Join me for an insightful conversation on all things relationships. In this podcast, we'll explore how Reiki can help us create healthy relationships and release old ones.
We'll also dive into topics such as anger, resentment, frustration, hurt, injuries, trauma, love, and co-dependency, and explore ways Reiki can help you build stronger, more loving relationships with the ones who matter most.
If you're looking to improve your relationships and release old patterns that no longer serve you, then this podcast is for you. Tune in to discover how Reiki can help you create more meaningful connections with the people in your life.
Pam Allen-LeBlanc is a scientist, a businesswoman, and a Licensed Reiki Master Teacher (LRMT) with the International Center for Reiki Training. She is the author of "The Reiki Business Book" and a co-author of ICRT Animal Reiki training. Pam teaches Reiki, Animal Reiki, and Animal Communication online and in person in Canada, the US, and Australia.
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Join me for an insightful conversation on all things relationships. In this podcast, we'll explore how Reiki can help us create healthy relationships and release old ones.
We'll also dive into topics such as anger, resentment, frustration, hurt, injuries, trauma, love, and co-dependency, and explore ways Reiki can help you build stronger, more loving relationships with the ones who matter most.
If you're looking to improve your relationships and release old patterns that no longer serve you, then this podcast is for you. Tune in to discover how Reiki can help you create more meaningful connections with the people in your life.
Pam Allen-LeBlanc is a scientist, a businesswoman, and a Licensed Reiki Master Teacher (LRMT) with the International Center for Reiki Training. She is the author of "The Reiki Business Book" and a co-author of ICRT Animal Reiki training. Pam teaches Reiki, Animal Reiki, and Animal Communication online and in person in Canada, the US, and Australia.
Pam's ICRT Classes:
Book a Reiki, Animal Reiki, or Animal Communication session:
Order The Reiki Business Book :
A special thanks goes out to Music from Pixabay for the intro music and to Nate Miller for the meditation music.
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Hi, and welcome to the Reiki from the Farm Podcast, brought to you by me, Pam Allen Loblaw from Hidden Brook Farm. I am a scientist, a businesswoman, and a licensed Reiki master teacher with the International Center for Reiki. Each week in this podcast, you'll be entertained as you learn about a wide variety of relevant Reiki topics helping you become a more knowledgeable and effective Reiki practitioner. We caution you though this podcast may also dramatically improve your life. And we are so happy that you're here. Everyone, thanks so much for getting here tonight. On this week's podcast and in this month's Reiki share, we're actually talking about Reiki and relationships and all of the craziness and all of the things that can happen in relationships before. Started though, I just wanted to let you know that although the classes are filling, so sign up soon if you can. The spring classes at here, at the farm and also online in the Atlantic time zone are in April and into May. There's a full lineup of classes, and also animal communication. And I only teach that a few times a year. So if you are thinking of the animal communication that's in May and also Kaurna Reiki. And again, I don't teach Karina as often. I also, for those of you in the US I'd like to invite you to join me at the Northeast Reiki Retreat in New York. That in That's going to be a fantastic retreat. So I'll be teaching animal Reiki one and two there, and then I'll be speaking at the conference. Some of you may be interested in joining us in Sedona as well. And if you are interested in joining us in Sedona, Arizona for the International Reiki Retreat, it is one of the requirements of becoming a licensed teacher. I'd love to see you in Sedona and and I'll be speaking there as well as doing a video presentation on my animal communication work. then this summer just wanted to let you know that we've got all kinds of whale classes coming out. Those are classes that I'm teaching on Campobello, so I'll be teaching in Campobello level one and two Reiki in July. Also Animal Reiki one and two, and I will be adding an evening Australian time zone Australian friendly time zone, but it's also great for North Americans who just want to add an extra day and do an evening class. I'll be doing the Animal Reiki Masters in July, so would love to have you join us there. Just came back from Australia, was telling my gang all this, these wonderful people on the Reiki share that joined me that I Get back at little after three this morning. Drove back from Bangor after about a 38 hour day. It's probably the only 38 hour day I'm ever going to have for a long time, at least until I go to Australia again. But we missed a day going down and we gained a day coming back. So it was a very long day of traveling yesterday from 7:00 AM Australian time till 3:30 AM Atlantic time. Yeah, but it's nice to be home, but we had an absolutely wonderful time in Australia and it was just so lovely teaching folks there. So lots of opportunities to get together. And I do want to just get you to keep an eye on our newsletter. We have coming up a, I am going to be offering a mentoring class probably this fall. Although perhaps before just different just to add to some of what we started with the Reiki business book. The Reiki business book will be the backbone of the course, but we're basically gonna take things further and who knows, it might wind up being a Reiki business book too or something like that in the end. But we're gonna take things a little further than we do with the Reiki business book. So for people who want to grow their business or get it moving a little further, a little faster, I'd like to share some of what my daughter and I are doing with my own business and what seems to be really helpful and really working. And so she'll, even my daughter will be there as well. So guys, just to get started, I'm just gonna invite you to bring your hands together. In Gassho. There's something about doing that just causes my body to go still. The Gassho meditation was what called the first pillar of Reiki, and he asked us every morning and evening to bring our hands together