Desire versus Need

Perspective is always important and understanding that the right balance of desire and need to ensure that we are not falling into disappointments or a constant need for things that we actually don't need.

Can we have to much desire?  Is having a desire bad?

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Hey,its your girls, Selina Davis host of Butt-Naked wisdom, and we are back with another episode. And today's episode is called Desire versus Need, desire versus need. And as I always do, I want to give us some great definitions of the two words. So we can really get a conceptive concept on what we are talking about, if that means anything. So, the word desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something, or wishing for something to happen. So when I say that, again, a desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. And then we're going to go to the word need need require something, because it is essential, or very important. So a need is requiring some think, because it is essential, or very important. So I think what we want to do is also just look at what the Bible says. So if we go to Psalm 37, four, it says, Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. So I just want us to just really put this into perspective, we tend to have a lot of desires and needs, and sometimes the two get very kind of mixed up together. And I just want us to kind of put things into perspective in when we are looking for things to happen in our lives, and whether things don't happen, we kind of like you know, either get down because they're not happening the way that we want it to happen. And it has actually been a desire, that we have wanted something or we wish for something to happen. You know, I think in life, there are things sometimes that happen for a reason, there are things that we receive, that may not even be what we should have got. And you know, when you think about children, they are always constantly saying, Mom, or Dad, can I, you know, have this and have that. And the other day I asked my children, you know, do you remember what you asked for for Christmas, and it was very hard for them to remember. And I even ask them, where are the items, you know, and at that time, kids have less than these other desires, the things that they want, and the things that they wish they could have. And for the most part, when you think about the things that we have desired in our lives, we may not ever remember half of the stuff, you know, we may have gotten things and totally forgotten what they were, they may have been things we wanted for Christmas, especially as kids, you know, you play with the toys, and then the toys are thrown to one side. And then here we go, again, is Christmas. And even before that is birthdays, so you know, we're always constantly as children in this space of feeling that we desire and want things and of course, advertisements don't help and the pressure potentially other people around your children that are showcasing some of these things as well. It obviously enhances their desires. And we know marketing is there for that very reason and advertising, etc. But when you look at the need, you know, sometimes we don't actually desire things that are essential are very important. And I think there is a way in which we should attach our desires to the needs of things that are either very important or essential for us and, and it's because we need them. And when it says in the Bible that, you know we should delight ourselves in the Lord and He shall give us the desires of our hearts if my desire is focused on God. And I know that I'm limited in what I'm able to do in my capacity right now. So I can't wait this second command the safe of you know Bank of America or HSBC to open you know, and go inside and take the money, right. So that potentially could be a desire, quote, unquote, not I'm gonna do it. And I can't do that right now. I can't just go there. Of course, people have been talking about, you know, people that steal one, grand theft and all this kind of good stuff. But the point I'm trying to make is we can want a desire and doesn't mean that that desire is something that we should have is not something that is essential and is not something that is important. Now I pose a question is a desire bad? And I don't think a desire is bad. I believe that it should have checks and balances. I definitely believe it is important that we understand what it is that we are desiring and longevity of it, the meaning of it, how it potentially may impact our lives or those around us. Is it something that is a temporary desire? Is it something That is an expense, potentially that you don't need to do right now. I think it's about checks and balances. I think it's truly about putting these things into perspective. And truly taking a hold of your desires and making it more impactful to do with the essential needs and things that are important for our lives. So I wouldn't say that a desire is a bad thing. Desire is only bad if it enslaves us. If it takes over us, if it gets me to the point where I'm going to do something that potentially may place me in the Joe house that may, dis, you know, give me a bad character that may, you know, do something that is ultimately something that a result that I wouldn't want to happen. And those desires are dangerous. Those desires are to a point that they're not even controlled by yourself anymore, because you have this strong desire. And it's not about things. And let me just also change that it's not just things a desire could be for popularity. Desire could be for someone to love you. Desire could be four things. Of course, a desire is also emotions, right? So, you know, if we are focused so much on this desire for something, this strong feeling that we want something, and I'm not talking about faith, I'm talking about a desire for something or wishing for something to happen, that in itself, if it enslaves us is bad. I definitely think desire is a life force. It's something that we have instinctly in us, I believe we are constantly going to have it and I think we just need to learn how to manage it in our lives. So can I have too much desire? Yes or no? What do you think? Can you have too much desire? And can we have too much water? You know, I think there's when you think about that, I can't have too much water. However, water if, if it's in a right balance will hydrate us, right? It's good for our bodies, but too much water can drown me, right? So it is really understanding that there is definitely checks and balances and understanding how that plays out in our lives. So I can have a desire, but it's balanced. Part of a need is an essential element in my life. And it's very important to me, and I can have a desire that overtakes me, it enslaves my mind, it keeps me up at night, it the first thing I think about in the morning, unless it's God. And if that desire is so overwhelming, that even your daily functions in functioning of life is not done correctly, then I would definitely tell you to play some checks and balances into that because you know, that desire for you know, stardom, or wanting people to acknowledge you or, you know, one in a thing so much that is going to cause me to be illegal in some way, then I definitely would say for you to do some you know, internal checks and balances. Understand the root of why you want that desire, how that desire is actually going to be effective in your life. How long is the desire going to last for once you get it? Is it then going to move to something else? And are you ever going to be satisfied, because it's actually linked to, you know, a childhood trauma or is linked to a childhood experience or an adult experience. So it's definitely important for us to fully fully understand and place some checks and balances, for the desires that we have in our hearts, and the needs of our lives, the essential things that we need in our lives. So I just wanted to really touch on this subject. You know, I just think there are some things that we just take for granted. And that we just prode along in life. Bu sometimes when you're still an you take some time to reflect o just your intentionality in you today. It just really helps yo to be able to put things int perspective for yourself. So hope that this has blessed yo guys. I always enjoy looking an delving into words an definitions of words to reall gain a better understanding o what it is that I want in m life. What it is, I may desire what it is that I might actuall need. And fully understandin that Yeah, I need to put m delight in the Lord I need t be, you know, grateful for wha he has given and where I a right now and not be disconten with those things. And also kno that life is about growth. Lif is about you know, changing you perspective, if that perspectiv is keeping you limited, it' about looking at things that ar outside of your control an looking at things that you ca control. So I hope that this ha blessed you. I always loo forward to speaking to you agai and we have an exciting episod that I will be talking abou next. So I look forward t speaking to you, God bless yo have an amazing day, evenin night, wherever you may be sor of listening to this, and I hop that you will tune in again fo more episodes. Thank you an this is Selina. And I'm ou