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Road to Radical Visibility Show/Podcast
Road to Radical Visibility Show/Podcast
How to Reinvent Your Life at 40, 50, and beyond. Live FREE!
Hey there, fearless souls! You are in for a treat my friends!
Just two 50+ women reinventing ourselves through some of the toughest times of our lives.
Are you ready to kick start your reinvention journey and create a life that truly lights you up?
Well, buckle up and get ready for some real talk! Join Rachel and Shana - your hosts and the authors of the powerful book "Your Voice, Your Choice" - as they take you on a ride towards radical visibility, resilience and reinvention.
This is no ordinary self-help video, my friends! We get real and share with you things we have never shared before in this episode. You will see yourself in our journeys as we weave through some of the toughest times we have faced in the last six months.
We're here to break it down for you and show you that reinvention is not just about bouncing back, it's about consciously creating the life you desire.
So get your notepad ready and let's dive into the nitty-gritty of shedding old identities and conquering that new peak you've been dreaming of.
We'll share our own personal stories of triumph over adversity and introduce you to the inspiring tales of 20 incredible women who have embraced their own reinventions. Your Voice Your Choice Book
Oh, and don't forget the power of vulnerability - it's time to be real and embrace that uncomfortableness that leads to amazing growth.
No more letting society dictate your choices! It's time to be brave, make changes when you're unhappy, and live life on your own terms.
So, are you ready to celebrate the beauty of radical reinvention? We sure hope so.
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When you start envisioning yourself living a different life. That is truly the beginning awareness that creates the play with possibility. What if I could live that life? What would it look like?
Speaker 1:Hello, beautiful people, Just a little warning listening to the Road to Radical Visibility podcast may result in you feeling confident, AF, free from the expectations and opinions of others, and give you the ability to create ultimate self-trust in who you are, what you say and how you show up in every part of your life. I guarantee you this episode will empower you to be 100% yourself 100% of the time. No shame or guilt needed. Now let's dive in.
Speaker 1:Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome to another episode of Road to Radical Visibility. My name is Rachel Freeman-Sowers, also known as the Break Free Bitch, because I am passionate about helping people just like you break free from the social constructs, opinions, expectations and beliefs that are holding you back from living and experiencing your life exactly the way that you want to. And if you're new here, you've been hanging out for very long. You'll know that my professional and personal motto is being 100% yourself 100% of the time. No shame or guilt needed. Now, today's episode is going to be different. As you can see, I have my sister from a different mista on this episode again.
Speaker 2:Hi Shana, Thanks for coming on the episode. Thanks again.
Speaker 1:So today, shana and I are here to empower you, to inspire you to know that reinvention can happen at any stage of life. Shana is not only my sister from a different mista. She has become my best friend all of it off of TikTok, just FYI and she is also my business partner in creating multi-other authored book projects that really allow us to tell our stories and inspire other people to experience their life the way that they want. Do you want to add anything to that, shana?
Speaker 2:I just want to say what she's saying.
Speaker 1:Okay, if you're not watching the video and you're listening on the podcast, of course you're going to hear our voices. But this shit's going to be hilarious today. I mean, there's going to be all kinds of stuff. We have not planned it out.
Speaker 2:What we want to do. You're my wingman, I'm your wingman.
Speaker 1:That's right. That's right. What we want to do is empower you to say I'm doing this and I'm doing it because I need to for my life, for me to experience the way that I want. This episode is also inspired by a recent book that was just published. You can hold up your copy, I'll hold up mine. It's called your Voice, your Choice, In this multi-authored book project. It really was about 20 women telling their stories of reinvention and resilience. I'm telling you as I've read through this book, and then I'll ask you what your thoughts are, of course, because you helped them write all the stories. As I read through the book, I was like, oh my gosh, there is a story in this book for everyone.
