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2020-10-25 - Sunday Morning at Crosswalk

October 25, 2020 Mitch Pridgen
Crosswalk Church of Daytona Beach
2020-10-25 - Sunday Morning at Crosswalk
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Crosswalk Church of Daytona Beach
2020-10-25 - Sunday Morning at Crosswalk
Oct 25, 2020
Mitch Pridgen
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Take your Bibles and turn with me to the book of Ephesians. As we continue our study here, chapter five. I'm going to be reading verses 22 all the way through verse 33. However, we're not going to get anywhere near the end of our message this morning. And there's a reason for that because in light of the fact that we have so much going on this morning, which is wonderful, I want to make sure that I don't necessarily rush through the text. And miss wat we can save her and truth from it. Ephesians five verses 22. And following wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior. Now as the church submits to Christ. So also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands love your wives. As Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word. So they might present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing. That she might be Holy and without blemish in the same way. Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife. And the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife seat that see that she respects her husband. This is not a text, as you will know, if you've been with us over the last several months is not a text I've simply pulled out of thin air and decided I would preach on this morning. I have said to you all countless times that one of the, uh, one of the joys of expository preaching yet also one of the dangers of expository preaching is that when you're going through a text of scripture, you're going to come to these verses. You can not. Ignore them or avoid them. They are there and they are to be preached and to be looked at just like every other part of the scripture. Now, as we know up to this point, Paul has been addressing how believers are to conduct themselves in light of their union with Christ and how their conduct either contributes to. Or diminishes the unity of the church. Those are the imperatives that we've seen so far in chapters four and five. He began his emphasis on imperatives in verse one of chapter four. You recall, by writing these words, he says, walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called. And closes it in verse 21 of chapter five, by writing the words that I just read to you. Well, read to you last week, actually submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. So while Paul was pinning these words there in the center of his mind in the front and center of his thinking was the unity in the church, the body of Christ. So when you look back at those imperatives, which he begins by. By addressing how we conduct ourselves, how we walk then closing that thought by instructing us to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ all have to do with the unity in the church. Now, while the ink was still wet on the words we read in verse 21 last week, Paul immediately. Takes the thought of the previous verse that is submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ and transitions to the relationship between a wife and her husband and a husband and a wife. Now, Paul remains on this subject all the way to the end of chapter five in verse 33, which is the reason that I read the whole text to you. There is an outstanding book called recovering biblical manhood. And womanhood is sedative by John Piper and Wayne Grudem. And it is a compilation of essays written by a variety and a large variety of Christian scholars, theologians, commentators, and pastors. And each of those essays addresses an issue in regards to womanhood, manhood, marriage, and things like that. In the eighth chapter of the book, there's an essay that has been written by George W. Knight. The third and the title of his essay has to do with this particular passage of scripture in Ephesians chapter five, verse 22 and verse 23 and following, and he comments in the opening of his essay in this book, he says, quote, the longest statement. I'm sure that you know this, I'm not telling you something that. You're not aware of. He says, quote, the longest statement in the new Testament on the relationship of husbands and wives is Ephesians chapter five, verse 21 through verse 23. Now end of quote. Now, if you are looking for a parallel to this ch this verse, does these verses in the scripture will actually find them in what Paul writes to calotte to the cautions in Colossians chapter three. Verses 18 and 19 where they, it is a bit shorter, but Paul succinctly States the main points he brings out in Ephesians chapter five, 21 through 22 through 23, he reiterated them. But in a concise way in cautious, three, 18 and 19 at night also points out in his essay that it is important to determine the flow of the apostles presentation. Of the subject. Let me go back for just a second and say, by the way, those are not the only two places that Paul addresses the relationship of husband and wife or wife and husband. We see that for instance, in Corinthians, we also see first Corinthians, we see it in Titus and we also