in Gassho and to say the Reiki ideals, to chant the words with our mouth and feel them with our hearts. Just for today, I will not be angry. I will not worry. I will be devoted to my work. I will be kind and I will be filled with gratitude. And he called this his prescription in a way for the improvement of body and. If we do this each day, it certainly is going into Gassho tells our body to prepare because we are activating Reiki energy. And just that simple ritual of bringing our hands together in Gassho just brings about the stillness and the receptivity. It's a shorthand ritual can create a shorthand for us to simplify the process of activating the energy and becoming open to receive it. And so tonight, as we talk about relationships, I invite you to activate all of your symbols, especially the mental, emotional symbol if you. And there are a few Kaurna Reiki symbols that deal with relationships. And I don't mention the names of the symbols on the podcast, but those of you who are Kaurna Reiki masters, go ahead and activate those. And I'll be activating all of the Reiki symbols that I have, the asii symbols, the animal Reiki symbol, and the Kaurna Reiki symbols. And I'll be sharing them with you and all the listeners today. So even if you may not have those Karina symbols, they will still be available to you. And we're focusing on relationships, but we're actually focusing on the heart today. So I invite you to open your heart and receive the light of re. I also ask you to be open to receiving the light of forgiveness today. Just bearing in mind that forgiving someone who may have hurt you or wronged you in a relationship, or even wronged someone else doesn't condone their actions, it simply indicates that you are no longer willing to allow their actions to hold you hostage. So the light of forgiveness is going to be present and prevalent today, and even before we begin, as we're in this invocation together. I invite you to just look within your body for any unforgiveness that may exist there. Some of that unforgiveness is directed toward people or situations or organizations that have harmed you, that have created injuries, trauma even. And the first step in letting those injuries go and the trauma go is in releasing the unforgiveness. So just look inside and notice, do you have any unforgiveness in any parts of your body? Does it look like little balls or does it have a. Shape, color, size, or are you just aware of? It usually is located in a part of our body, and if there's a part of our body that is calling out, maybe Twinging pinging, acting a little funny. Now, that could be it. I just invite you to make a decision to allow the Reiki energy that's flowing from the highest heavens to in front of your hands, through your hands, into your heart and your body, and also the light of the divine earth flows up through the bottoms of your feet. Invite you to just allow that light of forgiveness that flows through the Reiki energy. To just take those balls of unforgiveness, shapes of unforgiveness from you now, and just breathing in the freedom of that today, and then thinking for a moment that it can be very easy for an empath to forgive others. The one person that we sometimes have difficulty forgiving is the one that we look in the mirror at each day, and if there's any unforgiveness that exists within you that's directed towards yourself, I invite you to allow the light of Reiki to release that for you now too. It's just gonna release it with love, allowing it to soak into the thirsty earth or lifting it to the heavens. Some of it may dissolve, some of them may lift out whole. It doesn't matter. Just letting it go and just allowing the light from the highest heavens to heal us, healing our ego, allowing us to accept this grace of God, this light of forgiveness, this high degree of divine forgiveness that can release us from these chains. And just taking a moment to breathe into the freedom that exists when the unforgiveness is lifted out. And sometimes we think that if we let go of the forgiveness, that the unforgiveness, that we'll forget the actions that will behave as if they didn't happen. And that's not true. What happens is it releases the emotion and it allows us to behave more logically. We're gonna talk about the messages in our emotions today. Whenever you feel that this process is complete, that you've released any unforgiveness that exists, you can place your hands on your heart and slowly come back and for those who are listening, if you need a bit more time, feel free to hit pause here until the light of forgiveness has completed its work with you. Or feel free to come back and listen as often as you wish, and the light of forgiveness will continue its work as we move on and talk about some of the other relationship issues. So I just wanna thank you for being here with us today. We've got quite a few topics to talk about. I basically asked the group who joined the Reiki share what in relationships they wanted to cover, and there's so much, really, we wonder if it needs to be more than one podcast, but we'll see. The first thing though, that I wanted to cover today is the fact that is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is something that I spent quite a lot of time studying, both during my mba and then I think it was Peter Drucker's work. And then afterwards I took a wonderful class on Linda Han's Dao of Equis work. And that course really Reiki brought me to that course and it really opened the doors on so much for me. But we learned horses have a way of reflecting our emotions to us through their body language. And so in the deeper Dao Equis work, I haven't really taught it since Covid, but I'll keep an ear to the ground if I'm supposed to start teaching it again. If there's going to be time. But I'm so grateful for that class because what it taught us is, and what the horses have taught me and what animals have taught me is emotions. I tend to be a pretty emotional person as an empath. I tend to have additional emotions to my own that sometimes exacerbate or, make my emotional reactions bigger and stronger than what they would be on their own because there's all these other emotions underneath of it. And one of the things that I realized in this class is emotions are the subconscious way of giving us information. So what I like to talk about in my emotional intelligence workshops with the horses is the fact that. Our