Speaker 2:Right, Right, I mean, I think if somebody does go through and read all the stories, they're going to realize that there's a thread of something in each story that we can all respond to. Even if you haven't gone through personal struggles or death or whatever, there's always something relatable. I just encourage people to read one story at a time. They're all very different and though we have a thread of reinvention and resilience, a lot of resilience came through. That wasn't even going to be a word we used in the beginning, right, Rachel, but we found through the course of six, seven months that these women and Rachel, you and I included have a tremendous amount of resilience and sometimes when people think of that word, they think, oh, you're out to fight or whatever. But it's not that at all. It's the ability to manage your outside world or inside world, and do it in a way that is really. I don't know really where I'm going with this, but do it in a way that honors yourself and those around you Absolutely.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 2:It's just so much more manageable and I think and this will come out in the next hour or whatever we're talking but, like Rachel, you and I didn't start out this way. We don't start out at age. You know I'm 57 now. It's like I didn't start out when I was 12 with confidence and this and that. And I'll be honest, anyone who knew me back when I was younger, you would not recognize me in terms of who I am, who I've become, because I was shy, timid. I wouldn't answer the phone. You know landline phones, right, not cell phones.
Speaker 2:I had parents to answer the phone and you know my mom was like she's so shy with you and when people know me, now I get up in front of thousands of people, I talk, I'm comfortable. But you know, again, that's a progress. That took me a long time to get there, so I did a long way of saying the word resilience, but it was so important, so important.
Speaker 1:I am so glad you brought up your definition of resilience because, as a licensed marriage family therapist for the majority of my career and now as a liberation invisibility coach, resilience isn't just about how you get back from a trauma. Yeah Right, and that's often how it's used in the psychological field, like, oh, you're resilient, so. Or we also say like, oh, my kids are resilient, so it won't impact them as much. Or that person's resilient They've been through a lot of things, so it won't. And the fact that matter is is that resilience is about how, like you said, you get yourself back to living the life you want to live and experiencing it the way that you want to for yourself. Right, and every single one of you listening to this and or watching this have the power within you to live your life exactly the way you want. Now let's just be real. Reinvention is not unicorns pooping cotton candy all the time.
Speaker 2:No, I can't give you to say that Right it is.
Speaker 1:We're going to talk today about the truth, about resilience, about the fire that resilience has in us and helps us create, and the power of it, because there are so many things that get in our way, and I know that you have had massive, massive Reinventions in the last year and all of you know this podcast in the show is about being real and raw. So I'm gonna be real and raw, Sean is gonna be real and raw, and so you better buckle up, my friends cause it is gonna be fucking powerful.
Speaker 2:I feel it coming in fun.
Speaker 1:Right, I know I can feel you.
Speaker 2:I can feel you through the thing I'm squirming, I'm moving, I'm doing things with my body that make me feel more comfortable. That's another form of coping resilience, yeah.
Speaker 1:So let's just dive into what has what have been your reinventions over the last 12 months? Oh wow, yeah.
Speaker 2:Just a backup for people. So I think it was January of this year, coming up the whole year I called Rachel and I said, hey, I have this idea for a book project, not just a book and I mean, why would I call Rachel? But I called Rachel because I thought she'd be a great partner in terms of helping these women get through their stories and tell their stories and whatnot. And then, of course, your platform, your online platform, to showcase everybody. So it was just sort of a natural thing. We went about planning and we launched International Women's Day, march 8th, and we didn't know what we're doing. I mean, I had actually I've done other multi-authored books, so had the blueprint, but this was dealing with women who very, very raw, real emotions and situations and whatnot. And so I wasn't not to say I wasn't prepared for that, but it was a surprise to me. And you know that, rachel, I came to you and I'm like, oh my God, I feel like the psychologist, like I'm a ghost writer. You know I'll take your voice and I'll transform it onto a piece of paper. But then I felt like, oh, they really need me. So I became a really good listener, I guess. But during the course of this whole thing over the last several months. I needed that.