see it in first Timothy, but we need to, to give ourselves attention to the flow of the apostles presentation in his epistles. Paul writes on several matters that subject him to criticism. Now you think about that. That's really pretty natural to think about here. You have the individual who God used to author. Well, over half of our new Testament, we have 27 letters or books in our new Testament and Paul authored over half of them. So when you do that and when you deal with the subject matter that Paul deals with, for example, if you take the theological treaties, we've found, we find in the first 11 chapters of the book of Romans. Paul deals with some significant deep theological truths that have now for 2000 years, been the subject of much commentary, debate and controversy. For example, justification. Justification by faith, but justification by faith alone, all the things that Paul deals with. So you can understand why when you are in the position that he was in being chosen by God, to author that much of our new Testament writings, that you would be subject to criticism. However, and I want to make this clear from the very beginning, however, for those who hold tenaciously, To the doctrine of inspiration. There, there is no room for criticism notice. I did not say there's not reason for question in the sense of settling those issues by giving ourselves to the careful study of the scripture. But there is no room for criticism as those who are adherents. To the doctrine of the inspiration of scripture. We believe that the, the text before us, the Bible that you're holding in your laps this morning is the word of God. It is inspired by the spirit and it has been pinned by those whom God shows himself to author those words as he would move on them. Regardless of the difficulty we encounter when we come to a particular text and there's a variety of them, as I just said, this, the text prevails over our rebellious hearts. Now that should have drawn a roar of amens from those who hold to the doctrine of inspiration when it comes to the text of scripture. The scripture always prevails over our rebellious hearts. Ephesians five 22 through 23 is likely the text that is most responsible for attacks on Paul. Evangelical does say this as, even as I wrote this in my notes, I, I had a difficult time writing it. And it's not a phrase that I've coined myself. If you read any of the current or even the older, well, not necessarily the older, but more of the current writings in regards to marriage and the male female relationship, you'll see this term, but it's still a very difficult term for me to use. And it's called evangelical feminism. Evangelical feminists have leveled some pretty serious charges against Paul. Everything from referring to him as a male chauvinist to actually in scripture rating his own prejudices on the pages of scripture. And by the way, those accusations or no small are no small thing. Because of Paul's teaching on authority because of Paul's teaching on submission in marriage. Paul has been for centuries most recently in the few decades has been vilified as being one who is locked into his culture, carrying on the rabbinic traditions of his day. No relevance whatsoever to this day. So many have. At best at worst dismissed him or at best ignored him at worst, have dismissed his writings in regards to those areas. So as we approach a text like Ephesians chapter five verses 22 through 33, what is of utmost importance is whether we are truly willing to say all the Bible. Is the authoritative word of God. And will we submit ourselves to it regardless of how it stands in opposition to the world or the cultures mindset. And before launching into our texts, let me preface our op our exposition with the view observations, the relationship. Between a husband and a wife. And I will tell you this, I've done. I've said this to you before, oftentimes during a given week or more, as I prepare a message and I have actually, I brought this to show you that this is the case. I have seven pages of a previously written sermon in regards to the written in the last week. That I was going to share with you this morning. And as I went back over it, I thought, okay. I felt like I was perhaps digging a theological hole, that it was funny a lot of time to get myself out of none that anything I was going to say was wrong or are out of order, not at all. How might I. B be more concise in communicating Paul's intended message to us here. So in the previous study, when I went back, I went all the way back and did an in-depth study on the family on, for example, what we know as the nuclear family, where that term came from a word, for example, that was coined by. At that time, what would be called a social anthropologist in the 1940s in 1942 was a year that, that word or that phrase was coined nuclear family and what that particular phrase meant and what it has come to me. And even today in light of some, some current cultural movements that are sweeping through our world is under assault. The whole idea of the nuclear family itself under assault. And in that study, I was dealing with the relationship between a husband and a wife and how the world view that, how these social anthropologists looked at that. But this is what I just kind of narrowed it down to say this again, the relationship