conscious mind at any given second of the day, there are two to 400,000 pieces of information coming toward us, and the conscious mind is able to pick up roughly two to 400 pieces of information per second. However, the subconscious mind, I always ask people, how much do you think the subconscious mind picks up? And people always have varying guesses. The subconscious mind picks up all of it, all of the information. So two to 400,000 pieces of information. So what happens is that we often make decisions based on logic, which is fine. There's nothing wrong with that. Logical decisions make a lot of sense. However Sometimes logic has missed some information or some nuances. In fact, in my research there was a study where nine out of the 10 victims of violent crime ha felt fear and knew that they shouldn't go into the car or the apartment or whatever that had happened that had led to them becoming a victim of a violent crime. They felt an emotion and that in that particular case, the emotion was fear, which was the exact right emotion. It was telling them, you've missed something. Get out of there. You are in trouble. And yet people, logically, they didn't listen to the emotion and they went into. The situation anyway. Some of them, it was the same car or the same apartment they'd gone into with that person before. They couldn't understand. They felt that they were beha, that this fear was illogical and didn't make sense. But looking back after the fact, they realized that the fear was trying to give them information. And so when we take emotions, and, I don't know about you guys, but I'm sure as an empath, someone at some point in your life has told you you're so emotional, you're so dramatic, and that is because as empaths, we, and I'm talking to you as if you're an empath because most of the people who study with me, most of the people who learn from me are empaths. Some of them may be shut down empaths, but they also, but they often tend to be empathic. And that's because that was my journey. I had to learn to use Reiki to release some of the empathic burden that I carried of other people's emotions. And that's because empaths tend to have porous boundaries. And that those porous boundaries can make things confusing because sometimes you feel energies that are not your own. For instance, the energy of anxiety was brought up and anxiety is really prevalent in our society today. There's a couple of reasons for it, but I'd like to let you know, first of all, anxiety is a derivation of fear. Anxiety comes from the emotion fear. It's actually, believe it or not, people think, oh yes, it's a lesser, fear is the higher emotion. Anxiety is lower. Anxiety is actually an intensification of fear. Anxiety happens when fear is felt or sustained over a long period of time. So it is an inten intensification of fear. So the question is, why are so many energetic people experiencing anxiety today? To answer that, I'm gonna go back to a session that I did with my daughter that really helped me understand anxiety, and she was struggling with anxiety, and what showed up in her session was really. Groundbreaking for me and for my understanding because what it showed was that in her case, that anxiety was trying to show her that as an empath, she was carrying energy that was not her own. I'd like you to think if anxiety is something that's showing up for you, either in relationships or just in general, the first question I invite you to ask is this my energy? And if it's not, you can just say, then I release it with love. And you can allow the Reiki energy to take the anxiety for you. If it is your energy, we'll have another strategy that we're gonna talk about. But if it's not your energy, you can release it and you can just release it with love. Okay. So I think that the reason we've got so much anxiety in the world today because really there are the things that are happening. Yes, there's a lot happening on the planet today, and because of the internet and so on, we're much more aware of it. And unfortunately because in journalism it's best for us to see things framed very badly. The story can be told in a way that is very frightening and so on. Because of all that access to information, because we've, covid brought a tremendous amount of anxiety about it was very difficult to be isolated. It was very difficult to lose loved ones and especially in the circumstances, so many people lost loved ones and couldn't be with them. So there was a lot of pain and grief and suffering. Even more than that, there was a lot of the unknown, just not understanding, not knowing. That's I think, maybe even one of the hardest things. And so there is some widespread anxiety. But for those of us who are empaths, anxiety can be a fantastic tool. And what I'd really like you to do when you're experiencing anxiety is to just ask that question, wait, is this my body's reaction to carrying or holding energy that is not mine? And if the answer is yes, it can be as simple as activating your symbols, placing your symbols on your heart, on your, your hands on your heart, or someplace comfortable and just meditating with the Reiki energy, inviting all energy that's not yours to release with love. And it can be as easy as that to release that energy of anxiety. So I really encourage you to consider that. But getting back to emotions as information, what we came to understand in our Dao of Equis work is that every emotion has a message for you. For instance, the emotions of anger, resentment And I'm trying to think of some of the intensifications of those angers, anger and resentment. For instance, the energy around anger and resentment, which often show up in relationships is somebody has crossed a boundary. But again, as an empath, we tend to have a somewhat porous boundary. So as I mentioned, it can sometimes be confusing, like why? What is the boundary? And we can also often have difficulty creating boundaries. But I'd like to let you know that I've discovered that Reiki can really help with all of these. One of the things we can do, and we'll do it in our meditation, is you can just ask your personal energy to come in close to your body. You can do that every morning as you sit in Gassho doing your meditation, or as you do your Reiki self treatment. It's great to do it first thing in the morning. I tend to walk around. We have a very long driveway. I tend to walk around with my energy stretched all the way