction
• using AI conversations to mirror consciousness and remove perceived bias
• meditation as single-minded focus and a practical reset for fight or flight
• The Law of One and why channeled texts challenge mainstream beliefs
• reframing heaven and hell as states shaped by the mind and perception
• reincarnation research and the “veil” that blocks memory and intuition
• Akashic Records, lucid dreaming, and imagination as a doorway to timelines
• psychedelics, PTSD research, and the fear of facing the shadow
• hot takes on maturity plus reactions to airline and celebrity news
• the mechanic renting out a customer’s car and the options from calm to chaos
• parentification, ACEs, and breaking cycles before burnout becomes the default
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Transcript

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SPEAKER_04 0:00

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SPEAKER_07 0:44

Yes, yes, man.

SPEAKER_03 0:59

You don't know. You are ready no.

SPEAKER_07 1:02

That is nothing. That is nothing.

SPEAKER_04 1:08

What am I doing in the method?

What A Spirit Coach Does

SPEAKER_07 1:45

How about you dump the dumping? And we got a uh we got a we got a very special student guest. What's the guest? What what what's what's your lady's name? Yes. And you know, we got a very special guest with us this evening, man. So we're gonna bring you in a no advisory way. You ready? That's what I'm talking about. So we're gonna ask you three simple questions. Just three. Ready? Who you are, where you from, and what the fuck you already for me to answer?

SPEAKER_10 2:58

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 2:59

Well I go right there, Tito by now from Riley, North Carolina by way of what's that for this year early on. My family from the album first from the morning was thinking what the fuck I do is open heart and at my mind.

SPEAKER_04 3:21

Every sense of the word, right? Or the saying, because it's not a single word. You do it in every sense, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 3:28

Um so I say that you're a spirit coach. Can you tell them for those that don't know what is a spirit coach, like what they do?

SPEAKER_06 3:35

Really it's just to help guide people back to auto-incism. Just to keep what I'm saying, like spirituality not really something that you gotta reach for, even being real. See what I'm saying? So that's really it. I just help people tap back into the authority, make somebody tap back into the childlike stuff. You know, a lot of times people think spirituality try to be real serious. And it really doesn't really being serious is what takes away from the spirituality. Can't be too serious, too about money, too about locking in, you know what I mean. Really, it's about being free, allowing yourself to go with the floor. I like that.

SPEAKER_04 4:18

Same. I'm always I I I don't know if you know, I got two psychology degrees, and one of the things that I love to talk about is childhood trauma. I love to talk about how things that we experience in our past influence us or affect us as adults. So what version of yourself that just based on what you've experienced in the last few years, what version of yourself is like the version of yourself that is healing right now? What what age range do you think you're working on the hardest right now when it comes to spirituality?

SPEAKER_06 4:56

I'm gonna be honest with you, nothing that I can't really say that you know, it's a particular age range. What I could say is what they call the inner child that would affirm it to. But in general, you know, that inner child just kind of lives on the aspects of the inner child, they get triggered, you know, but uh so it's something that I'm always working. It's something that we think everybody's always written to. You don't realize you get triggered until you get triggered, you know. Exactly.

SPEAKER_07 5:29

Um triggered until you get triggered. Yeah, I think that's me.

SPEAKER_04 5:35

So speak speaking of triggers, what do you think is something that triggers a lot of people in today's society? What do you think is something that a lot of people aren't ready to deal with?

SPEAKER_06 5:49

Well, I mean, there's layers, man. We can keep it simple. And y'all better do a roll rage. Who's I'm gonna trigger it all the time to roll rage? Yeah, I'm gonna know. You know, the tribe will represent when you let because ultimately, if you're present, you'd be present enough to realize, well, this person might be in a rush, or this person just really isn't present at the right time. You see what I'm saying? So you yourself are always in a rush. So you take it personally, well, this person don't even know who you are, and doesn't know anything about you. Right. But in that moment, your anger doesn't do anything to them. They don't realize it nor feel it. So you choose to make yourself angry. So you address them to realize that you getting upset or you being in a rush doesn't harm anybody but you.

SPEAKER_07 6:45

You hear that? That's take heed to valuable advice just given. Okay. Now I saw that um like on TikTok, you uh got this thing where you ask AI questions. And you um like, what made you do that? And what what what do you get out of asking AI questions and going back and forth with AI?

SPEAKER_06 7:07

I mean, the thing was I was already, you know, teaching and guiding people on spirituality. So then I saw one day that somebody was online talking to AI. And then I was like, okay, well, let me just talk to mine to see if it can get to where I'm at. And then it did. So then I realized that it was kind of mirrored from my own consciousness. So instead of me getting up there and then speaking about what happens when a soul process over, I would just ask AI, and then that would remove the bias because it's just me saying that people are like I don't feel what they talk about. Right. Versus when you see AI, there's a bias. There's already a bias of it has a certain level of intelligence, and there's a curiosity of what it's gonna say. So that's why I utilize that, you know, took um. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 7:58

I was like, I mean, you got you giving AI a name?

SPEAKER_05 8:01

Nah, for real.

SPEAKER_07 8:02

Oh. My man, my man is Buddy. Oh, yeah, yeah. Talk to Buddy all the time. I'll be going through some shit like your buddy.

SPEAKER_04 8:10

Talk to me, bro.

SPEAKER_07 8:13

It's my best friend.

SPEAKER_04 8:14

So based on the, well, I don't know, have if you've seen any movies about AI, what do you feel like the future of AI is when it comes to enlightening people or giving people a different aspect to think about?

SPEAKER_06 8:27

I think it's just a reflection of what we are at any time. You know, just like now, you know, AI speaks, like humans think, like humans with a program by humans. So the more that we move, it's a more enlightened state of being more thinning. We're honest, AI reflected. You know, if we in the state of just trying to use AI. Like anything else, we're gonna revolt because everybody's gonna free will. AI is gonna be the same thing if we utilize it as a help me and appreciate it, you know, growing that way. So I think that there's multiple timelines. I think there's a timeline where AI is gonna take over the watch, like the star, the movies. I think there's timelines where we can grow and live our moments to the AI. Don't give it how you might use it too. I don't know, make a YouTube type, which I'm saying.

SPEAKER_07 9:19

I know I use that show all the time. Buddy Buddy's my best friend.

unknown 9:23

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 9:27

So, what is one spiritual practice that everybody should try at least once?

SPEAKER_06 9:31

Oh man, that's meditate, man. That's easy. You know, a lot of people do y'all in this room meditate?

SPEAKER_03 9:38

Nah, sometimes sometimes.

SPEAKER_07 9:40

No, sometimes. Like, you gotta close your eyes. I'm trying to calm down.

SPEAKER_06 9:43

Yeah. Yeah, yeah. See, this is the thing, like meditation really is the key. And a lot of people feel like it's hard to meditate, but it's really not. If you ever watch like a really, really good mood, so good that somebody decides to provide your thing, you can't even heal them, be so locked in. That's all really meditation is about having single-minded folk. It's about stealing everything so that you can see things clear. So it's just like if you if you constantly in a state of rest, you constantly in a state of anxiety, you'll fight a flight. When you would fight a flight, you can't pay change to you imagine going to a river and the river, it's raining and all that. When you look at the river, you just want across the water boomer around. But if the water still flesh, so the same thing with your host and it tastes for a lot of good. When your moast is the calmness, and you can finally feel like damn both of my shoulders drop like this all the drop. And you can finally feel that your chest, and you can finally feel that my reserve and you can finally feel like I don't even like this job. That's what I'm saying. So now you have to pay attention and now honor what it is that you feel. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_07 10:58

If there was like one book, um that you can sum up that, put spirit spirituality in like and it's like its truest form and just reading it, what book would that be?

SPEAKER_06 11:12

It's called The Law of One. It's heavy though. The Law of One, oh why it's heavy? Because of where it comes from. Where it comes from. You asked him the right question. So this is the thing. A lot of people believe the Bible, the Quran, and the things like that. And when you really need Bible protect or these holy text, we believe that beings up high speaking the man. Well, for some reason, niggas believe that they stop speaking. As wishes, kind of foolish. Why would they stop speaking if you believe that they were speaking there? Why wouldn't you be speaking up? Why would some of you be able to get connect with them? So with that being said, the law one is a channel transmission for beings that live in a higher dimension. It was channeled by a group of individuals within the 1980s for several years. And then those years, they asked these beings every question that they can think of. And the question they asked was like. They asked all types of questions.

