The Conflicts of Pursuit, Response & Rejection

Intimate Covenant Podcast

Intimate Covenant Podcast
The Conflicts of Pursuit, Response & Rejection
Feb 09, 2026 Episode 181
Intimate Covenant -- Matt & Jenn Schmidt

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In this episode, we share a few more segments from our live Q&A at the 2025 Annual Retreat; all of these had to do with the pursuer-responder dynamic. Specifically, we covered questions about:

  • What is God teaching me through the pursuer-responder dynamic?
  • Is compromise the answer to sexual desire discrepancy?
  • What if, despite the sterotype, the husband doesn’t want sex?
  • How should a wife deal with the role of reluctant dual-pursuer?


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Warning: We cover necessary and important topics about the marriage relationship and sex. We use frank language without being crude or crass. Our approach is biblical and wholesome, but not intended for singles — especially not for children.


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