Speaker 2:During the course of this year, my mom, who was 84, she had failing health for years, but this was the time when she was ready to go, so I had to make a few trips back to Calgary, alberta, my home, and my mom passed away in June of this year and I was like, am I gonna keep all this shit together? I've got all these women and all these people relying on me for this book, right, that we're launching in the fall. And in a month I saw this. I'm dealing with my mom, right, and I said to you before, rachel, I'm not gonna give you a single piece of it. I haven't taken the time to grieve. I've had too much stuff to do. And then you throw in moving. We sold our condo, we moved, my partner got so sick for weeks that I had to do everything, and I'm still trying to publish a book. I fucking don't know how I did it.
Speaker 1:I'll just be dead honest.
Speaker 2:So there's another side of it. I've lost weight, a lot of stress, but did I pop out at the other end? Yeah, here I am and I feel, actually as much as I felt so weakened this year by these events, that I feel on the other side of it, like I feel so strong and empowered. And I think that's where, for myself, the resilience in me continues to grow. And people talk about resilience as an after effect, Like oh, she was resilient through that whole process or whatever.
Speaker 2:But I almost look at it as a futuristic thing, Like why can't we be more proactive with resilience, Like knowing you're gonna be facing a difficult situation, what are you gonna pull out of your tool bag emotional, physical tool bag to get you through that? And it seems so simple. But and I've said this to you, Rachel, many others there's one word that I've adopted this year and the word is temporary, because I needed to tell myself that this was temporary Everything. And then I started to become more analytical about it. I'm like everything's temporary. Our hair, our skin, our cells change every seven days, Like we are literally a new person. Every single cell. In like seven years, Brand new person gets evolved. So we're always changing, you know. And so, yeah, I think I'm gonna leave this point back to you, Rachel, but yeah, the resilience part of the factor was something that surprised me.
Speaker 1:And isn't it interesting? I mean, if we go back, resilience is absolutely something that is created, developed. It doesn't always just FYI, it doesn't always have to come out of hardship. Resiliency is built out of feeling good, feeling happy, experience, joy. Resilience is built out of all of it. So if your resilience is only built out of trauma and hardship, we need to help you balance that out, my friends. Now, if we go back to reinvention and we're seeing how, for you, all of these instances that felt like the fire, we go through those instances and what is the thing that you said to yourself that says I either want to be this way or I'm not going to be doing that anymore, Cause that's where reinvention happens. Reinvention happens when we decide right.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Yeah, you know I've reinvented myself so many times throughout my life. It's sort of like which story do I choose? Like it was literally like which story do I choose? Cause you know, when you have lots of life experiences which is fantastic you get to pick and choose.
Speaker 2:So you know, my story, that I chose because it's near and dear to my heart, is the reinvention of becoming a mother. I mean, it's automatic, it's almost like an automatic thing, cause you're carrying this child and all of a sudden the child's born and you're like, oh my God, I'm actually I'm a mother now what? And you know spent the last 20 years figuring that out, but anyway, so I told a story about a brief story about my son, and you know the different challenges and struggles and wonderful things that have happened along the course of being a gay woman with a female partner, co-parenting and going through all of the like just getting pregnant, like that is not something that we just get to do, we have to organize it, make appointments, book appointments, pay money, like there's so many things that I think I I hopefully address a lot of that, my personal experience on that, and it's funny cause I'm watching this young couple on TikTok go through the same thing and they're Canadian, so I'm reaching out and I'm sending them little things, you know, cause they're just like five weeks pregnant and you know they're going through all this stuff, just sharing the entire thing online, which is really fascinating, cause 20 years ago there was no online, there was no sharing. I was, I believe, the second lesbian in Calgary to be inseminated through the clinic. So, yeah, I feel like I'm talking like dinosaur age, but those are the things that that you know, redefine me, of course, being a mom, and I did add to the story that the surprise reinvention for me, which I will take a long time to figure out, is I'm no longer a daughter, and I put that in my book and I haven't taken the time, and I don't want to right now, to unpack that.
