Hey guys , and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast . And today , right off the bat , we are starting new . Yesterday , I wrote a blog about clarity Well , you see the title of this podcast and today I wanted to ask Chad GPT to create a script for this podcast to make it more . To create a script for this podcast to make it more memorable , catchier , more impactful , helping you to change and to lead better in a more impactful way . And also today , chatgpt . When I opened it up , there was an announcement that ChatGPT updated its memory and now it can remember everything better , everything that you say , everything that you work through . And it asked me would you like to see what ChatGPT has to say about you ? So I agreed and I read it and it was amazing . It's like nobody understood me that well . But also then ChatGPT asked well , would you like to create a version for your LinkedIn and your podcast ? And I'm like , why not ? So today my co-host is truly AI and we're going to try a new intro and also the script of the podcast that is based on my blog that I wrote yesterday , that ChatGPT helped me to create . Let me
know how you like it .
Speaker 1So first we have the introduction . Welcome to Change Wired , the podcast for bold leaders and transformation rebels . I'm Angela Sharina , executive coach and culture strategist , and every week we'll explore how to lead a change that lasts , without the burnout , the fluff and corporate buzzwords . Get ready for brain-based tools , strategy-backed systems and real stories of human transformation , because the future belongs to those who can change fast and lead better . So that was the intro . I'd say , pretty good , I might tweak a few things , but I'm like , yeah , that was the intro . I'd say , pretty good , I might tweak a few things , but I'm like , yeah , that was damn good and truly spoke to what I'm trying to create here . So now let's get to the script . That , again , was also created by ChuggyBT , based on the blog that I wrote yesterday . I think it also turned out to be pretty damn good . So let me find it and let's start . So it's going to be a combination of me reading and adding other talking points that I think chat GPT have missed .
Speaker 1Hi there , and welcome back to ChangeWired , where we make personal and organizational transformation not just possible but practical . I'm your host , angela Sharina , and today we are talking about something that might just change the way you approach resistance Resistance in your life , your work and your team . The episode title says it all . You are not lazy , you are unclear , so let's get into it .
Speaker 1We often say someone is resistant to change . But what if that's not really true ? What if what looks like resistance is just like clarity ? And , by the way , guys , there is a quote from one of the classics books on change Switch how to Change when the Change is Hard by Heath Brothers . I highly recommend it .
Speaker 1If you want to get really good at change , understanding it , how it works , especially in practicality , then pick up this book . It's amazing , based on a lot of real-life cases , personal and organizational , and just an amazing read with also like reading list that authors share that will take you on a journey . But anyhow , what if ? What looks like resistance and that is from that book this idea is just a lack of clarity . And yes , I've seen this with teams that I worked with , one-on-one clients , that I worked with hundreds of them , and now I'm seeing the same rolling out on the organizational level . That resistance like is it really resistance or is it just a lack of clarity
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Speaker 1Even in my own life , you know , guys , I notice when I have troubles with starting something or like , ah , I gotta work on communication , or I gotta work on my offers , or I gotta work on my sales , or I gotta uh , learn italian , or I gotta get better at reading . You know , this gotta get better . It's not clear enough , and so every time I just have , I gotta get work . It's not clear enough , and so every time I just have , I gotta get work on something . It never happened . But as soon as I put together a plan and it's like what's my goal here , and we're going to talk about three P's of clarity that if you're resistant , you most probably miss one of those , and this work is based on the best change methodologies , on the best behavior change methodologies and then leading change , change leadership on the organizational level . So whenever I wanted to start something and I didn't , it was usually because I didn't have clarity and this kind of clarity that we are talking about today . Three Ps it's simple and powerful framework and it has three words , guys Purpose , picture , plan . Let's break it down . So , purpose Every time when I jump into any sorts of , I got to get better , I got to improve something , I learned that it has to have a purpose , basically answering the question why bother Before we can lead change or even start a new habit .
Speaker 1We need to ask why is this important again ? Why not changing isn't an option ? Why staying the same isn't an option ? Why should I care enough to get uncomfortable ? That is your purpose . Because if there is no purpose , like literally , why spend energy ? Why spend time ? Why spend , like all the other resources ? Why bother if it's not broken ? Why bother ? And that's the question that actually your brain asks , without you even noticing that . It's the question on everyone's mind . When you try to ask them to change behavior , and until they get on board with the reason why it's crucial , people will resist . Their brain will literally not cooperate until they are fully on board , they fully embrace and understand the idea why it's important , why bother ?
Speaker 1And often with my
clients , I like to ask this question If nothing changes in the next six months about this goal , whether that's losing weight , improving your business , improving your relationship , improving your confidence if nothing changes in the next six months or a year , what's at risk ? What's in it for you ? What's the skin in the game ? Paint the cost of inaction . Paint the cost of inaction , not just the dream of success , because without a strong why , the how won't matter . So this is step number one purpose . When I am struggling with getting things done , with starting things , it's probably not a good enough reason to start , and that's why my brain finds other important things to do or just easier things to do . The next one so we have purpose .
Speaker 1The next one is picture , and that is , by the way , based on the book that I've just finished . It's called Transitions and the subtitle is something like how to take advantage of change , how to manage it better . It's all about organizational cycle of change from the perspective of human psychology , and so the second step is picture . What are you moving toward ? The second P is picture , and it's about showing people , showing yourself , where we are going . Change is scary because it's vague . It feels like jumping off a cliff into fog . But what if , instead of fog , people saw you saw a clear , detailed , exciting destination . All of a sudden , it could become like traveling on a train in the beautiful Switzerland towards a mountain peak . What does the future look like when the change is successful ? What will be different in a good way , whether you're starting a new personal habit or leading a digital transformation in your organization , or taking your team , taking your family on some change journey , this step is critical .
