Crosswalk Church of Daytona Beach

2020-11-01 Sunday Morning at Crosswalk

November 01, 2020 Mitch Pridgen
Crosswalk Church of Daytona Beach
2020-11-01 Sunday Morning at Crosswalk
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Crosswalk Church of Daytona Beach
2020-11-01 Sunday Morning at Crosswalk
Nov 01, 2020
Mitch Pridgen
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Take your Bibles and turn with me again to the book of Ephesians, where we have been for some time now. We are we much of this we've seen over the last couple of months as we've done our exposition of the last three chapters, even though we've only done four and five so far, we haven't gotten to three began our exposition of the last three chapters, looking at them as what we consider to be the imperatives that have been based upon the indicatives that Paul lays out for us in the first three chapters, the indicatives being. The theological teaching that Paul gave us in those three chapters, how deep and how rich it is. And then beginning in chapter four, when you are commanded to consider the way that we walk or live walking in a manner worthy of the calling to which we have been called. Now, we see how all those indicatives, all this doctrinal truths that we've learned are to be lived out. So it's more practical with that said. Even though the imperatives have dealt pretty significantly with what we would consider to be practical issues. We never want to think that for any reason whatsoever, Paul abandons, his theological teaching, that's just simply not true how rich it is to see him integrate profound doctrinal truths. Into such practical applications. And this happens to be a text that deals with that. It's very practical. And yet at the same time, it is richly theological. We're talking about the relationship between wives and husbands now in English standard version, which is what many of you have, because it's the Pew Bible or the Bible that you might use for your personal study. And devotion and the English standard version verse 22 of chapter five begins a new paragraph. So let's start there and let's read verse 22 through verse 33, and that's going to be our text for the morning, Ephesians five verse 22 wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior. Now as the church submits to Christ. So also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands love you. Your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. That he might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water, with the word so that he might present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be Holy and without blemish in the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He, you loves his wife. Loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife. And the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound. And I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband verse 22, which I just read to you is though connected in thought to verse 21. In verse 21, we saw Paul closed that particular section with these words, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Now it's important for us know, not that you would know this because likely not many of you have a Greek new Testament in your lab, but in the Greek text, in the Greek new Testament. In verse 21, we see the word, the Greek word translated somebody from the Greek word to submit Hoopa. Taso we see that word in submitting in verse 21. Then in our English translation, as I just read you in verse 22, you see the word submit used again. However, if you were to look at the Greek text Tupa Taso does not appear in the Greek text. It does not appear in verse 22 as it does in 21. When we see the flow from verse 21 to 22, we see not only the connection, but the addition of that word to the texts clarifies what Paul is writing. I'll give you another example of this. If you were to look at some of the older King James versions of our Bibles. Often words in the texts will be written in italics. And perhaps you've wondered why as you've read the Bible, why is that particular word in italics? Well, the word is in italics because it is not in the original text in the original languages have been added by the translators in order to clarify the texts. And they want you to know that. And so when you think about submit added diverse 22, it clarifies based upon the thought that we saw in verse 21, what Paul was going to say in verses 22 and following now, no one would argue that when Paul writes in verse 20, one of submitting to one, another out of reverence for Christ, and then immediately writes what he does in verse 22, that there's not a connection, obviously there is. Let me try to explain what that connection is in regards to the unity of the body of Christ, the church, which has been the subject of what Paul writes in Ephesians so far, and even early on mutual submission mutual submission is essential. Mutual submission is the recognition of the rights. Needs and wishes of other believers in the body. And we talked about that pretty extensively a couple of weeks ago, we touched on it again last week, this mutual submission is a voluntary, willingness to surrender one's rights and will or whatever it might be for the sake of, as Paul writes. In Romans chapter 12, verse 10, outdoing, one another in