Speaker 1:Well, let me just take some of this, because you know, in the reinvention so much happens. Yes, when you okay, you're born and you go through, and you're like go up to teenage and then you start trying to figure out who you want to be, what you want to be, how you want to interact in the world. Then you hit your 20s and you're like, okay, this is what I'm doing and here's my first identity. And then you hit late 20s and you're like, what the heck is going on? This is not what I want to do. Then you hit your 30s. You're like, okay, you have this renewed thing. And you're like, okay, let's go.
Speaker 1:Then you hit your late 30s and you're like, fuck this, I don't want this anymore, I'm tired of doing this, I'm going to live my life. And then you go and you do that, and now you're 50s, I'm 51. You're 57. So 40 was like screw everyone else. For me and this is a very familiar story for women and I believe, in other marginalized communities who have so much shit put on you by toxic social constructs, all the things we already talked about, right. And then you hit your 50s and then you're like it was almost like for me like oh, you know it was like oh wait, I don't have to do that.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm telling you I'm seven years into my 50s. I'll tell you what you just said was a very similar pathway to me. You know the 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, right, yes, and not the minute I turned 50, but probably within a year, I felt like I was just going through a rebirth, like I felt that might not even my peak. I still don't even think I'm at my peak. I'm weight. I don't want to Me, neither you guys better watch out.
Speaker 2:I don't want to be at my peak because then there's just downhill on the other side. So I'm just going to keep climbing that summit and recreating new summits because that's what gets me up in the morning and new, you know, for professionally book projects that we're starting up here again real soon, rachel and I and others. But you know more than that, my personal life, my traveling, and you know everything that I do on the island. I live on Vancouver Island. I'm so blessed to be surrounded by nature, so you know I'm looking forward to all kinds of different stuff and yeah, Well, and just to track back a little bit, once you hit these, the second half I guess I would.
Speaker 1:I would let's just say the second half. You know there are multitudes of things that happen. Just like you, my parents have aged, my father has died. My mother is aging. She's gone through some of the most difficult experiences she has ever had to deal with. At the age of 76.
Speaker 1:I had to allow and release my daughter, and I haven't talked about this publicly and yet it's been a very interesting journey, how the idea of motherhood for me has been very different than what I've heard, and I know I'm not the only one. But at the age of she's 30, I'm 51. It's almost like to watch and allow and release her from that role in my life. And I know people will have opinions about that and you can have your opinions about it and also understand that I am the only one living my life and you get to live yours Right. And so reinvention is about how we decide what we're going to do, how we decide to come back to what we truly want and I say it all the time and I know it sounds repetitive and yet it's worth hearing. It's all about how you live the life that you want to and how we spare ourselves of the self judgment of wanting to do that.
Speaker 1:Because you, recently you moved to Vancouver Island. You bought a condo. You're like this is okay, this is where we are, this is how it's going to be, and you envision that life there. And then let's just say nine months later, is it nine months? Or year, a year later? You're like hold up, this is not it, this is not how, this is not how, this is not what I thought it would be. And then you bought a beautiful piece of after space and you live in a beautiful RV and you have a she shed and there are other places around there and you get to experience life the way you want. And it takes some courage to do that. And so tell us about two things that you did to trust yourself, to make the move that you made, because it's a major move, seline, giving up a lot of things, and a lot of people would say I can't do that at that age. I can't do that because I can't do it because of this, this and this. What gave you the courage to do it?
Speaker 2:You know a little bit. I'd have to say my past, because I've made some big decisions in my past that have worked out. Like I always say, you never make mistakes, you just make decisions that are either good or bad and you live with those consequences. So, you know, I was like, well, how bad could it be? It's still in the same country, it's a province over for us, but it is very different, Like living on an island. You don't just, you know, drive off an island, you have to fly, ferry, whatever. But it's fantastic, I love it every bit of it. But what took me there? I mean, I have a very supportive partner, so that helped. But I've maintained and I will say this, even if I didn't have a partner, I'd be sitting right here because this is where I belong. Like after subsequent trips here, my heart was here, my soul was here and no longer was back there.