between a husband and a wife is not a social construct that finds its origin in the ideas of men. We have to accept that. That is a, that is a real absolute truth there. That marriage is not a construct or the relationship between a husband and wife is not merely a social construct in the ideas that find their origin in the ideas of men. This is very important that we find because we find his origin in the beginning of the history of man we see in the, in the Genesis account of creation. God in Genesis one has created all things. Even the crown of his creation, man in Genesis one 27, which is the image bearer of God. Genesis two, then gives us a, we are provided in Genesis two with further details of the creation. We see in Genesis one 27. And following we learned from chapter two in Genesis that the man singular. Was created before the woman in the Genesis one account when creating madness a plural meaning there, in that he talked about humanity, creating man and woman. And then we get the details of that creation in chapter two or the specifics in regards to that re creation. And that we are told in Genesis two, that God created man, before he created the woman. In other words, there was a period of time the man or the male was alone. And then in Genesis two verse 18, we read these words and how sweet words they are. The Lord, God said it is not good. That man should be alone. And every man should right now roar. Amen. It is not good. That man should be alone. I will make him a helper fit for him. And God did just this. And cha in verses 21 and 22, and then verse 20, you two closes by telling us a Genesis to telling us God brought this helper to the man. And in verse 23 and 24, you see God God's institution of marriage with the use of the terms, the man and his wife. The first time we find that word used on the pages of scripture. In the Genesis account, we see the order of creation man was created. First appoint. Paul makes an epistle to Timothy is first a vessel chapter two verse 13, where he writes for Adam was formed first, then Eve we also see the two fold purpose of God in creating woman. Number one to complete man. And secondly, to provide for him a helper. It's also important for us to note that in this order of creation, and I want to make this very clear to us in this order of creation, the order itself has absolutely no bearing on the following things. And this is important that you get these, the order of creation has absolutely no bearing on the following. Here. They are both male and female are equal. In value equal in value, equal in personhood and equal in bearing the image of God equal in value, equal in person and equal and bearing the image of God Eve was not a less lesser in any of these areas. I just gave you. I'll add that when it comes, I'll even add one more that when it comes to redemption, there is equality as well. Paul tells us that in English, where he says that in salvation, there's neither male nor female. There is no distinction in regards to redemption between a man and a woman. We all come to salvation the very same way through, by grace, through faith in the Lord. Jesus Christ. So clearly we see that women, our wives are equal in value, personhood bearing the image of God and the redemption. There is a spiritual equality. However, it must also be noted that in the order of creation, there is the purpose of God. In regards to who bears are regarding who bears the primary responsibility to lead. Scripture reveals to us that the man, the husband bears the primary responsibility to lead the partnership and it God glorifying direction. Raymond Orland in his essay in the same book I referenced a moment ago makes that quote. He says bears the primary, the man bears the primary responsibility to lead the partnership. Now notice the way Orland says it here in a God glorifying direction. When we recognize this the verses 22 through 24 of Ephesians five, make very good sense. In verse 21 of these five Paul States and abroad principle. Regarding relationships in the body of Christ the church. He says there, as I've mentioned to you, before that we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ, that submission being a voluntary willful giving up of our rights and perhaps even our own will for the benefit and sake of others. And we do that in reverence or regard or respect, fear for God or Christ. And so if you look at this in a very real sense, very specific sense, wives are likewise, especially we see in verse 22 are likewise to submit to their husbands. Now the Greek word in verse 21, translated submit or submitting. Is the very same Greek word used in verse 22. I gave that word to you last white Hoopa. Taso last week, I gave that to you it's it has the basic meaning of two subject or subordinate now one particular, and there, there are many resources that you could use, but one particular Greek English lexicon. Rightly describes this word, Hoopa Taso as submission. Now listen carefully to how it's described submission in the sense of voluntarily yielding in love, voluntarily yielding in love. This is the meaning, not only in verse 21 in regards to our relationship with one another in the body of Christ, it is also the very meaning of Paul's use of it in verse 22, just as in verse 21, there is the idea. Of voluntarily yielding one's