showing honor, as well as what he writes in Philippians two, three, by doing nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves. So you see there that principle of mutual mutual submission and the reason behind it. But you think about this today, how unpopular the notion of submission is it just goes against our, the grain of our, our culture and against the grain of our upbringing to think of. Submitting our wheels and our wishes and our rights to someone else for the sake or for the benefit of someone else. But in reality, that is what the scripture says is essential. When it comes to unity in the body. Can you imagine. A body of believers where every single person, regardless of how many there are in number or how few there are in number are demanding their rights. And demanding it be done their way to their fancy, according to their will. May I ask you a question? Not to answer, but the ponder, I wonder how long there would be unity, if there was even such a thing as unity in such a relationship as that we've seen, in fact, Many of us have come over the years of our walk with Christ. Many of you have walked with Christ perhaps longer than I have, but just in my 40 years of following Christ, almost 40 years of following Christ, I've seen this disunity that those who demand, who will demand it to be their way, and they will the dish unity that it brings to the church giving no thought whatsoever to the idea of outdoing one another. And laying aside our selfish ambition, considering others to be more significant then even ourselves. So Brittany, that into context of what Paul writes beginning in verse 22, while there is certainly a connection between verse 22, 21 and 22, there's also a notable transition. And I want you to take note of this in verse 21. Submitting to one another is a very broad principle affecting all the members of the body. Now, when you get to verse 22, Paul transitions by might I say narrowing? The principal down significantly. He brings the idea of submission, which is really a thought process. Paul is following through with here. He brings the idea of submission into what we call the most foundational or fundamental relate, fundamental relationship among humans. And that would be the relationship that exists between wives and husbands. As I said last week verses 22 through 23. Give us the longest teaching in the new Testament concerning the marriage relationship concerning the relationship that exists between husbands. And wives. Now there are some parallel passages. We see that in first Corinthians 11, which I'll refer to this morning. We see it in Colossians three, which I'll also refer to this morning, but this is the longest passage that Paul gives us in regards to that relationship. Now, Paul breaks his teaching down in these verses verses 22 through 33. He breaks it down into three parts for the sake of our giving, a little bit of an outline and looking at it in a structured manner. Number one. Which is wherever you were last week and the relationship of a wife and her husband versus 22, 23 and 24 three versus, and then he transitions is we're going to see in just a moment to the husband and his wife in verses 25 through 33. And then also in verse 33, the third part of Paul's breakdown is a summation of everything that he has said in verses 25 through 32. And the first part. Of Paul's teaching in verses 22 through 24 has to do with the wife's submission to her husband. Now I've made this note last week. Cause ladies, I saw some of you smile. I wish you could see the expressions that I get when I'm up here. It's really fun. In fact, some of you will remember that years ago, when I pastored in Atlanta, we had a storefront location where we had rented and we're meeting and the whole wall behind me was mirrors. And can you imagine that so that you saw yourself and so you were getting an idea by looking at yourself or what I was looking at every single Sunday when I spoke, but I brought this up last Sunday. I said nature. Notice in this text that Paul devotes three verses to the relationship of a wife with her husband. Which seems to be where for some reason, men, I wonder why want to put all them. And yet, as we'll see this morning, he devotes eight verses to the duty and responsibility of the husband in the room relationship. I think if we weigh it on a balance, I think we would easily determine where the significant part of this text rest. Not that the first three verses are insignificant because they are not, as I said last week, Paul's position stated in these verses those first three verses are read to you. 22, 23 and 24 have caused him to, and this is an understatement to be vilified by those who consider him too. Oh, a variety of things. It's amazing. I went back over the last couple of weeks and I've been reading different materials in regards to reading. And in fact, how some have, have. Mistranslated misinterpreted argued, played all kinds of gymnastics with biblical texts to make it out, to be something that it was never intended to be, but they vilified him claiming, for example, one of the, probably the less serious charges I read, which would be very serious to me to be considered chauvinism. Oh, Paul's a male chauvinist. Even desire, desiring to somehow lower the status of women. And then it just went