Stability Isn't To Overcome Insecurity: It's Being Comfortable with It

Episode 195: Stability Isn't To Overcome Insecurity: It's Being Comfortable with It

Description: Getting comfortable with insecurity is how you overcome it and gain stability in your life. Seven practical ways to live a more stable life.

Highlights: 

1.    Defining A Stable Life

2.    What Is Instability?

3.    Balance The Key To Stability

4.    Ways To Add Stability To Your Life

5.    Finding Meaning in Life Instabilities

6.    Stably Moving Forward 

Links: 

·         https://page.terrikozlowski.com/staying-present  

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/change-is-neutral/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/we-adapt-to-change-easily/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/taking-chances/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/being-fair/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/learn-able-behaviors-to-increase-your-success-happiness/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/create-harmony/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/be-aware-create-the-dream/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/balance-is-powerful/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/past-doesnt-indicate-future/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/story-reframing-is-a-tool/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/how-you-react-or-respond-matters/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/to-motivate-or-inspire-that-is-the-question/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/know-your-purpose/ 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/be-resilient-to-ease-life/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/habits-form-routines-for-success/

·         https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chaos_theory 

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/control-is-a-lie/ 

·         ‌https://terrikozlowski.com/expand-your-truth/

·         https://terrikozlowski.com/courage-conquers-fear/

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Transcript

Hello, Warriors
 Awareness is the most powerful catalyst for transformation. 
 Do you want to reduce anxiety by focusing on the present moment? 
 Do you require assistance to be more mindful? 
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Now let us begin this week's program.

Episode 195: Stability Isn't To Overcome Insecurity: It's Being Comfortable with It

The only thing you know for certain is life will be full of uncertainty. 

·         Life stability is achieved by dealing with change wisely and effectively, rather than by preventing it.

Life transitions are the unavoidable changes that occur throughout your life, ranging from milestones like marriage and parenting to unforeseen events, such as job loss or relocation. 

·         They include both beneficial and unpleasant shifts, requiring you to adapt and find stability in the face of uncertainty.

Ambiguity regarding the future is unavoidable. 

·         Some may believe the best approach is to combat it, doing everything they can to achieve perfect comfort and security. 

·         Fighting feelings of insecurity, doubt, and uncertainty only increases their impact on your life. 

·         You can never eliminate all the uncertainties of the future. 

·         You must live with them.

It’s advisable for those who dislike uncertainty to learn to accept it. 

·         People who cannot endure ambiguity will go to tremendous lengths to avoid it. 

·         Anyone who avoids uncertainty chooses not to engage in life.

·         It suggests you will not take chances. 

·         You won’t travel. 

·         Ask yourself or others awkward questions. 

·         You will protect yourself to the point of internal death for your soulful self.

What if, instead, you learned to tolerate uncertainty?

·         Ironically, this would improve your overall stability.

Defining A Stable Life

It’s fair but erroneous to conceive of life stability in the same way you think of physical stability. 

·         Stable entities in physics are distinguished by their predictability and lack of motion. 

·         However, life stability is an internal barometer characterized by your ideas and feelings rather than your actual circumstances, though both are important.

Your acts don’t have a direct impact on life stability. 

·         Consider traveling. 

·         Traveling poses a danger. 

·         It’s more dangerous than being at home, more expensive, and you’re more exposed while you’re away. 

·         Traveling sounds like the polar opposite of life stability. 

·         In one sense, that is correct. 

·         However, the inherent instability of travel is precisely why it can boost your sense of internal stability.

Traveling when you could stay home makes a statement. 

·         You’ve chosen to live with and even welcome uncertainty. 

·         Consider how people feel when traveling. 

·         Free, alive, and connected, even happy, confident and stable.

Travel is just one example of this critical concept: actions that show ease with uncertainty or instability are essential for preserving internal life stability. 

·         It may surprise you, but taking calculated risks can improve your life stability.

The surprise key to life stability is to embrace all your uncertainties, doubts, and instability, which are unavoidable.

What Is Instability?

Instability occurs when you fight against an immovable obstacle. 

·         Regardless of how hard you fight, uncertainty remains. 

·         This depletes your emotional and mental resources for an ineffective fight. 

·         It’s rational to struggle for something as desirable as certainty, but how logical is it to wage a battle you will never win?

I’m not saying you should get thrilled about uncertainty. 

·         Obviously, having financial instability or health difficulties isn’t fun. 

·         It's more about learning to accept and understand how uncertain life is, and then doing your best with that knowledge rather than attempting to ignore or change its nature.

The concept of balance isn’t about standing still, but finding stability in all aspects of your life. 

·         As someone who believes in living a balanced and harmonious existence, I've realized that genuine balance is about finding serenity and stability within the stress and busyness of daily life.

It's easy to become engrossed in the hustle and bustle of your daily routines, from work deadlines to social obligations to personal aspirations. 

·         However, amid it all, it’s critical to take a step back and evaluate whether you’re genuinely finding stability in all aspects of your life.

Balance The Key To Stability

Balancing entails prioritizing what is actually important to you and aligning your actions accordingly. 

·         It’s about pausing, finding inner calm and contentment, even when situations appear overwhelming. 

·         It's about developing your connections, looking after your physical and mental health, and achieving personal growth and development.

