Hi , guys , and welcome back to another episode of ChangeWired podcast . My name is Angela Shurina , I'm your host , I'm your change agent and an executive coach with more than 15 years of experience helping ambitious people , leaders , just people who want to create something extraordinary out of their lives . Helping them to find the tools , use them , apply , learn about them , go through many , many transitions , on all with a vision to create the life experience that you absolutely love living Today . Guys , as you probably guessed , we are talking about transitions on this podcast , and if our reality is of any indication , then we are all going through some transitions , more and more of them , as the pace of change seems to be accelerating and probably not going to slow down , with everything that's happening with AI and technology and just the world getting more connected and more aware of things and there is just so much information about
everything . And because of that , because of the rate of exchange of information which technology enables and then again , ai helps us to think better and create more ideas and share those ideas better . Because of this , transitions will not slow down , and it's a good thing . But before we jump into why it's a good thing and how it's amazing to you , it's the time when you have more opportunities than ever to build whatever dream goal , life that you aspire to create . This is the best time to be alive . But before we jump into that , have you ever wondered why everything new , even though it's getting you to a better place or it's objectively better from the beginning , why new feels weird , awkward , very often wrong ? Let me read you a quote from Alan Watts , one of the greatest philosophers , thinkers out there the only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it , move with it , enjoy the dance .
Speaker 1Some research from neuroscientists . Neuroscientists have found that the brain resists change because it craves efficiency and familiarity . The amygdala , the fear center , is responsible for processing discomfort , often triggers resistance when faced with the unknown . And why our brain wants to stay stuck , guys . Why is that ? Well , because everything , every change , requires upfront investment investment of energy , investment of time , investment of money . Often , and the worst thing , the future on the other side is not guaranteed . Of course , the future is never really guaranteed . Even if you stay the same , things will change around you . So the comfort of familiar it's just an illusion . Things will change . You stay still , things will change Even if you stand outside . The weather will change . People will go around you . I don't know animals . The light will change the time of the day . Things will change . People will go around you . I don't know animals . The light will change the time of the day . Things will change no matter whether you stand still or you move with it . But very often when you move with it , it gets better , right , but anyhow , why does our brain resist ? Well , because of this upfront investment .
Speaker 1And your brain hates wasting energy , hates inefficiencies . Your brain hates wasting energy , hates inefficiencies . Your brain's primary purpose is to keep you alive and energy is the currency of life . So when you invest , when you have to spend more of it , your brain doesn't like it Because it wants to save it . It wants to keep you alive , not necessarily thriving , but saving energy , because , as far as your brain concerns , you just don't know what's going to happen .
Speaker 1Okay , now why I'm talking about transitions
today . I just moved to a new place . It's a new apartment and , objectively , it is better than my old place . It has better views , it's closer to the places where I need to go , it has bigger desk , which I always appreciate because I love drawing and writing , and nicer neighborhood , nicer neighbors , but I feel that feeling of well , it's strong , it feels uncomfortable , I miss my old place , I don't like this and this , and there is like a little bit of negativity underlying my old place . I don't like this and this , and there is like a little bit of negativity underlying my whole day . This is my first day in my new apartment , but because I know that this happens every time I go through anything new , even though it's objectively better , I always am going to feel this wrongness of saying , or that it feels weird and uncomfortable and I just want to get back to normal . Right ? I want you to realize that this is what transition , what change , is supposed to feel like . This is how it's designed to feel like .
Speaker 1That's why people stay in the job they hate for years and years often , and take into consideration so many things before jumping into a new job , even though , objectively , from all the perspectives , your new job is better . Or that's why people stay stuck in the same relationship for years , and a lot of people those people came to me , to my coaching , with this like sourness this relationship doesn't work , but you know I have to stay in it . Well , you don't . What I'm saying is transition , change , will always feel uncomfortable
. And the reason it feels uncomfortable is that it's biologically wired in your brain . Your brain wants you to stay stuck quote unquote because familiar , from your brain's perspective at least . It's devil , it might be devil , but it's familiar and your brain knows how much energy it requires to maintain it . And that's why your brain's , because of your brain's primary purpose to keep you surviving your brain wants you to stay where you are Because the future , especially if you're moving there , will require upfront investment and is uncertain and your brain , again , does not like doing upfront investment .
