Shifting from War to Love Consciousness: A Conversation with Dr. Teri Baydar

Imagine stepping into a world where businesses are driven by compassion and interconnectedness rather than control and separation. Yes, it's possible and Dr. Teri Baydar, a respected leadership consultant and coach, is here to explain how. Our enlightening conversation revolves around the profound concept of shifting from a war consciousness to a love consciousness. Absorb the essence of Dr. Bader's insights as she shares real-world examples of industries embracing this transformation and how meditation can spark this change within us.

But that's not all. We also delve into the pages of the powerful book, "Flip your Switch," revealing the process of personal growth and evolution. Learn to nurture your divine seed as you navigate societal constructs like the "sickness of more" and the "happiness formula lie." Discover the power of awareness and gratitude as tools for shifting from a negative mindset to an abundant life. We wrap up this thought-stirring discussion by reflecting on the significant role of love consciousness in fostering global peace and unity, and the importance of letting our inner light shine on the world. All this and more, awaits you in this episode!

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Dr. Teri
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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Welcome back, sparklers, to another episode of Ignite your Spark. I'm your host, Kim Duff Selby. Thank you for joining me Every week. Hopefully, I really appreciate it, because I know that there are hundreds and thousands of podcasts for you to listen to. Thank you for choosing mine, because my goal is to ignite something within you so that you may access your inner light. Shine that light to the world. Share that light to encourage others to shine their own light, because right now more than ever, we need your light. We also need your love. We need to develop the love of humanity, of humankind, particularly at this time. My very special guest today speaks to that Dr Terri Bader. She is a renowned leadership consultant and coach and has decades of experience in researching and teaching high-impact methods of behavioral change, with the goal being to raise the collective state of human consciousness. She's a coach and she is an author of a recently published book Flip your Switch a user's guide to a whole new mind. We will go into that and all that Dr Terri teaches. Welcome, dr Terri.

Speaker 2: 1:38

Thank you.

Speaker 1: 1:39

Awesome intro, thank you. I'm very excited to have you here, because I think the topics that you are an expert in are ones that we really need to know at this time in particular, before we start. I would like to ask you, though how do you ignite your spark?

Speaker 2: 1:58

That's very simple. Prior in meditation.

Speaker 1: 2:02

Love it every day, throughout the day. Yep.

Speaker 2: 2:06

Every day, throughout the day, absolutely Yep.

Speaker 1: 2:09

And isn't it true? I was in a yoga class this morning and she was saying that every yoga practice she's very spiritual is healing for not just us, but for the world. So I imagine that with your prayer and meditation every day, if we were to all do that, we would increase more peace and harmony. Absolutely, yeah, yeah, energy is real, oh, yes, absolutely. Well, there's Reiki, there's Energetic Healing, and people will say, you know, when they put out a plea on Facebook, so and so, or my dog needs healing, or this needs healing, and people from everywhere. Even if you don't know the person, I always send some prayers to that person and people are really. I see miraculous things happening. So energy is powerful. So let's talk about how we can get that war consciousness out of the way and bring more love consciousness into the world, because that is really, from what I understand in my limited knowledge of you, what you are really attempting to bring.

Speaker 2: 3:12

Absolutely yes, and I do it mostly in the business actually, which is the business arena, is where I deal, you know, and even looking at economic models, business models, helping CEOs and executives make different choices.

Speaker 1: 3:34

It is interesting because it starts with business, doesn't it? I mean, not everything starts with business, but certainly most people are involved in a business of some sort. Exactly.

Speaker 2: 3:46

Business in our society is how we deal with one another.

Speaker 1: 3:49

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 3:50

Yeah, and that's okay. That's fine, but if we're in the business of making the world a better place, how awesome is that?

Speaker 1: 4:01

Well, why don't you describe the difference between love consciousness versus war consciousness, so we can all be on the same page with that?

Speaker 2: 4:08

Yeah. So war consciousness is kind of the ubiquitous state of being that we tend to be in all the time, and that is this perception of the world and relating to the world from a left brain-centric viewpoint, where we want to capture, contain and control something or someone, including ourselves, in order to feel in charge, to have a sense of power. And that is a reductionist way of being and it's fundamentally destructive. And it comes from this idea, this illusion of separation of self and other. Now, the opposite end of the spectrum is love consciousness, and that is a state of being, a perception and a way of relating to the world where we understand that we are all interconnected.