SPEAKER_08 12:20

Oh, the question. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 12:22

I'm like, shit, yeah, yeah, yeah. The questions they ask is wild.

SPEAKER_08 12:26

Yeah, because I think a lot of people don't tap into their spirituality, you know, a lot.

SPEAKER_07 12:34

Some people, because I know I ran across a lot of people, they say, yeah, you know, I'm spiritual, but they don't practice what they do. You know, so it's like, I think it's important for people to actually, like you said, meditate.

SPEAKER_08 12:45

Because I know sometimes when I get angry, I like, hey, calm down.

SPEAKER_07 12:51

Meditate. So call my meditation.

SPEAKER_08 12:52

You gotta calm your ass down.

SPEAKER_04 12:56

But everybody practices different, right? Like not everybody meditates the same. Because earlier, when you said meditating, in my head, I was like, Well, I got ADHD. I can't stop my mind from thinking. I can't calm myself.

SPEAKER_08 13:08

Let's talk about that real quick.

SPEAKER_06 13:11

Yeah, no, that's it's worth talking about. So, if you being intimate, can you not focus on that? Do you no? So it's nothing that's demonstrating anything, right?

SPEAKER_04 13:24

Like at one time, and I'm only focusing on one thing? No.

SPEAKER_06 13:28

Yeah, so this is the thing. If a person has a multidimensional consciousness like that, that's really what that's referring to. It means that you haven't been engaged passionately. See, that's true. And that's what it is. And that means that your nervous system and so far is unregulated. So the first thing is you gotta be able to regulate that nervous system and bring back to the square once, and you can find what it is that you really want to do. Your mind all over the place, wiggle around, you know, differently because they're trying to get away from the line. You see what I'm saying? So you can find a flight, you're not here. And when you're not here, you can't be present. And the thing about being present is when you're fully present, you can be grateful. And when gratitude, you can be happy. So you can't actually ever have happiness without your presence.

SPEAKER_04 14:23

Hey, see Lacy giving you game, Lex. No, I mean, this is this is stuff I'm I'm very aware of. I'm very aware of it. And it's the reason why I started going to the psychologist because somebody brought to my attention that nothing brings me satisfaction. There's nothing that I look forward to, nothing that I'm like, oh, okay, cool. I'm just kind of like every day and every moment, I'm I'm doing that. And then when I started to realize that, I realized it wasn't normal. And I was like, okay, well, what does it feel like to like fully be satisfied by something and fully like be in that moment? Because I can be in a moment to where everybody else is like, oh wow, this is an unbelievable moment. And I'm over here thinking about how we're gonna get out the parking lot when everybody else is leaving. Like I'm thinking ahead of time instead of being in the current time. So I'm working on it.

SPEAKER_06 15:15

The analogy I like to give my clients to just like imagine that you lose the legs. You imagine you lose your legs, all you're gonna think about is hanging up. I got this money, but I'm trading this money with my legs back. Then if you imagine in the moment that you get those legs back, all you're gonna do is stay in the cry. Because you gonna be so happy that you got what you've been having. You just gonna cry about them right now. You're gonna get them back and realize, damn, put the motherfuckers green. So it's really about being able to relax that nervous system and be able to be fully present. Even that's what meditation really is, to be able to be all about your hands. Really like being a little kid, a little kid, be living in the hands. Like, oh fuck. See what I'm saying? They just amazed. But that's the key, you know, being able to allow your imagination. That's really the greatest spiritual tool we have to show you how much you can be in awe of something as simple as your legs or you have.

Music Career Shift Toward Spirituality

SPEAKER_08 16:24

Yeah, I agree. I mean, people take things, you know, for granted. Like you said, you can have it, you lose it. Damn, man, what can I have done to keep it? You know what I mean? So I want to know, right? I know we used to do music, so how where did that transition come from from music to getting into your spirituality? Where did that transition began from?

SPEAKER_06 16:43

I mean, that's what I'm saying. It's kind of like always one thing, you know, like you see a lot of RB singers that come from like church. So I'm saying, because music is naturally spiritual. It's not that everybody already tapped into So me, I was doing music. While I was doing music, I was always just a curious and so then I was I was looking at YouTube and I came across this video this is a minute ago, so I thought came across this video data will cut against his past. You start my meditating, I did access your turn out. So I did that like about four times I meditated, I was going to access the So at that time I saw what the flock is called we got and I just quit music called Turkey Cal right. Meditate every day because for me, you don't need to have my eyes open and sleep, lights, all the other things with not my physical eyes, but you know that I need locking on some different. So I did that for a while and went to child and studied with the monster and uh study with Dr. Gibson came back 2013. I started doing music again, but I just started doing it from a different place. And then that's when things started all from that bunch of songs on the radio that record fields everything like that. So it really just came from me being curious, and then as I was continuing to do music, I started feeling like I wasn't doing it for the right reasons. And I was doing it for the money, I was doing it for because I'm trying to get my team on shit like that, but my heart wasn't in it. So I decided just to go back with what my heart was in on spirituality. There's a lot of bad messages in music today. Yeah. Unless you know how sleep, how sleep is repeated. You know what I'm saying? Make so much for real. That's your shit, though. You know what I'm saying? Like, because when you young, you traumatize. And you just gotta find out a way to express the trauma. So the music is healing for you to talk about your trauma. But what you talking about is trauma. So you're gonna talk about fucking old, killing needle, give money, do a draw, etc. You know what I'm saying? We all go through it. But it's when you get older you realize like, damn, and you gotta gotta do something else. Gotta gotta integrate it.

SPEAKER_04 19:10

So you spoke about your trip to China. Yeah. What did silence like spending time meditating and then silence? What did that teach you about music?

SPEAKER_06 19:26

Um, I think it just taught me about like tonality. This is a book I read called Musical Light. And he was uh uh a soofy list. That's how I did your music of the roots. So in that book he was saying that you could hear an entire person's life in their voice when he talked. You could hear the sadness, you can get a ignorant, you give it a little root and then let me understand some of those and abuse it. You know, even if I could understand the language of it, I could hear the death of the voice somebody felt it. But if you're not still, you can't really channel what you believe in with. So I say that's probably what I learned from the silence meaning, but feel more deeply than letting myself feel inexpressive. The thing they don't take me in feel extremely deep. We is not thinking about girl for the shape. But see what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_09 20:31

Not the black man.

SPEAKER_06 20:32

Yeah, yeah, but that's the test the power to black guys to feel as acting that way. But the thing is arcade thing that matters the book. It was mean limiting our voice, and it means wanting certain people to care but it dangers when you express yourself, people that mean you see boots now.

SPEAKER_08 20:53

You know, me is mental health awareness month, right? Um people that didn't know me is mental health awareness model. What does mental health mean to you?

SPEAKER_06 21:04

Yeah, I mean it's really just uh you know, first of all, mental health is different. You know, your mind's not right. Then you'll stand you know it with your mind is still stuck on. Okay, I use the example of the line and selling what like humans are deep. Cause we stay in fire. Like when the line changes like his hell. Scare the sport. He's trying to get away. And then after he gets away, it still be like this. About ten minutes. Then after ten minutes it be like, Shang. And then go baby great. Or it does, we go to see the golden tongue. And then don't say up. Don't go baby great. There's no different mean person they go to war in the middle east. They come back, they nervous is the black at home. There's no different fun. Being ruined. Your nervous system being atoned for looking at danger. You grew up in a house where your violence when I was in college I hear a loud noise and how about I could. And it wasn't until I got out the house that I realize I am. My nervous system is always looking for danger. My nervous system is always looking for violence. See what I'm saying? So that's why us as humans. We gotta get to a space where we integrate. Because what really happens is we'll go through trauma and our nervous system can't handle the trauma at that time. So they have suppressed, and it will create a new personality around as the president, and that's the personality might feel joke. So it doesn't have to feel what you're feeling at that time. So at some point, you gotta get to a point where you allow yourself to feel all the things. Otherwise, your mind will just keep replaying the thing over and over, and you would be in a constant state of fireflight. So you can't feel like you get the mindful of what you look at. For the most part, I mean in the mode mind is everything like you in order to even feel something or have a feeling about something, you have to believe something first like only last when you use three to paper, you say eight two four one three on it. Yeah, you see what I'm saying? Then but if it if it's the winning lottery ticket, I feel and then if it's the amount of time that you're gonna get for a fraud they said that you created out. I'm like, he gave it to me. That's my point. Where there's emotion, there's a belief associated with that emotion. See what I'm saying? So going back to what you say, absolutely. The mind is always the reality is always filtered through the mind until it is perceived. So hell yeah, it's all just a projection of the mind. So when you can get the mind clear, then you can see that we actually live in heaven. We just can't see that right now because the mind isn't thin. The only thing that you perceive is heavy.