Speaker 1:So tell me the thought, tell me the thought that said, because this is what people struggle with. They can see a life, but to get from the life they have to the life they want, there's all the fear.
Speaker 2:You break it down into small, bite-sized pieces, because we can't manage big pieces. It's too much to bite For me to say I'm going from Calgary and I'm going to travel, you know, 1500 kilometers to an island. That's a big bite. So break it down, right, just break it down into small little pieces, and then it's so much more manageable. It's like okay, well, we've found a place to live, we're buying a place, that's done. That's the first piece. Then we place it all into when that's all going to happen. And, believe me, I was surprised when it comes.
Speaker 1:I thought it wasn't ready when we got here.
Speaker 2:We were literally homeless and so funny story, true my partner works at a nursing home, an independent living, so we lived with seniors living for four months. We had no choice. But those are all the things that you have to be back to resilience, right and going okay. But I guess it's just cause I'm like I'm ready for you, I was in a good, good space and I'm like bring it on, I can manage this, and so so you think that I think that that's it, though, because you have to release some kind of fear and you have to be a risk tolerance Absolutely.
Speaker 1:And so, as you move, either emotionally and relationships physically because, as you know, I've recently moved to Vancouver, washington, love it here, pacific Northwest and you know, ronneke and I had talked about this move over a year and a half ago and we're like okay, let's start. And when you start envisioning yourself living a different life, that is truly the beginning awareness that creates the play of pop with possibility. What if I could live that life? What would it look like? And then, like you say, breaking that down, but envisioning that in your head, points the reticular activation system in your brain to say this is what we're focused on. And then we naturally go towards that and start solving the issues or mitigating risk.
Speaker 2:Another thing we did and it's not hokey and you would know this more than anybody, but Tina and I created a vision board, the tour of, and it was of equal input, and that vision board was placed up in plain sight for over a year as we managed to get that vision board to reality. And so that was our beacon and I still have it and we're here. But it's just like I look at it and go, wow, man, we did it and we freaking did it and it's a, it's a, it's a decision. At the end of the day is a decision what's best for you. You know, I waited till my son graduated. He's off to university now, so I got all those things, you know, got them all done. I didn't like take off. Everything was well placed, well placed out, so, but making the decision is just that's. You just have to make it.
Speaker 1:Well and I think that's what makes us really great partners in whatever project we joined together in is because you plan it out and I'm like, hey, just go with the flow and don't get me wrong. This recording just FYI. Sean is like, hey, can you give me five minutes? I have to prep. And I was like, hey, don't forget is a conversation, no worries.
Speaker 2:The cat didn't get the memo, but you know, so I mean like so you think it's like right, you have to.
Speaker 1:you have to choose. Now, if you are someone that's out there struggling to be like, this is what I really want. This is how I really want to live my life. This is what I really want to experience in my life. The first and easiest thing you can do is start visualizing, Start imagining, go back, I mean like again, like Sean said, when I was younger, we didn't. We had this 10 inch black and white TV. When there was no cable. We lived out in the country, there was a landline, and we used our imaginations to play. And that is why I say play with the possibility to all of my clients and all of my friends. What would it look like if, more importantly, what would my body feel like? And get that feeling in your body? That's what makes a vision board powerful. The vision board isn't the thing that has the magic. You are the thing that has the magic. The vision board is the reminder of your magic.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Right, so you know. Just to review, because I don't want people to get lost awareness and start imagining playing with a possibility. What would it look like? Create something physical, like a vision board, if you need it. Start breaking down. What are the steps? What are some of the technical things, like when Ronneke and I moved? Well, ronneke needed to have a job. It's more expensive to live here than it is in Reddy.
