In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some clips from a recent live Q&A session at our Marriage Weekend in Seattle. We covered these questions:
- Explain what you mean by “newness is required in the sexual relationship"?
- How to increase romantic intimacy when life isn’t romantic?
- How often should we schedule date night?
- What are some ways we can be spontaneous with sex with kids in the house?
- What are some ways a responder can prepare for intimacy later in the day?
- Can the afterglow actually be a fore glow?
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some clips from a recent live Q&A session at our Marriage Weekend in Seattle. We covered these questions:
- Explain what you mean by “newness is required in the sexual relationship"?
- How to increase romantic intimacy when life isn’t romantic?
- How often should we schedule date night?
- What are some ways we can be spontaneous with sex with kids in the house?
- What are some ways a responder can prepare for intimacy later in the day?
- Can the afterglow actually be a fore glow?
The Intimate Covenant Podcast is sponsored by:
Open Door Financial Advisors
www.opendoorfa.com
Where finances meet faith and family.
Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:
To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: podcast@intimatecovenant.com
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!
Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
Hey, jen wanna talk about the challenges of spontaneous sex with kids in the house.
Speaker 2:You know I hate surprises Great.
Speaker 1:Today we're going to discuss this topic and more surprises, as we share a few segments from a recent live Q&A session. Let's do it. Welcome to the Intimate Covenant podcast, where we believe the Bible and Great Married Sex both belong on your kitchen table. That's right. We're talking about holy covenant-bound intimate relationships with hot sex.
Speaker 2:We're Matt and Jen, founders of Intimate Covenant. We offer biblical teaching and resources to help married couples achieve a fuller relationship and an extraordinary sex life. For more information, visit our website, IntimateCovenantcom.
Speaker 1:Welcome, friends.
Speaker 2:Welcome. Thanks for joining us for another episode of the Intimate Covenant podcast.
Speaker 1:We are so glad you are with us and we are so glad to be back, although maybe a little sad actually to be back.
Speaker 2:I don't know if I'm excited or glad to be back From a fabulous family vacation to Glacier National Park.
Speaker 1:Let's be clear it was a family trip.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's right, because a vacation is when you and I go alone.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:But a trip is what we take with the kids.
Speaker 1:Yes, and we had a lovely trip to Glacier National Checked another national park Actually well, two national parks if you count the Canadian National.
Speaker 2:Park. Yeah, our first Canadian National Park, Our first Canadian National Park. Went up to Waterton, spent the day in Canada. So look at us international travelers.
Speaker 1:International National Park travelers. That's right. Yeah, we had a great time with the kids, saw so many amazingly beautiful things.
Speaker 2:It was gorgeous.
Speaker 1:Enjoyed beautiful weather. Yeah, then came back to 100 plus degrees and humidity in Houston it was funny the kids have.
Speaker 2:we've all laughed about the fact that the week that we were there, like the people from Montana what do you call that Montanians? What do?
Speaker 1:you.
Speaker 2:Montana people call yourself, we'll go with that. Anyhow, they kept saying like oh, we're so sorry, the weather's so warm. This week the highs were like 85.
Speaker 1:We were like this is what Christmas is for us it doesn't even get below 85 during the summer here.
Speaker 2:We had a great time, great weather, lots and lots and lots of hiking.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:We're a little sore. They're ready for us to be home and take it a little bit more easy 40 plus miles of hiking, 6000 plus feet of elevation gains.
Speaker 1:We did some work to see some of the beautiful things that we saw, but no regrets.
Speaker 2:Had a great time. It was beautiful. Glacier National Park definitely needs to be on everybody's must see list. It's just phenomenal.
Speaker 1:If you love national parks like we do, write us and tell us. We would love to hear from you, yeah. Anybody out there, any recommendations or what you do, what you like to do? We would love to talk national parks with you.
Speaker 2:That's right, because I am a trip planner. We try to do national park trips at least every two years, so we're back from this trip, which means we got to start planning the next one.