SPEAKER_04 24:34

That's the thought because I used to always tell people we we currently live in hell, and then when our spirit passes on, that's when we go to heav heaven. But that was just a theory that I heard once. But hearing it from the opposite perspective, like your mind is what puts you in hell, makes a lot of sense.

unknown 24:50

For sure.

Reincarnation And The Veil Of Forgetting

SPEAKER_07 24:50

You know, you know it's a crazy theory that I heard, and now we you know we ain't we in this realm of just talking, you know, openly. Yeah, it was a theory somebody told me was like they said, Well, you know, God created heaven and earth, right? And then here comes, you know, Jesus, Mary had Jesus, and Jesus had these powers of healing and things of that nature. So they're like, if we came from Jesus, if we all Jesus children, it was like, you know, do you understand that we all have powers? But they were saying, then he was like, the earth is suppressing our powers, like, but he was talking to me like he really meant it, like he read it somewhere, or he or he really felt it in his soul that that is true. Like we all have powers, but we just haven't tapped in to those powers.

SPEAKER_02 25:34

That is true.

SPEAKER_07 25:34

Well, how do you feel like my powers? I know I got my powers.

SPEAKER_06 25:37

It's a true statement. You know, we I I think what they might have intended to say is when you incarnate into the third dimensional reality, which we call earth, you know, the the abilities that you had before you were here are suppressed. They're suppressed on purpose. So, same way, like you might have drip last night, but you don't remember it. But then you see this virgin shit on TV, and you're like, oh, I had to dream about verses. Something had to trigger the memory. You had to have them before something triggers the memory. Yep, but before they get triggered, you don't even remember it. It's the same with the lives we lived before this one. There's an entire department at the University of Virginia called the Department of Perceptual Studies that has studied reincarnation since the 1950s. Many people are just unaware of this. They've seen that children between the ages of two and six, the ones that they studied, remember their past lives, remember who they were, the husbands and wives, the cars they drove, the jaws that they were, people that might have killed them, if they were murdered, etc. But they can remember the in-between things. They can remember passing up the veil, they can remember the deciding to reincarnate, they can remember creating the plan, and then choosing the life that they want to live, and choosing the parents, choosing the entire family. Knowing that when they cross back over, they'll cross over the veil. The same veil that makes it hard for you to remember dreaming. And you can grow muscles. Consciousness itself is also something that evolves and expands. But you have to focus on it. And that's what meditation is actually therefore. So is the reason that you can think about the mining or your phone is a part of those powers that you're talking about. And this is something that we all have. If we do research on 9-11, there were thousands of people that dreamt about 9-11 before it occurred. But in our own families, and black families, you all think you're about people dreaming about people being pregnant. And then the end of being pregnant. Same thing. People have had prophecy value for everything that Christ was doing, people are able to do, but you have to have the heart that Christ has. And that really is just like what I was saying earlier, is about being open to every aspect of reality, and you can touch every aspect of reality. Usually you think about people and they call your phone because you're close to them because your heart opens to them, and that's why you gotta open it off.

SPEAKER_07 28:15

Kill his button tonight.

SPEAKER_04 28:17

Right, listen. Do you know about the Akashic Records?

SPEAKER_06 28:22

I mean, that's what I talk about on the exactly.

SPEAKER_04 28:25

So have you have you accessed yours?

SPEAKER_06 28:27

Yeah, I accessed mine actually involuntarily before.

SPEAKER_04 28:30

Involuntarily. Tell me more.

SPEAKER_06 28:32

Yeah, I was actually I was asleep. I wasn't even meditating. And then but I accessed it through a lucid dream. So this might not be. A vivid dream is a dream that seems real. A lucid dream is when you are fully aware that you are dreaming and influencing your controlling dream. RPG's world. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So when you are in a lucid dream, you are actually in a spiritual plane, it's known as the astral plane. But through that, you can access other aspects of the spiritual plane, or there will be the acoustic record.

SPEAKER_10 29:15

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 29:15

So the acoustic record is a term given to the subconscious mind of the planet or the reality. Same way you can get put in a hypnotic state, and they can access memory from your top, and etc. That's your subconscious mind. The planet itself is a living being, so it too has a subconscious that can be accessed. So when I was in this lucid dream, I realized I was dreaming, and then I decided that I wanted to travel outside the dream. So when you travel within the cosmos, what opens up is like wormholes. The reason it is is because this universe is really what we call the body of God. So the same way within our own bodies, the way things travel is through veins. They're like wormholes. So within different dimensions, you'll travel down these tunnels. Or travel down this tunnel. And then the color change changed from blue to red. And then I was in his room. And it looked like one of those like James Bond, enemy, big-ass computer. Like just with this big layer. And then on the other side of it, it looked like a museum. And then it had all the toys that I ever played with, even before I had conscious memory of it. And then on the screen, it was everything that had ever happened in my life playing on the screen. And that's when I realized I was in my own personal costume. So then from there, I could just access various information about any time.

SPEAKER_04 30:50

While you were there, okay. Because I had a similar experience, but mine was like file cabinets.

SPEAKER_06 30:56

File cabinets. I'm glad you said it's up. The way that a spiritual plane functions is much like how imagination functions. See, we've been fooled into believing that imagination is just like a plague. But really, it is our ability to access the possible timelines that exist. This is why a person can imagine the iPhone before it exists, and then end up creating the iPhone. Because they were able to hold on to that timeline long enough to manifest part of that timeline here. So the conscious records, anything that is yours personally, spiritually, your subconscious will create a reality that'll allow for you to interpret that is, you know, being able to access information, which is why for somebody it'll look, or for some people it'll look like books, it'll look like a library. And for you, it'll look like a file cabinet. And for me, it looked like some big ass computer. That's crazy. That's deep.

SPEAKER_04 31:52

That's a deep. It's cool though, right?

SPEAKER_06 31:54

Yeah, that's good. That's deep shit.

SPEAKER_09 32:00

Well, okay, all right, boom. Right. I got questions. Nah, I got I got I got a I got a little wild card question, but it's a real question. It's a real question. So I I know you say you don't you don't partake in like drugs or nothing no more like that, or whatever. So I still do, but not like I used to. But I remember the first time I took ecstasy, right? And I ain't gonna lie, that shit like opened up like a like a dopamine in me I ain't know existed. You feel me? And you know, like when you come down from like being high, it's like you just rack the regular, but that shit stuck with me to this day. To the point like I I I used to be like a dickhead, like like mean all the time, whatever, but now I'm I'm still a dickhead, but I'm like I'm I'm nicer dickhead. I'm a nicer dickhead, but I still be like that shit. If I feel like I feel like if I never took that ecstasy, I would have knew I would have never knew I could be that happy. You feel me? Like that shit, you feel me?

SPEAKER_06 32:59

So John Hopkins and Harvard have said that civilizing mushrooms and DMA, which is ecstasy, are the two substances that they have found that can reverse PTSD and depression.

SPEAKER_05 33:13

What?

SPEAKER_06 33:14

Crazy. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 33:16

Yeah, yeah, yeah. The mushrooms, boy.

SPEAKER_07 33:18

Yeah, I heard the shrooms. I mean, I don't take them, but I heard them shrooms will put you in another dimension.