rights and will to another, a fellow believer in verse 22, there is the idea of voluntary yielding of the wife's rights and will to her husband. And Paul even goes so far as to say in verse 22 as to the lore. Now, deal with that more in just a moment. Now I dealt with this a little bit last week, but not in detail. And I won't deal with it in much more detail this morning. One Lee, in fact, Kista maker, I believe it's Simon Kista maker in his commentary there Hendrickson William Henderson and his commentary on this particular verse spends quite a bit of time. In fact, a page and a half almost of transitioning the word, submit to the word obedience. And while the word Hoover Taso does carry with it. The idea of obey or obedience, it really obedience or obey is a completely different word than what Paul, by the inspiration of spirit chooses to use here. So while some commentators interpret the word obey when discussing the text, in fact, you may have been at you don't, you don't necessarily hear this much anymore necessarily, but I can remember growing up and being at weddings and the one at the ready ceremony, the officiant would all oftentimes say, do you promise to honor and obey your husband? And that was the charge given to the wife. And I thought to myself, wow. I mean being a kid, listening to this, I'm thinking I know what obey means to me as a child, to my parents really, is that what the pastor's insinuating by doing this? So, but when we use that word in discussing the texts, caution must be exercised obedience in the strictest sense is not the same as submission in this context. One may be forced to obey. They may even be forced to submit, but again, the meeting here is the willful voluntary surrender of one's independent rights to another. Now may point out for us four things in verse 22, we see verses 22 through 24, we see four things and you see two of them. The first two of the four things given to us. In verse 22. So follow along with me again, as we look at this first, very carefully, he says wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. Number one, number one to your own husband. This expresses the notion of belonging. The wife belongs to the husband and the husband. Belongs to his wife. There is a mutual belonging. Think of it this way. When we had, when we speak of our spouses, do we not? When we're talking to someone else, else, do we not refer to them as my spouse? My husband and my wife, depending on who is doing the talking. And so there is this sense of mutual belonging there. The wife belongs to the husband. The husband belongs to the wife. No woman is hereby ordered to submit herself to one who does not belong to her husband. And no man, who is not the husband of the woman has a right to require or demand her submission. And that's the point that he's making now. Secondly, how is this submission to be done? He says as to the Lord, this refers to God's ordained and revealed order because the man, the husband bears the primary role of responsibility of leadership to submit to him is in effect to do so as to the Lord in my previous draft of this morning's message, I took quite a bit of time. And not developed this idea of how we see this in the scripture, how we see this submission modeled for us in the scripture. Actually the most beautiful example and illustration or model of this submission is what we see in the Godhead. The Trinity itself, you have three distinct persons in the Godhead. All co-equal in every way fully and truly God, all three and yet in the Godhead, do we not see the model of this principle of submission? Certainly we do. For example, God orders, the sun carries out for Gibson is a beautiful example of that. And the spirit continues to work. That purpose. So we see that happening, even when Jesus in his earthly ministry, as he walked upon this earth in man in the form of human flesh, submitted himself willingly. In fact, we're told that when he, he became obedient even to death, death on the cross submitting himself to the perfect will of his father. So when we're told to submit as to the Lord. Our submission is to be as though we are submitting ourselves to the Lord himself in verse 20 in verse 23, though, we see now the third of the four key things, the first two, your own husband, the second as to the Lord. And then thirdly, we read this in verse 23 for the husband is the head of the wife. Now this has been, as you can imagine, the source of contention. And continues to be for many, in other words, you take the Greek word and you have to determine what does that mean? Which is interpreted head here. What does that word mean? Now? I'm going to tell you that in spite of the contention of some, that word does imply authority. It is God's plan for the husband to be the functional notice, the functional head, the leader, or authority in the home. And when men abdicate this God ordained role, what happens? People. What happens when God advocates is when man advocates, this God ordain role, or when women use SERP, it, there is dysfunction in virtually all the area of a family's life. And I'm not going to stay on this very long because I just, I simply can't. But this, when I told you a while ago that we are seeing today the whole concept. Um, the nuclear family under attack. This is, this is going to be the result of that