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Speaker 2:Give them a call. All right, so we are back from our trip and we are ready to head out again here in a few weeks To another marriage day location, the end of August coming up super fast, we will be in st Louis area.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're really looking forward to this as well. This has been in the planning stages for quite some time and we're very anxious to meet some of the folks out there, and they seem to be excited to meet us as well, so we're very, very much looking forward to this. A new location We've never done anything in the st Louis area.
Speaker 2:You know what's in st Louis.
Speaker 1:There is a national national park.
Speaker 2:We've actually been to that one. It was not a national park when we were there though. So I think we are gonna need to drive by and take the official national park sign picture.
Speaker 1:At least get a mug or something.
Speaker 2:So if you're in the st Louis area or you want to travel there and join us at the national park and then at the marriage day, hey, we would love to have you. So it's a Saturday, august 26th will be the marriage day, and you can register for that at intimate covenant, calm backslash, stl we're also doing a kingdom singles event there for any Unmarried folks that you might know or want to recommend.
Speaker 1:We're gonna talk about godly sexuality while you're single, how to handle that and preparing for marriage by dating with some intentional and Intentionality and purpose. So we're gonna cover some of those topics on that that night on Friday night, august 25th. You can. It is a free event but you do need to register so we can be prepared for the numbers and the materials that are gonna be there.
Speaker 2:You can register there for that event at intimate covenant, calm slash, stl Singles and that's for singles of all ages ages you know, typically people think, oh, we're talking to maybe later High school or early 20s, but we are happy to have singles of all ages. So please share the word, tell your friends if you're unmarried, you are invited. Yes, exactly, so we're excited about that. So today's episode actually comes from our last Marriage day marriage weekend and that was when we were out in the Seattle area.
Speaker 1:Yes, had a lovely time out there, met some lovely people, had a great time Meeting them and and even being able to enjoy some of the surrounding area. So today's episode, like Jen said, we're sharing a few segments from the live Q&A session that we held at that event live anonymous Q&A questions submitted by the attendees and we just went through the list. We never get to all of the questions, but we did get to quite a few of them and I will say that the quality of the questions at this event were really top-notch.
Speaker 1:Yeah very thoughtful questions really Forced us to to really kind of dig deep, to answer some of these questions.
Speaker 2:They were deep think, deep thinkers truly, truly so.
Speaker 1:We definitely appreciated that, appreciated their participation in that. So you'll hear some of those questions. We never have time to share all of them on a single episode as well, so maybe we'll save some of those others for later on, perhaps if we need them, but we'll. We'll get to that here in just a minute, but we do want to invite you. If you have Questions or comments or feedback about the show, we certainly would love to hear from you. Feedback or sorry. Podcast at intimate covenant calm. Podcast at intimate covenant calm. Or go to our website intimate covenant calm slash podcast and click on the button contact the podcast and you can submit that question anonymously if you would prefer. Thanks for joining us. Enjoy the rest of the show.
Speaker 2:Please explain deeper what you mean by saying that newness in sex is required.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's a good question, Because what I think, what a lot of people here, especially Pursuers here, is that, yes, finally you're you're somebody's telling my wife that she has to do more than one position, and that's not what I mean by that. I know you can have newness in your sexual relationship without ever changing positions, as Long as your goal is to continue to pursue connection. Because every time, if, if your goal is connection not necessarily the manner in which you're having sex if your goal is connection, then every time that you come together there will be some new point of connection. If you are building that intimacy, if you're building your relationship, if you are continuing to seek your spouse and Find them, then every experience is different, even if you're doing it in quote, the same way every time. I mean, is every, is every worship service the same? I mean, don't we like do the same things over and over and over again? Sometimes there's a little bit of variety in how we do it, or sometimes we change the order or the number of songs and, wow, that gets.
Speaker 1:That's crazy, yeah, those people's minds. But it doesn't have to, right? I mean, there's still the newness there. Every time, this there's, every conversation between you and your spouse is different. Every engagement is still different, but it has to be going. You have to to have newness if you're doing the same thing. To have newness in that experience Means that you have to go there looking for connection. Can't just show up and hope that it all works out, or show up and just go through the same ritual every time. There has to be some mental and emotional and spiritual preparation Going there if you expect to find something new there. When we put our focus on what we're doing instead of why we're doing it, right then then we miss it.