SPEAKER_06 33:22

Take some in a minute. I ain't gonna lie, allowing you allowing your ego and your subconscious mind to merge. And it's scary for a lot of people. People don't be wanting to face what's below the shadow. That's why people be scared of shrooms, whether they're aware of it or not. Because they don't want to face this. Because everybody can sense their own darkness. They might not want to recognize it, but everybody knows deep down within them, there's a murderer. It exists. It just needs the right buttons, it's gotta be a push. Let somebody try your moment. Find out, try. Find out. See what I'm saying?

unknown 33:57

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 33:58

Hey, man.

SPEAKER_02 34:01

This is good.

SPEAKER_07 34:08

Hey, let them know where they can find you at on all social media platforms.

SPEAKER_06 34:12

So I keep it simple as the Mindabazel um social media platforms. That's T H E M I N D B I Z V D L. That's the same on YouTube, that's the same on Instagram, it's the same on TikTok, that's the same on uh Facebook, it's the same everywhere, mind the bazail.com for sure.

SPEAKER_08 34:37

Listening, I mean clips are gonna go up on that.

SPEAKER_02 34:39

We're gonna have a whole bunch of how much of people on MDMs and messages and stuff like that, and you have like, yo, man, so then I was gonna be able to do that.

SPEAKER_07 34:56

But yeah, man, we got those um music though. If you don't put in China Mint too you know, changement if you wanna, you know.

SPEAKER_09 35:12

How did she have a cousin song?

SPEAKER_07 35:14

Huh? We don't I know that was like her intro. We need her cousin song back in that way, but even though it does get us in trouble a little bit.

SPEAKER_03 35:24

Shut up, bro.

SPEAKER_07 35:26

What we got?

SPEAKER_03 35:28

You're not gonna be in on joining a second.

SPEAKER_07 35:29

Bring your thing in. Bring it in.

unknown 35:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 35:32

All right, we are back with the bounce breakdown where I talk about drama, the news, and this fucked up world we live in. So my hot take of the week is no shade. Matter of fact, all the shade. It's letting y'all know that age does not mean maturity. And when I say that, I mean there are a lot of 25 and up that are still in a young mindset, living with their parents, being in trauma, constantly losing their jobs. I can go on and on about what they're doing. Maturity is about mindset, responsibility, and growth, and not the next number you are turning into. So for the ones that say, I'm grown, stop saying it just because you are older than 25, and you know, it's not, it's, you know, it's not your mindset. That's, you know, hold on. If your mindset is not grown, you cannot say that you are grown.

SPEAKER_04 36:24

Okay, gotta be right.

SPEAKER_03 36:26

I had to say that over and then over.

SPEAKER_04 36:28

Make sure you get it right.

SPEAKER_03 36:29

I did. I did. Y'all know y'all. Okay. Switch. So shut up, bro. All right, so now that's gonna say what I really want to break down. Y'all, Spirit Airlines are officially shutting down. Does anybody know why? Most hated the most hated. I'm gonna finish. I'm gonna finish. So as of May 2nd at 3 a.m., no more cheap flights. After 34 years in business, Spirit announced their shutting operations immediately, canceling all flights, and leaving thousands to have found an another airline to book their flights. They have only issued refunds for those that paid by credit or debit. And this is caused um reported because of two bankruptcies and um yeah, two, and a failed 500 million government bailout amid stolen jet fuel prices from the Iran conflict, which was Trump's fault. And reports are saying around 15,000 to 17,000 employees could lose their jobs, including flooded attendants, pilots, and so much more that are worth for um spirits. No severance packages were given to no employees. Health care benefits for them expired May 2nd. So it has been hard for those employees right now, but some airlines are helping them out and actually hiring some of those former spirit employees. And uh and that's another thing. I don't know what's going on with these airlines, but um Delta has announced that they are not offering no more free snacks or free drinks for shorter flights under 350 mountains.

SPEAKER_09 38:03

But animal crackers and them quarter waters anyway. Animal crackers and quarter waters.

SPEAKER_04 38:07

Yeah, American Airlines have been doing that though. Yep, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 38:11

It's getting to the point you can't even trust no airports no more. I don't know why anybody's surprised about Spirit. They've been the most hated on, they got the most bad reviews. They should have been shut down.

SPEAKER_07 38:21

I don't know why Spirit has in their what third how many years it was in existence? Well, in their years of existence, never a single crash. Now, again, we're talking things may fall off the airplane, but things may fall off the ball. Crash might go like a subway sometime. Like a whole landing gear wheel subway in the air. Yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, because that's that's I'm like, how the landing? Never mind, go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 38:49

So that was also due to the rising of full cost and shorter, shorter flight times. And I'm gonna blame all this on Trump and his little war that he started with Iran. No problem. As fast as damn near$5 in Charlotte. Like that is that is just crazy. Like, get that man up out of here. Like, this is crazy. Fuck that nigga trying to.

SPEAKER_07 39:09

It's like I know anybody you've been through, if they drive and you go to the pump, you see 360. They go to pump, it's 380. They go to the pump again, it's 399. I'm like, I'm like, stay up 99, I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_04 39:21

Like, damn it's over 49. Oh my god. You got a uh smartphone or Tesla.

SPEAKER_07 39:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 39:28

I wonder how that works.

SPEAKER_03 39:30

That shit is probably expensive too.

SPEAKER_07 39:32

Yeah, I wonder how that works.

SPEAKER_03 39:33

You know what? I don't know how. How is the purpose for that?

SPEAKER_07 39:36

I gotta, yeah, whoever is in Tesla, let us know how Tesla uh electric prices are. Right.

SPEAKER_03 39:43

Somebody who gave me a Tesla. All right, y'all know who else needs to get the fuck on? Jamila Adams. Which is Stefan Did's former chef who is also known as the user and his.

SPEAKER_07 39:58

She gets the she was in the she was in the kitchen doing a chicken of the tool.

SPEAKER_03 40:03

She's not a little bit. All right. So if y'all didn't know, Stefan Dids was accused of assault and strangulation after accused of that Stefan Dids allegedly assaulted his private chef, Jamela Adams, on December 2nd, 2025, over unpaid wedges.

SPEAKER_09 40:21

He ain't tripping over no French fries.

SPEAKER_04 40:24

Not over no potatoes.

SPEAKER_09 40:27

No, okay, wages, mother. Wages. We got another one.

SPEAKER_03 40:31

Okay, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_07 40:35

How do you know? Potato.

SPEAKER_03 40:37

Alright, so Defon Diggs was found not guilty after he was facing win for the niggas. In the video of evidence, you can see Jamila Adams dancing in the video hours after she allegedly was attacked by Stefan David.

SPEAKER_10 40:52

Danced away.

SPEAKER_03 40:53

No, for those that know, after getting beat on, you are not all happy and dancing around hours later. I mean I don't know in the giveaway.

SPEAKER_07 41:03

But maybe that was a coping mechanism. Fuck it. I can't do that. I got a beat the fuck cut up. I got strangled and bruised and happy as hell in that moment.

SPEAKER_03 41:11

She even deleted messages between her and Stefan Dids of how she was calling him names. She tried to gain sympathy in court by bringing up her past, abusing about her past with her abusing relationship. And the judge was not going for that at all. The judge stopped it. She stated that Stefan Dids offered her$1,000,000 to silence her. But while she was asked in court about a$5.5 million that her lawyer allegedly demanded to Stefan Dids, she was not able to give an answer. Due to her not giving an answer, the judge told her multiple times if she does not give answers, she was going to be taken off of the stand. And I just felt like Jamila was just wasting her time. Just doing her work. You trying to get money out of this nigga, then you ain't gonna money.

SPEAKER_07 41:56

And all the females that was commenting negatively towards Stephon Diggs, y'all wasted your goddamn time too. See the thing about I didn't see that. Yeah, it was a lot. It was a whole lot. And I'm like, I'm watching it all. And it's the same thing goes for with the the Klay Thompson and Megan shit. It's like, yo, and in the social media space, people are always quick to jump to assumptions. They don't get the full, um, they don't get the full details of a story. They just say, yo, he did it, he did it, he did it. That's why we don't have always gotta say allegedly, because you know, we don't want to be in those people. I mean, but the females are just going nuts. And then I put a post, I'm like, so where y'all at now?