downhill from there. But I want to tell you something, and I said this again to you before, this is not, this is not the case at all. I want you to understand. And I'm, I'm confident that most within the sound of my voice know this and recognize this Nepal. Paul is not writing under the shadow or any shadow of chauvinism. He's not writing under any shadow of cultural norms at the time, nor is he writing under the shadow of his own rabbinic tradition. Which is what he's accused of doing Paul, however, is writing under the inspiration of the spirit. So the real issue comes down to whether we are going to accept the text as it is given to us, because if suddenly you approach this text, because it is an uncomfortable text and you want to take it out and put it in the realm of merely a social construct that Paul is writing. And then what do you do through the whole idea of divine inspiration of the scriptures? When Paul tells us. That all scripture, not some scripture, but all scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable, profitable for what project profitable for teaching, for instruction and for training in righteousness. So Paul is writing under the inspiration of the Holy spirit, the spirit is that okay, Paul, I'm going to leave for just a moment. You write what's on your mind and I'll come back and help you finish it out. No, that's not the case at all. So whatever. So whether it is this text here or what writes, what Paul writes in first Corinthians 11, three, or the parallel texts to Ephesians five 22 and through 24, Colossians three 18. The fact is this, the fact is that Paul is giving us the inspired scripture you have in your hands. The inspired word of God, but let's be clear what Paul is. Wha what Paul is being inspired to write is not meant to be demeaning. It's not meant to be derogatory toward women, not at all. And I laid this out for us, very clearly women like men and Paul recognizes this women like men bear the image of God. They are equal in value. They are equal in person. And in regards to redemption, there is equality. Well, Galatians three 28 tells us there is neither Jew nor Greek. There is neither slave nor free. There's neither male and female for you all are one in Christ. Jesus. Now that Galatians passage does not do away with God ordain roles and functions. It does a way no more than it does away with physical mail or physical female distinctions. The verse doesn't negate or void the idea of submission, but rather clearly expresses the spiritual equality that exists among all believers. It does not negate the functional order between man and woman at all. It was never given for that purpose in regards to how some, how I'm sorry, in regards to how home and society are to function, the scripture's clear. Think of it this way. A society, a society that cannot function. Without a system of authority or submission, if you do not. And boy, are we not seeing this play out right in front of us right now? And we liable to see it play out even more, but in a society where there is a failure and I'll even go further a refusal to recognize that there is viable authority. And there is a viable submission. The end is only chaos and anarchy. And boy, are we not seeing that the wives submission to her husband is, but a reflection of God's principle of authority and submission. As I stated earlier, the marriage relationship is the most. Basic human relationship. God has ordained. In fact, it is the first human relationship. If you take out of the mix, the fact that Adam had a relationship with God prior to the creation of Eve, this is the first human relationship or originated and ordained by God. We see that in Genesis two, verses 22 through 25. There exists, this notion or idea out there that in evangelicalism that the whole concept of male headship is a consequence of the fault that we see in Genesis three. This is not by the way, the case at all. While, as I said, God created male and female equally bearing his image. As well as other equalities they share from the beginning prior to the fall, the man and the husband was to lead his wife as well as his family. That is the way God has ordained things. Men are to be the lead. They are to be the head of their family. We see this order. And what Paul writes in first Corinthians chapter 11, verse three, a text I referred to a moment ago in this passage, you can Mark that text. If you want to. Paul Paul clearly lays out for his readers and by way of extension us God's orders order in regards to headship. This is what he writes in first Corinthians 11 three. He says, but I want you to understand. Did the head of every man is Christ. Now notice this, the head of every man is Christ. The head of a wife is her husband and the head of Christ is God. Now, in all of those instances that you read there in a relationship to the man in Christ, the man and his wife, And Christ and God, the word had is the very same Greek word. Why would you change the meaning of it to make it say something that it's not intended to say the word cafe and the Greek is actually a word cafe actually is a word that is being used figuratively. To me in a higher position of authority, that's clear in the text, is it not? When you go back to 11 three in first Corinthians, but I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ. What