Beyond the Timeline: Why Your Goals Matter More Than When You Reach Them

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Setting Personal Goals and Expectations

Speaker 1 0:02

Hey , hey , friends , it's Kimberly here . A few thoughts for you today as we wrap up November I can't believe it and we head into the last month of the year . Usually around this time people are starting to think about you know goals for the new year . Hopefully you are . I am a firm believer in setting goals and setting your own targets , and here's the great thing about that when you have a mindset of a desire to continually improve , you set your own targets , and I'm going to encourage you to set targets that are a stretch . Don't tie yourself to the outcome , right ? So there's some different thoughts out there that you know . There's a dogma out there that says don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed . I think that's a weenie mindset . No disrespect intended , but we should have high expectations of ourselves and others , yet not tie ourselves to the outcome , meaning that when ourselves or others fall short of those expectations , you know our job isn't to be disappointed but to be curious and nonjudgmental . That's how we foster an environment that allows for continual growth in a positive way ,

Finding Your Best Work Environment

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right ? So that's my challenge for you , and here's the benefit when you set your own targets . And I have to tell you , in my entire life and in my career , I have never had anybody set a target for me that was higher than what I set for myself , and that's a great thing . It takes a lot of pressure off If you're always trying to have to hit a target that somebody else sets for you . Well , who the heck is in charge of you ? And yeah , I have a firm belief , and it's interesting because now all of our kids are grown and now conversations around the dinner table are very exciting and stimulating .

Speaker 1 2:01

But as much of our adult lives , much of our lives as we spend working , eking out a living , doesn't it make sense to find something that that you can get excited about ? And when you can foster an entrepreneurial mindset and you can shift your mindset a little bit , instead of being an employee , work for yourself ? Now , that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be an employee , right , um ? And but even as an employee , when you have an entrepreneurial mindset , it means you have a goal , and the great thing about that is it can put you in the driver's seat when you're looking for , uh , a work home , a job , for instance . Um , you know , I've always felt like I was interviewing people hiring me as much as they were interviewing me , when you find a company that supports your goals and your passion and what you want to bring in the world and in the marketplace , in your community , in your industry , when you can hitch yourself to a company that you can fully support , that matches your ideals , your goals , your values , then that really frees you to bring your genius , if you will , to that company . That's a great feeling .

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Same thing in a family , right ? It's really important to be picky and choosy when you're picking a spouse . You want to find somebody who has similar mindsets , goals , values , drives that you do . Then you can really open yourself up to being vulnerable , being open , being creative , bringing your very best into that relationship , and I think that's really important . Now I've had conversations in some companies where I worked with one company one time they definitely did not want to refer to their workforce as their work family . You don't call your teammates family . That's highly inflammatory , because

Setting Goals for the New Year

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families are awful . That's very sad , you know .

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In a family environment , that doesn't mean that we allow people to walk on us . That doesn't mean that we allow people to abuse us us . That doesn't mean that we allow people to abuse us . You can leave a family relationship just like you can a work environment and you don't have to let people walk on you . You can be kind and soft and supportive and still not allow people to take advantage of you . That is not helpful for you or for others , right ? We don't help other people when we allow them to disvalue us or to abuse us or to take advantage of us . That does not help you or the other person , right ? Whether that's in a family or a company .

Speaker 1 4:51

So I think it's really important to find those similarities , find where there's a synergy of values and where some , some , some place where you can get excited to bring your best . So I'm going to encourage you as you think about your goals for the new year . Are you there ? Do you need to be open to maybe some new opportunities ? How can you open yourself up and allow your employer to get the very best out of you ? I think what you're going to find is as you bring your best , that really feels good at the end of the day . And if you feel like you have to protect yourself from your employer and not bring your best , I'm going to tell you you're in the wrong place and you need to look elsewhere . Same thing in a relationship , if you feel like you have to protect yourself in a relationship , then definitely you need to learn how to set some boundaries and you might need some professional help to learn how to do that in a compassionate and caring and assertive way . That's good for you and others .

Speaker 1 5:53

But truly , as we look into this this new year and you're setting targets for yourself , aim high , don't sell yourself short . What is it that you would be doing for yourself or for others if money or time or resources were no object ? And how can you take a little step in that in the new year ? Um , maybe , for instance , I have some . I have a couple of really lofty goals and I have to tell you I have never in my entire life ever hit a goal or a target in the timeline I originally set , but I have always hit my targets . That's the beautiful thing about goal setting the goal and the thing that you're working for doesn't change . If it does , it means you had the wrong goal . That's okay . You can change that Now . The timeline can absolutely be adjusted and that's not a bad thing either . Remember that as we hit , it's not usually the goal itself that we're looking for , but it's what that goal brings .

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I've had some people tell me

Understanding the Why Behind Goals

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well , I want to hit a certain income . My question is always well , why ? Well , I just want to make more money . Well , here I'll give you a dollar . Does that cut it for you ? No , you have to have a firm target and you have to know why . What does that represent for you ? It's usually not the amount of money and it's usually not the title and it's usually not the number on the scale . If maybe , your goal is weight loss , right , it's what that represents . A healthy weight means you have energy and vitality , strength . You can do the things you want to do . Your joints won't ache anymore , right ? Diabetes might go away If you earn the income that you want .

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Maybe that means now you have the freedom to pursue your education , or to pay for a child's education , or to pay off debt or to learn a new skill . It's usually what that represents . So I'm going to encourage you if you're setting your target , set a target , ask yourself why , until you can't get any deeper , and that's usually what you're looking for . Same thing when people hit targets for you . Well , first of all , don't let other people set your targets . You set your own target . You are your own boss At the end of our lives , we're all going to stand before our maker and account for ourselves , not for others . We're going to make an accounting for ourselves . So that's my thought for you today you be the boss of yourself

Be Your Own Boss

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. Set your targets , aim high , expect the very best of yourself , be gentle with yourself when you fall short and don't give up on your dreams . And have a great and prosperous new year . Bye , friends .