out to the road. It's I tend to walk around with a very big energy and so I can feel everybody's emotions that are in my energy and then that porous boundary. So there's this really fantastic technique if you just, as you do your Reiki, you just imagine and ask, invite your personal energy to move in close to you. And then as it does, it's so close that it skims your skin. And my dearly departed friend, Pam McMahon, used to say, call it her energetic spanks. She would say, just put on your energetic spanks every morning before you walk around. So you pull your energy in close. So that almost skims your skin. And as you do, and some of you listening might be doing that, even as I talk, what happens is that other people's expectations fall away from you, other people's projections. Follow away from you all the shoulds. If ever you are experiencing a should, I should do that. Please be aware that you don't want to do it, but you feel you should because somebody else expects you to do that. So that is somebody else. Proj else's projections or expectations on you, those all drop away from you when you pull your energy in clothes like that. And also as you give Reiki, if you intentionally release any energies you're holding that are not your own, it creates a clarity that you can move forward with. When I had been an empath for so long that when I began doing this, when Reiki showed me I could do this and. I started walking around with just sovereign in my own body, which is my own energy. I couldn't believe it. If you have attachments, you can do the attachment release, but even if you don't have the master level where we teach you how to release attached energies, and those are just energies that have some degree of consciousness you can just intend for any energies that are not you or yours to release as you do yourself, Reiki, as you bring the energy in close to your body, and it feels amazing to have that clarity and that lack of confusion, the lack of anxiety of just being you solely you in this. The other thing we can do as empaths, and this is really helpful in relationships, especially for an empath, we can get very muddled and very confused in, you know what? What's your feeling? What's the other person's feeling? They don't necessarily feel differently to us. They feel, you know it, it can get very muddled. So when you are in a relationship that's a little mixed up, it's not working so well. Or if you have clients that are just invite them to bring their energy in close to create that energetic Spanx. And the next step to that is that you can then ask your Reiki symbols if you have, if you're a holy fire Reiki master, you can use the holy fire. If you have your level one and two, you can use the power symbol. If you don't have Reiki yet, you can just invite the energy of love or God consciousness and you just invite it to fill the pores. The pores that exist in your boundary. Because I've come to realize that empaths come to earth with a porous boundary, and it can be very helpful. It I think that empaths can be the best teachers, the best friends, maybe even the best partners because we can be very aware of what other people are feeling. But you don't have to spend all of your time in that extended awareness. You can certainly bring that awareness back into your body and and spend the time being you. There's a, like I said, a tremendous clarity and a feeling of freedom in that and a feeling of lightness. So I invite you to do that whenever you can. One of the other questions that came up was relationship chords and what do we do with unhealthy relationship chords and for both yourself and if you're practicing for your clients. The thing is that there are relationship chords, and I've just noticed this as a practitioner whenever I've worked with people with unhealthy in unhealthy relationships. If we start with forgiveness and we release the unforgiveness, cuz unforgiveness is going to hold those relationship towards in place in an unhealthy way. So if we start exactly as we have today with forgiveness, And then we move into releasing the projections and expectations just like we did by bringing our personal energy in close to us, asking Reiki to help us create that beautiful, energetic boundary that allows us to be sovereign in our own bodies. And then if we actually invite the Reiki energy to either, usually if it's a really big th what the unhealthy relationships chords look like to me is they look really big and thick and they look unhealthy. It puts me in mind of those pictures that we all saw in School of Smoker, the smoker's lung, it, it just they just look sludgy and disgusting if a relationship cord is unhealthy like that. Then you can just invite the Reiki energy. You don't need to do anything. Just invite the Reiki energy to release any unhealthy relationship cords. Now, what happens is that the person will then go and form another cord with the person they had an unhealthy relationship cord with, and that's okay. Or they probably will. They won't necessarily. But if that person is still in their lives and they still need to see them on a day-to-day basis, a new relationship cord is going to be formed. There is, in any relationship, there's a cord that runs from one person to the other, that relationship cord. And but that's okay because they have an opportunity now to form a healthy. Relationship court with that person. Now, sometimes that healthy relationship court may indicate that you've outgrown that relationship. One, one or both of you have outgrown that relationship. Or maybe it was codependent relationship. And that unhealthy relationship or that healthy relationship cord will help you see that will help heal your heart. And the Reiki energy can help heal your heart and help you see that. Wow. That new relationship cord is just gonna be a thin one. And I, I don't really need that person to be a regular visitor in my life anymore. And that's okay. Relationships people grow apart all the time. I remember when I first studied Reiki. I was devastated because I looked around me and all these people were breaking up or getting divorced and things like that. And my first Reiki teacher seemed largely unconcerned about it. She said, yeah, that's what happens. And then later on when I got a chance to study with William Rand, I asked, he mentioned in one class, one day, said it was my first holy fire class in 2015. He said, yeah, some of you're