is Paul saying? That the authority over a man is who Christ. He is the authority. The one that we as men, not just meeting man in the male sense. In this case, it would be. There's a submit to Christ. And then the head of the wife is her husband. Why would you transition from that thought to the very second one? And then even when going to the third one, then the head of Christ is God. And I talked about this last week, give you that breakdown. Even in the Godhead, there is this order of authority that the scripture lays out for us very clearly. And we see it right here. what we read here. There's no question. As to the head being used to figure, remain a higher position authority yet under this headship, neither the wife listened very careful, neither his wife, nor the man nor Christ for that matter or demeaned in any way, shape, form, or fashion. When you look at it, Crisper's Corinthians 11 three, where's the demeaning disposition in the state. And that statement, it's not there. Crisis hit over men. Men are head over the women, their wives, and God is the head of Christ. What we see is a divine design and order if such order exists. I think again, if such order exists without the slightest problem in the Godhead, Why do so many deem it not only oppressive, but offensive in regard to the marriage. Feminism has labored long and hard, especially in sadly well, because it called evangelical feminism to persuade women more specifically, wives to resent the notion of any male authority in the marriage and demand, absolute equality in all matters. We have a word for that. And theological study is called egalitarianism. Which is the view that there is no role of function, distinctions, no role or function distinctions between male and female. In fact, do you remember, years ago, there was this commercial I'm trying to remember the toy commercial or what it was. It was this little boy and this little girl and the little girl would sing. And the reason I remember is because I happened to raise two daughters about that time. And, and the commercial, the little girl was saying, whatever you can do, I can do better. And that was the, that was the theme of that. And I would always encourage my girls to give it their all to just strive, to accomplish great things, to not, not letting themselves be old pressed, but here there's a galitary aneurysm, which it denies the reality of roles and functions between males and females. And then you have on the opposite and it just to give you the antithesis of that and feel out theology, what we call complementarianism not just merely in theology, which says that men and women are equal in value before God, but there are biblically defined roles and functions in the home and in the church. So if someone were to ask me, pastor Mitch, what is your position? And what is cross walks position in regards to the roles of men and women, husbands and wives, it would be complementarianism and not egalitarian ism. I do recognize that there are distinct roles and functions that women are to fulfill and are called to fulfill. And there are distinct roles that men are called to fulfill as well. Now I'm persuaded that a portion of the eels, not all the meals, but perhaps a significant portion of the meals we are now seeing in our society are the result of how this demand for absolute equality has played out when God's order. Is ignored or even worse rejected. The consequences can only be dire and that we are seeing played out right before our eyes today in many of the social reconstruction movements who actually deconstruction movements that are taking place in the whole idea, for example, of the nuclear family. And by the misconduct defined for you. What I mean by that, that nuclear family being a family that consists of a husband and a wife of father and a mother and their children, and there's there's distinct roles and functions within that family, or actually now being labeled by these new social deconstructionists being labeled as that, which was meant. And instituted years ago, perhaps even centuries ago, to oppress a certain people, whether they be gender, whatever ethnicity or whatever it might be. And so some of these movements are desiring to completely abolish and the Naya late, completely the whole idea, um, the, what we call the nuclear family. Don't let anybody tell you that a man's important in the home. Don't let anybody tell you that a father really is, has any significant bear. They're just telling you that in order to further oppress you and the family by way of their male leadership or headship, and it just trickles down from there. And so what are we seeing as a result of that? What are we seeing in society? As a result of that, the consequences are dire in reality, if a godly Christian woman and wife truly voluntarily and willfully submits to Christ, which I don't think any would have any problem with then out of reverence for Christ. And as to Christ, she will voluntarily and willfully submit to her husband. This is what the end of verse 22 means to drive home the importance of this matter in verse 24, Paul repeats it and adds in everything. That means all areas pertaining to the marriage yet within God's law. And I'm not going to go there because I went there last week and told you that the very