Why Homeschoolers Need a 90s Summer

EP263:  Do you miss the simple summers of your childhood? In this episode, Jean explores why homeschoolers need a 90s summer ~ not to recreate the past, but to rediscover the freedom, creativity, and spaciousness children need to thrive. Learn why boredom isn't something to avoid, why ordinary moments matter, and how an unhurried summer can become one of your family's greatest gifts. 

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Transcript

Opening And 90s Summer Trend

Jean Miller, Host 0:09

You're listening to the Art of Homeschooling podcast, where we help parents cultivate creativity and connection at home. I'm your host, Jean Miller, and here on this podcast, you'll find stories and inspiration to bring you the confidence you need to make homeschooling work for your family. Let's begin. So have you noticed the social media trend lately asking the question, Mom, what were you like in the 90s? Every time I see one of those posts pop up, I find myself smiling. Maybe that's because my children grew up in the 90s. And with summer officially underway with the longer days and warmer evenings, that trend has me feeling a bit nostalgic. I've found myself thinking back to what summers looked like when my kiddos were young. They spent summer days riding bikes around the neighborhood, going to the pool, building forts, creating elaborate imaginary games, reading stacks and stacks of library books, and staying outside until it was time to come home for dinner. We had one of those triangle dinner bells outside the back door on the porch, and we'd ring it to let them know it was time to come home for dinner. Looking back, those summers weren't particularly complicated. We weren't trying to create magical childhood memories. We were simply living our lives and doing our best to preserve that sense of childhood. And those ordinary moments became some of the memories we treasure most. Honestly, I needed a break in the summer as a homeschooling parent, and so did my children. The memories included kids riding bikes until dark, sprinklers running in the front yard, neighborhood kickball games, homemade forts, hours spent outdoors, library books piled beside the bed or in a basket that we could carry to the front porch. These types of simple summer activities seem to strike a chord with so many of us. Why? What is it about those summers that feels so memorable? Hi there, if we haven't met, I'm Jean, and welcome to the Art of Homeschooling podcast, where I help homeschooling parents create a personalized plan for their homeschooling life that is simple, creative, and doable so that you can homeschool with confidence. Just a quick reminder that you can find the show notes for this episode at artofhomeschooling.com/slash episode 263.

What Nostalgia Is Really About

Jean Miller, Host 3:02

And today I want to explore why we're nostalgic for simple summers and why homeschoolers need a 90s summer. Now, before we begin, let me just say this isn't really about the 90s. Every generation has its version of the good old days. This isn't about wishing we could go backward. It's about paying attention to what made those experiences meaningful. Kim John Payne, the author of Simplicity Parenting, calls these golden moments, sweet memories of a time when we felt completely present in the moment and like our most secure, happy selves. When I think about the summers that I remember from my own childhood, as well as those of my three kiddos, what stands out isn't a perfectly planned schedule. It's the feeling, the freedom, the spaciousness, the sense of possibility. And I think that's what many of us are longing for today. When people describe summer in the 90s, they often mention things like playing with friends around the neighborhood, exploring the woods and creeks, catching lightning bugs in a jar, playing card games on the front porch during a rainstorm, reading books on a blanket in the backyard, making homemade ice cream, making up imaginary worlds, and spending hours outside. What strikes me about this is that very little of it was organized. There wasn't a curriculum or a checklist, there wasn't a carefully curated enrichment plan. There was simply time. Time to explore, time to imagine, time to become absorbed in something, time to be bored, even.

Boredom Creates Real Creativity

Jean Miller, Host 4:56

And that last one might be the most important. Boredom gets a bad reputation, I know. We tend to think of it as something we need to solve as the parent. But boredom is often the doorway to creativity. Unstructured time forces children to look inward rather than rely on outside stimuli like screens or adults for entertainment. It's the space where children begin asking, What could I do? When my children would ask that question, I would often reply with something like, Oh, I know you could go scrub the toilet. And off they would run to go find something to do. That question is incredibly powerful. And some of the best learning begins there, sparking creativity and imagination. I remember plenty of afternoons when my kids would announce that they were bored. And honestly, that was usually right before something interesting happened. Like a child gathers sticks and starts building something out of them. Or a child creates an imaginary world, invents a game, disappears into a book. The boredom isn't the problem. It's beginning something that can be really hard. And when I look back on those nostalgic summer memories, I realize that many of them grew out of unstructured time. And we just need to allow for that short period of time that where it's unknown. The best moments weren't scheduled, they just emerged. Another thing I notice about those summers is how much learning happened without anyone calling it learning.

