Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast . Changing days , not in years that's our motto , our aspiration , and together I am Angela Sharina , executive Coach 360 . These days I'm in Culture Transformation and Change Leadership as a consultant and coach . Leadership as a consultant and coach . So I myself , and together with my guests and you guys , we are learning about most useful , applicable , interesting , cutting-edge , just coming out of labs and books , very often brain-body-work tools that will help you to change better , change faster and create a better version of yourself , of your life , creating the life experience that you absolutely love living . We're here , in one word , about fulfillment and getting to that fulfillment stage every day . You know , I personally believe that each of us , no matter where in our growth journey or achievement journey we are , we can make every day feel fulfilling , like it's on purpose , like it matters , as long as we are . Well , that's actually what this podcast is all about . So let me jump right into it .
Speaker 1A quote from Oprah . I hope you know who Oprah is . If no , I'm not going to hold it against you . Look it up Oprah in a conversation with Trevor Noah , fellow South African . Well , I'm kind of a South African now , at least for the time being . Oprah said successful people get where they want to go , and by successful I mean people who achieve what they started , what they wanted to achieve , and they have fulfilling life and career . So those are our successes , our North Stars on this podcast . So Oprah said successful people get where they want to go because , ta-dam guys , because they know what they
want . Successful people get what they want because they know what it is they want .
Speaker 1And we're not talking about knowing what you want for breakfast or how much money you want to make in the next month or next year . We're talking about big stuff . They call it big rocks in psychology sometimes All the stuff that you know . If you look back at your life , or your month or your week or even your day , you're like , yeah , you know , because of this , my life actually felt like it mattered , like it was meaningful . That's the kind of stuff that we're talking about . And , yes , I love my eggs for breakfast , but they're not the ones that make my life feel meaningful . So , what it is you want . But more specifically , folks , today it's Friday episode and we're talking about systems , and if this question what it is you want , the big thing makes you sweat , make you anxious , make you feel like an imposter in your own life , like you're unqualified somehow to live your own life . Have you ever felt this way ? I definitely have , and a lot of my clients did also , and we go into this place of messiness and uncertainties all the time , myself and always my clients .
Speaker 1So the point I'm trying to make here actually that clarity about big stuff you create not because you stumble upon it . You create it purposefully , intentionally , by doing self-reflection , one question at a time and a little surprise for you that I'm going to announce fully at the end . I just created a tool for that to do self-discovery , this reflection , on a regular basis , ask yourself the right questions , and right questions not from my perspective , but from all the coaching that I did , from dozens of books that I've read , from the gurus that I've listened to or have a lucky moment to actually talk to right All these amazing people and human knowledge . I put it together with the help of ChatGPT and we've created this worksheet that I call , with ChatGPT , clarity Stack . But the point of this again , actually that everything that you want to create in your life , this meaningful and purposeful things , they come down to the level of systems . There is another great quote by Stoics and people like James Clear , the author of Atomic Habits we don't rise to the level of our aspirations and goals . We fall to the level of our aspirations and goals . We fall to the level of our systems and our training .
Speaker 1And if you want big things like purpose and meaning , et cetera , we need to create systems to get there , step by step , and figuring out your big stuff in life that help you to stay focused in a noisy world . Creating this filter that helps you separate the noise that doesn't matter from the , fulfilling the meaningful stuff . So , knowing your purpose , your big stuff , allows you to do that to focus in a noisy world . And in order to get this clarity about big stuff , you don't just land there . You use systems , regularity , regular practices to self-reflect . And again , there is a tool for that , and I've created it with AI and the best thinkers of our generation and generations before , and you can download it absolutely free following the link in the show notes Clarity Stack , right . So check it out , share it , let me know how it worked for you . There is a beautiful process , it's amazing . I'm proud of it . So check it out clarity stack in the show notes . The link is there , but let's get back to this idea that everything big , meaningful and there's small loss as well it's all about the systems that you put in place .
Here's what I also mean . Let's say you want to get better at learning , and if you have not been living under the rock , learning how to learn better , upgrade your systems , upgrade your knowledge and change as times require . This is the skill of this era . If you're not constantly upgrading yourself , if you don't know , don't have a system how to learn , how to get better , you've already lost in this era . Nothing is more true than this . I'm 200% that's possible , or 1000% confident in that . So how do you get better at learning ? Again , back to the system . So here is a beautiful framework that's been developed by coaches and different strategic leaders , people in self-improvement and self-leadership . This is what you do when you want to improve at any skill . Learning is one of those meta skills which will allow you to get better at many other skills , like , let's say , you want to improve the way you learn .
Speaker 1So what do you do ? First of all , you define where you are . Where are you starting ? What's the starting point ? How do you define that ? So the first step is defining your step A or your position A . Where are you ? And then you define where do I want to be ? Let's take a small step . Where do I want to be in a month ? I want to get better at learning in a month , so where are you ?
