Hey guys , and welcome back to another episode of your Brain's Coach podcast . My name is Angela Shurina , I'm your host , I'm your Brain's Coach , and it is my job here to bring to you , share with you , learn with you best , well-researched , cutting-edge , most interesting , fascinating and definitely applicable to your life brain-body tools so you could take better control of your thoughts , of your emotions and , most importantly , your actions , to become more of a creator of your own life experience versus just an observer , right ? So here we are all about taking a more active part in creating the life experience that we'd like to be living more of , and this is as simple as that . You know , guys , this morning I realized why creating something first thing in the morning feels so good and why it leaves me feeling so much more empowered for the rest of the day . Because , if you think about that , when we create something whether that's a piece of podcast , a piece of writing or maybe even breakfast and making your bed you are taking action , you are taking control of things , you are shaping and changing something and , most importantly , shift from being in the space where you can't control a lot of things , like most of life is , to the place where you can have agency , where you can have more control , where you can create different outcomes , different from the ones that could have been there if you didn't take that action . A simple act of changing your environment , of reshaping life , puts you automatically in this sphere or circle of control where you can exercise again your agency , your creator's muscle , and that actually feels not just empowering but also calming and motivating .
Speaker 1So if there is a day or a morning when you wake up and you don't feel like you have a lot of say in your life Like , to be honest , for the past couple of days that's how I've been feeling , and a little bit more about that in a couple of minutes . But whenever you wake up not feeling like you have a lot of say in your future , like maybe frustrated with the goals that you haven't reached yet , the results that you were not able to create yet , if you ever wake up like that , don't think about that much , but instead do something with it . Create something , whether that's a piece of writing , whether that's a piece of podcast , whether that's again your breakfast , your bed get out there and create something that wouldn't be there without you taking action and by exercising your action muscle , you realize that you do have some control Maybe not all of it , and there are other people and there is the world which is unpredictable , which is unpredictable and which will go not according to anyone's plan , but you do still have quite a lot of control , especially of your own thoughts , of your emotions , the effort that you put into taking action and the things that you create . So that's why I believe I absolutely love having a couple of hours of creation every single morning , because the rest of the day feels so much more empowering , like I have a say in how my day is going to go and what's going to happen in the world around me . By creating something , you create this feeling . Just try it out for the next I don't know day , a week , month , a year . Create first thing in the morning and see how you feel for the rest of the day . Guys , today we're talking about not setting goals but instead trying out something better .
Speaker 1You know , for the past few days I've had a mixed bag of feelings . I felt good about things that I have accomplished this year , but also felt frustrated with all the things that left undone the imperfect quote , unquote pieces of my life . Ever felt this way , like you're happy , there are these things that you've done and created and you're kind of proud of , but also you realize how , in the big picture of things , it's kind of small and might be not significant to a lot of people . And also you have all these other things that you haven't accomplished yet and you hoped for so much more but it didn't happen for one reason or the other . Your own actions , and then the world a whole bag of things . Have you ever felt this way ? And for the first time in my life I think my entire life even setting goals and envisioning the future something that I've loved , I've always loved felt like too much stress , like I don't want to set any goals . I just don't want to think . I don't know if you ever felt like this , but that's been something new that I've experienced .
Speaker 1And then I realized listening to people wiser than myself check out the latest episode on the Diary of CEO podcast with Dr Martha Beck and I realized that I've been focusing on the wrong thing . Instead of joy and excitement about the journey ahead , I felt stressed and pressured , and the podcast gave me an idea why that might be , and it gave me an idea for a simple but a transformative question that I knew of , but you know we forget . Human brain is that machine that sometimes just grabs something and gets focused on things like things we haven't done , or things that haven't worked , or things that are not that great right now in our lives , things we wish were different , and so the brain starts focusing on that and it's like almost iron grasp on you and sometimes it is hard to shift that focus . But what I notice is the right kind of questions that I'm thinking of putting on my wall , to be honest , will shift you into this different state that is also always available right there , not behind any wall , but right there , and the question helps you . I'm also reading this book , a More Beautiful Question about the power of questioning and inquiry to open up our minds to new ideas and new states and new actions . So back to the podcast and the idea of the question Simple question helped me to shift my state from this overwhelming stress about the future and anxiety , one might say to back to joy and wanting to take action and embrace the future and co-create that future .