Learning Without Calling It School

Jean Miller, Host 6:42

Building a fort involves planning, problem solving, cooperation, and creativity. Running a lemonade stand involves math, communication, ingenuity, and entrepreneurship. Exploring a creek involves observation, curiosity, and scientific thinking. Reading books all summer long develops vocabulary, comprehension, and imagination. Learning is woven into life. And isn't that one of the things we love most about homeschooling? It's the understanding that education is bigger than actual formal lessons and worksheets. The learning happens everywhere. Childhood itself has value, and play is the way children learn.

Ditching Summer Optimization Pressure

Jean Miller, Host 7:34

As homeschooling parents, it can be tempting to feel the pressure around summertime. I know I've been there and I spent some years making a plan, quote unquote, for the summer. That sense of pressure to keep up, to make memories, to fit in educational activities, to create the perfect summer. But when I think about the summers people are nostalgic for, perfection isn't what made them memorable. Most of those summers were probably quite ordinary at the time. Nobody was documenting every moment. Nobody was trying to optimize childhood or the learning. This feels especially meaningful to me right now because the day this episode is released is my mother's 91st birthday. And birthdays like that have a way of reminding us of how quickly the years pass. Childhood summers don't last forever. What stays with us often are the simple experiences, the family stories, the traditions, the conversations, and the space, the ordinary days that somehow become meaningful when we look back on them years later. Summer has a way of creating those moments if we're willing to leave a little room for them. And

Presence And The Lively Arts

Jean Miller, Host 9:01

perhaps that's what we're all longing for right now. Not perfection, but presence. Not more activities, more space. Not a perfectly curated summer, but an alive one. One of the beautiful things about the lively arts is that they invite this exact kind of experience, a story shared on the porch or curled up on the couch, a song sung around a campfire, a sketchbook brought on a family trip, a watercolor painting inspired by something that was noticed on a walk, a simple handwork project picked up during a quiet afternoon. These aren't activities designed to fill every moment. They're really more like invitations and they involve a little bit of spontaneity, and really the precursor to spontaneity is just unstructured time. We want ways of bringing beauty, creativity, and meaning into everyday life and leaving room for something to happen, something unexpected or something that can't be scheduled. I think that's what our deepest longing is right now. As we move through the rest of the summer, I'd love to encourage you to release the pressure to make every day magical. You don't need a perfect summer, you don't need a packed calendar, you don't need to recreate childhood exactly as it was 30 years ago. What your children need most may simply be enough space to discover their own adventures, enough time to be bored, enough freedom to follow their curiosity, enough room for life to unfold. Because the moments we remember most are not the ones we planned necessarily. They're the ones we stumble into oftentimes, the ones that surprised us, the ones that became stories later. And maybe that's why we're nostalgic for 90s summers. Not because they were perfect, but because they left room for possibility.

Taproot Teacher Training Invitation

Jean Miller, Host 11:09

Now, before I go, if you're interested in bringing more creativity, imagination, stories, music, movement, handwork, and artistic experiences into your homeschool, I'd love to invite you to join us at the Taproot Teacher Training this August. One of the things people often say after attending Taproot is that they remember what learning feels like when it's alive, active, and engaging, when it's hands-on, when it's joyful, when it's experienced rather than explained. And in many ways, that's exactly what we're talking about today. The learning grows out of real life, leaving room for wonder. And at the Taproot Teacher Training, all of the adults get to experience a true summer because we meet at a summer camp in the rolling hills of Northeast Ohio, where we sing around a campfire, we swim in the lake, we can hike through the woods, in addition to experiencing hands-on workshops presented by a Taproot team of experienced homeschooling mentors. You can learn more about Taproot at artofomeschooling.com slash Taproot. Thanks so

Key Takeaways And Goodbye

Jean Miller, Host 12:25

much for joining me today. I hope this episode gives you a sense of relief from trying so hard to create the perfect summer for your kiddos. The truth is that the pressure to make every moment magical comes from our own insecurities, not from our children's actual needs. So let this be your permission slip to relax a bit and bring back a 90s summer. I'll see you next week. Bye for now. That's all for today, my friend. But here's what I want you to remember. Rather than perfection, let's focus on connection. Thanks so much for listening, and I'll see you on the next episode of the Art of Homeschooling podcast.