Speaker 2:She actually had to get a different job. So never mind, I'm packing up boxes and stuff. I can write anywhere I can live in Africa. So I'm like, do you do right? But meantime she's like sending a resume. So this isn't easy at all. There were so many moving parts and I can go back on it and just go what did I just travel through, but again bite-sized pieces break it down. You don't need to make a decision. Until you need to make a decision, don't?
Speaker 1:try it, don't try it, don't try it.
Speaker 2:No, no, no. Just what's next? What's tomorrow? What's tomorrow?
Speaker 1:Yep, exactly. Don't start worrying about what's happening in six months. It's like what I do You're building a book, right?
Speaker 2:You don't just write a book Like there's so many people and then there's Rachel. Don't even edit it, sean, that's fine. Actually, that's more of my style, but that's beside the point.
Speaker 2:But getting a book out there. Whatever it is that you do, it takes planning and process and steps and all those things. So, what are your goals and your dreams, though? If you're sitting there listening to God, I wish I was as brave as her, or whatever. No, well, I am God.
Speaker 2:No, I wasn't always, though, but in order to and we, we haven't used this word yet today, which is like I feel like I should tattoo it somewhere. The word vulnerable it's, it's working through that, because people are like oh, you can write Sean, and your stuff's out there. I said that doesn't mean I'm still not feeling vulnerability every time I put something out there, but I've learned that I'll be honest once. You know, once, once I got the book done in my story done, I felt I felt vulnerable too, but I felt kind of a good vulnerable, like I don't know how to explain it, because now I'm almost like to the point where bring it on vulnerability. I'm like challenged by vulnerability. It actually and I've said this to you before I've been, you know, tucking away my true passion of writing erotica, and it's just like that's a big vulnerability. Step into that, that world, and it's like no, I'm going to do it, this is it? This is this is the year I'm publishing this stuff, and I, too, will go through another vulnerability Stepping stone.
Speaker 1:Well, and it's that reinvention right, you're going to reinvent, and then only the next level and then the next stepping stone or whatever. It is right, and I think it's really important to note that vulnerability. Vulnerability is a vulnerability that you can create. Vulnerability is a vulnerability that you can create Vulnerability when you create the safety internally about your vulnerability, vulnerability. Vulnerability is no longer about let me show you and get your opinion of me and what I have created. Vulnerability then turns into being. I am presenting this. If you benefit from it, fantastic, and if not, keep going, keep scrolling, keep doing whatever you do From the external thing that has told you. Let's just be real, for so long that you weren't enough, right, right, right. And I was on a podcast and this guy says to me and I'd never been called this before, and then you put it on social media, and then I was like, oh, then I really saw and he's like Rachel is a point of vulnerability, powerhouse, because I don't want to live my life in the other way.
Speaker 2:It's so limiting, and we do such a good job of self-limiting ourselves, don't we? But we don't need to be able to put us down and keep us small. We didn't do that all by ourselves, and I've stated and I'm stating it, I'll state it here is that next year I'm working my way up to a massive ghostwriting job that is probably going to be public. How and where I get there, I don't know, but I'm going to get there because I'm putting it out there. That's my vision for my life and what I want, and so it's going out. I'll make it happen.
Speaker 1:So, okay, we've talked about a lot of things and I'm wondering I guess I'm wondering if you'll I'm going to read mine, you read yours, the. Let me look the introduction to your story.
Speaker 2:Okay, saying goodbye Well, making this book. My mother's health took a turn for the worse and I made some unexpected trips back to my home time of Calgary, alberta. I was struggling a lot of big life events, but my mother's hospice was my priority. Taking care of my mom through hospice was a responsibility I took very seriously. Being by her side during this most difficult time was an honor and a privilege. While her death was not a shock to any of us, the feelings I had and still have are in uncharted territory. Yes, I've experienced many deaths during my lifetime, but my mother's deaths profoundly affected me, which I'm still sorting through. I've come to the realization that I'm no longer a daughter. Over many years I've played this role to the ultimate degree. I now feel an emptiness inside. I can't explain, but perhaps I don't have to. Mom, it wasn't always easy, but we made it to the end. May you find the peace you so long for during your time here. See how the debt for me.