Speaker 2: 5:04

From that place, we want to comprehend from a higher level. We see things in constellation fashion. We have it's a multi-dimensional thinking. We look to solve a problem rather than to just have a quick fix and move on. We seek to participate in greater things than ourselves. We have a parental outlook on a situation or life because we care. So, from that right-minded space, we care, we want to comprehend, we come at things with compassion and it's more, it's holistic and it's fundamentally constructive. This is how, in business, we make great products, we have great client relations. We have great marketing campaigns. We have great stock prices as well, because we're adding so much value that the world wants us.

Speaker 1: 6:12

Is there an example of a company that you think is on the right track that you might know of?

Speaker 2: 6:19

Well, I wouldn't want to call out any particular company.

Speaker 1: 6:23

Well, I didn't ask you about the ones that aren't on the right track. I think I'm trying to get an idea of our own Right. I know there are a lot of companies now that are really heart-centered, you know, that really care about the environment, that care about their products. I just wondered if there were any, and you don't have to say any names, it just came to me, I was curious.

Speaker 2: 6:46

There are some of my clients and again, I don't want to call them out. That's not fair because it's confidential, unless they can call it out if they want to. But I'm not in a position to do that for the most part, unless I'm on the podcast with them and they say it. Then we can move on. But there are industries. Let me talk about some industries. There's a whole set of industries and companies and products and services that are just screaming to be born in a new, love-conscious model, which is where we concentrate on adding value rather than chasing profit, because business is how we deal and, yes, profit is an outcome of business. It's a byproduct of good business. For the most part, we can try to game the system and squeeze profit out of things, and that's how we get in trouble for people, planet and everything. That's why we're in trouble too. That's how we got here, from this war-conscious mindset of trying to squeeze rather than create value. So if we're on the value creation and when I say value I don't mean money, I mean actual value for people, for planet, I mean actual changes so a lot of the industries that are just screaming to be born are all about regeneration Regenerative farming, regenerative medicine. We can talk about also cyclical, circular economies.

Speaker 2: 8:34

There are companies in Europe who create these appliances for your home. Maybe it's a dishwasher. At the end of the life of the dishwasher, they come back and pick it up and hopefully you buy another one from them. They take the other one away and it's already designed and built to snap apart. They take the metal and guess what they make out of it More metal pieces for their next one. They take the plastic. Guess what they make out of it More plastic for the next ones. I will call out one company that's doing an interesting job, because I use them personally and they're not a client which is Nespresso, my Nespresso pods. Okay, so the coffee in my Nespresso. I send them back. I have a deal to send me a plastic bag I can like send it back, and the coffee goes off to composting, to farms. Most of the metal goes back. To guess what? Making more aluminum coffee pods. Wow, what a job, a leap in design.

Speaker 1: 9:35

They've been doing that for a long time, haven't they?

Speaker 2: 9:38

Yes, it's just like. Of course, it's brilliant and simple.

Speaker 1: 9:41

We used to have that. We used to have this. I don't drink coffee in my house in the desert. We used to have that. I remember sending those things back. It's like, well, I'm into fashion too, so it's really like upcycling trading with other people. It's become more and more popular now for people to host these in their neighborhoods or with groups of friends, where you bring clothes you don't wear and then you get their clothes and I love that, like swapping it out, and I like to buy gently used clothing. Now I'll buy new things too, but I think that's part of some of the love consciousness that you're making Right, absolutely so.

Speaker 2: 10:18

It's really thinking in this holistic way and understanding that absolutely everything we do is interconnected from one human to the next.

Speaker 2: 10:28

When I talk sometimes to executives and I take them through this transformational journey that I outline in my book.