fact that a man would tell his wife to do something because she's been told to submit, she's supposed to do it. When it violates the law, violates their conscience and violates her code of ethics. That's not what Paul is implying here. There is a boundary and that boundary has God's law having given us just three verses. For the wife. I want you women just take a breath I'm off of you now. I promise. Okay. Having, just given us three verses on the wife's duty to submit to her husband Paul in verse 25, begins eight verses an eight verse statement on the duty of the husband. Now men brace yourself, sadly many husbands speaking, primarily. Of Christian husbands know all too well. The three verses that I just gave to you, in fact, it's amazing to me, how many unbelieving husbands know those, none of that. They only saw him first Corinthians as well as Colossus yet amazingly, they tend to ignore the more lengthy exhortation polishes to them. The last eight verses of chapter five are important and powerfully powerfully illustrated. There is in the first three verses we saw there is some, some deep theology. There's some beauty there. But nowhere in those three verses necessarily, do we find the depth and richness of the analogy and comparison that Paul going to bring out in these eight verses in regards to the relationship or the duties of a husband to his wife, verse 25 eight, look at what he says. He says, husbands love your wives. This is the first of four times. Nip Paul will issue this imperative to men in these verses. The word love is used six times or four times as an imperative directly to the husband. My hope here this morning is that there is not one husband on us that would not without hesitation state his love for his wife, but what exactly. Does that imperative imply word love. As I just said, appears six times in his texts, four times in regards to the husband and wife or the husband toward his wife, it denotes the husband's duty to his wife here in lies. The beauty of the neutrality of responsibility in the marriage, the wife. Voluntarily willingly and graciously submits to her husband while at the same time, the very same time, the husband, the wife, Paul commands the husbands to do that, to love their wives. First we note note we see here in verse 25, a a mutual exclusivity. To what we saw in verse 22, the woman is to submit to her own husband. And in verse 25, the husband is to what love is mutual exclusivity. The wife submits to her own husband. The husband gives his love exclusively to his wife. That should be a no brainer as well. Sadly, that's not often today either. Paul Lilla straights. The nature of that love by employees. The analogy of Christ's love for his church. Go what he says here again. I told you there's nothing like the analogy that Paul employees here. He says, husbands love your wives. He didn't put a period there. He says, husbands, love your wives. As Christ loved the church. This is the context. In which the husband's leadership is carried out in the marriage. In fact, George W. Knight in his essay in recovering biblical manhood and womanhood made this statement. He says, quote, he is to love her just as Cathos in the Greek, just as Christ loved the church. You men are to love your wives just as Christ loved the church and is going to tell you what that looks like. He doesn't leave you to figure that out or to guess on your own, just as the church is submitting to Christ, we should be was the model just as a church submitting to Christ was the model for the wife is submitting to her husband. So now Christ in his love for the church is a model for the husband in loving his wife. We sang about this morning in our songs of Christ's love for his church. We sing of it all the time. Not a single evangelical, true evangelical believer among us this morning, whatever question, the reality we sell it in our reading Romans chapter eight, nothing can separate us from the love of Christ. If I were to ask you this morning, do you believe Christ loved the church? Oh yes. Christ loved the church. What exactly did this love look like? Well, Paul tells us in the next part, he says and gave himself up for her, a husband that truly loves just as Christ gives of him. Self. Think about this. Is this not true? Many. Are willing to quote love end of quote, or say that they love as long as there is something in it for them immediate gratification. In fact, I, I just, I just cannot stand this. We use it because we don't think about it when we use it. We say, well, you know, I fell in love with her. The only problem with today with falling in love with somebody is people fall out just as quickly as they fall in. It's not merely a matter of falling in love with somebody in regards to the relationship between a husband and wife. There is a love that God brings that brings them together. Obviously there's a love that is consistent and knitted thoroughly in the fabric of their relationship. People are constantly falling in and out of love. This is not real love at all. No, I mean, I've, I've, I'm thinking about weddings. I've done over the years. I remember standing on the platform with some of them and sadly, some of those marriages have not lasted. That's sad to think about that in the day when we stood on the platform and I read their vows to