gonna go home and get divorced or change your jobs. Move. Yeah. And what it is that Reiki will usually, if it's applied diligently shake out anything in our lives that's not compatible and. You start to realize as you go down this path that's what's happening. At first, you look at it and think, oh, no why is this happening? But I've come to understand that what happens is that we sometimes become unequally yoked, and it's actually something that's mentioned in the Bible becoming unequally yoked. And I've really had cause to give this a lot of thought becoming unequally yoked. And what happens when you become unequally yoked is that one person energetically moves higher and another person doesn't. Or maybe they even move lower. But basically if one person in a relat. Starts moving into a different plane, a higher field of consciousness, a higher dimension, and the other doesn't, you become unequally yoked. And I'm putting air quotes around that. And as a person who's worked with horses all of our life, I really, we don't use yolks, but we use collars with our draft horses. And it's really important for a team of horses to pull together in the same direction at the same time. And what you realize when you're training horses, when you've got a good team of horses and they're pulling together, they can do just about anything. But when you're first training them, they don't know how to do that. And so they're going at different times and they're. They're, sometimes you've got one that's lazy that will lay back and let the other one do the work. And basically, if they're not working in the same direction, in the same timing, it doesn't work very well. You don't get much done. You don't get much work done that day. And it's the same with us. If we're in a relationship where we're unequally yoked then. That relationship no longer serves us we're we have to work very diligently, very hard, and we're not necessarily getting the things done. We're not moving in the same direction, in the same timing. So it's just not healthy. So when that happens, Reiki will bring that forward to release. For us, it's just like when our expectations of what we deserve when we Reiki helps us heal our ego. And it also helps us begin to feel more worthy. And then as we feel more worthy, we bring more beautiful things into our lives. It's just like that. And looking back, when I first went to teach, I first came home, I was so excited to teach my husband Reiki when I first became a Reiki master, and he wasn't interested. And as though, although I was devastated, I also don't believe that you should Force, anybody to study Reiki against their will or, even make them feel guilty or anything. It was really, it's important that if my husband was gonna come to Reiki, that he came to it in his own time and in a way that worked for him. And so I was but looking back, I'm so grateful that a few weeks or a few months later, when the children wanted to study Reiki, he decided to attend, not for himself, but he wanted to attend and support my three children who were coming to the children's class. They all wanted Reiki, the Reiki level one. And when he did, my husband's diabetic and his sugars went outta whack as he was shifting, getting ready for the course. And he was very concerned about it. But he agreed to wait until after the class to see if it had to do with Reiki, even though he didn't believe me that it might have something to do with the Reiki energy. And after the class, his sugars were completely perfect, perfectly lined up better than they had ever been. And I explained about how sometimes when you're about to take a Reiki class, you shift and the energies have to, the lower vibration, the lower frequency energies have to move out. And he immediately wanted to do his level two and I'm so grateful that he is moved all the way through to, he's a Kauna Reiki master now, and he's done his level one and two animal Reiki hasn't done his masters yet, but maybe this summer. When we're in Campobello, it will be accessible to him. It's usually just a matter of not having the time off. And I'll be teaching that evening class, so maybe he'll join us for that. It'll be up to him. But I'm really grateful that he did join me on an energetic journey because I think that if he had stayed back, we may have grown apart. And so sometimes you do grow apart. Sometimes relationships they are finished and they're not meant to continue on, and Reiki will help you see that. Reiki doesn't resolve relationships in a way that says you have to hold on to every relationship all the time and so on. So sometimes we're meant to outgrow and walk away from relationships. I remember. A client that I had who was just so angry at a husband who had cheated and then married his much younger mistress. And of left my friend on her own. And you know something, I have a feeling the friend who, I've got a friend who's listening, who thinks I'm talking about her. I'm not, I'm talking actually about something that happened earlier in my Reiki career. But the thing is, this has happened a lot. So maybe many people will think I'm talking about their story. But this has happened to a lot of people and there was so much anger and resentment, and when we were able to take them through forgiveness, releasing all the energies that weren't their own, and then and releasing, asking Reiki to release that relationship cord for them. And then the final step is going in and healing the heart. I remember one client who was just so angry, and I think it had been like seven or 10 years that she had just been so angry and she had never found anybody else and so on. And I remember she came back from one session where we did these things to heal her and heal this relationship. And for the first time, she said in the seven or 10 years, she couldn't even remember what she was upset with him about. She couldn't even think of him. He just wasn't even part of her thoughts and. I realized how powerful at that point Reiki could be in healing relationships. And I'm really happy to say that although she and I have lost touch she's, she met someone and started, started a relationship of her own and she's happily married to her new partner now. So I'm really grateful that Reiki can do all of these things for us. Now, when we're talking about unhealthy energy cords, I was specifically asked to mention unhealthy ancestral energy cords and and even talk about those