Speaker 1:So if you're listening and you want to tell Shawna and give her some, advice don't do it.
Speaker 1:If you want to put in the comment how much you admire her story and her bravery, put that instead. This episode is not about us needing people's opinions about how we're experiencing our lives. The reinvention of each person throughout their whole, entire life, the multiple reinventions, are for them, and honoring yourself and how you live your life allows you to honor other people and how they live theirs. Okay, so I'm going to read mine. Thank you. I used to pray to be a dumb blonde. You've heard all the jokes. Yep, I wanted to be that.
Speaker 1:For countless years I held back, ignored and endured one micro self betrayal after the next. I was taught, encouraged and even prayed not to trust myself. Bye bye to self esteem, self trust and worthiness. I prayed to have the ability to work around on this earth with limited insight, limited senses and limited knowing. It reminds me of multiple stories of people I help and friends trying to pray the gay away. With my best dumb blonde effort, I gave that prayer shot and for three solid days I really did a good effort. In my book I was to. It was to no avail. God, the universe of whatever you want to call it, wasn't about to answer that prayer. They were like nah, rachel, nah.
Speaker 1:You know you touched on something earlier and how we shame ourselves and judge ourselves enough. You know, and I know, and I'm going to tell all of you listening that that stuff was never yours. You didn't come out of the womb shaming yourself, judging yourself. All of that was given to you. So when you find yourself doing that, there's no need to judge yourself and to say you're not worthy. I want to encourage you to release all of those, because this is where your next reinvention lies.
Speaker 1:Anything that you feel, for any reason, you can't do, whatever those reasons are, whatever you've been told, you have the opportunity and choice to say nah, no, thank you. It's for the awareness and we're moving on this way to honor yourself and to finally create this ultimate self trust that allows you to continue to move forward in your life the way that you want to, whatever that may be. You know whether it's moving and selling, moving from land to an island, then from a condo to an RV to dare to live life the way that you want, for financial freedom, for whatever it is, to move a place, to move from a place where everyone is telling you why can't you just do it here? Why can't you just make it? Why can't you just change your mindset? Why can't you just blah, blah, blah?
Speaker 2:I had a lot of that in Calgary, like why do you have to leave, kind of thing, right? I mean it's fear your friends don't want to see you move and I you know. But at the end of the day I got to do what's best for myself and my family and I did just that. So I am like.
Speaker 2:I'm literally living my dream, like I'm in a beautiful part of the island I mean I'm steps away from the ocean and hikes and like, but creating it with intention. Right, rachel? I've said that word again many times. It's it's wake up with intention. People Like we need to wake up as a human race, as a society, as countries. Wake the fuck up, cause like no one's going to do it for you. There are so many people in my life that are just waiting for things to happen to them. Well, guess what? You're going to be waiting until you die and it's never going to fucking happen.
Speaker 1:Well, and if that's the way, honestly, you want to live your life, you go. Do you boo yeah?
Speaker 2:But if you're not happy with it, then make the change, is what my point is Right.
Speaker 1:Right, I mean, and realizing too that the more self-trust that you create, the more knowing you have about yourself, the less you need input from other people. Other people may have very, very great intentions, but they are doing and telling you something through their lenses of experiences, their own fear, though.
Speaker 2:You care.
Speaker 1:Right and a lot of it is a projection.
Speaker 2:Why can't I do that? Because it's your fear, it's not my fear. Like, why would you tell me I can't do something? Who are you to say that? But that is, we're all raised with that, aren't we? We're raised to be fit in a box and limitations, or you can only do so much. My dad was famous for that. I don't know how I managed to get out from underneath that. I'll be honest. It was like no, you have a good job, stay in that job for the rest of your life. Well, just because you did, dad, doesn't mean that's right for me. That's not my path and so, like you know, want to change careers and everything. That was a massive hit to them, but not to me. I knew what was right for me, so anyway, yeah, I there's.
