In this episode, Matt & Jenn share a recording from the Q&A session at a recent Marriage Day event in Dallas, TX. Some challenging questions that we discussed are:
- How often should a couple have sex?
- How can we still have great sex with a house full of kids?
- What if we are both sexual responders?
- How can learn to stop pouting when I get rejected?
- What can be done about ED and other sexual dysfunction?
- What are common insecurities that wives face?
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn are joined by Christian sex blogger and author (and friend), J. Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous, to discuss the non-typical dynamic when the wife is the sexual pursuer.
- While not the majority, relationships where the wife has the higher sexual desire is certainly more common than many would think.
- Most of the time, this dynamic does not indicate physical, emotional, or spiritual problems in the relationship— it is simply a result of individual variability and circumstances.
- Thankfully, more people are now willing to talk about this dynamic more openly, including our friend J Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous.
For more from J. Parker, check out her website: https://hotholyhumorous.com/
We can recommend, without hesitation, her blog, her podcasts, and her books to ALL married couples.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn compare all of the different birth control options -- how they work, their advantages and disadvantages.
- The decision whether to use birth control should be carefully considered after you’ve considered whether your motivations stem from a sense of responsible use of God’s blessings in your life or whether you are being motivated by selfish and materialistic desires.
- The specific methodology of birth control that you use should be chosen based on important criteria including: mode of action, convenience, efficacy, risks, compatibility, and reversibility.
- Many options are available and couples should reconsider this conversation frequently to determine what method is best for their current circumstances.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn encourage couples to make intentional and biblically informed decisions about birth control.
- The conversation about birth control must start by rejecting society’s notion that children are a negative to my personal life and to society. Rather, we must view children as God sees them — a sacred blessing and holy responsibility.
- That said, responsible management of childbearing does not seem to be defiant of God’s command to “be fruitful and multiply” so long as the Christian faithfully accepts God’s will and His grace in any outcome.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn share their method of critically assessing the state of their own marital intimacy and some tips on how to have the conversation about setting goals for better connection.
- For real progress in your marriage, it’s important to critically evaluate the past and to set goals for the future.
- A thorough evaluation of your marriage should include assessment of each realm of intimacy: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical.
- In setting relationship goals, I need to define what I am going to change individually with specific and realistic plan.
We took our own “State of the Covenant” conversation and created a detailed form with conversation starters and a step-by-step breakdown of the process that we use to regularly assess our relationship status and to set intimacy-building goals. We've organized our conversation and the form around the four realms intimacy: spiritual, mental, emotional and physical.
- Free for Patreon subscribers. Join us at Patreon to support our mission to spread God's message for intimate marriage and holy sexuality. For as little as $5/month, your contribution will help offset the material costs of producing this podcast and fund upcoming new projects. Your subscription will give you access to our monthly newsletter and other exclusive resources, including the State of the Covenant form.
- You can also find the form in our store on the website: https://intimatecovenant.com/product/state-of-the-covenant/
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn consider the question, "What do I want from my marriage?" Is there a better question as we consider New Year's resolutions for our marriages?
- Mature past the selfish motivations of relationship and begin to see the true fulfillment of covenant love built on self-sacrifice — in your marriage and in your relationship to God.
- For this new year (and everyday), ask the questions, “What do I want FOR my marriage?” “What more can I give TO this covenant?”
- Begin the assessment of your relationship with humility and self-reflection. Then, have a conversation with your spouse to determine what you can do for them and for your marriage.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn suggest some meaningful wedding gift ideas that may not be on the engaged couple's registry.
- Rather than an arbitrary choice from the wedding registry, consider a more thoughtful and relationship-focused wedding gift for the newlyweds in your life.
- Providing resources for date nights or getaways is a great way to invest in a young couple.
- Professional counseling or coaching can be an incredibly impactful gift to help provide relationship and communication tools for a healthy and vibrant marriage that will far outlast the toaster oven they registered for.
Great Books for Married Couples:
- Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
- Cherish by Gary Thomas
- Hot, Holy and Humorous by J. Parker
- The Good Girl’s/Guy’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila & Keith Gregoire
- Married Sex by Gary Thomas & Debra Fileta
Date Night Gifts:
- The Adventure Challenge Books — https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice and tips for planning a a special and intimate honeymoon experience. We're continuing our series aimed at not-yet-married couples. Share this episode with engaged couples that you know to help them avoid common pitfalls that lead to honeymoon disappointment.
- When planning your honeymoon, be mindful of the purpose of your honeymoon — i.e. to begin to explore your new sexual relationship and build a foundation for intimate connection.
- Prior to the wedding night, you should have conversation with your spouse-to-be about your expectations for the wedding night. Be sure that you have given consideration in planning your wedding day to ensure that your wedding night will also be special and meaningful.
- Be intentional and realistic about your sexual expectations for the first night and for your honeymoon. While the honeymoon does not have to include the most mind-blowing sex you will ever have, it is an important time to begin building a healthy and intimate sex life for your new marriage.
Great resources for building healthy and godly sexual knowledge, including practical honeymoon advice:
- Hot, Holy and Humorous by J. Parker
- The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila & Keith Gregoire
- The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice to couples who are not yet married, and to those of us who should be mentoring these premarital couples.