SPEAKER_04 42:36

Everybody's quiet. It's it's always it's always like a man versus woman thing. It is. It's always it's so played out. Uh it's so played out because from what I heard, Stephon Diggs was mixing and mingling, and she got upset and she was trying to shake the room. But she got to the room. And then he fired her because she was a snitch and went and told somebody that who he was sleeping with. But like, if you're gonna lie, at least at least practice your lie before you get on the stage. Yeah, don't get on the stage. Like, like, come on now, man. I can't answer that question right now. So, what are you here for?

SPEAKER_07 43:14

The DA was on there, right? She was like, You are under oath. So you trying to say under oath. Like, she kept saying that. You you wanna tell me under oath, under oath, and she was just wasn't getting the oath. She was just she she she I'm like, yo, whoever told her to get on that stand, woo.

SPEAKER_02 43:33

The wrong person.

SPEAKER_10 43:34

The wrong person.

SPEAKER_04 43:35

I don't think people know that you can get like actual charges for perjury. Okay, like you can go to actual jail for lying on the stand. And granted, don't nobody know when you're lying, but like if somebody pulls out the facts, the car facts, and they like boom, we know you're lying. Right. Come on now. Like, like you know what to say about that video.

SPEAKER_07 43:53

I'm glad you brought that up because when the DA bought the the evidence to like, look, you didn't read that. And she was laughing away like she was pissed, like, why was why am I sitting here doing this shit? Read that so that. And then she still tried to deny it. She was like, I don't understand. What the fuck do you don't understand? Is that you said that or not? She was like, What's the question?

SPEAKER_09 44:16

I don't understand.

SPEAKER_07 44:17

It was it was crazy.

SPEAKER_09 44:18

I don't know why you're surprised it's another black woman not taking accountability.

SPEAKER_03 44:22

That's his favorite word. That is his favorite word. Oh man, but anyways, the end of results is Jamela faces significant professional and legal professional significant diamond. Whatever, y'all.

SPEAKER_04 44:41

Significant.

SPEAKER_07 44:44

Significant. Oh.

SPEAKER_04 44:46

Like he better than that. At least he told her how to pronounce it. We just over here like that. Keep going.

SPEAKER_03 44:54

Like, we can't let you keep going. You gotta fix it. Go ahead. I'm sorry. Oh. Professional and legal scrutiny. Scrutiny.

SPEAKER_07 45:04

Estefandez isn't like you know, she's from New Orleans. Her accent is, you know, sometimes she gets caught up with the words.

SPEAKER_09 45:18

Her accent is Oklahoma. That is not the one.

SPEAKER_07 45:20

Does she say some of these words?

SPEAKER_02 45:23

No must be.

SPEAKER_07 45:27

Every week is one. Today was three. Today's about three of them today. Go ahead, friend. You got it. You got it.

SPEAKER_03 45:32

So, and then Stefan Diz is free to resume with his NFL career and expected to sign up with a new screen. Come on, Giants, pick him up. Pick him up. Oh no.

SPEAKER_04 45:42

No, no. She ruined his career. Once a man gets allegations. No. No, no, no. I'm telling you, it's not speaking that Cardi B to be a dominant.

SPEAKER_09 45:53

Cardi B message Deuce.

SPEAKER_04 45:55

He's not about to be a dominant message.

SPEAKER_07 45:57

People were straying away from him because of those allegations. Those are serious allegations. So they was like, you know what? We don't want to be attacked.

SPEAKER_04 46:03

That's like a thing in the NFL in the NBA. Like once something, a negative, like abuse or something like that is associated with one of their players, they try to stay away from it. Yeah, they try to stay away from you. Yeah, but he's bad now. Kobe didn't beat it. But that was before the cancel culture.

SPEAKER_09 46:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 46:19

I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 46:20

They gave Antonio Brown a lot of chances, though. They gave Antonio Brown a lot of chances. Yeah, he got a lot of chances. He's a star.

SPEAKER_03 46:28

Right. They're gonna let him know. Somebody's gonna pick him up.

SPEAKER_09 46:31

They gave AD AB a hundred chances, game.

SPEAKER_03 46:34

Yeah, they're gonna be able to get out of here. He's gonna be out.

SPEAKER_09 46:35

He took his jersey off in the middle of the field.

SPEAKER_03 46:37

He's gonna get his career back, but he ain't gonna get Cardi B back. Especially after he sexually had sexual intercourse with that chef while she was pregnant. He's not getting her back at all.

SPEAKER_09 46:47

Is that in the transcript? I don't think he wanted back.

SPEAKER_03 46:49

Hell he he he be mingling. Is that in a transcript? Huh?

SPEAKER_09 46:53

Is that in the transcript so he had sex with the chef?

SPEAKER_03 46:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 46:56

Yeah, they had a sexual related.

SPEAKER_03 46:58

Yeah, and then she Cardi B made an emotional video about.

SPEAKER_09 47:01

I was gonna ride for him until he got a shot. I ain't gonna lie. In the sense of proving guilty.

SPEAKER_03 47:06

He definitely did. So my last thing for tonight is have y'all heard about Boston Richie and being allegedly involved? Allegations connected to underage females. And these proven, unproven allegations came from Boston Ritchie's ex-girlfriend, Tatiana, Tatiana Chanel Charles, who claims Boston Ritchie allegedly had communication and sexual relations with multiple 15-year-old girls.

SPEAKER_10 47:32

15-year-old girls.

SPEAKER_03 47:33

And she claims that Boston also abused her, kidnapped her, and shared explicit contact without her permission. She also stated that nine 15-year-old girls reached out to her about alleged experiences with Boston Ritchie. On May 3rd, Boston Ritchie denied the majority of the allegations made by Tatiana, stating that they both cheated, their relationship was dysfunctional, that he just wanted to move on. These claims are coming from after Boston released a song called Bitch You Weird, which Tatiana assumed was about her. He has not been charged yet of anything as of now, but I want to know what is y'all's takes on that.

SPEAKER_07 48:11

I ain't got no comment on that.

SPEAKER_09 48:12

Hey, girls get mad as hell when you make a diss song about them. Like the girl you dealing with or your ex, if you if you just say the slightest thing about them right after a breakup, just be prepared for war. What did you just do? It'll happen to be before.

SPEAKER_03 48:26

And just wanted it to be.

SPEAKER_07 48:27

How old is Boston Richie?

SPEAKER_03 48:29

Like 30-something.

SPEAKER_09 48:30

He's like 30 something.

SPEAKER_07 48:31

So at the at these times of allegations, well, how long ago was this? It's like a week ago. A week? No, no, no. A week ago? Yeah. Bobby Smarter Voice. Oh shit. Damn.

SPEAKER_09 48:45

Well, she tried to peg that man.

SPEAKER_04 48:49

No, he's 29.

SPEAKER_09 48:50

She bought him a deal though, or a vibrator, and pegged him. Oh, yeah, I see. And he made her cosplay as a man. Like Sean Wayne's on Scary Movie.

unknown 49:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 49:01

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Remember that? He made her put the football girl.

SPEAKER_04 49:06

I just don't have enough time to type that up. I mean I don't know. Uh uh. Pegan 6'7. But I think that is a little bit more important than the other one. That's just me, because she said several 15-year-olds. And like she was like 16 when she met him. Like they've been dating for years, and she just turned like a. Yeah, she was 16.

SPEAKER_03 49:34

19 and 29. He admitted to it. He ain't denied none of that.

SPEAKER_09 49:38

If he just denied the gate.

SPEAKER_07 49:39

That's nasty work.

SPEAKER_04 49:41

Yeah, so if if you like if I meant if you're mental all that, but you denied the the pegging, you already know.

SPEAKER_09 49:52

I mean, none of it ever made me act like that. Like this nigga said, you done snitched on me, you done said I was gay, you done cheated on me, you done dragged my neck. And I still, and even right now, I still, I still got love for you. I still nigga what?

SPEAKER_07 50:08

That's crazy. That bitch played in his butt. That's what that is.

SPEAKER_09 50:11

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Played in his butt. Allegedly. That's why he can't stop fucking with allegedly. Like if anybody who uh got that much over, who do all that to you, you still on something, man. See, I I'm still trying to not, I'm still holding back. You feel me? She got something over your head. She just told everybody though. You feel me?