Speaker 1:I mean like this this discussion about reinvention, you know, could go on for hours. So in one to two sentences and I know this is going to be hard for you from the depths of your soul Okay, yes, okay. If someone is struggling and you want to inspire them to reinvent themselves however they want, what do you want to tell them?
Speaker 2:Call Rachel. Okay, I'm not the therapist. What do you want? What do you want?
Speaker 2:But like this is like someone's like hey, so I mean I can only go by, you know like what inspires me or where I get inspiration, or whatever. I mean talking to you. I mean I call you, I email you, whatever, right, not email text, but I read a lot in, you know, books like this. It doesn't again, I'm not here to plug the book, but anything that you can draw inspiration from. Podcasts have become something very, very important to my daily life now, and I choose people like Mel Robbins to listen to and wrote to radical visibility, so why wouldn't I? So, anyway, you got to create your own space.
Speaker 1:It just there it is. What is your?
Speaker 2:one sentence. How are you going to do? It is different than mine, but just consciously, wake up. How am I going to create my own space today? Just start with today, and it might just be a nice brewed cup of coffee that you haven't done in a while, I don't know. Whatever, that is right. And start. Make that one phone call, like I've got. I've got a student now with my academy and she I said, hey, you got to get yourself a website, you know, you got to do a bio, you got to do all these things, you got to get the steps in place. And so she is. She's systematically getting things done and that's what you do every day. You wake up. What's my space today? How do I create that?
Speaker 1:So okay. So here's going to be my one sentence, maybe two. I took up too much bandwidth. Don't worry about the how Now for people like Shana. This can drive you crazy, and yet there is freedom in that. Stop projecting what you think, because, remember, anything that you think you want to happen is based on your past experiences. But how much more powerful would it be to be like I'm open to whatever experiences are there for me.
Speaker 2:Good, bad or ugly right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right, and how? When nothing is, either, I'll just take it the next step forward. Like nothing is either good, bad or ugly, it just is.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And we say what is it? How is it I want to be interacting, what is it that I want to experience in this moment?
Speaker 2:Well, you know, a long time ago, I actually got a tattoo on my arm and the word is faith. I can show it. The word is faith.
Speaker 2:And it's not a religious connotation whatsoever, but the faith is have faith in yourself, shana, have faith in those around you, and it's been really, I'd have to say almost that core message to myself, that one word that has helped me and I have a visual reminder of it. When I start to steer off a little bit, I'm like no, come on, you got faith. We've been through this before or something similar. You're going to get through it again, like you said before. To reiterate, you know, I don't want to keep saying like everything has to be negative to get through it, because there's some really positive things too that you have to get through it. You know what I mean. Or you have to work through but. But yeah, so I'll just stop talking, but I just wanted to start, okay.
Speaker 1:So again, we could go on for forever. I just want to tell you if you want to get this book and be inspired by 20 women and 20 totally different stories and see this gamut of possibility for yourself. There's going to be a link in the description below. Here is what the book looks like. I would love to have you get it. No one is making a profit off this book.
Speaker 1:Shana and I did this book out of a labor of love gets all the profit, and so it's like the more hands that we can get this in, that says I can reinvent myself. I am courageous enough, I'm brave enough. That is the whole goal of this book. Okay, my friends, I'm going to end that here. I'll end this video like I end every single video. Please make sure to stay true to yourself, be kind to others and always, always, always, honor the wise one that is within you. I will see you all on the next road to radical visibility. Until then, bye. Hey, hold up, don't go yet. If this episode inspired and empowered you to be 100% yourself, 100% of the time, no shame or guilt needed, even just a little bit more. Please rate and leave a review. I'm here and I know you are too to leave a positive impact in the world. So please share this episode with your friends, family or that random stranger, because you never know who you'll inspire by just being you. I'll see you on the next road to radical visibility. Bye.