The Sheila Botelho Show
Sheila Botelho is a business strategist guiding visionary leaders to more profit, freedom, and self-trust. With decades of experience in wellness, sales, and transformational coaching, she helps founders grow businesses that generate wealth and impact—without burning out or dimming down.
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When Your Spark Goes Quiet | EP 571
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If you've ever felt your spark go quiet while your business still expects you to lead, you know how disorienting that can be. In this mini sode, I'm going to show you why creativity collapses under nervous system inflammation and how to restore your capacity without forcing it. I've been devoted to my work while navigating deep personal loss, and I've learned the hard way, what happens when you override your body. I'll walk you through the physiological reason this happens and the strategic shift that protects your long-term expansion. By the end, you'll understand exactly what state you need to create from if you want clean wealth and sustainable growth. Hi, welcome to the podcast. I'm Sheila Botelho, and I believe true success is built from the inside out. This mini sode is designed to help you live into what lights you up this week. There's something I've found that so many high achievers never learn, and I've learned this personally. You can't create from an inflamed nervous system. You can produce and perform and push, but the kind of clean, original creation that builds wealth and legacy requires steadiness. And there was a season in my life where my spark went quiet. After my father passed in 2020, something shifted in me. And it wasn't just about my dad. I had already lost my sister a number of years before, then my mom and a number of other loved ones over the years. And grief had layered itself into my body. And in human design, I'm a sacral manifesting generator. You can look that up and see what that means. But truly, the punchline is that my spark is not optional. It is the engine. It is how I move. It's how I build and how I magnetize. And I remember genuinely wondering if I had lost it, if grief had taken my creative fire with it. And on the outside, I kept going, I recorded, I coached, I showed up, I kept building. But there was always fallout. Either my health would take a dip or my energy would crash, or my body would simply collect what I was overriding. And I thought I was doing the work of releasing everything. But there was a pattern happening here. And when you understand the nervous system, it does make so much more sense. Because under stress, what I've learned is your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain responsible for strategic thinking and emotional regulation, becomes less efficient. The system shifts towards survival circuitry. And that response obviously is very protective. It's absolutely brilliant. It's just not designed for visionary leadership. And someone who I love so much learning from, Dr. Gaber Mate, he has spoken extensively about how emotional stress does not stay in the mind. It moves through the nervous system, the hormonal system, the immune system. And the body actually carries what the psyche cannot metabolize. So looking back, I have so much more grace on myself because I was not lacking discipline. My whole entire system was inflamed. And here's what I had to learn. Sometimes the most strategic move is to drop yourself into neutral, not productive mode or emotional overload mode. Just idle. And I love driving my husband's manual transmission car sometimes. And there's something really beautiful about idling in neutral. It's not laziness that you're feeling when you're in that state personally. It's recalibration. And so when I was idling, there were evenings when I would intentionally sit down to watch something light, a show or a movie. And this wasn't like escapism, as sometimes it can be. And it wasn't me numbing out, but truly the intention, and I didn't know it at the time, but it was to interrupt the internal pressure to keep generating. It gave me something to do. So it felt like I was doing something, even though I wasn't actually doing something. I was watching something, which is quite a different energy. And when done consciously, something like Netflix can be pattern interruption. It shifts your attention and allows cognitive decompression to occur. And it gives your nervous system a chance to stand down. Research on recovery shows that psychological detachment from work and deliberate relaxation are what restore cognitive capacity. So we've seen that creative problem solving improves when the brain is given undemanding space to just wander. You might feel this way when you're out on a walk and you don't have any earbuds in, nobody's with you, and you're just listening to the birds and looking around. So this is a true permission for you, for me, for all of us through different seasons of our lives that stepping away is not weakness. It's actually intelligent regulation. And over time, I realized that my spark had not disappeared. Thank God. It just needed safety to return. And that is what self-care for business truly means. You're protecting you, the instrument of the brilliance that you're putting out into the world because your business runs on your nervous system. So if you're scaling, if you're holding responsibility, if you're leading people, if you're stewarding wealth, you cannot afford to ignore the state of the system doing the building. There's a version of this conversation I write about more candidly in Sheila's notes, because founders scaling their businesses rarely talk publicly about what it costs the nervous system to keep leading. So in my private reflections, I share what I'm calibrating in real time, the shifts behind the scenes, the decisions that do not make it into social posts. And if this resonates, that's where you can stay for the deeper conversation. One aligned action, though, before you go. Please give yourself permission to enter neutral today without earning it. Thanks so much for listening. I hope you have a beautiful rest of your week, and I'll see you on the next episode.