- Choosing your spouse is one of the most important and consequential decisions one will make. The way that we are dating will play an important part of getting this right.
- Premarital counseling, before and after engagement, is a crucially important investment in your future relationship.
- To best assess a potential spouse you need to be aware of their character weaknesses, history of trauma, sexual history, family-of-origin dynamics, and financial situation.
We highly recommend these books for those who are of dating age:
- Not Yet Married by Marshall Segel
- Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
This book is a must read for engaged couples and those who may be counseling/mentoring these couples:
- Nine Essential Conversations Before You Say I Do by Gary Thomas
These books are helpful for preparing young people for the sexual relationship. These are also great resources for anyone who wants to improve their understanding of sex and sexual desire.
- The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire
- The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila & Keith Gregoire
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice about giving and receiving sexy gifts.
- Consider starting a sexy Christmas tradition. This is a great time to gift your sexual relationship by exchanging sexy presents and/or by making time for a Christmas Eve quickie.
- If you are a sexual pursuer, be sure that you are primarily considering what is best for encouraging sexual connection for your spouse.
- Sexual responders should consider how to get in the Christmas spirit by giving their beloved a generous sexual gift.
- Primarily, this season should be an opportunity to find connection amid the chaos. Seek each other first.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this encore episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to keep your relationship and your sex life from freezing over during the busy holiday season.
- Protect your spouse. Make sure they know that you’ve got their back. Approach your extended families with an “us vs. them” mentality.
- Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. You absolutely MUST make time to continue to connect with your spouse, even at the expense of making others happy - even your kids.
- Plan ahead so that you are prepared to overcome challenges to your sex life during this holiday season.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how the sexual relationship can sometimes be a pathway to help smooth and heal emotional or spiritual conflicts.
- Rather than seeing your relational conflicts as a barrier to your sex life, consider that investing in your sexual relationship can be an important tool to build and strengthen your whole marriage.
- Recognize the power of the sexual pathway to connection. A meaningful sexual connection can open up emotional and spiritual channels of connection for the sexual pursuer and responder.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss characteristics of your sexual relationship that may be pointing to some deeper and broader issues in your marriage.
- Your sexual relationship doesn’t happen in a bubble. It is a reflection of the whole of your relationship and is affected by the quality of your spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy.
- If there are signs of an unhealthy sexual relationship in your marriage, stop ignoring them and find someone to help.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge the mind set of "foreplay." Is there a better way to think about the process of building sexual arousal?
- The concept of “foreplay” may be counterproductive to a godly and healthy view of sexuality since this idea limits a definition of sex to just intercourse and promotes the goal of sex as orgasm.
- Instead, consider embracing the idea of “simmering” — a general tone of frequent acknowledgment and engagement of sexual arousal, desire, and play.
- Embrace a non-linear, non-goal-oriented view of sex.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn continue the conversation about oral sex -- tips and techniques to help make oral sex more comfortable and pleasurable for the giver and the receiver.
- There are plenty of ways to help make oral sex more pleasant and more pleasurable, especially for the hesitant spouse.
- For the giver or receiver, be creative, offer feedback and be curious about each other’s desires and needs.
- Whether this is something you’ve never tried or something you do every Tuesday, oral sex is a topic that deserves plenty of conversation in your marriage.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss moral, emotional and physical aversions to oral sex. How does a hesitant giver or receiver confront your blocks?
- Oral sex is as biblically acceptable as any other means of sexual intimacy.
- Whether or not you incorporate oral sex into your marriage bed is ultimately up to you and your spouse. But, we hope we can encourage you to find as many ways as possible to share sexual pleasure in your marriage bed.
- Consider any physical, emotional, or spiritual blocks you may have and if these blocks are helping or hurting your marriage relationship
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the never-ending conflict of “I want one thing, but my spouse wants something entirely different.” How do I convince my spouse to see it my way?
- We need to stop asking the question, “How do I get my spouse to do …?” Instead, if we want to love like Christ, we need to be asking, “What does my spouse need me to do?”
- When exploring why my spouse is uninterested or unwilling to meet my desires, first I must seek to understand their good reasons for wanting what they want (or don’t want)
- Stop seeing the problem as something that your spouse needs to change and determine what I can do right now to start growing myself to be a better person and to offer something that is worth following.
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn share the rest of the Q&A session from this year's Retreat, including J. Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous. We covered questions about:
- How to be there for a spouse dealing with past trauma, especially when it comes to emotional/conflict conversations.
- I struggle with porn. My wife is aware of my struggle, but I don't always tell her when I slip up. I do this out of a desire to spare from pain. Is this wrong?
- What sex toys or positions would you recommend?
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions from a live audience at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat! We are joined by Julie Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous and her husband, Jay, for a round table of fun and insightful responses.
- How do women have multiple orgasms? I have friends that are capable to do so easily, even in unhealthy marriages. Is it a physical or mental ability?
- Scheduled sex sounds like a great idea. What are suggestions for making it happen? How do you keep it from becoming “routine” or just another “to do” list item?