Balance is a constant journey rather than a destination you arrive at and then leave. 

·         It causes ongoing awareness, correction, and self-reflection. 

·         It's about making intentional decisions that improve your general well-being and happiness.

So, strive for stability in all aspects of your life: prioritize what offers you joy and fulfillment, set boundaries and make time for self-care, and nurture inner peace and harmony.

Remember that balance is more than just standing still; it’s about finding stability in the ebb and flow of life. 

·         And when you do, you can live a more fulfilled and contented life.

Ways To Add Stability To Your Life

1.    Making peace with your past can help you enjoy the current moment, avoid feeling stuck, and flow with life. 

a.    If you can remind yourself that no matter what hurts you’ve had, you’re always a divinely loving individual, you will find inner peace even in the darkest of times. 

b.    When you learn to love, regardless of how others have treated you, you gain true power. 

c.    Love provides you with actual strength and stability, allowing you to remain solid and balanced no matter what is happening around you.

2.    When you are going through or have been through a tough time, it’s tempting to believe something is wrong with you. 

a.    That you are unworthy, damaged, or inadequate‌. 

b.    These negative feelings represent the ego's attempt to tighten its grip.

c.    Instead, make your thoughts your friend by reframing your point of view. 

d.    Worry and tension can disrupt your peace. 

e.    Being conscious of your ideas, beliefs, and attitudes allows you to transcend a scared mentality and instead establish a life of love and stability.

3.    In stressful situations, people may react angrily (fight) or withdraw (flight) instead of responding from their powerful loving self. 

a.    Remember, your reactions are valuable. 

b.    However, if you can accept the uncomfortable feeling the reaction causes rather than blaming the other person, you heal that automatic survival response by tapping into a power bigger than the reaction. 

c.    You have to feel it to heal it. 

d.    The next time you find yourself in a similar scenario, odds are you will not let the exterior circumstances to disrupt your tranquility.

4.    Allow your intuition to lead you through life, much like a personal GPS. 

a.    Your inner, soulful voice of knowledge understands what’s best for you. 

b.    However, it’s normal to ignore your intuition in favor of doing what you "should" do, which is often motivated by fear. 

c.    When you make judgments based on anxiety and stress, they are rarely the best ones you can make for yourself. 

d.    When you relax your mind, you’ll be better able to listen to your intuition and live a more fluid and serene existence.

5.    Purposeful living involves expressing and developing your innate talents, which can lead to happiness. 

a.    Some of life's most troublesome problems, such as being laid off, can also be life's greatest blessing since they open up new doors, allowing you to pursue what you genuinely enjoy. 

b.    If you look forward to going to work, you know you're on the correct track.

6.    Building a social network and practicing self-care will help you develop resilience and the ability to recover from setbacks. 

a.    Keep an optimistic mindset. 

b.    Concentrate on the opportunities and personal growth that come with life transitions. 

c.    Encourage self-discovery. 

d.    Use changing circumstances as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and your strengths. 

e.    Change can intimidate, but it’s possible to navigate through the uncertainty and come out ahead.

7.    Establish a grounding routine. 

a.    Having a steady daily routine that grounds you can help you feel more stable during turbulent times. 

b.    Set priorities by deciding what is most important to you and directing your attention toward those parts of your life. 

c.    Staying organized and tracking activities and responsibilities might help to minimize stress and anxiety.

Finding Meaning in Life Instabilities

When the details of your life appear to be in the air, you have the best view of the bedrock beneath them. 

·         I'm referring to the values, qualities, and feelings that remain consistent throughout your life. 

·         When you're connected with them-your authentic self, they invigorate and fill you with delight, but when you're not, they make you depressed.

Scientists have discovered there is order underlying a chaotic surface. 

·         Consider how trees, blood arteries, and rivers branch out into ever-thinner tributaries as they develop and flow in a random yet consistent manner, and how the simple act of wind moving across sand creates beautiful ripples and dunes.

Chaos is constantly transformed into order. 

·         That’s something to believe and find significance in. 

·         Don't be a passive viewer in your life. 

·         You have some control over how the dunes grow and which area of the tree you end up in as you climb. 

·         You can't become attached to the outcomes or drive yourself insane by believing you have more control than you do. 

·         Stay focused on the process and the influence you have.

The dune's beauty emerges organically when the inherent qualities of sand and wind are simply allowed to mix. 

·         Similarly, you grow best when you put competing short-term interests aside and allow what is deep and ‌true for you to inspire your choices continuously. 

·         One decision and one moment at a time, your life will form a monument to your best, most honest self.

Stably Moving Forward 

So, think about what you can say yes to today that will broaden your comfort zone, that you might have turned down yesterday because of fear, and that you'll be proud of tomorrow.

Consider contacting a life coach, like me, for perspective of your specific situation. 

·         Life transitions may test your stability, but with awareness techniques, you can regain your footing and thrive in the middle of any change which feels unstable.

Life transitions are an essential component of the human experience. 

·         You can find stability and prosper during life's transformations by accepting change, establishing resilience, and employing effective awareness techniques.  

·         I am here to help you on your journey, offering perspective and knowledge to help you negotiate life's trials with resilience and grace.

·         Contact me at TerriKozlowski.com and we will put together an action plan for you to find stability in a chaotic world.