Speaker 2: 10:35

When they go through that, there are these moments where they cry and they start to understand the connectivity and they start to expand their hearts and their minds and they start to align their hearts and minds with higher purpose and when that happens and this is the important part when that happens, everything opens up for them synchronistically. Their family life is better, they're no longer estranged from their children, they start to have relationships, awesome relationships with their kids. Then the VC people just the right VC match shows up for their IPO and then, like, all these wonderful things start happening because synchronicity kicks in, because love consciousness is the actual system that regulates us energetically, instead of piling on manipulating calculating systems to exploit the underlying nature of who we are and the planet and what we're doing. Rather than we drop that and we start to plug into the sort of like the metaphysical or energetic balance of how things really work on planet Earth, synchronicity kicks in and it's like the whole world is there to support you?

Speaker 1: 11:59

Yeah, that seems like it would be true Not just in business for all humans, though, all humans, all humans. It's interesting to me because, as you're speaking, there are so many small companies that really attempt to do this, and it seems that when they get too big, that's when trouble hits, or when someone absorbs them. Then everything changes, which is really sad, and it really makes me think that we need to support small business owners and smaller businesses who are trying to infuse their products with love I know that is, you know, not everybody would agree with that, but to infuse their products with love and to be caring about the environment, are concerned about reusing the plastic, reusing whatever it is, and it's just a shame that sometimes I see them fold.

Speaker 2: 12:57

Right, and I'm going to. I work a lot in the startup industry here in Boston. I, you know, up elbows with little, with MIT smartie pants and Harvard smartie pants and the VCs and the venture capitalist, that on the equity, private equities that come into these incubators and accelerators and all of this. So what you want to understand is like this is the clashing ground of the love conscious versus the war conscious.

Speaker 2: 13:29

Because what we have is systemically, the incumbents who hold the money are fundamentally war conscious and their business model is based on that pyramidal extraction. So that we can, we can always monetize and push the money up to the so-called shareholder and we'll squeeze those elements at the bottom, including the planet, will extract from the planet and the workers and eventually, maybe even the clientele, because we have to scale. There's this obsession to scale. Well, I go against that when I work with my social entrepreneurs, because what happens is you want to, instead of going to a VC and undermining your your love conscious values, you want to instead strengthen yourself, strengthen your network, just like you would in real life.

Speaker 2: 14:23

Who are the people that you know? Who's there really on your side? How are you going to build tribe? What are you going to do? What are your fundamental values? How will you stick to them? And we make out these plans so that they can fundamentally scale organically in a timely fashion, just like nature, you know, like if you push nature, if you try to get apples out of a tree before it's like ripe, you're going to kill the tree, right, it's the same process. So the over accentuation on the extraction is what is killing those small companies. So my advice to anybody who ever knows a small company like this stay away from the VCs until you're strong enough to stand up to them face to face. Then you have traction and leverage because they actually want you. You don't need them. The universe will show up for you if you just get in alignment.

Speaker 1: 15:23

I know that you work primarily with businesses. I have a lot of listeners who are either solopreneurs or, I don't know, people who are retired. Can you give us some clues and ways, or maybe a hint or a tip how to create love consciousness ourselves? I understand it and I think we all understand it by the way that you have described the left versus right brain, but maybe a tip to help us all.

Speaker 2: 15:51

First off, let me explain what the book's for. The book Flip your Switch, a user's guide to a whole new mind, is a process and the chapter. There's about 52 chapters, one per week for a year. If you just want to go at it like that, most of the chapters are just a couple pages long. I spent 10 years boiling this down so that any layperson can read this. It's not academic, it's not just for CEOs, it's for everybody. I don't care if you're Elon Musk or you're bagging groceries, it's exactly the same process and it's an internal process of awakening, growth and evolution. So the first part of the book is understanding a new way of understanding, in a very simplified version, how the mind works. Part two is all of the things you can do to incrementally eke your way towards feeling love, consciousness and being in that state every day, all day. And then the third part is the emergence of the diamond, which is your divine seed. That's there, it's inside, it's waiting. It's for you to give it some space and to let it blossom. You think of it like a seed.