them and they swore to those valves, they bound to love each other. No husband vowed to love his wife, the wife vowed to love her husband. And then to hear later, hear years later, the sad commentary. Well, I just didn't love them anymore. Even heard it sadly said that some would say they'd never did love them at all. And the reason for their marrying was what they were going to get out of the relationship. The love Christ had for his church. Listen, was a sacrificial love you or Christ. Did he loved her so much? That is his church that he gave himself in every way to that church that he loved even to death. Secondly is giving for the benefit of his church. Christ's sacrificial love always had this in mine. The benefit of the church, the love a husband has for his wife should be for her benefit MacArthur app aptly comments on this. It is new Testament commentary on, on this passage, he says, quote, a husband is not commanded. Now listen carefully to what he says. A husband is not commanded to love his wife because it is God's will for him. I'm sorry, because of what she is or is not me back up and show you that, right. A husband is not commanded to love his wife because of what she is or is not. He is commanded to love her because it is God's will for him to love her and have quote, a man may certainly admire even be attracted by the attributes his wife has, perhaps it is her beauty, perhaps it's her virtues. It could be a variety of things. But are those things alone to be what binds them together? What if which has certainly happened? What if or should I say when the physical beauty wanes or something happens and the things that perhaps initially attracted him to her disappear, and there's a variety of things that can happen to cause that. Does the hublet husband's obligation to love end. Wow. I remember I was a Vietnam veteran who became a minister after his stint in Vietnam and he was, he was, uh, on a boat. Um, one of the, um, uh, river boats. I don't know what they called him. I'm on patrol and, um, his patrol boat. Got hit with a hand grenade attack or whatever mortar attack or whatever. And he suffered severe, severe permanent injuries and damages to his physical body. And in fact, you said when he came up out of the water, he looked on the water and his face was floating beside him. And so obviously they pulled him out of the water and they rescued him and they got him to Hawaii, put them in the hospitals. And he was in the hospital with other people who have been guys that have been wounded in action that were there. And he said he laid in his bed and had notified his wife that what had happened. And she was gonna be making her way out. To Hawaii so that she could come visit him. And he was in a sense waiting to see to, for her to come. But yet at the same time, he said he was extremely apprehensive about her coming because what he'd witnessed while he laid in this hospital. Airy wasn't a private room. They were going to air open area. All the beds are laid out. The wounded soldiers were on them. And he said, he'd actually seen in just a short time, he had been there, women who would walk into the ward where their husbands were either conscious or not conscious or unconscious who had lost arms legs. Limbs faces blown up. It things all kinds of, and literally as her husbands are laying there, take their wedding rings off and lay it on the foot of the bed and walk out. And David said, I tremble. My face has gone. I'm wrapped in gauze, like a mummy. I I've got body parts messed up. What in the world? Is going to happen when my wife sees me and he tells a story and this to this day, he's still ministering. He tells the story of what happened that she did and, and did in fact show up. And she came in and she stood by his bed and the physician was with her and the other medical professionals as she stood there. And she just kind of looked at him and he looked at her. And the way he tells this is just phenomenal. He says, suddenly his wife turns to the doctor and says, how long will it be before I can take him home? And today they're still married is funny. Cause he plays the piano. And occasionally he'll say I really never had an ear for music. And your takeoff is prosthesis prosthetic ear. things can change attractions, but a love ordered by God. It's not easily changed. That obligation doesn't end. No, of course not. Just as Christ's love for his church. How, how much do you think we have always been lovable as a body of Christ? Uh, just as Christ love for his church, never wanes or disappears. Husbands are loved their wives. Paul does not give exceptions or loopholes. Next we read what this love Christ has for his church. Accomplishes verse 26, that he might sanctify her by the washing of the water with the word. Paul continues in verse 26 to accentuate the redemptive work of the Lord Jesus Christ. On the behalf of his church, something he did as often as possible. But while the redemptive work of Christ is indeed unique and duplicatable, Paul still uses it in his call for husbands to love their wives. No man will ever love a woman or his wife quite to the measure. Christ has loved his church, but Paul does not say that's not the reason to use the analogy. It is Christ and Christ alone that sanctifies the church. So how can this be applied to the