familial or family relationships. And so what I'm gonna mention. Is that we do sometimes bring forward unhealthy energy patterns, and that can include relationship chords, unhealthy ancestral relationship chords. And so sometimes there may be someone who's passed on that we had a very unhealthy relationship with, and sometimes we may not even know the person. They're further back in our ancestral history. But in any event, this same technique of just bringing your energy in close, using Reiki to heal your heart, doing all these steps, the forgiveness piece is always the first step. And then you can actually heal those unhealthy. Ancestral energy cords in the same way, just inviting the Reiki energy to release them and create a new one. Now, if, as the new relationship cord creates, if it starts to become unhealthy, there's two things we can do that I'm aware of. You can ask the energy to cut the cord again, and you can try again. Or you can send the mental emotional or the emotional balance symbol into that relationship cord. Another thing you can do is picture both of you or your client and the person that they're struggling in a relationship with. You can picture them under a son with the mental emotional symbol in it. But I've found the most effective thing is just asking that mental, emotional symbol to go into the relationship cord, and it keeps it healthy. Okay. We were also asked, one of the things that was brought up about relationships is what to do in those unhealthy romantic relationships. And we'll come back to some of the the more familial relationships after this. So just that feeling of being taken advantage of. And, why is it that empaths always attract narcissists? It's because we have that heart that wants to fix everyone and so on. But the thing is that it is really important to form a healthy relationship with yourself and to ask the Reiki energy to assist you with that, to assist you in. Helping you love yourself enough that you feel worthy of having a relationship where people respect you and so on. And also to ask the energy to help you create those boundaries with those people. Now, I talked about the energy of anger. When we started the message behind the energy of anger and some of the intensifications of anger are resentment and so on. The message behind anger is somebody has crossed my boundary. Okay. So if ever you're feeling angry, what we're meant to do instead of, I never dared to feel anger because as an empath there was so much stored anger, and also not just as an empath, but as a person who didn't wanna hurt anybody else's feelings. So I never expressed anger. I didn't express anger at all. So I had my own anger all tamped down inside. Plus, I didn't like to hurt other people's feelings. So e so when I felt anger, I just pushed it down in And I had the other people's anger as being an empath. I was always frightened that if I expressed anger, I would explode and it would go crazy. And the few times I would actually get angry, usually with a member of my family. Usually my brother actually, which is funny because he's about one of the kindest, sweetest, most mild mannered, beautiful people you'll ever meet. But he would do something really significant to me, not give me the. Control when I wanted it or something like that, and I would just lose my mind on him. And some of the reasons that we do express anger with those that we love the most is because we know that they're gonna love us anyway. We know that it's safe to do that. And with my brother, it was safe. I could just lose it and be an absolute lunatic with him and he would wind up apologizing, for not giving me the remote or whatever. Ridiculous thing set me off. But I would only allow, I would keep it under tight rain for years. The thing is though, that when we keep emotions stored in our body, we think people can't sense them or feel them, but they can. Only 10% of what we Of what we express or our body language. Only 10% is of what we say is what people hear. They hear what's in our body language. That's really important to remember. Oh, where was I going with that? You guys just asking the Reiki energy to release all of the additional energies you have and just allowing you to express that. The message behind anger is who has crossed my boundary and then making a logical decision, what am I going to do about it now? Energy came up and resentment can also be a result of that. But again, resentment, you can heal, resentment can be healed with forgiveness. The anger can be released and then the decision of what boundary you're going to hold can be made. Horses are great at pushing your boundaries too. Helping you as an em, if you're an empath and you work with horses those horses that push our boundaries are trying to teach us to to be, to learn, to be able to create and hold a boundary. And also, There's just a couple of other things guys, before we move into our meditation today. I was a really complicated one was brought up with Alzheimer's. One of, one of the people on the call tonight, her, she has a lot of clients who are very angry and resentful at partners because they've become the caregiver. The partner's really not there anymore for all intents and purposes. I think that's a little bit of a different situation in the sense that in most cases, those people are experiencing compassion fatigue. They're exhausted. And so the biggest thing that I would recommend in that case is to you can release, if the relationship cord has become unhealthy, you can put the mental emotional symbol into it. If it's too unhealthy, just release that relationship cord and go ahead and create a new relationship with that new person. But as you're doing this, the most important thing is to take the message from the anger, what boundary has been crossed from the resentment, and also to make sure that you are getting enough self-care. And go ahead. There is a meditation I recorded toward the beginning of Covid in my podcast with Tracy Sullivan. And it is a meditation. Which brings, which releases compassion fatigue and also brings accelerated rest. So if you have caregivers that are in that situation, have them listen to that or you listen to that yourself and maybe create an ex a similar type of experience for them. They need support. You need support when you're in that type of situation. There's also the question around trauma from past relationships. And what we're gonna do is