Speaker 1What qualifies , in your world , as being better at learning ? Is it remembering more when you read a book or go through any material ? Is it being better at actually putting that into application in real world ? In real life , into things that matter to you , like what it is ? Is it actually remembering what you just heard , listened to or read , instead of reading a page of the book and then not blanking , like what did I just read ? Or you heard someone or listened , or you were in a conversation and the person said something really good and you had this understanding or it was good , but I don't remember the specifics .
Speaker 1What it is you want to get better at ? Do you want to improve your memory in some way ? Do you want to improve your focus , attention ? What is it that you want to get better at ? How do you define that ? And it is important because then you can define the starting point , place A , and then point B or point C , whatever you define , and then you need to create a system to track progress . Well , first of all , even before that , actually now , what are the practices ?
Speaker 1And you can brainstorm it with chat GPT , obviously , or not . Obviously , you can ask what would you suggest , like , what practices you would suggest for me to do on a daily basis , on a weekly basis , to get better at X , to be better at focus , to be better at remembering stuff , to be better at remembering what people say to me ? Right , and ask chat GPT , how would you practice that ? And then it will give you a set of practices . Okay , you get a set of practices , you read through them and you're like , okay , this couple of things sound like it's something I want to do , I want to put into practice , I want to do my you know the authors of law , or deliberate practice , or how to get talented and how to get really good at something they say deliberate practice . So , what it is , I'm going to practice in order to get better at learning , at learning this meta skill that will allow you to get better at all of the other skills . Right , what are the practices ?
Speaker 1And then the next step you put it into your schedule . Okay , when am I going to practice ? Is it every day for 20 minutes ? Is it two hours at the end of the week ? Spoiler alert doing every day a little seems to work better for learning . It's kind of like squatting or moving a little bit versus just doing I don't know . Two , three hours of fitness on the weekends .
Speaker 1So you schedule it , you put it in your schedule and if you don't , the practice is not going to happen . You're always going to have more stuff . If you still think , oh , there's going to be a time in my day , in my life , in my history , when I'm going to have all the time to practice all of that I want , I'm going to get all of this
free time , it's never going to happen , guys . It's never going to happen . Unless you seriously commit with your schedule to something never going to happen , you never going to get more time . There are going to be more and more things that will demand your time . So if you don't define in advance what it is you put on your schedule and don't put on your schedule spoiler alert , or there is a tool for that Clarity Stack in the show notes . You can define those meaningful things which you say yes to , and then all the noise that you say no to .
Speaker 1So , getting back to that , put practice on your schedule and then also put on your schedule reflection points when you're going to sit down and you're going to evaluate your progress . And so this is the next step you schedule feedback time so you could evaluate your progress Even better . It's actually a lot more better and that's been proven by researchers of expertise , of talent and how to get super good at something , having external accountability and feedback . Basically , let's say you are practicing your learning skill and you defined that remembering more from what people say is going to be the skill that you're working on . So you need to set up accountability points . Let's say , maybe a family member or maybe a co-worker and you schedule time to have conversations with them and then they would ask you different questions about what they just said and you'll see how well you do , how many questions you answer or how much detail . Or maybe ask the other person to evaluate your performance , how well they remembered what they just said .
Speaker 1So you set up those feedback or evaluation loops when you have a trainer , when you have a coach , when you have someone who does the learning for you , the deliberate practice , like a tutor . That's where it gets really good , because that person is always there and they help you to evaluate progress , whether you're getting better or getting nowhere . But it is very important , if you want to get better at learning , to have this feedback loop and have the points where you evaluate yourself or with this accountability person , am I getting better ? And also the other person is better because they're more objective . They're not in your head , they don't have this bias , you know , sitting in your head and evaluating that promise subjectively . But the most important part is creating this feedback point where you're going to evaluate whether you're getting better or not and what needs to be adjusted in your practice . So you evaluate practice . Also a bonus if you can evaluate that progress against something meaningful .
Speaker 1So , let's say , this ability to get more out of conversation that you have is meaningful , because then you build professional relationship , let's say . And so when somebody will have another conversation with you , you're like , ah , you know , remember you told me this and based on this , we could work on this project in that way , right ? Or you told me this and maybe you put it in your next presentation and you might say , all right , what I learned from this person and you mention them , especially if they're in the room . They're going to be so proud and feeling so I don't know socially good that you're going to become like a superstar for them . So building relationships , expanding your expertise and simply just knowing more stuff , because all of a sudden your memory got better from all the useful things that your professional network can be communicating to you that you never just remember . There are so many benefits .