Speaker 1People don't follow ideas , as Judge GPT suggests . They follow pictures they can see themselves in . Just let this sink in . People don't follow ideas , they follow pictures they can see themselves in . And that is very important . Whoever it is you're trying to enroll on this journey whether that's yourself , your team , your family member , your partner , your whole organization people need to see themselves in that picture . So first , is the picture clear enough ? And number two , if you're enrolling other people , can people see themselves in this picture ? They don't follow someone just for the heck of it . They need to see . People need to see . We need to see ourselves in that picture . So the first is purpose why bother ? The second is picture what are we moving toward ? And also additional question what is it for me there ? How am I going to benefit from it ? And then the last P is plan what do I do next ? The third P is the bridge between
vision and action . It's the plan . And here is a very important point , guys . The plan doesn't have to be complete or perfect or like having a plan for the next five years or even a month . It just has to answer one question what's my next step ? What do we do on Monday Exactly .
Speaker 1So many people stop and resist and stall , not because they're lazy not because you're lazy , guys , but because you're stuck and overwhelmed . You don't really understand what's the next step . There are so many , sometimes it's like just pick one . But this clarity has to be there when you give someone a clear , step-by-step instruction . It's kind of like when you get a Lego box or a puzzle and you have a picture and with the puzzle , a little bit different . But if you have a Lego , you know step by step , and you're like I just want to dive right into because I know how to assemble it , or at least to start to take the next step towards that vision that we talked about , even just the first few moves . Momentum builds . The brain loves clarity and hates uncertainty . And if you want change to stick , guys , you've got to make the action pass . So simple it's almost hard not to follow it . So plan , plan , plan , plan .
Speaker 1Very often we ask people to change , we ask ourselves to change , like when I would tell myself oh , you know , I need to get better with Italian , or offers or sales , or coaching , or building consulting business , until I would get to a place that I know this is the next step . I'm going to show up twice a day and spend 10 minutes on my Italian , one with Duolingo , one reading from ChatGPT , whatever short text it will provide on that day . Until there is clarity also when I'm going to do that , I'm going to do that first thing before my writing . I'm going to do that at the beginning of my studying session each night . So the clarity has to be there If you want people to change . People got to understand what exactly I'm going to do , starting on Monday , like exactly step by step . It has to be there .
Speaker 1Until it's there , people will resist Again . It's like asking them to jump into some fog of the cliff , just not going to happen . And that's where a lot of resistance comes from . And I also noticed that when I procrastinate or when I work with leaders who procrastinate on something , this is usually the missing step . It's like do we have clarity ? Do you actually know what it means to improve your health ? Do you actually know what it means to improve confidence and how you're going to go about that ? Do you actually know what it is to get better at feedback ? Until we have a very clear , step by step , even just again , a few steps forward , we're not going to move into action . So , from stuck to starting , from stuck to starting , from stuck to starting . Let's recap Next time you , your family , your team , feel stuck or unmotivated , like feeling like procrastinating , don't assume the problem is laziness or resistance .
Speaker 1Ask instead do we have a strong enough purpose ? Why bother ? Can we see a compelling picture of the future ? Is there a compelling picture ? Is there a clear picture of a rewarding future ? And are the people I'm trying to involve engage on this journey ? Do they see themselves in it ? Is there a clear , simple plan for what to do next ? So , purpose picture plan . I use this every time when I coach myself , when I coach a CEO , when I'm working with a team or working on a culture change strategy , helping companies to launch a new culture initiative , purpose picture plan . Now , I didn't always have this step-by-step or 3P plan ,
but we would always work on this . Three like why bother ? What's the vision ? What's the next step ?
Speaker 1Even the most high-performing people get stuck when they don't have the simple pieces in place . But obviously , high-performing people usually at some point learn that they have to have them in order to move forward , and usually high performing people , you know , guys , if you consider yourself a high performer or don't , or maybe you consider someone a high performer or don't . Usually the whole difference is just having good enough tools , good enough systems to unlock your high performance . And let's recap again Purpose picture plan . So next time again , you find yourself or you find other people , your team , your family , the whole organization , stuck or not , taking action towards some meaningful , important , stuck or not taking action towards some meaningful , important from your perspective goal . Just ask yourself and ask people Is this important ? Do you understand why it's important to do it right now ? Do you see the picture ? Do you understand the future that we are building ? Not like to judge , but inquire . See where people are with their three P's , purpose picture plan and do you know what to do ? Like here's the step that I would take right , give examples . That usually disarms people and gives them ideas without feeling judged .
Speaker 1So step-by-step is very important , especially for someone who've never done that before . But you never know like well , do people have clarity or not ? Sometimes we don't have clarity about the simplest thing , like how to make I don't know eggs . Just because you know , maybe because you've done it so many times , doesn't mean that the other person you know . We have this bias that when we think something is simple , we think , well , it's supposed to be simple for everyone , but that's not the case . So , step-by-step , very important as purpose and plan , to recap , let's get back to our through the ending of the episode suggested by chat GPT . If this episode sparked something for you guys , share it with a friend , a colleague or your leadership team . Let's help more people trade resistance for clarity and , most importantly , action and change . And remember you or other people are not lazy . Very often we are just missing one of the P's Purpose picture plan and see you next time . On Change Word , let me know how we did with ChatGPT .