Speaker 2: 17:06

Some of the first things you have to do is like in the first part, is you've got to understand the social constructs or psychological constructs that are getting in your way, and there's a couple of very simple ones that most of us intuitively know but do nothing about, and the first one is the sickness of more. Got to have more, more, more, more, more, more, more, more. Never enough, never enough. Okay, yes, I get something, throw it out. Who cares anymore? Now that I got it, I want the next thing. So the sickness of more. Great for the marketing firms selling us stuff that we do not need. They actually call it psychological marketing, creating need, so it's like they're making us think we need stuff that we don't. So understand the difference between what you need and what you want and sort of get off the sickness of more wagon.

Speaker 1: 17:58

Got to have the latest Apple product.

Speaker 2: 18:03

Psychological marketing were right there and I get it. We're all in this together. It's okay. You don't have to judge anything, you don't have to be upset about it, just notice it, know it and then make a more conscious choice and be more aware and be like, oh, that's actually not really in my best interest. I have other things to do with my time and money, like grow myself, like be with people that support me, that love me, have deep, meaningful relationships. You know, those are the things that are going to nourish us. Or maybe just spend a little alone time with God or your sense of divinity, or whatever you want to call it.

Speaker 1: 18:44

What you said right there is awareness. The key word that came out of that to me is being aware that you are being that ultimate consumer. You are being more and more and more. I need, I need, I need. I've had to. Really being a fashionista and loving fashion, I've had to really take stock of myself and going you don't really need that. You want that but you don't need it. So now I purchase what I know I will be using for sure.

Speaker 2: 19:13

Yeah, absolutely so. There's another one that has to be debunked, and that's what I call the happiness formula lie, which is the idea that once I get the right house, the right spouse, the right dress size, the right look, the right bank account, I live in the right neighborhood, or I have the right friends or the right this or the right that, and then, once I have all these different things lined up, then I will be happy somewhere in the future. Now, happiness is a state of being, regardless of what's happening around you, and for most of us that would be listening to this now, very few of us have a real reason to be whining or considering that they don't have enough or that they need the next thing in order to be happy. Happiness is fundamentally that flip your switch moment where you say, instead of complaining and being in a war mindset of what about me? What about me?

Speaker 2: 20:17

I move over into state of gratitude and I notice how expansive and wonderful and beautiful the life is, and how wonderful it is to be here in this body and have this experience. And wow, look at you, look at this beautiful person, look at this amazing conversation and what are we doing? And, oh my God. And, like you know, there's the kitty cat in my backyard and I have this amazing Nespresso coffee every morning and it just never stops. So it's an abundance of riches Once we get into the love consciousness.

Speaker 1: 20:50

Yeah, awareness and gratitude Right into these things down, because I'm a big gratitude junkie. I am grateful every day and I talk to people and say there is always something grateful. Do you have a phone? Are you grateful for that phone? Are you grateful for the little chips inside that? My husband worked in Silicon Valley, so you know I am grateful for what he does, which I don't really understand, but I am grateful. There is always something. As you said, everyone listening to this can probably find 10 things for which they are grateful right this minute.

Speaker 2: 21:24

Exactly what happens is in more consciousness when you're in what I call left brain lockdown. The left brain lockdown keeps you stuck in a negative emotional state, feeling bad, mad and sad. It creates all narratives about why you should stay there and how you should stay there and what's forcing you to stay there. That is actually the breeding ground for war consciousness. Yeah, it just breeds in there and just grows. The fundamental thing is that that's why I call it flip your switch. It's just there's that you have this micro-choice every single day to see how you can eek your way out of that prison into a fulfilling, magnificent personal and professional life.

Speaker 1: 22:21

I really like that a lot Flip your switch. I've often counseled people and I learned this as a coach too to just switch a word from can't to can. I grew up with a father who said can't should be removed from the dictionary. You can do this, you can do that Instead of I have to change it to I get to and see where it takes you.

Speaker 1: 22:48

Your book and the title just are so in alignment with what I believe and what I believe the world is coming into more consciousness about. I believe more people is evidenced by the many podcast guests that I've been fortunate to interview with that same mindset. Of course, because I'm not going to interview someone who doesn't know that but the more and more people I interview like yourselves, the more it's going to reach those who need it, those who desire it, so that we can all create that love consciousness. Now I believe we're not saying switch off the left brain and totally live by the right, because we need balance. I live too much in the right, I know that, and I have to work to get to the left.

