In this episode (#69), Matt and Jenn discuss sex positions (for no obvious reason). Is it important to learn new things in bed? What meanings do different positions have?

1. Couples that have many ways to enjoy each other have insurance against monotony, aging, and health-related sexual challenges.
2. Different sexual styles and positions bring different meanings and points of enjoyment to your sex life.
3. Above all else, use sex to build connection in your relationship no matter how you do it.

We referenced these helpful resources:

• Christian Friendly Sex Positions --  https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com
• Married Dance -- https://marrieddance.com
• Intimately Us app -- https://intimately.us/
• Ultimate Intimacy app -- https://ultimateintimacy.com/

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
 

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to keep your relationship and your sex life from freezing over during the busy holiday season.

1. Protect your spouse. Make sure they know that you’ve got their back. Approach your extended families with an “us vs. them” mentality.
2. Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. You absolutely MUST make time to continue to connect with your spouse, even at the expense of making others happy - even your kids.
3. Plan ahead so that you are prepared to overcome challenges to your sex life during this holiday season. 

Announcing Covenant Club! -- launching January 2022. Sign up during prelaunch and get the first three months for FREE!  www.intimatecovenant.com/members

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn
 

PS - If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share an excerpt from a session of the 2021 Retreat, titled, "Submitting to one another -- do I know what my spouse really needs?" Learn new moves to help transform conflict into opportunities for growth and connection.

1. Real change starts by seeing my spouse more clearly -- empathy. See their circumstances, their struggles and their desires.
2. If I want change, I have to protect their space for change. I have to reward their vulnerability instead of punishing with judgement, criticism, or coldness.
3. Recognize that we need each other — interdependency. Begin to see conflicts as opportunities to grow & connect; opportunities to face life together.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn continue last week's discussion about encouraging husbands to be leaders by specifically addressing spiritual leadership in the home.

1. Husbands are given the responsibility of overseeing the spiritual growth of the home and this responsibility is often shirked by many men. Many wives longingly desire to see their husbands grow into a strong spiritual leader.
2. Criticism and pressure are rarely effective ways to motivate a reluctant husband. Instead, be clear and realistic about your expectations, offering praise and gratitude as motivation.
3. Husbands, spiritual growth is in your best interest. If your wife is like most, your growth as a spiritual leader will exponentially improve your romantic and sexual attractiveness.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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 Cherishing,
 Matt & Jenn
 
 PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer a listener question from a wife who wants to know how she can encourage her husband to be a better leader and more engaged in the relationship.

1. Sometimes, our disappointment with leadership is because we have unrealistic expectations. However, clearly many husbands are negligent in their role as head of their household.
2. If you are a wife, your best tool to encourage your husband to lead is to be a godly respectful supporter.
3. Don’t be afraid to hold each other accountable in the roles that God has given.

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt and Jenn answer a listener question about making eye contact during sex. We'll also discuss ways to use eye contact to enhance emotional and sexual pleasure using eye contact.

1. Eye contact requires vulnerability, but increasing eye contact in your relationship - in and out of the bedroom - can improve emotional and sexual connection.
2. There may be reasons that we are seeking or avoiding eye contact during sex. This begs the question and conversation needed in your marriage, “What does eye contact during sex mean to me?”
3. If you want more eye contact, you must be a place for your spouse to feel safe enough to let you “see” them deeply.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share segments from the 2021 Annual Marriage Retreat Q&A session, recorded with a live audience. We tackle topics including sexy hygiene, dealing with aversion to the sex act, overcoming sexual trauma, and how to "keep striving" without pressuring.

We also want to recognize our Retreat sponsors again. THANK YOU!
Married Dance — marrieddance.com
Websites that Sell — websitesthatsell.com
Ghost Sherpa — ghostsherpa.com
InfiniteMoon — infinitemoon.com
Mentionables — mentionables.com
Dating Divas — thedatingdivas.com
Uberlube — uberlube.com


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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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This episode is an excerpt from a LIVE recording at the 2021 Intimate Covenant Annual Marriage Retreat in Houston, TX. Matt & Jenn field questions about recommendations for sex toys, using Skype sex when couples are apart and how to begin the journey to healing after betrayal by pornography addiction.