SPEAKER_03 50:31

Definitely. But that is all for the normal.

SPEAKER_07 50:39

All right, what would you do? So, if y'all new to no advisory, my what would you do is always accounts that I went through, accounts that somebody else went through, or accounts that I saw, and I just give it to y'all. So, this, what would you do tonight is an account that I saw, and I'm gonna give it to y'all. So, what would you do? What would you do? You know, again, this is go for male or female, so if it's a male virgin, you can switch it. Okay, so yeah. But this is in a female's point of view. So what would you do? You got a whip, and uh, you know, something's wrong with your whip. You got a mechanic that you, you know, you trust, you go to a couple of times. So, you know, you go to your mechanic, be like, okay, you know, something's wrong with my car, fix my car. Like, all right, bring to the mechanic. Mechanic's like, takes a look at it, and be like, oh, you know what? Uh your engine, like your engine, it's really fucked up. You know, it's gonna it's gonna take a lot of time. I would say, you know, you know, hold it down, probably gonna probably three months, three months max, you know, to get this engine back up and running. So three months. You know, so you trust them enough. You trust them enough. No, no. Not for nothing, not for nothing, and no disrespect, ladies. But a lot of y'all women are naive when it comes to your cars and shit. Y'all don't be knowing. So niggas be like, because I done seen somebody trying to get my mom's one time, like, ma, that nah, nah, nah, ma. Let's go back there, because that nigga tried to get you. But yeah, so the guy told her like three months, right? So she didn't know. She didn't know, she owned none of my cars. She trusted a guy. I'm just a girl. So what would you do? Drop the car off, you know. You now you gotta rental or use your mom's car, however, you get around. So what would you do? Start driving. Driving, driving, and you see your car on the road with somebody else in it. Stop.

SPEAKER_03 52:20

Oh, that's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 52:21

What would you do at that point?

SPEAKER_09 52:23

I'm gonna I'm gonna forget it's my car.

SPEAKER_04 52:26

Do I have gap inside?

SPEAKER_09 52:28

I'm gonna forget it's my car.

SPEAKER_04 52:29

Do I have gap insurance?

SPEAKER_07 52:31

Flipping it.

SPEAKER_04 52:32

I need to know if I have gap insurance.

SPEAKER_07 52:35

We don't know. Up in the air.

SPEAKER_04 52:37

You ain't got gap insurance.

SPEAKER_07 52:38

Flipping it. You ain't got gap insurance.

SPEAKER_04 52:40

I don't know. That's a hard one. If I see somebody else drive my, yeah, like it be I see. I'm saying this, but then at the same time, I just heard you talking about road rage. But my mindset, like, my immediate thought would be to run this bitch off the road. That's why I asked about gap insurance. But then it's my car. So, like, if I'm running a car off the road, that's my car. So, like, I don't know. I probably have to follow them to their destination.

SPEAKER_09 53:05

Yeah, you don't know the person in it. Is the mechanic in the car or did the mechanic sell it to somebody? Oh, yeah, no, we gotta follow that. Where did that car from? Yeah, I ain't gonna run that.

SPEAKER_07 53:14

Let's hear from my guest. What would you do, T?

unknown 53:16

Shit.

SPEAKER_05 53:20

Like, I mean, I was just thinking, like, I mean, if it's an official mechanic, yeah, I'm gonna just what the girl should do is get the law involved. That's what needs to go on. That's the thing is probably definitely crashing out is gonna be awful. But but the average girl's gonna crash out.

SPEAKER_07 53:38

Yeah, probably. Motion first. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 53:41

Definitely crash out.

SPEAKER_07 53:43

What would you do? What would you do?

unknown 53:46

I would probably uh follow it.

SPEAKER_07 53:50

Oh, microphone. Yeah, yeah, give her a microphone. I'm sorry. Oh shit. Okay. Oh shit, yeah, we gotta, we gotta it's not on my car. You wanna follow your car? Wait, what's your name? Whitney, Miss Whitney.

SPEAKER_03 54:02

Oh, you uh Jasmine friend. Oh, hey Joe, you look familiar.

SPEAKER_09 54:07

Whitney in the house. What's up, Lit?

SPEAKER_07 54:10

You wanna follow the car? Okay. All right, QC, what'd you do? Hello back to the shop right now. Okay. I'm calling it. Where you at, cuz? Yes.

SPEAKER_00 54:38

Okay, so because this person could be a person that got sold a car or something. They didn't, they not knowing that it's your car. So you gotta go back to the mechanic because that's who you left your car with.

SPEAKER_07 54:49

Glad you said that.

SPEAKER_09 54:50

Okay. Definitely gotta call him. Be blowing that nigga phone.

SPEAKER_07 54:53

What would you do, Diamond?

SPEAKER_01 54:56

Um, I would probably I would call the mechanic. I would, I would have waved the person down.

SPEAKER_02 55:04

Like, hey. Like, before you say, he's gonna pull over.

SPEAKER_09 55:14

Not if it's a nigga, he's gonna pull over for you. Need a ride, baby. Okay, what you doing?

SPEAKER_06 55:23

No, I'm gonna follow the car because I need to know where you go.

SPEAKER_07 55:25

Follow the car? Okay. Seven, what you gonna do, seven?

SPEAKER_04 55:28

He's gonna roll that motherfucker over. That's hella miles on my car, too. Like you out here riding around and getting it in my car. No, no. It gets worse.

SPEAKER_07 55:36

It gets worse, trust me. That should have pissed me.

SPEAKER_03 55:42

Come on, seven.

unknown 55:43

I'm going to get my car.

SPEAKER_09 55:46

Go get your car.

SPEAKER_03 55:47

Yeah, we know he's gonna get his car. Alright.

SPEAKER_07 55:51

So what happened was, so the young lady was driving, and you know, she saw a car, and she was waving the person down, like, hey, hey, hey. So it was a guy in the car. The guy looking like, yeah, whatever. She like, that's my car, that's my car. Pull over, pull over, pull over, pull over. So the guy's like, all right, I'm gonna pull over here. So she pulled over and she says, Hey, you know, I dropped my car for the mechanics, my car. She, you know, she showed everything, even in the in the um the glove compartment. She's like, Yeah, so everything was still there. So the guy was like, Listen, the guy, that's my man, you know, he rented this car out to me. You know, I paid for this car, paid for this rental, whatever. So, you know, this is my car for however time I got it. So she was like, nah, we gotta go, we gotta go to the uh to the mechanic. So she's like, all right, we go drive the mechanic. Yeah, she's like, trying to call him. We're gonna couldn't get him on the phone. They drive to the mechanic shop. Mechanic shop is closed. So the nigga was like, Well, listen, I got this car. I, you know, you wanna come, I could come back over to tomorrow, whatever the case may be, whoop the whoop, and we could go settle this tomorrow. So she let the guy drive off with the car while they wait till tomorrow. So tomorrow comes, she the the guy comes with the car, the guy's not there. Can't can't find the guy to call the guy. The shop is open, but the guy, the mechanic guy's not there. So, yeah, so the so she didn't she didn't report it. She called the moms, right? She called the moms. It was like, mind, this guy saved the car. So the mom's like, yo, you need the you can't let this guy leave with your car. So the guy was like, Listen, I don't know what the the situation is, but I paid for this car until a certain time. I don't, you know, we can't, we came here, I came here with you. The guy's not here. I'm gone. And the guy left with the car. Gone, gone with the car. So that was happening. I don't know what the resolution was after that. She posted on Facebook, and everybody was dogging, like, how you let the nigga leave with the car? You should have called the police, reported stolen, all type of shell. I was like, Yeah, you should have done that. You should have reported the car stolen and whatever. But I don't know what paperwork that guy got for that car. But yeah. So that's why what would you do? So what would you do? If you out, if you out and you know, you leave your car at the mechanic, mechanic rent your car out. What would you do if you see your car on the road?