Speaker 1And again back to a broader theme also change and transition at workplace . If you are a leader , if you manage people , if you lead people , please realize that every time you propose anything new , however small or big , people will go through the same resistance to change , to transition , this negativity arc . So the first feeling people experience when you propose anything new , that means change people will experience negativity . So how do you deal with that and how do I help myself to transition into a more positive state , more welcoming , more embracing state of change ? And how can you help yourself and other people so you can go through change smoother , faster , so you keep evolving faster , keep growing and keep expanding your life and keep expanding maybe your family or your company or your team and the impact that you create you personally and collectively . So what to do ? There is actually a very simple playbook that allows you to go through transitions , to lead transitions much better again , personally , for yourself , also for your family , for your team , for your company and maybe the entire world one day .
Speaker 1Number one realizing that this is normal will help you immensely . For me , realizing that this negativity is normal whenever I move to any place , even if it's like six-bedroom mansion , I would still feel negative and would want to go to my old place . Just realizing that and saying that's okay , that's what happens when I move into a new place new career , new relationship , etc . You'll feel negative . Number two highlight the positive . Consciously focus on things that are better , that you like about your new situation , about my new apartment , like bigger desk views , better cooking place , better neighborhood . Highlight those things that are better . Highlight them for yourself . Highlight them for people you lead , for your family , for your company , for your team .
Speaker 1Number three bring some familiar with you . As soon as I move into a new place , I put out some books that I bring , that I carry around the world books that I bring , that I carry around the world books on entrepreneurship and these days also on strategy and transitions and change . Also around the world , I carry my dad's craft , which is a small toy that my dad gave to me and then it broke and then he repaired it . So I carry it . It's small and I always put it out on my desk no matter where I move . Where in the world I am , I have my mug that says I can and I will , and yes , there are cups everywhere , but I carry it with me . It's like my little piece of home , of safety , of familiarity , no matter where I go . So create this for yourself as well . Create this for other people . Bring the familiar with you , parts and pieces so it feels more like huh , it's kind of the same . So your brain feels less resistance , familiar , unfamiliar , in the familiar wrapper .
Speaker 1And number four , create a brighter , bigger , more compelling future for yourself and people who you're helping through transitions . What it means is just paint a picture this place , this new job , this new position , this new thing that we are doing . It's going to be better because it's going to create more impact . It's going to help us to do this and this and that You're going to create more impact . It's going to help us to do this and this , and that You're going to enjoy your walks . You're going to enjoy your views , you're going to enjoy a better company , whatever that is . Create a brighter , bigger , more compelling future . Why this relationship is going to be better , why this job is going to be better . What's good already . Highlight the positive , because
your brain will negatively , as it usually does , by default , go into negatives . So four steps Again .
Speaker 1Let's recap . Number one accept the fact that you're going to feel this negativity . Your brain doesn't like change and transitions . Number two focus on the positives about around your new situation . Pay attention , focus , highlight those positive moments and things in your surrounding . Number three bring some familiarity with you , like the books , the toys , your favorite cup . A lot of people do that when they come to a new office , when they transition to a new company or go to a new position , they put those pictures , those quotes , whatever that helps them to get through transition better and feel at home , feel like you know , I got it , I'm still in my habitat , so to speak . Bring some familiarity with you .
Speaker 1And fourth , and it's a very important one , create a bright picture of the future that you are growing into , that you are changing into , that you are transitioning into , and do this for people you love , for people you lead your team , your company , your family , whoever is going through transition , remember those four steps . Number one help them realize that this is normal , how they feel the negativity , the discomfort , the wrongness of things . Number two focus on the positive what is going to be better and what is better . Number three bring some familiarity with them . Help them to I don't know pack some stuff so they have a sense of home environment with them . And then , number four , create a bigger , brighter , better future .
Speaker 1And because of how many transitions we are going to be going through , collectively and personally , just keep this in mind . And whenever you see you meet , whenever someone in your environment , whenever you are going through transitions and need a reminder that this is normal and this is what you do to make it smoother and better and brighter so you evolve and grow and create more impact faster , just share this episode , highlight it , save it , put a bookmark , whatever it takes , so you don't lose it . Remember it's out there . Share with other people , share with your family , share with your team . Make it a homework , a piece of homework for people around you to learn about this . So , collectively , you go through transitions better and you help each other . If somebody forgets , somebody else will remind , learn together and go through transitions together and lead better through these transitions , whether that's , again , family or team or the whole organization
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Speaker 1I hope , guys , you found this podcast episode useful . Come back to it whenever you feel you need a reminder and you're going through a bigger transition . And don't forget to share , because that's how we collectively help each other to get through transitions better , to grow , evolve faster . So share this episode with at least one other person but I suggest the whole team , family or a company and stay tuned for a Wednesday where we're gonna go through our wellness episode wellness tips and strategies to help you grow , evolve , change and create better , more impactful version of yourself and things you do in the world . So stay tuned , share and happy transitions .