What Does It Actually Mean to Choose Yourself in Relationships?

We hear “choose yourself” everywhere — but what does that really mean when you’re in a relationship you’re trying to make work?

In this episode, I share how I came to the painful realization that I was abandoning myself in the name of love. By sacrificing my wants, needs, and voice to maintain connection, I was unintentionally teaching myself that my inner truth didn’t matter.

After going no contact and confronting deep-rooted childhood abandonment wounds, I reached a breaking point where “enough” finally meant enough. From that space, I began the work of choosing myself unapologetically — without buying into the narrative that honoring my needs makes me selfish, difficult, or unlovable.

I also guide listeners through a powerful, deployable exercise that helped me access inner wisdom by gathering different timelines of myself — allowing clarity, self-trust, and grounded decision-making to emerge.

This episode is an invitation to reclaim your voice, stop self-abandonment, and learn how to choose yourself without guilt — so your relationships can be rooted in truth rather than sacrifice.