Speaker 1:But again, if the goal is connection, not Orgasm, or the goal is not, what can we do specifically? If the goal is connection, then every time becomes new and it de-emphasizes what we do to get there.
Speaker 2:And then the beauty of that is that can travel across the longevity of your marriage, no matter what your bodies are or are not capable of doing. You've learned how to get the right thing out of sex, and that the sexual relationship you had is not necessarily just built around this specific act, but rather it is about the connection that we share, and so that connection can be shared with or without orgasms. That connection can be shared no matter what bodies are or are no longer capable of doing, and it is then you are able to know and be known by one another in such a fuller way. Alright, how to increase romantic intimacy when life isn't romantic.
Speaker 2:Amen, right, every day. Life is not a hallmark movie, even though you people are living like right down the road from where like half the hallmark movies are filmed, right. So come on, y'all's life has to be romantic, right.
Speaker 1:You gotta figure this out. It's not.
Speaker 2:So I love this question. Like our everyday life isn't romantic, so how do we increase romantic intimacy? I guess I would start with well, how do you define romance? Maybe it just begins with you've gotta redefine what you think is romantic.
Speaker 1:Be willing to see even ordinary things as extraordinary. And one of the oh man, I can't remember the guy's name.
Speaker 2:Stephen Snyder yes, he talks about, yes, the guy.
Speaker 1:thank you, man. Stephen Snyder wrote a book. It has a long title, but basically the premise. One of the premises in his book is to sanctify the ordinary. That is how you have meaningful, long-lasting relationships. Sanctify the ordinary and that means simply just learn to see ordinary moments and learn to make them into something that is bigger. Take the opportunity. If you only have five minutes to spend with your spouse, then make the most of it. Actually engage, actually put your phone down, actually turn the TV off, actually talk to each other. If you only have five minutes a day, take the moment that could be just ordinary, where you could just plop down on the couch, turn on some mindless Netflix series and binge 10 episodes before you fall asleep on the couch. Instead of that, maybe we could sanctify this moment and make it into something that is more useful.
Speaker 2:And I think this goes back in Tizen even to our advice to schedule sex. If you know that Tuesday night is our time together, then that means throughout the day Tuesday do the steps to enjoy the anticipation. If you're a young mama, that means take a nap when the kid's taken nap, so you're not dead exhausted at 10 pm.
Speaker 2:Whatever it is whatever it looks like when daddy gets home. You get to go and take a bath and relax a little bit longer. And preparation. I mean those are everyday, regular Tuesday nights, but they can become romantic when you put in the work to make it places of connection. I know we're not living Hallmark movies, so stop expecting your spouse to be a Hallmark movie star, right? Stop expecting that somebody else's job. It's somebody else's job To turn me on to be romantic. It is not. It is your own job To connect yourself to your sexuality and your sexual desire with your beloved. And so, if that's what you mean by romantic, how do I, how do I, enjoy all those feelings of anticipation and arousal? Well, stop waiting for someone else to do that and start doing the work yourself of of learning to anticipate Enjoyment with your beloved.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I would add. I mean, if you only had 24 hours to live, would you spend that time doing laundry?
Speaker 2:Or doing the dishes?
Speaker 1:Would you spend that time cleaning the laundry? To cleaning the living room with the kitchen? No, you wouldn't spend any time doing that. And yet that's what. Even when we know that we have special time Set aside for our spouse or we we want to have this special time with our spouse we spend all of our time doing things that don't Move us in that direction at all. We spend a lot of time and effort doing meaningless things.
Speaker 2:That are still gonna be there tomorrow, right. We laundry is gonna be recreated tomorrow, right?
Speaker 1:The bills will still be there. Trust me, if you forget, they'll still remind you again.
Speaker 2:It's all, even since you colorful paper.