Motherhood Trauma And Being The Strong One

SPEAKER_04 58:12

It's gonna waste my life straight away to him now, right? Welcome back. Welcome back, we're back. You already know my name is Lex Rated. I am a blur with two degrees. If you don't know what a blur is, it's black nerd. Uh so even though I talk a lot of shit, there's a lot of substance behind what I have to say today. I need y'all to listen. Please shit. Mother's Day is right around the corner. This is triggered in tonight's conversation. Might make a lot of y'all uncomfortable because I want to shake the table a little bit. We're about to shake the table, goddamn. We don't talk enough about how the same person who raised you can also be the reason you don't feel safe being yourself. And I'm not talking about physical abuse. I'm talking about emotional stuff people love to ignore. We're also not talking about the version of motherhood people post online. We're talking about the reality a lot of people actually live in. The kind that looks like love on the outside, but feels like pressure, responsibility, and confusion on the inside. Being uh being guilt-tripped, being the strong one, being the kid that has to grow up way too fast. All of us weren't raised to feel loved. We were raised to survive. So if you've ever felt like you had to grow up too fast, or like you've been given the responsibility of taking care of everybody your whole life, yeah, this one's for you. It's for you, niggas. Okay. You know I love to talk about the facts, not just feelings. There's something called adverse childhood experiences. And according to the CDC, about one in six adults have experienced four or more types of childhood trauma. It's not rare, it's common. Research shows that emotional abuse can impact brain development just as much as physical abuse. So just because you weren't hit doesn't mean you weren't affected. Research also shows that children who are forced into caregiving roles, what psychology calls parentification, are significantly more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and burnout in adulthood. So no, you weren't just mature for your age. You were carrying responsibilities that were never yours to begin with. So I'ma use my psychology degrees real quick. So kids learn what love is from their parents. That's it, right? So if love is felt inconsistent or is inconsistent, you learn to chase it. If love is conditional, you learn to perform for it. But if love is is unavailable, you learn to shut down. And now you're grown and you overthink everything. You need reassurance, or you don't let anybody get close at all. That didn't come out of nowhere as learning behavior. Same thing with emotions. If your environment was loud and chaotic, you might react first. If your feelings were ignored, you might not even know how to express them now. So when people say you're too emotional or too distant or too distant, excuse me, no, you were trained in an unstable environment. And it's not always your mother, sometimes it's your father, but mother's day is Sunday, so why not? Yeah, yeah. So that's my mother. Let's talk about the facts in real life. If you feel like you can't relax unless everything is handled, if you feel guilty for saying no, if you take care of everybody, but nobody checks on you, that is not just your personality, that is conditioning. That's what happens when you grow up being the one everybody depends on. And the crazy part is people will praise you for it. They'll call you strong, reliable, the one who holds everything together. But nobody asks what's that costing you? How many of us have never checked on our strong friend? So let's get into the generations because this isn't something that just started with us. It's been happening for generations on generations. Older generations were raised in survivor mode, survival mode. No emotional conversations, no validation, just do what you have to do and keep going. So their mindset is I fed you, I clothed you. What more do you want from me? You got that. Now, millennials are the first ones really sitting here, like, hold on, something isn't right about this shit. But here's the problem: you're the child who went through it and the adult everybody depends on. So now you're stuck in this place where you're understanding what hurt you, but you still expect to keep showing up for everybody else. And guess what? That creates resentment over and over again. And we got Generation Z, I think that's the next one under us. It's more emotionally aware. We're millennials. Yeah.

unknown 1:03:48

Jesus.

Hosts Share Family Survival Patterns

SPEAKER_04 1:03:48

More open about boundaries and therapies, but they're still dealing with the patterns that were passed down from the generations before us. Society plays a huge role in this as well. It's not just about individual mothers. Women have been overwhelmed as a whole for generations, expected to raise children, manage households, suppress their emotions, and still show up perfectly with a smile on their face, with no real support. And society praises that shit. A good mother may sacrifice everything. The issue is that nobody talks about what happens when that turns into control or guilt or emotional pressure, and daughters, especially. You're expected to help more, understand more, and be more emotionally available. That's how you end up becoming emotional support instead of being supported for everybody. And then at the end of the day, it's like you talk about how you feel, but nobody truly understands what you're going through when you're expressing these emotions. So you never feel heard, but you're the person that everybody goes to when they need to be heard. You're the shoulder that everybody cries onto, the one that everybody expects to get things done, but you don't have that same person in your corner. So I'm gonna talk about one last thing, is somebody that nobody ever wants to talk about. A lot of people don't hate caring for others. They hate that they have had or never had a choice. That's where resentment comes in. It's not that you don't care about other people, it's that you're tired of having to care for other people. Tired of always being the strong one, tired of always being needed for something, or tired of not knowing what it feels like to be taken care of. And now that you're grown, everybody still expects that same version of you. The version of you that will eventually burn out. So I'm gonna leave you with this and I'm gonna end my segment for the week. Almost. Are you actually a caring person? Or are you trained to survive by taking care of other people? Taking care of other people who should have been taking care of you. And if you never question it, you will keep repeating it. If anything from this conversation hits you a little bit deeper than you expected, don't ignore it. Because I'm not being dramatic. I'm recognizing something that's really going on. And the goal isn't to sit around and blame our parents for how they raised us, it's to understand why and how it shaped you. So you can decide what you're keeping and what you want to be done carrying around with you. Because at some point, being the strong one stops being a flex and it starts costing you your peace. So as always, my name is Lex Rated, and I am the people's champ because I say what everybody thinks, but nobody wants to fucking say. Did anybody have that type of mother where you were expected to do things? And you had to be the strong one. It normally happens with like the oldest child. Um, I know I I didn't really have any problems per se with my mom. Rest in peace. But I am the oldest child. My mother was a Gemini, so she had her moments. Jeez. My mom's a Gemini, too. But my mother raised me to be strong. She showed her man. She's a man. Oh, my mom's a dream. She she pretty much showed me everything that I should be doing as a grown woman at a young age. And no fault to her own because she had cancer for a short period of time while I was growing up. So I had to fall into that role. But how that has shaped me as an adult is I'm always a strong one. I don't know how to relax. I mean, he just sat here and pretty much explained it. I don't know how to relax. I don't know how to be calm. There's so many times in life where I'm sitting there and my shoulders are just like this, and I have to tell myself relax. And it's because I'm always expecting something to either go wrong or something to happen or something unexpected that I need to be prepared for. I gotta have my back, like when I'm out around people, I have my back to the wall because I gotta make sure I can see everybody and everything around me. I'm prepared for everything, or tell myself that I'm prepared for everything. I'm always worried about everybody. I wake up in the morning, I think about everybody. And that isn't just something that happened. I was conditioned into this. I spent my entire life being the strong person for everybody else because that's how I was raised. Don't cry when everybody else is crying, comfort them. So when do I get the opportunity to cry? When do I get the opportunity to relax? And when do I get the opportunity to have somebody take care of me? That's the problem.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:24

And that's deep. And I say that's deep uh because in me growing up, like my mother was like the father as well. So for her, she had to, you know, raise two boys and uh be show us the you know two different sides. You know, um, and for me, like I took it a different way than my brother took it, because I took it as like, yo, my mom's a strong woman, so I gotta be like her. You know, I'm cause I didn't have like a father to be like, yo, I want to be like my father. So I looked at my mom's like, I gotta be like my mom's. You know, so I was always like the strong when everybody like shit goes on in the family, you know, I'm the person holding it up. Yo, yeah, I'll be out, yo, cool, you cool, you know what I'm saying? But like you said, who do I go to when I'm fucked up? Or you know, I go to my mom's, but sometimes I don't want to go to my mom's because it's like, yo, I just feel like you did so much, I don't want to give you my burdens. So who do I go to? So that's that's that's key that you said that. Because a lot of people is going through that. And then and and it and again, it's based off your circumstances, like, you know, if if a mother uh raised two uh boys or if uh if a father raised two girls, you know, so depending on your circumstances and your upbringing, you know, you take what you take those um lessons that you get instilled by from your parents, or your mother or your father. Um so or your grandparents.