hat you are going to see. And we, we have already seen in this area, tremendous dysfunction in all areas of our society, our culture, and especially in families. There are some today that are even arguing. Very ferociously that the whole concept of the family consisting of a husband and a wife and children is in fact oppressive and must be completely dismissed and pushed aside that it is a construct that has been created. By man, in order to oppress particular segments of our society and our culture. And so they want nothing more than to see that nuclear family, that idea of the nuclear family destroyed. And so what we are seeing as a result of that is utter dysfunction in virtually all areas of our families in all areas of our culture, the idea of authority. Is supported by what Paul writes next. In this first, he writes as Christ is head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior. So the husband is the head just in the same way here, you have the clarity of the passage in Paul's saying that the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ. Is the head of the church, the body, and is the savior. And one has to willfully ignore that this passage refers to the issue of authority. Some have argued that the work fle means actually to, uh, it means the source of the husband is a source to the wife, as Christ is a source to the work to the church. That is a stretch of the meaning of that word. While we certainly know that Christ is our source. And in many ways, the husband in a relationship might be the source of support for the family. That's not what Paul does. Meaning here. Christ is indeed the head that is the authority over the church. In fact, he is in all things to have. As I said, in my opening prayer this morning, he is to have the preeminence in the church. All authority rests in him. In fact, at his very Ascension, as he ascends, he says all. Has been given to me too. That doesn't mean necessarily, even though he does possess old power, there is an authority there. Two words use one for power and one for authority, the word power is doing the most, which we get our word dynamite from think of it in that light. And yet the word authority is another record altogether. when Jesus says all authority, you might read your son translations where it says all powers given to me, the Greek word literary there is Which means all authorities. So now he rules in reigns, not only in all power and all dune must, but he also ring reigns in all of authority. Christ is the authority over the church. And so we, when we submit to Christ as the authority of church, we are following the divine order that God has laid down for us. And yet amazingly under the inspiration of spirit, Paul likens, that submission to authority of the wife, to the husband as the same authority we, as believers are to have for Christ in the church. What is true for us as Christians in the church? It's true for the wife in regards to the husband, I've heard over the years, some people would make the statement. Well, pastor, if they want, if the husband is the head and then the wife is the neck, that turns the head, that's not in the text, that's not what it says. And that is not. What it means. It means exactly what it says. Then there's the fourth key. The fourth key you see in verse 24 now as the church submits to Christ. So wives also should submit in everything to their husbands. So here's the fourth thing. Paul likens, the why wives submission. To their husbands, to the churches, submission to Christ the wife's submission to her husband models, the Christ models, the church's submission to Christ. However, this time Paul adds a little bit here. He says in everything to their husbands pause for a moment. One does not have to think hard or long on how this can be misinterpreted and misused or MIS applied. You know what the Bible says, honey, in all things, in everything, in everything, we'll make this clear as I possibly can in everything is not meant here to include. Things that violate God's moral or spiritual principles. A husband listen, man, a husband has no authority whatsoever to require of his wife. Anything that is contrary to God's word or is in violation with God's character, which by the way, are synonymous nor does the husband and get this one. Nor does the husband have any authority to demand his wife to do anything which violates her conscience or convictions? Those two things are important. Where, where would I support that position? When I make that statement, for example, that nor does a husband have any authority to demand his wife to do anything which violates her conscience or convictions. If I were to want to draw one text, Which we've already looked at extensively last week and briefly this morning, but I wanted to draw one text to support that position. Where would that text be found if you found in Ephesians five 21, that we are to submit submitting ourselves to one another out of reverence for Christ again, reiterating the importance of understanding that word submit as a voluntary willful. Giving of one's will for the sake of others. And so as a husband, if, uh, if something violates the, the conscience or the convictions of a woman out of reverence for Christ, it is the husband's place to submit. Sadly, over the years, I personally pastorally had to deal with some