Speaker 1So what is the question ? What do I want to create ? Not what do I need to achieve and goals I haven't achieved yet , or what do I need or how do I get there somewhere , right , but what do I want to create more of in my life ? Rather than obsessing over my endless to-do list things I can't control I decided to shift my focus through this question on creation , which happens to be 100% in my control . What do I want to create more of in my life , in my relationships , in my business , in my health ? And then the answers started to flood my head and it felt expanding , abundant , and it felt so good . I felt so good about the future and every upcoming day . I want to create more wealth and abundance , more value , service and impact , more kindness , love and connection . And when it comes to fitness and health , I want to create more vibrancy , more energy and more vitality . Like I'm blessed to have created quite a lot , but I want to create more .
Speaker 1Like I want to expand , I want to grow , and when we feel that dissatisfaction isn't that all of us want to do Change , grow , expand I feel like that's the nature of the universe which we are a part of , and sometimes , again , the world outside can feel constricting instead and overwhelming . But if we just remember that the underlying desire , so to speak , of all of us and , I believe , of all life , is that expansion and growth and co-creation . Then we can alleviate the stress and anxiety and pressure and instead feel the flow of life again , the flow of the universe that goes through everything in our world . So again the question especially if you are not someone who is used to setting goals and you find them very , maybe overwhelming or maybe not really working for you for one reason or the other , or not helping you , then ask yourself that . Or maybe limiting also , because once you set a goal , once you set a number , it starts feeling like now I have to kind of just constrain myself to being focused on that .
Speaker 1So if , for all these reasons and many more , you find goals not working for you , then ask yourself this question instead what I want to create more of in my life , in all these different areas , in your relationships and health and business and fitness and all the I don't know other areas that you might think of . So what I want to create more of ? And then another question naturally follows what behaviors , habits and systems do I need to create to make that happen ? Because If there is anything that I've learned very clearly in my life and in my coaching career as well , working with all of my clients is that without action , nothing changes . Now , obviously , action has to come from your thoughts and your feelings and emotions and your experiences , but without you actually taking different actions , there is not going to be any change . Actions there is not going to be any change . You might be sitting and meditating and manifesting things till the end of times , but if actions do not follow , nothing will ever change .
Speaker 1So , what I want to create more of and what behaviors , habits and systems do I need to create to make that happen ? And , guys , this shift in focus from results to creating , from things outside of my control to the ones within , has brought back my excitement about the year I had . I didn't have to hit any number , but I do want to create more of wealth and abundance , more value , service and impact , more kindness , love and connection , more vibrancy , energy and vitality . And so what I need to do to create this more of and I'll leave you with this question , guys what do you want to create more of in 2025 ? And what actions aren't you doing yet that will help you create it ? This is some powerful questions if you want to step into the role of the creator of your own life fuller . If you perhaps are a little bit tired of just watching it and want to co-create that , this is some great couple of questions that will help you start doing that and that's what I wanted to share with you today .
Speaker 1Monday , that's what I'm doing the recording December 23rd just a few days till 2025 . You probably have a little bit more time or will have at some point a few moments to think about the year ahead and what you want to create more of and how you're going to go about doing that . Hope this question you find useful . Please do share it , this podcast episode , with at least one other person , but maybe your whole family , your circle of friends . So all of us as a collective , think about this powerful question , think about how much actually leverage we have in co-creation and help people around you to create more of the life experience that they want to live . Thank you again for your attention , for listening , for staying curious , learning and wanting to make this world better for yourself and people around you . Thank you so much . Have an amazing day , spend a few minutes answering this beautiful question what I want to create more of in my life and , till next time , keep asking the right questions .