Hey guys , and welcome back to another episode of your Brains Coach podcast . My name is Angela Shurina , I'm your host , I'm your Brains Coach and also an executive health and high performance coach on a quest to build a million dollar consultancy in the next year . And I'm here to explore , learn , share with you , practice together brain-body tools , tools of self-mastery , of self-improvement , of self-growth and self-excellence , so together we could take better control of our thoughts , of our emotions and , most importantly , of our actions , so we could create future vision , destiny that we desire . Today and for the next podcast , we're going to be talking about growth mindset and practices to build this up . By definition , growth mindset is all about getting better , realizing where you are and knowing that you have capacity to improve . Now you might not be able to improve your height well , at least not at this stage or your genetics again , not at this stage , just yet . But you can improve almost every single aspect of self , from your personality to your character , to the way you speak , to the way you show up , to the way you deliver feedback , to the way you lead , to the way you do business , to the way you I don't know do fitness . You can improve every single aspect of yourself . That is what growth mindset is all about . But I think so many of us forget that the growth mindset itself is a skill set and we often have more of a growth-oriented mentality in practice in some areas like , let's say , maybe your fitness or your business , and we're stuck and have more fixed mindset in other areas . And guess what ? Growth mindset , just like any other skill , it's not something you have by its own definition . It's something that is always a work in progress , something that can be iterated , tested , falsified and improved and built upon .
Speaker 1Growth mindset this is , I feel , like we as society fell in love with this idea of figuring everything out and being right . But , guys , if you are committed to improvement , to self-evolution , to mastery , to growth , you're going to fall out of love with being right and fall in love with growing and actually almost falling in love with being wrong and failure . Failure , guys , fear of failure and this uncomfortable feeling . I've definitely been failing a lot and now I'm realizing it's actually a very good sign and instead of , like in my past , trying to avoid it , I need to lean into it and ask a different question not how to get it right , but where am I getting this wrong ? You will not be able to grow effectively and consistently without this one question and without falling in love with failure . Yes , failure , guys . What is failure ? It's not the end , it's a data point .
Speaker 1Let's talk about one of the greatest , most talked about entrepreneurs of our time , at least for now Elon Musk and his SpaceX . Think about that . Every single of successful launches of his rocket was well . It started with many , many failed attempts . I remember watching the lift of the first one of this thruster , or whatever that system is , before launch . Elon Musk and his company , spacex , were able to put it in the orbit and then make it come back . Before all of that , I remember things blowing off and bursting into pieces a few times . They almost didn't survive as a company and because of that , because of these mistakes that cost millions , if not billions of dollars , because of these mistakes , they knew how to fix things and that's why shit works right now .
Speaker 1Can we all realize that that failure is an essential data point , that we need to build things that work and hopefully we'll learn how to fail with less waste and less resources spent on that failure ? That's why you kind of want to iterate and fail in many micro ways and small ways , not necessarily in the biggest way , so you can win big . You didn't . And also , we need to repeat ourselves . I would even put it on the wall somewhere you didn't fail , your actions did . You're not a failure . Your strategy fell short . We need to disconnect the act of failing or getting it wrong with personality . Don't take it so damn . Personally , I want to repeat to myself every single time you did not fail , your actions did . Like what you did just now . The actions were wrong , your strategy fell short . But you're this amazing human being who can lean into this data and learn from it and switch things around , adjust things and get better and improve and succeed . You didn't fail , your actions did . You are not a failure . Your strategy fell short . Repeat to yourself again and again and again , guys , and that's good news , because failed actions and strategies they can be used to do better . That's how you know how to do better . That's a very , very useful data point . Guys , in fact , if we think about failure , our brain learns a lot better and naturally , through failure , in fact , when you fail , your brain releases cortisol and adrenaline and a bunch of those stress hormones that don't feel good , but they also make you stop .
Speaker 1And , if you have the right mindset , stop and consider what just happened , why it happened and what I need to change to adjust and do better next time . If you approach every failed attempt with curiosity instead of self-criticism and taking it so impersonally . If you lean into every failed attempt and ask yourself a bunch of questions like what can I learn from this , where did I get this wrong , what went wrong ? And how can I adjust it to test it in a better way so I have a better chance of succeeding because of this failed attempt ? In science , they call this experimentation . Did you know that every scientist , when they design their experiments , they go into the experiment especially seasoned scientists not with this mindset well , I'm going to get it right . Right , I have a theory and I want to get it right . No , they want to gather as much data as fast as possible . So they do create a better theory , and every task has two legitimate outcomes it either confirms your theory or it disconfirms your theory , at which point you need to adjust your theory and create a better experiment , and then reiterate , reiterate , reiterate until you create a theory that then you can use in life , whatever area the application is , so you can create working models in the world to create different results . That's how scientific method works and actually that's how life works . Your brain itself works on prediction and it creates the symphony of brain-body chemistry to act on that prediction . And guess what ? When your prediction goes wrong , when you fail , your brain releases a bunch of those stress hormones and chemicals . So you pay attention and you adjust your knowledge , your theory , so next time your brain can predict better and can do better in real world .