Speaker 1:All those things will be there, and so, now that said it, it's also possible to take even something like folding the laundry or Mowing the lawn and turn that into time that is still devoted to your spouse, even if they're not in the same room. What if I folded laundry and I prayed about my spouse? Or what if I folded laundry and I thought about all the Ways that we could engage our, our bodies together? What if, when I'm mowing the lawn, I'm thinking about all the ways in which I appreciate my wife, all the good things that she's done for me? What if I spend, you know, an hour mowing the lawn, praying for my spouse and all of the things that they're dealing with?
Speaker 2:and what if? Then I came in and that night, during our 15-minute check-in with one another, I shared that with my spouse. Right, that feels pretty romantic to me. I don't know what your definition of romantic is, but right. So it's learning to redefine and to see the beauty of Everyday moments.
Speaker 1:Sanctify the ordinary, find those places where you can inject it, because it doesn't just happen spontaneously.
Speaker 2:How often should we schedule date nights? As often as you can. This is going to look different depending on what stage of life you're in. When you are in the stage of life that your kids can't be left alone and it requires a whole lot of effort To get a babysitter, maybe you don't have family living nearby. Maybe it requires, you know, extra money to pay a babysitter. Obviously that's going to influence your ability to enjoy date night. That said, you can also redefine date night. You can also Recognize that there are different levels of date night. If by date night we simply mean Dedicated, intentional time together, I'm going to encourage you to do that every week now. Sometimes it will look like leaving your home. Sometimes it's just putting the kids to bed a little bit early and eating dinner on the back porch together.
Speaker 1:But and it doesn't have to be date night either.
Speaker 2:It could be date breakfast or whatever works by particular circumstance right, but I think as a general rule I would say we would say that once a week Minimum, there should be intentional time with one another when we say date night, what we mean is intentional time For meaningful conversation.
Speaker 1:It doesn't mean going out and watching a movie, because watching a movie.
Speaker 2:We're going on a double date with you know 20 other friends, which is a lot of fun. That's fun, but that's not bonding you two.
Speaker 1:And those things are just distractions, right? If your time is that valuable that you can only come together and have a date night once a month, why would you choose to spend those three hours distracted watching some fantasy on the screen? How have you drawn closer? By being distracted? I mean you can't. So it's not that I hate movies, not that I'm saying don't go to movies ever, but I'm saying, if you're and we made this mistake all the time when we were younger we were like, oh, we're finally free, let's go do something and be completely distracted. Well, yeah, I mean you can play putt-putt or go bowling or whatever, and there's value to that, certainly, and that might be part of your date night. But unless you're taking that chance to also have intentional, deep, the kind of conversations that require more than five minutes of time with each other, to me we wasted a lot of opportunity because we were doing things that were just distracting rather than forcing real, deep, meaningful conversation.
Speaker 2:And I think another aspect of date night should be the enjoyment of connection in all realms of intimacy together. So there should be a part of your date night that is building towards arousal with one another. That should be an extension of the enjoyment of all the levels of connection. So if your definition of date night is, we go stare at a movie for three hours.
Speaker 2:We hardly talk and we get home and then I'm going to expect some amazing fireworks in the bedroom. Really, what did you do to really make sure that that was all about connection? You didn't. But if you've had a great meal together, you've enjoyed a great conversation, you've even just enjoyed being outside together, and the enjoyment of that connection then can lead you into the enjoyment together in the bedroom. That's a different experience.
Speaker 1:What are some ways we can be spontaneous with sex while kids are in the house, especially kids that might know what might be happening. Great question. We certainly have lived that life, and especially so the last 10 years or so.
Speaker 2:You can't stay up later than teenagers, right? I mean all of us moms that are moms of teenagers. You are not going to stay up later than them, so you do have to learn how to they can definitely outlast you, they still outlast you at night, that's right when they're little you can put them in bed and close their doors and that doesn't happen as teenagers.
Speaker 1:That said, I will continue to say this. Have said this your kids should know that you have a great sex life. They don't need to know how and when you have a great sex life, but they should know that you have a great sex life, because what more do you want for your children than to have the amazing joy and intimacy of the kind of relationship that you have? I mean, I want my kids to have even better marriage than I have, and so I want them to know that what we have is so incredible it is worth having, and I want them to know that there's nothing to be ashamed of about that and it is desired and it is God given and it is a blessing. But I agree that they don't necessarily need to know the wins and where's right.