Speaker 1But back to that . So if you link your progress to something really meaningful , like your career advancements , then your brain going to create this , it will release that dopamine which will amplify your ability of getting better . This is a beautiful thing . That's why you don't want to just be getting better at things for the sake of getting better . You want to link it to something meaningful . That's where you get the dopamine boost and your learning process will accelerate . And that is all based on neuroscience research how learning process works , right . So then you evaluate you're progressing , you're not progressing . There are points where you could be getting better with your practice , and then maybe there are additional skills that you need to look at to develop different
abilities and you get back into the loop of okay , what's next ? What's the next practice , how I'm going to schedule it , how I'm going to evaluate my progress and until you get the result that you want . And that is back to the idea of having a system .
Speaker 1My personal example I started to get better , more confident at cold outreach , basically talking to strangers and proposing business . I started getting more replies , better replies , more calls scheduled , more opportunities to present my offers . I started getting better at it quite recently because I created a system to evaluate my own progress , to evaluate my practice . So now I would send messages and , for example , the ones that worked , the ones that got response , I will look at them like what did I say ? How did I say it ? And then I would test it out again against the next cohort of people , of cold contacts , and then I would evaluate that again which messages got the most reply ? And then I would evaluate that again which messages got the most reply ? And then I would tweak it . And then , you know , I would try something new . But I created a system of this feedback loop where I would evaluate what I do , what works , what doesn't work , what I need to work on , or perhaps something doesn't work at all . So then I would ask myself what can I try ? And then I would ask GPT and other people , and then I would set the time to practice this new way of reaching to people , to then evaluate progress and get better .
Speaker 1And the point is the whole point of this conversation , guys , is that you need to have a system for improving in any arena , whether that's improving your clarity and focus . You need to have a system of self-reflection . That is how it's done . If you want to understand yourself better , you want to develop self-awareness in order to understand what things are important to you at each level and which are not . So you could then focus on the important and say no to all of this noisy stuff .
Speaker 1It's kind of like imagine a supermarket with all the food choices . If you know exactly what you stand for when it comes to your health and nutrition , a supermarket becomes this marketplace where you just can very fast pick and choose the stuff that is aligned with what you're trying to do . For majority of people who have no clarity , that becomes like a huge pile of mass where they just grab random stuff and get random results in their health and fitness . And randomness in our world of food means usually getting more obese and getting all kinds of diseases . But that's just to give you an idea what it means to have clarity . It allows you to be very choosy and very effective at making choices and getting results , versus being overwhelmed , choosing the wrong stuff and not getting where you want in life at all , and one day maybe waking up and like how did I end up here ? So we don't want that and that's why get the Clarity Stack exercise .
Speaker 1It's a worksheet with a bunch of questions based on dozens of books . I've read all the people I listened to and talked to on my podcast . So , guys , get the tool and build the systems . To sum it up , how you can also get better at any skill . First , what it is the meaningful result you're trying to get getting more customers , getting career advancement , getting , I don't know , better mates or a life partner . You figure out a set of skills one or two skills that you need to get better at . Use ChatGPT and all kinds of artificial intelligence to help you choose a skill schedule .
Speaker 1It create a system of evaluation and tracking progress . External accountability is really a superstar here . A friend , a coach , a family member whoever that is who will go through the process of evaluating your progress with you , a person who is more proficient in that arena maybe if you work in your relationship with someone who has great relationship that you want right , working with them going to be very beneficial or a coach who helped a bunch of people achieve the result that you want to achieve . So feedback , accountability . Create a coach who helped a bunch of people achieve the result that you want to achieve . So feedback accountability . Create a system for that , evaluating your progress and then track your progress and redesign the process or keep it the same to keep getting better . So the point , the main point have a system for everything you want to achieve in life , whether that's getting better at learning or creating more clarity in your life , so you could focus easy in a noisy world and achieve what you want .
Speaker 1That's the end of today's podcast . I hope it was useful . Today is Friday and on Friday we're going to focus more on systems for achieving different results in a better , smarter way with AI and all and just better thinking and decision-making models . Let me know if you liked that and you got a lot of value . Please do let me know . Let me know how I can get better at providing more value to you , and don't forget guys to share this episode with at least one other person who you believe is going to be hugely beneficial .
Speaker 1Maybe they've been shooting at one goal and they haven't been successful , so maybe they didn't have a process , they didn't have a system or distracted by too many things . In each case , please do refer them to this podcast and don't forget , in the show notes there is Clarity Stack Worksheet which will help you to do what Oprah said Successful people get successful because they know what they want . So do you , dear listener , know what you want ? So clarity stack worksheet , linked in the show notes , will help you to do just that . Absolutely free share , give me feedback , give me praise and acknowledgement and let's together get better and create an amazing world all around us , growing and using all of our gifts and potential . Have an amazing rest of the day and we'll hear each other very , very soon .