Speaker 2: 23:35

Yes, that's so funny that you say that because I'm an extreme right minded, I'm an all faith minister and all of this other stuff. I had one leadership mentor to say to me jokingly it's really good you did an MBA, terry, because you needed it, just so you could go grocery shopping. It is like because I am so far out there but I've spent 35 years bringing it to everybody like I've crossed the river, then I cross back. I cross the river and I cross back. I've done the crossing so many times that I know how to accompany a person, where to reach them, how to hold their hand, what do they need? A boat? What do they need to get across the river, over to that right-sided, right-minded space so they can get what they deserve as a human?

Speaker 1: 24:39

Yeah, it's very obvious to me that you articulate that so beautifully too that I would, just, in meeting you this short time, would say that you are very equal. You have gotten a good hold and a good balance going. A lot of us who live more in the right brain are not as focused, is what I'm going to say, because I think I'm articulate. Regardless of that, however, the focus is the challenge. Just from my observation this is no technical medical studies, just my observation there's a lot of us who have that adult onset ADD, honestly. But I love the way you are describing it and the fact that you can meet someone where they are, whether they are focused fully in left, fully in right. You are able to integrate the two and assist them on their journey to true love consciousness.

Speaker 2: 25:31

Yeah, because there is a thing that happens, because I do have some clergy that I work with who are very right-minded, who meditate for four hours a day, who study all in the texts, and they can barely go to the grocery store. So with that there are like trapdoors that I know about too, and one that I would throw out there too for someone who's very right-minded. The trapdoor there is what I call a spiritual bypass, and the spiritual bypass means that there maybe is something wrong happening, something frictional. That is about the separation of how we are not exactly united because we are in separate bodies, so fundamentally we are interdependent but we're not all one. So as such, there's friction there's polarity, there's complementarity.

Speaker 2: 26:36

Sometimes that can feel very frictional for someone who is in the right mind. So they do a spiritual bypass about how it's okay, everything's okay. I'm like no, it's okay to not be okay, it's okay to feel the friction. Know the friction, let it be what's happening. Is it something that is? Is it frictional against your values? Are you seeing something that hurts you because it hurts your values? Is it something that you think is fundamentally wrong? Is someone just doing something cruel and gratuitously mean? If that's happening, well then maybe it is fundamentally wrong. It's okay to be in that space. You don't have to apologize for everybody and you don't have to be a doormat.

Speaker 1: 27:20

Such great information and I love the way you've all put it all together. Anything else, before we wrap up, that you want to leave my sparkly listeners with?

Speaker 2: 27:31

We are in a planetary shift, where this is going to help people just get to the next step. It's not a method, methodology that you have to abide by. When you start to read and ponder what's in the book and when you find out how you can do these little things, that will put you in a place of synchronicity and opening up, and then the universe kicks in and then you're on your way.

Speaker 1: 28:00

Perfect, great. Thank you, dr Terry, for sharing your wisdom. Where could people look you up if they want more? I know we have the name of your book. I'll leave that. Flip your switch in the show notes, but your website I have two websites loveconscioushumancom.

Speaker 2: 28:19

I also have my professional site, which is White Lily Coaching. White Lily Like the Flower, whitelilycoachingcom. If you are looking more for professional services, I'm on LinkedIn. Dr Terry Bader on LinkedIn. I also do Dr Terry Bader one on Instagram.

Speaker 1: 28:42

Okay, great. Thank you for that. Thank you for your time here today. Let's get this world in love consciousness. Let's get us all gathering together for peace. Thank you all for listening. I hope you have learned something today. I hope you are all on your path to love consciousness because, as we spoke about it's energy, when you are positive and prayerful and mindful and living from your heart, the rest of the world will do the same. So go out there, shine your light. And. Thanks for tuning in. Shine on Walk through life.

Speaker 3: 29:21

Every day is a new beginning. Shine your light. It's your day and the world is waiting. Move along to the song singing in your soul. Feel the beat, clap your hands. Let it take control. All you need, all you want. Are you ready to find your way? All you need, all you want. Are you ready to find your way?