Speaker 1:So there is a balance in that our kids, from the time that they could walk, we try to enforce on them that our bedroom is a sacred place. They had to have explicit permission to enter our bedroom. Like, even if the doors open, they still have to stand and ask for permission or knock before they come into our bedroom, because they knew that it is a special place. Now, when they're two years old, that means something different than when they're 16, but they know what happens in our bedroom and they know that they can't just walk in anytime they want. They know that it is our room, it is our place and they need to have permission. And that was one Small way. Maybe people think I'm a child abuser, but that is a small way that we, one of many small ways that we try to enforce to our kids that they don't run the show. This is, it's our house, our marriage, our marriage came first and it will always be first and it will be last, and so that is what we try to instill and enforce to our children.
Speaker 2:Well, and within that we spent plenty of time in our room with the bedroom door closed and, you know, exciting fireworks were not happening. So our kids knew that we treated our bedroom as our sanctuary and you know I've always tried to have a little sitting area in our room for that purpose that we can go there and we can enjoy coffee together. I mean, that gets to the whole. Make your master bedroom all oh oh, it's primary bedroom. We can't master bedroom anymore. Make your primary bedroom All about your marriage.
Speaker 2:It is not an office, it is not a laundry heap, it is not a Store-all. It is definitely not your kids room. It is your room and so put things and in Place in that room that make it a place that you want to go. So our kids always knew that mom and dad will be in their room and they don't know what we're doing, you know. But they knew that was ours and they know that that is our special place. Now the part of the question is what are some ways we can be spontaneous with sex While kids are in the house? Well, you might have to redefine your definition of spontaneous.
Speaker 1:I might also have to redefine the value of spontaneous sex. I would submit to you that no one has spontaneous sex. Every time you think you did something spontaneous, there were moments and moments and moments leading up to that that made it actually capable of happening. You can't just behave any way you want and then expect that sex is just gonna happen randomly. You're constantly Building that romantic relationship. You're constantly fueling or not fueling the intimacy in your relationship, so it's never spontaneous. It's not like you just randomly got together and sex just happens to happen. That doesn't. It's not how life works. You don't just walk into a room and suddenly you just draw into each other and you accidentally have sex.
Speaker 1:Not even in Las Vegas not even in my house does that happen. What what you're doing is. You're constantly building and, and when the moment is right, maybe that's when some things happen. But one of you is planning something. I can assure you one of you was planning something. It was not spontaneous. Maybe both of you are planning something, but the way that you increase opportunities for spontaneous sex the Quote unquote spontaneous sex as you increase opportunities to build connection.
Speaker 1:But when you have lots of kids, that's a challenge certainly. Sometimes you just have to do it quietly and there's a. You know there's something to be said for loud, crazy sex, but there's also something to be said for quiet as you can and trying to hold everything back in. That could be just as passionate. Sometimes you have to change the time of day. Sometimes you have to send the kids to soccer practice or to a grandparents house or Friends house, and you just have to find ways to be creative. But if I can assure all of you, there's no one that is too busy and has too many kids to have a meaningful, passionate sexual relationship, if you are willing to put in the time and the effort to be creative enough. What are some ways a responder can work to prepare?
Speaker 2:during the day for intimacy later. I'm assuming by intimacy you mean sex. Somebody was afraid to type out the word sex, maybe. Well, if I take this question from that mindset, how can a responder work to be ready to respond to an initiation? I said I said a while ago that it's your job To do the work to turn yourself on, and by that I mean we have this mistaken belief that Somebody else has to do all the right things in order for me to be able to tap into my sexual desire.
Speaker 2:I think I'm going to challenge that, because I don't think that's a healthy mindset and I don't think that's how we're really the best way to go about seeking oneness with our spouse. So, as a responder, I might have a body that doesn't just naturally desire sex, and so it's going to be my job to use whatever aspects of my body I can use for my benefit. By that I mean especially for my body. Your brain is created, all, all females. Our brains are created really in story mode, I like to call it. So you think about when do we, when we get a group of women together, what happens? We start telling each other our stories, right, and there'll be like 10 stories happening at a time.