- In addition to praying together, what other ways do you suggest fostering spiritual intimacy?
- What are your thoughts on discreet sex in public? Sinful, irreverent?
- Are “bad words” in the bedroom wrong? Sometimes they just come out and I never use them any other scenario. It only happens when things are hot and heavy.
...Next week we'll share several more questions and answers from this incredibly fun session!
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt and Jenn revisit a previous episode about sexual desire differences.
- In general, a man’s sexual desire is like a microwave (spontaneous) and a woman’s sexual desire is like a crockpot (responsive). Neither is right or wrong and neither is better or worse.
- Empathize with your spouse’s position by offering grace, mercy, and understanding. Learn to embrace your own desire with contentment and enthusiasm.
- Each of you have a role to play in building a solid relationship and creating circumstances where eroticism and sexual passion can flourish.
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the benefits of heightening our five senses to enhance our sexual experience -- including practical tips!
- We often limit the potential of our sexual experience and pleasure by narrowly focusing our sensations.
- I can focus my body and mind to be more present in the sexual experience by concentrating on the five senses.
- By heightening or taking away sensations, I can deepen the connection to my spouse, intensify my pleasure, and help accentuate my access to arousal in my daily life.
Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some eye-opening observations after spending some time with a group of unmarried Christians talking about the the unique challenges that they face in their pursuit of holiness. Here's what we learned from them:
- Unmarried Christians are vulnerable to struggles with sexual temptation and loneliness. I need to do a better job of helping singles find a place of belonging and support within my home and the church.
- Most single Christians do not have trusted mentors when it comes to understanding and living out their sexuality. I need to be a louder voice and safer place for God’s plan for sexuality, dating and marriage in the Kingdom. If young people aren’t asking me for advice, I should consider why not.
- Pornography is rampant in the church (not just among young people, not just among men). Most people do not know how to quit or where to even start. Church, do better. I need to be a stronger advocate for dealing with this destructive issue in my community.
Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members
To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: podcast@intimatecovenant.com
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn share a recorded portion from the Q&A session at the Marriage Day in Bowling Green, KY on August 27. We covered topics like:
- Surviving Kids
- Scheduling Sex, #trashnight
- Afterglow
- Lost attraction
- Challenges of aging, childbirth, and other hormone changes
- Inviting pursuit after long-term rejection
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Topics include:
- Creating emotional connection through conversation
- Navigating the dance of sexual pursuit and rejection
- Harnessing the power of sexual fantasy
- Removing barriers to intimacy
Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members
To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: podcast@intimatecovenant.com
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to shift your mindset toward healthy growth in your marriage.
- My attitude towards the challenges, conflicts, and obstacles in my relationship will determine the depth of fulfillment and connection that I can attain in my marriage.
- A fixed mindset limits my potential by focusing on fear, shame, and pride.
- A growth mindset pursues a deeper relationship by embracing vulnerability, curiosity, and the fulness of love.
Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members
To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: podcast@intimatecovenant.com
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
In this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice about how to use quickie sex to improve your sexual relationship.
- Not every sexual experience has to require the same level of energy and preparation. Define the types of sex that you are having in your marriage.
- A quickie is a great way to maintain sexual connection even when you or your spouse don’t have the time and energy for something more extraordinary.
- The best quickie sex happens when each of you has communicated realistic expectations and when you are using sex to build connection rather than just release or obligation.
Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Announcing Covenant Club! Our online community with discussion forums (including husbands-only and wives-only sections), monthly interactive webinars, and other resources to help answer your questions, provide encouragements and learn from other covenant-focused couples. Join us! www.intimatecovenant.com/members
To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: podcast@intimatecovenant.com
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!
Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate
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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt
Q&A: ideal sexual frequency, kids, rejection and pouting, wives' insecurities... [130]
35:45
Higher Drive Wives with guest, J. Parker [129]
48:19
Birth Control - specific methods [128]
56:54
Birth Control - What Does The Bible Say? [127]
41:57
State of the Covenant [126] -- encore
47:31
What Do I Want For My Marriage? [125] -- encore
35:46
Great Wedding Gifts [124]
30:41
Tips for a Great Honeymoon [123]
47:02
Premarital Advice
42:51
Sexy Gifts [121] -- encore
42:08
Keep Scrooge Out of Your Bedroom [120] -- encore
41:04
Better Sex Despite Conflicts [119]
43:39
Sexual Warning Signs [118]
42:22
The Fallacy of Foreplay [117]
41:55
Oral Sex, part 2 -- tips and techniques [116]
36:32
Oral Sex [115]
43:04
How do I get my spouse to ...? [114]
42:26
Live Q&A with J. Parker, part 2 (overcoming trauma, porn and sex toys) [113]
34:19
Q&A from the 2022 Annual Retreat [112]
27:43
Spontaneous vs. Responsive Sexual Desire -- ENCORE [111]
41:14
Accentuate the Five Senses [110]
42:56
What We Learned From Christian Singles [109]
39:55
Live Q&A (#trashnight; aging & hormones; afterglow; lost attraction; and more) [108]
36:51
Back to School Special - Growth vs. Fixed Mindset [107]
41:54
Essentials for a Great Quickie [106]
43:32