love a husband has for his wife. We find the answer, I believe in verse 27, so that he might present the church. To himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be Holy and without blemish, certainly no husband can do for his wife. What Christ has done for his church in such fullness. I cannot save my wife spiritually, nor can any man save his wife. Spiritually Christ can save his church and save his brightest. So we cannot not do some things in the fullness, but this is not Paul's point. His point is however that just as Christ sacrificial love was of enormous unfathomable benefit for the church. A husband's love for his wife should be profound, a profound benefit for her as well. Your love men for your wives should be of a profound benefit for her in so many ways, just as Christ's love for his bride will ultimately result in splendor should not a husband's love for his bride, make his wife glorious and their marriage. Glorious. Great, great testimony. It is when a, when someone will look at a marriage relationship and will give it that kind of, um, accolade in regards to how much they love one another, how much that man loves his wife, how much that wife. Loves her husband think about when it has said that Christ loves the church and the church loves Christ and his splendor and glory, that brings to the reputation of the church, how much? So also it brings to the marriage relationship when that kind of love is present. What higher place could a. Wife have then to be the recipient of her husband's exclusive on denying undying, sacrificial law. Okay. What joy that brings to a woman's heart to a wife's heart to know I am the recipient of that love from my husband. Again, this love seeks only the best for the wife seeks to benefit her the greatest. It does nothing to belittle her, nothing to defile her, nothing to Demain her husbands. This is the way we are called to love our wives. Just thinking of two personal illustrations. I know that sometime in the past, I may have shared with some of you of growing up. Uh, just my first, basically seven years of my life. From the time I was seven years old to the time I was 14 years old, just attending church because my mom and dad wanted a break on the weekends. It was sent me to church with my grandmother. And then when I turned 14 years old, my dad looked at me and said, Jordan, to me, you're old enough to make decisions for yourself. You don't want to go to get up on Sunday morning, go to church anymore. You don't have to. That's all I know, year. And so I didn't for a long time, but I remember growing up and my grandmother was the only lady among her older friends that had a driver's life. And she drove a Dodge dart. Some of you know what that is. And it was, it was Andy of Mayberry all over again. And I was Opie and my brother was even littler than I was. And so my brother and I are crammed in this Dodge dart with three senior ladies who have never had a driver's license on their way to church. And that's how we went to church every Sunday morning. One of those, one of those ladies live with an unregenerate husband. That only one of the ladies rode with her live with a totally unregenerate husband, a God hater at that time and gave her a hard time for going to church and being a part of a church. And she would have to be home on Sunday to do, to have his lunch ready at noon at noon. And if she was late getting home from church where we always had to rush and make sure she was the first one home, if he was, she was late, he would lock the door and would not let her in until he decided to let her in. And I remember as a boy watching this lady go up and shake the door, knock on the door, shake the door. Just wave at us. Like you can leave goodbye. We pull out the driveway and she sit in a little bit. She had by the door where she'd go in and she'd just take a person to Bible land beside her. She sit on dimension. We'd leave. That bothered me for a long, well, when we material and I came to know Christ and we went back to church that very same church that first Sunday I walked in, I noticed that there. Well sister Casey sitting up front and her husband was sitting beside her. Hmm. I thought, what in the world is this? Cause I can remember as a boy, what I saw and then later I got to know him. Well, he come to know Christ. It had become very, uh, just a tremendous. Asset to the church. I don't know exactly, exactly when that happened in that 10 years or so that I was, are more than that. It was actually gone, but I was beside Sam, Casey, just moments. I was beside his bed, just moments before he entered eternity. I watched him take his last breath. And I will tell you in that time that I was standing with him, lay when Connor, my pastor was standing there. I think there may have been one other person that were with us. One of the last things that left Sam Casey's mouth was his deep appreciation for the love and grace, his wife had shown him until he came to know Christ. You don't tell me that love is on a powerful thing that can work. God's principles are profound. Verse 28. The analogy continues and I'm sorry, I'm going long. I didn't mean to go this long in the same way. Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. While there are a variety of interpretations on what Paul means here. I personally see this as a clear reference to reminder of Genesis two 23. When we read this at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. The woman was literally made from the body of the man women woman come, came from man. And as such Ephesians five 28 continues. He who loves his wife, loves himself yet. The meaning goes even further. Yes, women can physically came physically from man, but in marriage, there is a spiritual union that takes place verse 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it. Just as a husband cares for himself, the language of nourishing and cherishing he is to nourish as provides spiritual sustenance and to chairs that is to give the highest good to his wife and for his wife, verse 29, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body spiritually joined to him. Because her husband loves his wife. He expresses that love in tangible ways to being to nourish into chairs. His primary concern is her welfare in verse 31. Paul quotes from Genesis two 24, Paul accentuates the one flesh analogy. He says this. He says, listen, listen to what Paul writes in verse 31. Look at what he says. He says, therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife. And the two shall become one flesh. He quotes Genesis. Then in verse 32, listen to what Paul writes. This mystery is profound and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and his church. Paul actually interprets the Genesis passage to reveal to us God's purpose in marriage. Listen carefully. To paint a visible portrait of the relationship between Christ and the church. There's not a wedding. I don't think that I've ever performed that. I have not brought this point out in the ceremony that what we are doing here is a demonstration. A picture, a portrait of the relationship that exists between Christ and his church while the Genesis account was truly human history. It is also profoundly prophetic. In what way? Shadowing the spiritual union of Jesus and the church, Paul wanted his readers and to underst his readers to understand something. And here's what he wanted them to understand that God designed the original marriage, that when God designed the original marriage, what was true on his mind, what was on his mind was Christ and the church. If we understand this, how can we so casually treat marriage? How dare we take it into our own hands to redefine, to reconstruct, which is really to destroy. When we think of the sanctity of marriage, this profound mystery, Paul explains should feel our. Paul. There's a main, I'm closing out here. There's a main, it has appeared on Facebook over the years and I ran across it the other night. And I looked, Terry was sitting beside me on the couch and I said, this is me and you. And it says little bitty boys. He's probably four years old, maybe. And as a little bitty girl, she's like four they're little because both of them are topless. They're just wearing out in the country and he's just kissing her. And he says, and th th the caption says this, I only regret not having met you sooner so that I could have loved you longer. How true is that I only regret Ben. I don't mean to bring her down or to you, but you better enjoy it. Now, your marriage is not eternal. You have this life with her and you are to make the absolute best of what you can with her in this life. Love her. With every thing you have, why don't we argue and debate our submission and love. Both are the essence of marriage can mandate by the Lord. This is our God from the beginning plan for it to be. And since the fall of man and woman. Men and women have incessantly salt to undermine it as George Knights States in his essay. Again, that I quote a while ago, quote, loving headship and willing submission are rooted in creation and in God's eternal purpose, not just in passing transient culture. End of quote. He concludes, okay. Not the Ephesians text. Maybe summarize both. As the divinely mandated leadership role for husbands in the marriage relationship and a divinely mandated submitter to that leadership for wives. And then Paul concludes in verse 33. However, having said everything, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see to it as she respects. Her husband, Scott is ordered for marriage God's order for our society. I know there are singles and this being single is a gift in many cases. God may not call every man or every woman to marriage may call them to a life of singleness for the sake of serving him before the purpose. God has determined, but when men and women do come together in marriage, this is the way it is supposed to be for our welfare and for his glory. Amen. Let's stand. I know I've had your sitting way too long. I really don't have a button in my mouth. I promise. I tried to prepare you in the beginning for this. Anyway, let's bow our heads and pray father, the beauty of your divine order for our lives. Help us help us father, as we may know these things, because we find these things found on the pages of the Holy scripture. We know they are God's word. They are not only true, but they are appropriate for our lives, but help us father accept them and live them in a way that is pleasing to you. A way that is. Beneficial to our relationships and in a way that most of all glorifies you might it be. So in Jesus name, we pray