Speaker 2:And, ladies, we can follow all those stories, right, no problem. I think that's a good question. I think that's a good question. I think that's a good question. Ladies, we can follow all those stories, right, no problem, because we are meant, we're created in this way. We tell stories, our brains are that way, naturally. But, side note, I think that's the image of God within us. How did God himself choose to reveal himself to us A lot through story, right?
Speaker 1:It wasn't a list of facts.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It wasn't bullet points like I would have.
Speaker 2:So stories are powerful. Now, what does that have to do with? Sexual stories are powerful. Your brain can and should help create the story of you and your beloved. So Matt mentioned folding laundry and this is like become the joke in a lot of intimate covenant circles that I have mentioned multiple times that folding laundry is a great time, as a woman, to put my mind to work, create the story of what it would be like to be intimate sexual with my beloved. Allow my brain to create that story and you think oh well, I don't know, I can't do that. But I've seen how you all decorate your houses. I've seen the birthday parties you throw for your children. I've seen your Pinterest board. I have seen how creative you really are. My challenge is can you take that creativity, can you take that natural inclination for story and make it about you and your beloved? And this is biblical.
Speaker 2:This is what's in the song of songs. The bride who does most of the talking is creating scenarios. That an imagining what she would like to do with her beloved. She imagines the garden they're going to be in. She imagines what he's going to say to her. She imagines what he's going to do, what she's going to do to him.
Speaker 1:Or she recalls memories. Or she recalls memories If you can't start with something from thin air, then start with memory.
Speaker 2:Right. And so this is how you, as a responder, can work towards intimacy Is allow your mind, the story part of your mind, to tie into your desire to be sexual with your beloved, and then just do the practical things, like maybe take the nap or make an easier dinner that doesn't require so much clean up. Like, don't be afraid to do the steps, even practically, to make your life easier come 10 pm. Stop waiting for 10 pm to like, all the sudden, magically, you're going to have all this energy.
Speaker 1:This is the night I'm going to have energy. At 10 o'clock I'm going to hang from the chandelier.
Speaker 2:this Tuesday night at 10 o'clock You're going to have some strong chandeliers. Can the afterglow actually be a foreglow?
Speaker 1:One way that I would take that question is first of all, I guess the answer is yes.
Speaker 1:Right, we'll just say the answer is yes, but in one way what I mean by that, and maybe it's by saying sort of the opposite. But one person says that foreplay and I don't really like that term for a number of reasons but foreplay should start five minutes after your last orgasm rather than five minutes before your next, and I think the point of that state which is a clever way of saying that but I think the point of that is that your whole life, your whole relationship together, should be afterglow, your whole experience together should be capitalizing on the intimacy that you have been building and the intimacy that you intend to build that we too often take it for granted that our spouse is always going to be there. Today, one of our very one of our close friends at church is burying his wife, who died at a inner thirties. They have three small kids. You don't have promise of tomorrow, and so sanctify the ordinary, take advantage of those opportunities as you have opportunity.
Speaker 2:And realize that your afterglow here is a foreglow, because that's what it's all about. It is a small taste, a little glimmer of what's to come, and won't it be amazing. And so create within your married life, especially within your sex life, glimpses of heaven, because that's the whole point.
Speaker 1:Well, that's all the time we have for questions for this episode. Stay tuned. Maybe we'll post some of those other questions at a later date, but we again would certainly love to hear from you if you have any questions, feedback, or if you have comments or if we got something wrong. If you have a better answer for the questions that we answered today, we certainly would love to hear from you. Podcast at IntimateCovidentcom or go to the website IntimateCovidentcom and you can submit anonymous questions through the website. Thanks again to Derek and Open Door Financial Advisers for sponsoring the podcast. Contact Open Door at OpenDoorFAcom.
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Speaker 1:Thanks again and until next time, keep striving and don't settle.