situations. Some of them not very pleasant. That resulted from this very thing where people have sat across and have communicated and women have sat across and communicated that they did what they did knowing it wasn't right feeling as though it wasn't right uncomfortable with what they were being asked to do, because the Bible tells them they must submit in everything to their husband. That's a perversion. Of that text of scripture. Some have even been told by told this by their husbands. And interestingly, some cases, some of the husbands were unbelievers. It is amazing how much scripture unbelieving husbands know when it's to their benefit, especially when they have a believing wife. Well, I know she knows the Bible and I know she submits in every thing. Let me just tell you this, um, men are never to abuse the authority. God has delegated to them. Listen, man, we are never to abuse the authority. God has delegated to us. Do you understand that? Any authority, please? Again, listen. Any of authority whatsoever. We claim to possess today. Or we have today is, is an authority that has been delegated or given to us by God revealed to us in the pages of his word. You step outside of that realm, you have absolutely no authority. It stands that way. Even pastorally a pastor has no more authority. Then that, which is given to him in regards to the serving and then that, which is given to him on the pages of scripture, when he goes outside of that realm of authority described and prescribed in scripture, he is acting with an illegitimate authority. And I can tell you this, that even husbands can act with illegitimate authority when they begin to demand things. Or require things or ask things that are in violation of God's word God's will and God's character, or also in violation of the conscience and conviction of his wife. And yet I've seen, I've seen over and over again, the beauty of this submission when done correctly, any authority. Again, has been delegated to him and must be exercised for the purposes that God has intended and to be carried out God's way. What exactly is the way in which man exercises his authority in the marriage? Paul deals with this, by the way, in the next eight verses. You'll notice that in this passage of scripture, there are 22, 23, 24. There are three verses three verses that deal with the wives, wives submission of the wife, wife's submission to the husband. And yet there are eight verses eight verses directed to the husband. On how he is to carry out his headship or leadership in the family. As I've addressed these verses this morning, you have to be thinking perhaps some are, I hope not. Well, you know, this, these shirts seem outdated. And in light of, especially in light of our current culture, you might even have been whispering under your breath, Mitch. This is 2020. This is not 56, a D 68 D not only are they considered antiquated, sadly, they are equally despised. However, neither the fact that one may think they're antiquated nor the fact that they simply just don't like them, neither of those negate or cancel their truthfulness might not say in some will understand what I'm saying. There is no cancel culture in regards to the word of God. These verses are applicable as applicable this day as they were, when Paul pinned them, they are God's word and God's word never changes. Amen. Now I know you're seeing, are we going to stop there? We're actually going to stop here. Because I'm going to come back briefly to this, the Lord willing next week, as I prepare to launch into what Paul writes in regards to how husbands are to regard their wives in the marriage relationship. So let's bow our heads and let's pray. And then I'll give you instructions on how we'll carry on the remainder of this morning. Father as we open our Bibles, there are oftentimes those texts that are before us that perhaps are challenging, uh, challenging in light of the day in which we live, um, challenging in light of the mindset of our culture in light of the different assaults that are being even out perpetrated against the truth. Of God's word, the truth of the scripture. And I pray that you will help us through the indwelling presence of your spirit to desire, to not only understand the truth, but to live the truth that we are given. We recognize that everything that you have ordered and ordained is for our benefit for our welfare, for. Our ultimate good. And for your ultimate glory. So when you created us male and female, when you created the institution of marriage, husband, and wife, there are relational things that you clearly ordered in regards to that relationship. That is for our benefit for our welfare, but ultimately for your glory. I pray that we would see those things that we would accept. Those things that we would walk in those things and in, so doing live our lives in a way that is not only pleasing to you, but in a way that is most honorable to you as well. Thank you father, for the relationship of marriage. Thank you for those who are married, those who. Our husbands and those who are wives, even within the sound of my voice this morning, I pray for every relationship, every marriage that is represented here and that it will be lived out to the glory of God all the days that you give us on this earth. I pray all of these things in Jesus name. Amen.