Thank you to these incredible companies that supported our 2021 Retreat:
Married Dance — marrieddance.com
Websites That Sell — websitesthatsell.com
Ghost Sherpa — ghostsherpa.com
InfiniteMoon — infinitemoon.com
Mentionables — mentionables.com
The Dating Divas — thedatingdivas.com
Uberlube — uberlube.com

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode Matt & Jenn complete their series on overcoming common barriers to sex with discussion about work, travel (physical separation) and separate bedtimes.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Keep your job in perspective. No career or job is worth sacrificing your marriage over.
3. If you must be physically separated by travel, have a plan for how you will maintain connection while away from each other.
4. As much as possible, go to bed together. It’s better for your relationship overall and certainly better for your sex life.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss overcoming some more barriers to sex -- health, aging, screens and humor.

1. Learning to identify and eliminate barriers to sex in our relationships requires honest introspection and humility. This process will improve our married sex lives, but also benefit every other aspect of your relationship.
2. Since sex is so much more than joining genitals, we can still have pleasurable and deeply meaningful sex even if our body fails us.
3. Put down your screens and be willing to lean into vulnerable conversations. The risk and anxiety will be worth it for your relationship.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss how to deal with one of the most challenging barriers to sex ...kids. 

1. Daily life often seems to get in the way, creating barriers that hinder our ability to enjoy the sexual connection we would like to have with one another.
2. Have an action plan to combat the barriers that interfere with your sex life! Learn to name your barriers, asking yourself “why?” these barriers exist, then share these barriers with your spouse. Be willing to hear their barriers too and then together discuss solutions.
3. Kids are a beautiful blessing and direct results of the sexual intimacy in your marriage. But, they are also a primary threat to the ongoing sexual intimacy in your marriage if you aren’t taking intentional steps to prioritize your covenant.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss the pitfalls of expecting our spouse to be a mind-reader and how to avoid the fight over sexual rejection.

1. Neither of you is a mind-reader. Each must be clear about sexual desires and expectations. Foster intimate conversation on all levels in your relationship.
2. Sexual rejection doesn’t have to result in a fight. Grace, empathy, and compassion are required for each to better understand what sexual rejection means to the other.
3. When there is greater intimacy overall, sexual rejection is less divisive. But, each of you should also examine how you can reduce the frequency of rejection.

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn recommend sparking some fun and romance in your marriage by flirting!

1. Flirting with your spouse is important to your relationship because it reinforces your commitment to one another in a playful, fun, and romantic way.
2. Flirting lets your spouse know that they are special to you and worth the extra effort.
3. Take some time to consider how you can reignite the romantic spark in your relationship with a little flirting.

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]

In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the importance of creating a master bedroom that is a haven for you and your beloved. Also, we'll share crucial details to consider when choosing the best mattress for sex.

1. Prioritize your master bedroom. It should be a place of solace and escape with your beloved. Invest the time and effort into making it just that!
2. Your bedroom is your sex room. Create an atmosphere that helps prepare you emotionally, romantically,  physically, and logistically for sex.
3. Deepen your sexual intimacy by decorating in a way that helps pleasantly engage all of your senses. 

To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Connect with the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form.
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the special way that wives are asked to be submissive to their husbands. Specifically, we consider what this looks like in the sexual relationship.

1. Like we talked about last week, all are to be “submissive to one another,” yet, there is a special way in which wives are to be submissive to their husbands.
2. Submission must be defined and practiced in the way that the church is subject to Christ by fulfilling the precious role of womanhood with a “gentle and quiet spirit”.
3. In the bedroom, wives must be willing to engage in a shared sexual relationship by responding enthusiastically, serving her husband, and owning her responsibility to grow.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss what it means for a husband to be "head of the wife." And, how does this concept extend to the bedroom?

1. Before attempting to understand headship, I must first recognize my obligation to submit to all. Mutual submission is essential to every human relationship and crucially important between a husband and wife.
2. Headship is defined and exemplified by Christ’s headship of the church. This means that authority is the smallest part of headship, and only meaningful if exercised through complete self-sacrifice.
3. My role as a head when it comes to our sexual relationship is to love, protect, nurture and sanctify my wife — spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. My needs must come second.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how a wife can learn to balance her roles as both caregiver (Mom Mode) and lover (Lover Girl).

1. Most wives struggle to find balance between their roles as a caregiver and lover. But, a wife can learn to be both, at the same time.
2. Wives can access “Lover-Girl” more easily when they begin actively looking for sexual cues, learn to harness their husband’s sexual energy, and see the benefits of sex for themselves.
3. Husbands can help by offering and providing a place of retreat from the constant demands on his wife rather than presenting himself as just another need.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge you to bring your heart, soul, strength, and mind to the marriage bed. Plus, get a sneak peak at the them and topics for the 2021 Marriage Retreat!

