Marriage MIGHT BE Beautiful S15e15 Col3:18

Submitters are the most beautiful people in the world. They adorn themselves with the voluntary relational attachment under a designated person and under God. Every human is called to it in some of their relationships. The summons is to show in relational practice what is true in Spiritual reality. It demonstrates a posture before God that is demonstrated with words, attitudes and behavior to a real person.

Listen 7 minutes as we place ourselves before God's charge to husbands and wives.  Marriage can be a beautiful thing if we heed these teachings. It will be worth it. 

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Transcript

Michael Smith: 0:01

Good morning, my brothers and sisters, welcome to episode 15 of season 15. A be with me, we're in the book of Colossians. And the title today marriage is beautiful. Or I might, I might change that. And I might say that marriage might be beautiful, because the thing is going to be presented before us for husbands and wives, if you get this wrong, your marriage won't be beautiful. So just two verses today. And there's plenty in here. This is from Colossians, chapter three verses 18 and 19. Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord period. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them, period. Now, this is all that this is saying here we're gonna go on to children and fathers and workers. And there's a parallel passages in Ephesians five that I would refer you to but basically the point is, is that everybody is submitting Christians, children, workers. Everybody has to submit and submission is a beautiful thing, because it demonstrates this imperishable internal adornment, this posture that is before God, and it is demonstrated and words and attitudes and behaviors to a real person. And submitters are the most beautiful people in the world, they are precious, they're valued by God. And so what is the mission, let's just define that submission is the voluntary, relational attachment of myself, under a designated person, and under God. And the purpose is that submission is to show in relational practice, what is true in spiritual reality. So that's how it can be this beautiful thing. Now, here's the, here's the rub, about submission. And submission will never work unless it's done in view of God. So if you just do the first part of this sentence, Wives submit to your husbands. Well, the problem with that is that husbands are imperfect. And if you don't add that you're treating this imperfect person in the context of how you view God, then it will always turn out poorly. So the submission has two parts, it's to God and it's to a person. And if there's something wrong with one of those relationships, it's going to affect and manifest itself in the relationship with the with the other one. So it's the area where the rubber meets the road. And everybody asks, and in this case, we'll have wives because this particular one's directed wives, is God trustworthy with this with this doctrine? And I think he is. And I think if we obey this, we're going to find that submission is indeed a beautiful, beautiful thing. So submission is done as fitting as you belong to Him as you belong to belong to the Lord. So the order that is that is emphasized, in this particular passage of submission go to Ephesians five, there's another one in Peter. The one that is emphasized here is order and the order that is emphasized is the order the rule of the heart. That's the context of the passage that came before this. So the, the Christ piece, mate rule in our hearts, and here, the Christ piece is being demonstrated in the order of marriage. Okay, so that's, that's kind of from the the wives side wives and mature husband, as is fitting to the Lord. And then hear Husbands love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. So, husbands is given a relational position of headship, there's a role and and here's the part you don't want to hear is there's going to be an accountability for it. So if you go to Ephesians 525, you're going to hear similarly, Husbands love your wives, but the part the dad here is Christ loved the church, which is just overwhelming and the the responsibilities for the husband, you're supposed to be patient. You're supposed to have a planned love for her you're supposed to these are all things that Christ did for the church. It's accountable and responsible, long suffering. This is something the the husband would would never say because Christ would never say is like oh you know, it wasn't working out for me so I so I ditched her know the Christ's love for the church's long suffering he gave him gave himself up for her in like Christ. It's going to be costly for us. So for Christ it was bloody in suffering and hard and there is a component to that so it's certainly husband shouldn't be ready to give don't abdicating don't abdicate your role take responsibility as Christ did, and then present it. So there's this accountability, a spiritual component of thinking of her holiness and her spiritual goals. Alright, so specifically here, husbands don't be harsh with them. So think of a relationship in long term. And is this something that you want to you know, bash about? Proverbs 15? One, just this is a great marriage thing, A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger, A soft answer. This would be fantastic marriage advice? Is A soft answer return. Something that riles you up with a soft, A soft answer, certainly don't send nuclear bombs or even tactical nuclear bombs or even conventional bombs, but A soft answer when there's, you know, a chance to practice it. That's the beauty of this is you're going to have a chance to practice this today. So the word means is harsh answer is a sharp, provoking grievous and in bittering. So rather than sharp, how about soft rather than provoking? How about patient rather than grieving? How about gentle rather than in bittering? How about embracing her in an attitude in a posture of of love? So if you're married, oh, my goodness, you will have a chance to practice one of these things, either from the husband side or the wife side. Today, if you're not married, pray for the married people. They got a big job. Marriage is a beautiful thing, or it can be a beautiful thing or it might be a beautiful thing certainly has the chance to be a beautiful thing. If we look to Christ, and we act like he asks us to in that relationship with our spouse. Thanks for listening