we're gonna address that today. Reiki can release the trauma for you, it can heal the heart. There are some specific, if you haven't already studied Kaurna Reiki, I cannot say enough about that beautiful energy. There are some specific energies within Kaurna Reiki that heal the heart, that release codependent relationships and so on. And, but even if you don't have Kaurna, go ahead and take the Reiki energy that you have and focus it on your heart. To allow it to heal. And that's going to be, I think the best thing. But we are going to address that trauma in our meditation today. And finally the last thing that was brought up is unhealthy patterns and what to do when a relationship changes and also, The grief of losing family members and so on. When you've lost a relationship, whether it's to divorce or breakup or whatever, or when you actually lose the person from this earth, there's no way around it. You're going to experience grief. Now, there was an incredible horse who taught me what to do with grief. He said that grief actually causes a little tear in your soul because the relationship chord that was connected with you, between you and that person, when you lose that person, that chord pulls a little piece of your soul out with it. And what he told me was that as a horse, as an animal, he largely knew what to do with that. That it, that he would just understand that he had to be sad and he would. Go ahead and apply Reiki energy to it every day until that hollowed out piece healed that place that the relationship cord pulled a piece out of healed. And sometimes it heals pristine and sometimes it heals with scar tissue. Regardless. It's no different from a physical wound. It will event that has been made, it eventually heals. And he said that once that heals, you can form a different type of relationship with that person. And so in his instance, in this horse's instance, he was losing a pastorate that had been with him for a long time and he realized that he could then create a relationship with his pastorate, where his pastorate had gone. Sometimes it's that you're creating a friendship where a romantic relationship used to be. Sometimes it's creating a mentoring relationship where a mother, daughter or father son relationship used to be as our children grow and age. And I know that before my oldest daughter left for university, we were so close as a family that I experienced grief for about a year preemptively before she left. And I grieved her leaving. I knew that that close little. Knit family wasn't going to be the same because she wasn't going to be there with us for all of the things that we do. We went, we go to movies together, we go hiking together, we spend weekends together, go camping together. And we still do that when everybody's together. But as our children age, that all ch that dynamic changes and we can't all be together. And I actually Reiki helped me realize that I needed to let the mother-daughter relationship cord go the way that it was and to f and just let that cord go completely and then form a different type of relationship with my daughter, where I became her mentor. On top of that, with mothers and daughters in particular, there can. It can be a little more difficult to navigate because there's something that I've noticed with mothers and daughters and I've been told, it's been called the mother wound in the sense that I think the fact that we've been in a patriarchal society for the last few thousand years, and so the maternal instincts, the mothering, that hasn't really wielded all the respect that maybe it, that I think it deserves, that it probably deserves. But on top of that, as mothers, you can't just love your daughter. You have to also teach them to be women. And the same way that fathers can't just love their sons, they have to teach them to be. But this mother wound seems to exist more between mothers and daughters, and these unhealthy patterns seem to exist more between mothers and daughters. And recently, when my oldest daughter moved home, and so both daughters have been with me, one daughter's going to be leaving next month. She goes to her own apartment for the first time, and I think my eldest daughter might be leaving and we're gonna be on our own in the house for the first time ever. I don't know what that's gonna look like. But I welcome it because I'm excited for my youngest daughter to get out on her own and just experience the freedom of that. And they. And the learning and the growth that goes along with that. And my eldest daughter just moved home after a year of traveling to save up some money before she goes traveling again, and then heads out for her M B A. But I was shown, my, my husband actually moved my eldest when my eldest daughter moved home. My youngest daughter has always been here we really had our own way of working, walking around each other. And she didn't take a lot of space. But my eldest daughter, after even been gone for five years or six years, she moved home again. And although I was happy to have her home, there was so much more, just so many more shoes to have to deal with and clutter and more people in the kitchen. And my husband moved her into my office and I thought, oh, how am I gonna work with somebody in my office? I'm very sensitive to other energies and other sounds and In the end, the energy showed me this isn't, this is an opportunity for you to heal that pattern, that mother wound that exists, that pattern, that unhealthy pattern that often exists between mothers and daughters. And so instead of being resentful or, bracing against my daughter being in this space, I decided to embrace it. And I guess that's the opposite of bracing. That's the opposite of resisting, is embracing. I decided to embrace the time that she's here. And in fact the Reiki energy has helped us create a brand new pattern where we actually. She has started helping me with my work and cooking for me, and it's just been an absolute delight having her home. And so I think anytime that those relationship ships are changing, whether they're pe coming in, moving out, whether it's a bringing together or a separating a moving apart, I think that Reiki can help us navigate forming that new pattern. So thank you for giving me the space and just allowing me to share all of that today. And yeah, I really appreciate that. So guys, I want to move us into a meditation today that just helps repair. Any of our own