1. The focus of the 2021 Intimate Covenant Retreat is to renew our view of marriage as a spiritual endeavor and elevate our purpose beyond the day-to-day obligations of running a household. 
2. Sex should be a place where a couple joins more than just two sets of genitals. Sex should be an opportunity to connect heart, soul, strength, and mind.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how the betrayer can help in healing and restoration of the relationship.

1. If you have betrayed your spouse, you must humbly demonstrate that you feel the pain you have caused AND be willing to drastically change your behavior because of it. 
2. Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal will require time and vulnerability on the part of the betrayer.
3. With betrayal, understanding the dynamic that led to the betrayal must be part of the healing and restoration of the relationship.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat
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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some research and statistics about how normal couples have sex.

1. Most married couples have sex between twice a month to twice a week, depending on which data you look at. Sexual frequency does decline with age, but older couples still have fairly frequent sex.
2. Nearly all couples have intercourse. Many also engage in oral sex and partnered masturbation.
3. Sexual frequency and sexual practices do not necessarily correlate with relationship quality. Ultimately, our sexual practices and frequencies should be determined by what is best for the oneness in our relationship, not driven by trying to be “normal” or “average.”

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss moving past the pain of betrayal towards restoration and healing in your marriage.

1. The first step to overcoming betrayal is to admit your feelings of hurt, anger, resentment or grief and confront your spouse with your feelings.
2. Talk about it in the right way and in the right setting. Know when you need help.
3. Believe in the power of healing found in a full connection with your beloved.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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Credits:
Announcer — Daniel DeGarmo
Music — Jonathan Dow

In this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge and encourage us to put in the hard work necessary to grow and expand our sexual relationship.

1. Believing that great sex just occurs spontaneously and effortlessly is actually preventing us from achieving good sex.
2. Great sex, like any other mastery, is the product of consistent, intentional work over time.
3. Take responsibility for your part in growing your sexual relationship. Then, commit yourself to learning, cultivating and expanding your sex towards greater oneness.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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Credits:
Announcer — Daniel DeGarmo
Music — Jonathan Dow

In this episode, Matt & Jenn consider guidelines that honor God and our spouses when talking to our friends about sex.

1. It is important for God’s people to be talking about sex in a positive and holy way. There is power in a community of believers sharing the beauty of God’s plan.
2. But, sharing intimate details about your personal sex life with anyone other than your spouse is a betrayal. Don’t do it.
3. Follow the lead of Scripture. There is a way to talk about sex that is wholesome and appropriate without giving away all of your privacy.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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Credits:
Announcer — Daniel DeGarmo
Music — Jonathan Dow

In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some of their favorite marriage and sex book recommendations.

1. Find good resources that encourage your marriage and share these with you spouse.
2. If you have trouble in your marriage, seek help from those capable of helping — spiritual mentors, church elders, and professional therapists.
3. If you are a leader, especially in your local congregation, strengthen your marriage. And, equip yourself to help other marriages by developing a biblical view of marriage and sex — good books or other resources can help.

• Good Books for Leaders (but really for everyone)
  • Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
  • 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
• General Marriage & Sexuality Books
  • Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
  • Cherish by Gary Thomas
  • God Loves Sex by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III
  • Intimate Allies by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III
• Wives
  • Hot, Holy and Humorous by J Parker (also a blog by the same name)
  • The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire
• PreMarital
  • Not Yet Married by Marshall Segal
  • 9 Conversations for a Doubt Free Wedding by Gary Thomas

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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Credits:
Announcer — Daniel DeGarmo
Music — Jonathan Dow

In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions about using private masturbation as a way to help deal with sexual desire and arousal differences between spouses.

1. Any two individuals in a marriage will be quite different when it comes to sexual desire and motivations for sex. Our challenge is to recognize these differences and turn toward each other with empathy, humility, and service.
2. The purpose of our sexual relationship is to promote, accentuate and motivate the fullness of connection in a covenant relationship. We should be motivated to serve our spouse, learn about them, and grow together.
3. When we change the focus of sex to be primarily about pleasure, orgasm, or arousal (especially our own); then we miss the fulness of the sexual connection and the opportunity to benefit the whole relationship.

Register for the 2021 Annual Retreat in September: https://intimatecovenant.com/retreat
Including a special performance by Dawn & Hawkes.

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Cherishing,
Matt & Jenn

PS — If you are interested in bringing Matt & Jenn to your church or small group to speak about the beauty of God’s plan for marriage and sexuality, please contact us: [email protected]



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Intimate Covenant | Matt & Jenn Schmidt

Credits:
Announcer — Daniel DeGarmo
Music — Jonathan Dow