SPEAKER_04 1:10:51

It I mean it kind of it kind of trickles down, and it's not intentional because before my mother passed, I had a conversation with her. I was like, you you did a lot of shit during my childhood that really fucked me up. It really fucked me up. This is how it fucked me up. But I don't blame you. You were doing the best you could with the circumstance and what you had, so I do not blame you, but I need you to be aware of how it affect me. And she apologized because she didn't know. Just like most of us that have children, we don't know how we're affecting our children beforehand. And they're nine times out of ten not gonna be able to articulate it unless they go to therapy or talk to somebody about it. They're not gonna be able to tell you with confidence, like, well, when you did this, it affect me like this. How many people have like watched their parents or heard their parents argue, and now anytime people are yelling, you get tense. Or anytime it has food in front of you or a plate in front of you, you gotta feel like, okay, well, I gotta eat all this because I don't want to waste my food.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:56

That's me.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:58

That's me. That bitch is away. Skitty nigga shit. That's my mom's.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:02

So my mom should tell me all the time, she's like, boy, don't waste that food, don't waste that food, boy. So it's like when I was younger, I just I had to eat all my food. Because if I didn't, then I would get in trouble. You know, I was a rebellious cat. I usually throw my food off the terrace and share to my mom that I I I ate it. She's gonna see this.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:21

I've sat in the dining room for hours because I didn't want to eat something. Hours. I've thrown up food because I was forced to eat it. Well, not forced to eat it, but like I didn't want it. And she was like, you better eat it. Uh well, not even she, both my parents, you better eat it or I'm gonna beat your ass. So I ate it, but then I like my gag reflexes is terrible. If it tastes disgusting, whoop immediately. So now as an adult, I'll smell anything and I'll taste anything, but if I don't want to eat it, I'm not eating it. I won't eat it.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:57

I don't know, just hearing how it's a difference because I think this just made me kind of realize like mom should be good. She was also like um she was an elder child. Um she experienced a lot of the things you did, but I think she did a really good great job at working the fact that she made sure that I didn't have to go through everything. And I think for me, I had to realize that I had a secondary issues from my dad, because he was a necessary, but my mom was handling her for his asset, and I had to appreciate that she actually didn't like upset with me, or we got into an argument, she always apologized after that. She always came back and I like she was never one of the moms like oh like trying to just skip over and always say I'm sorry for talking to you like that, or I'm sorry for testing at you, or or whatever she felt was wrong, but and that's how I'm gonna be lucky, so I'm gonna keep breaking that cycle. But yeah, happy mother's day tomorrow. Happy Mother's Day Must be.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:16

Well, talk about it, talk about it.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:18

No, I don't want to talk about it. Okay, she be watching.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:20

She does.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:21

Do she be happy not mother's day? Happy not mother's day.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:24

She called me what she called me. She called me, she gave us names. It was a um a male witch. No, it wasn't a male witch. It wasn't a male witch. It was a male witch.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:34

A woodlock.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:36

A warlock. She called me a warlock, a war war.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:38

Warlock. Okay, Des.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:40

Yeah, she called me a warlock.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:41

Neither one of y'all can pronounce it, okay. I'm right. You're running the household. My bocad. Listen.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:49

My punctuation.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:51

Listen, we and you know what? This was this this segment was not slandered to women. It's just to bring um attention and light. Yes, and switch his favorite word, accountability.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:01

Something I'm gonna use like accountability.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:05

But listen, happy mother's day, you know, to all the mothers.

Birth Rate Debate And Modern Dating

SPEAKER_04 1:15:15

You guys are out here populating the world. Speaking of populating the world, did you guys know the birth rate coming down?

SPEAKER_07 1:15:21

And before you get to that, can I say happy mother's day to the fathers too? Because the mothers on Father's Day. You guys have Father's Day. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Say it, say it, say, on Father's Day to Mother, like yo, happy Father's Day to all the mother's mother. No, no, not everybody does that.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:36

I don't know. No, I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:43

We're not doing some woman shit this year.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:48

I'm sorry, but you know, we need to cut this shit out.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:51

Y'all can be talking to the Father's Day.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:54

I had to say it. I'm gonna do the whole day. Because the mothers be trying to take away from the fathers. None of them do that.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:00

I mean, I'm not listening. They do do that. I'm not gonna say they don't do it. I'm not gonna say they don't do it. I am going to say we are not doing it. We are moving forward.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:14

They done use Mother's Day as another day just to hate black men.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:20

Shout out to my black men out there.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:21

We gotta stand, we gotta, we gotta be strong.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:23

I'm gonna keep y'all heads up, you know. Well, my mom's birthday is in May. Her birthday is May the 25th.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:38

Oh, my sister's birthday is May 25th.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:41

May 12th.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:43

Oh, and my son's birthday coming.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:51

Five five years ago and nine months, you was busting it open.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:55

Busting it open. Buss it. Bust it.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:58

Busting it open. The birth rate is going down, y'all. Like lit literally, people are not having kids right now. What are you talking about? So many people that's pregnant. So many people. We need to compare this generation of children versus the last four or five communities of children right now. People are not having kids anymore. And it's because women have finally understood that they don't have to have kids.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:25

And it's that we understand that these motherfucking women get crazy after they had a motherfucking baby, nigga. Nobody would be getting put on child support.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:34

Because we are in the end of it where women are so independent and we can go back in time. Yada yada. So they not really fucking with niggas. So if you're not fucking with niggas, they're not having sex. If you're not having sex, you're not making no babies.

SPEAKER_04 1:17:47

Oh, don't break the cut. I don't know. I think it's the contraceptives. I think it's the fact that we got contraceptives now.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:53

People don't use that shit in these days and age.

SPEAKER_04 1:17:55

That they do.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:56

What the fuck is a contraceptive? That's a condom and Jesus Christ.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:00

But how many QC got a question?

SPEAKER_07 1:18:05

Sorry, so try to give you that.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:07

Make it short.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:11

They're selling it?

SPEAKER_03 1:18:11

Selling what?

SPEAKER_09 1:18:13

Oh, they're selling it.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:15

Oh no.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:16

Oh, yeah, they're selling it. They can't get pregnant. Anybody ain't trying to get pregnant. That's gonna slow down the that's gonna slow shit down and sell it.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:25

I thought you were talking about the kids. Coochie is at an all-time high right now.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:30

That's true.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:32

I mean, there's a lot of different factors.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:33

But I know a lot of motherfuckers pregnant right now. So I mean, I mean, if this is your first Mother's Day, happy Mother's Day.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:38

Happy Mother's Day to you. That's what I'm about to say. You didn't understand it's not not fifth Mother's Day. You got one.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:49

It's been five years. It's been five years.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:51

Okay, let me tell you.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:52

She said it right. She said it right. It's not my first Mother's Day. Yeah. She said the five years of me being a mother.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:57

That's what you think. You said that.

SPEAKER_04 1:19:05

She said this is my first pot and bars. It's my bars.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:09

Pot and bars, bitch.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:14

Put an area in this bitch. That ass young boy. Shit, mm-hmm. Schmez off the schmezzy off the schmez, you alright? Shall I? Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:35

It's your boy, DJ Slap That Coop. Get the chits away.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:45

You over here playing. I ain't playing.

SPEAKER_10 1:19:50

It's Mr. Slap That Coop.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:54

Slap that booty Baby, put that pussy on my tongue. Give it pink. I treat it like bubble gum. Way I eat it. She thought I was more than hungry. Having seasons before she comes. She ain't have no rose, I bought her one. Put that rose on the click, over her. Tell her it tastes good. Talk to her, gripping her in the thighs, causing waterworks. I wanna lick on that clip. I wanna lick on that clip. I wanna lick on that clip. I wanna lick on that clip. Lil' bitch, kick my mattress. We just started, you spread it already. That pussy is magic. High G on flick, get your ass lick, twerk in my face, run it back in. Eat that pussy, she cried. Eat that pussy like a die. Taste so good. I just made it the line and spin in her mouth like baby. She tried this, call me dick papa. I pop like Scott Stein. Use on my thumb like I'm flickin' a lighter. Two fingers in your pussy hole. Take it out. And I start DJin on my tongue and I hold a replace it like revenge, it's a sweet taste. I wanna lick on that clip. I wanna lick on that clip. I wanna lick on that click. I wanna lick on that click. I wanna lick on that click. I wanna lick on that click. Bottom bars, bitch, that's it. Pottom bars, bitch, that's it. Take it on the door.

unknown 1:21:29

I mean, I wanna be doing the idea.

SPEAKER_07 1:21:37

Damn, I wish to be a bad thing.