relationship issues that we're having, whether they're romantic, familial, whatever they are. And in fact, it allows us to heal all types of relationships and also move into new patterns if that's what's appropriate for us. So I'm just gonna invite everybody listening to close your eyes. If you're listening in a car, please hit pause. Now, these meditations can go pretty deep and I don't want anybody to have an accident. Go ahead and listen later when you can do so in the quiet of your own space. But for now, I'd just like you to close your eyes and just think about all the relationships in your life that are troubled or that are not as comfortable or healthy. As they could be. And with your eyes closed, I'd just like to invite you to imagine that you're looking at the relationship cord for each of them just one at a time. And if the relationship cords look fairly narrow and just a little bit unhealthy, you can go ahead and just invite the mental emotional symbol to start moving through the relationship cord. You're part owner of that relationship cord. And as a 50% owner, you have the ability and the permission to do this. And then if the relationship cords look thicker, those are usually the unhealthy ones. And if they look sludgy or as if they have smoker's lung, you might invite the Reiki energy that surrounds you and exists within you to just release that relationship cord. And we don't have to know how it does that. The Reiki energy can do that in and of itself, particularly that mental, emotional symbol we learn in level two. Many of you have some of those grief spots in your soul. Those. Places where the relationship cord has been ripped away from you against your will when there was nothing you could do about it. And you've experienced grief. And some of the holes might be deep, some of them might be shallow, some of them might be almost healed, some of them might be raw. You can just allow the grief to come to the surface now, acknowledge it, and you can let it go. When we pushed grief down and ignore it, it can poison our soul. And if we continually pick at the scab, we can also prevent it from healing. So I just invite you to imagine a. Sav made up of Reiki energy. Just going into those empty spaces, those dips, those hollows. Just allow yourself to feel sad and to release if you need to. Understanding that with regular applications of this Reiki Sav, we will move to a place where we can form a different type of relationship. A relationship with our loved ones where they are now, from where we are now, it might be vertical instead of horizontal. It might be on an angle where it was once straight. But the relationship can be formed differently once we heal this breach, this tear in our soul, and just like a physical wound, it will heal. Now, bring your hands in gash shower, just conscious of all of your symbols and the Reiki energy that surrounds you. And I'm sending animal Reiki energy around all of you right now because Animal Reiki energy. Is here specifically to heal grief and to heal relationships, and to bring a unification consciousness and acknowledgement and understanding that we are all one. But just because we are all one doesn't mean we need to maintain active relationships with each other. And so just letting go of the relationships that no longer serve you and the ones in which you are unequally yoked, and because the light of forgiveness has already flowed through us. If you choose to, you can move into a place of appreciation for what you learned from that relationship, what you experienced together, how much you. And then placing your hands on your heart, allowing the Reiki energy, the mental emotional symbol, the Karina symbols and the animal Reiki to heal the heart, releasing any injuries or traumas that you've ever experienced as being part of unhealthy relationships, releasing it with. We're going to move into, we're going to invite divine love now to flow through us. Divine love is a special kind of love. It's a love that's more highly refined than human love. It's a love that has no expectations, and it's a love that brings with it the light of self-love. This is a holy love experience. Imagine that it's a beautiful, warm, sunny day and that you're walking through a beautiful forest. As you breathe into yourself, imagine that you're breathing in the life essence of the forest, and with each step that you take, imagine that the energies of the earth are flowing up through the bottoms of your. As you walk along, allow yourself to experience the trees, plants, flowers, and grass, and to merge with the life and the harmony and peace of the forest. And as you continue to walk along, you notice that up ahead, it is getting lighter, and so you realize that you're coming to the edge of the forest as you leave. The forest in front of you is a beautiful river. It's the river of life. There are beautiful flowers growing along the riverbank and a path following alongside the river. We invite you to follow that path alongside the river until you come to a bend in the river. There's a light breeze blowing causing the surface of the river to have small ripples. The sun is shining off the rippled surface of the water, creating a glittering, shimmering light. You realize this is no ordinary light, but is a spiritual light coming from the highest heavens. Allow this light to enter your soul and allow the light of divine love to guide you with divine love. We can create divine relationships and we'll remain here for a few moments. And now just coming back, we direct the divine love internally to ourself just moving into a love of self. Love and understanding and appreciation of ourself and directing some of this divine love to our inner critic that she might become kinder, less harsh, even silent at times, and we'll spend a bit of time here. We invite the divine love to continue. Stall itself more deeply and solidly toward ourselves towards self-love, and as it continues to do we also extend divine love into all of our relationship chords. Doing so will heal any unhealthy patterns and it has no expectations. Some of the chords you released. We invite Divine love to move into the new chords. That form keeping them healthy. We invite divine love to move into those new chords we'll form with those that we've lost as well. I wanna thank you for being here with me today. I hope this has helped with all of your relationships. Much love to you. Namaste.