Speaker 1Learn faster by asking the right people and the right questions . That's the most important insight that I recently got . When I schedule conversations with seasoned consultants , seasoned business owners and leaders , I go into the conversation not to see where I'm right , but I ask this question specifically where am I getting this wrong ? Where am I wrong with this model , with this offer , with this theory that I propose , with this service ? Where am I getting this wrong ? What I'm not understanding ? How would you do differently ? I'm trying to poke as many holes in my own thinking , in my own theories , as possible so I could learn faster and get it right faster .
Speaker 1I believe this is one of the most important questions we all need to learn when am I getting this wrong ? And get as much as possible feedback from the right people , people who did it , people who are above you , advanced in their game , and ask this question where am I getting this wrong ? Not to get a perfect answer , because there isn't one . Each situation is indeed different and unique , but people who've done a similar thing that you're trying to do have a much better framework and theory that already worked for them in their situation , and that's why it's important to find people as close to a situation as possible , or in the same industry , or in the same field of business , or in the same industry or in the same field of business , or in the same fitness and health shape . So find that person , find who did it , find who went through this transformation , and ask them where am I getting this wrong ? Give them as much backstory as possible and then ask where am I getting this wrong ? And write down , take notes , like all this input and then put it to the test Again . The answer is not going to be perfect , fit , but it's going to be a much better answer or at least a different answer , the one that was not in your head initially .
Speaker 1And this new data will help you design better experiments , more experiments , and then help you to learn faster and adjust faster and get to success faster . So the main takeaway here is failure isn't a reflection of your worth . It's a feedback loop . It's a data point . Embrace it , learn from it and , most importantly , use it to design better not perfect actions . And don't forget to get better at growing and practicing your growth mindset . Ask this question more often when am I getting this wrong ? Get comfortable with the idea that you are getting a lot of things wrong .
Speaker 1And here is a bonus insight that I got from system thinking , reading books on system thinking Every system and you are a system every system is optimized to get the result that it's getting . So you are , at this point in your life , are optimized to get the results that you have in your life right now . Nothing more , nothing less . You are a perfect machine to get the results you have , and so if you want to have different results and different life or business , you're going to change yourself . You're going to change what you do and , most importantly , you're going to change how you think , because your thinking starts before you take action , and the real difference between people who have more , what you want is your thinking , and that's where it all starts , and that's why this question where am I getting this wrong ? And clarifying your thinking and spelling it out to other people . Wrong and clarifying your thinking and spelling it out to other people that's where it gets very , very useful and an essential skill to change your thinking , to change your doing , so you could redesign the system and optimize it for getting new results . That's what I wanted to share with you today .
Speaker 1A very practical question where am I getting this wrong ? And this idea that you are wrong . You've already failed and you're going to fail . Ideally , if you are into growth and self-mastery , self-evolution , you're going to be failing every single day . So what are you going to try to fail at today ? What is data that you are collecting ? And where are you getting this wrong ? As smarter people , better people , suited better to answer the question or the quest that you are on , and ask them where am I getting this wrong ? What am I not doing right ? And tell them your story and see what comes up . And don't expect this to be a perfect answer , a perfect solution , but it's going to be a different one , the one you can put to test , the one you can learn from , you can improve from and you can succeed from Hope this helps .
Speaker 1Stay tuned for our next episode , where I'm going to share with you lift framework to train your thinking process into more of a growth mindset thinking process in the areas where you are stuck , whether that's business , whether that's relationships , whether that's your health and fitness . So stay tuned for that . But today you'll practice it . Start asking this question where am I getting this wrong ? Then design your experiment , improve , succeed . Folks , if you find this podcast useful , please do share with at least one other person so we can all improve as society . We can learn , we can grow , we can create better future , better world , faster . Sharing is caring . Help me to spread the word out so we all adapt more of a growth mindset , embrace failure , learn , improve , get better to create a better world . Thank you , have an awesome day of failing and growing and until next time , where am I getting this wrong ? Ask it more often .