176: Overcoming Fear in Business: How to Build Certainty, Abundance, and Self-Acceptance

Starting and growing a business is exciting, but it’s also scary. Fear shows up in many ways:

• Doubt – Will this even work?
• Lack – Will I ever make enough money?
• Judgment – What will people think of me?

In this episode, I share the three core fears most side-hustling moms face and how to overcome them by upgrading your Business Owner Beliefs (B.O.B.).

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why fear is normal when shifting from employee to entrepreneur and how to navigate it.
• The 3 fears every new business owner faces (and how to reframe them).
• How to build certainty beyond logic when doubt creeps in.
• How to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance lens.
• Why self-acceptance is the antidote to fear of judgment and how I overcame my own visibility fears as an HR leader posting online.
• The power of knowing your big WHY and how it can carry you through fear.
• The importance of defining what you’re willing and not willing to do for your dream business.
• Simple daily tools I use to reset fear: journaling, reflection, MAP Method, Human Design, and raising consciousness.

If you’ve been letting fear, doubt, or judgment hold you back from starting or growing your side business, this episode will give you a new way to think about it.

Listen now and start building the certainty, abundance, and wholeness you need to move forward.

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the podcast. Today's episode is all about overcoming your fears as you are starting and growing your own business. And so I decided to record this for you. If you're a um woman or maybe a side hustling mom like me thinking about starting a business, or maybe you've just started one in and you're in the process of growing it, and you're encountering the fears that often come up when you are trying to do something new, and something even scarier can feel scarier, which is starting and growing your own business. So here are some common fears that tend to come up, and at least I know I have encountered when I was initially starting out. First things is always going to be doubt, right? The doubt and the uncertainty around will this even work? Whatever I'm trying to do, will it even work? And then the second common fear is this sense of lack, and specifically when it comes to money, right? I mean, a lot of us are in the business of business because of there is some financial outcome that we are also wanting to do, right? Otherwise, we can't possibly call this a business and we could just stick to having a hobby if money making money is not really a priority. But when you're in business, you need cash flow to continue to run the business so that you can do the things you do to help people and to make the impact and make the difference that you want to make in the world. So the second fear that comes up, I kind of categorize it under lack this feeling of will I make enough money from my business? And then the third common fear is around judgment. So this is all about you know whether people will like what I am offering, will they want to buy from me, you know, will they will they approve of what I'm saying? Will I get critics? Will people be challenging me? And what will I say? So these are the three common fears. I kind of like group them into these three major categories of doubt, lack, and judgment. And when we are starting to build our own business, especially if you have only ever known to work a job, if you've always ever only been an employee, this requires quite a significant shift. I always say that it's almost like doing the opposite. When you're an employee, everything that you do is kind of like opposite from what you would need to do as a business owner. And so I call this building business owner beliefs or Bob, B-O-B for Business Owner Beliefs. I just love my acronyms. So B-O-B for Business Owning Beliefs. So to overcome these common fears of doubt, lack and judgment, we really need to focus on building Bob up, okay? Getting those beliefs that a successful business owner has. The first one to overcome doubt, we need to be able to be super certain, right? I mean, obviously, doubt is like you don't know whether this is gonna work out, you're uncertain. So the opposite of that would be certainty, and I would say certainty beyond logic, you know, like kind of what you hear sometimes out there, like I don't really care, I just 100% believe in it, I'm delusional, you call me whatever uh you want, but you know, people everyone will tell you all the 10,000 ways it will not work, and what you're doing is not making sense, but you as a business owner have to have this kind of level of certainty that regardless of what people are saying, whether they believe you or not, you have to believe in yourself and what you want to do. So that's the first thing we need to build, which is to build certainty really beyond any kind of logical reason. The second thing to overcome lack of this idea of will I make enough money is the belief of abundance that there is always more than enough, and you know, um, and it's always coming at the most perfect time. So this idea of abundance is the way we counteract the sense of lack. And the third belief that we want to build to counteract judgment is this idea, or rather, this belief of wholeness and self-acceptance, meaning to say that you believe that you are whole and complete right now, you don't need anything or anyone else, you are just you know good as you are, and you can accept and love yourself fully and completely right now, as you are, yes, even with all the flaws and shortcomings that you think you have. Um, so these are the three that I really, you know, I have found to be fundamental, like really foundational, right? Of course, there are a lot of different nuances and variations and layers behind you know, building up that level of certainty, having this belief in abundance and feeling and knowing that you're whole, complete, and that you completely accept yourself. Um, and there are many, many layers we can go into that, but I've kind of like I really try to distill and make it simple because there are so many things as it is in our own busy lives, especially if you're a working mom, you've got so many things already, and then when you're trying to build a business, there are like a million and one things to be done, and so I always try to distill it to the most um simple, basic, foundational things, which we often like to dismiss as being too simplistic, but I think somehow subconsciously, it is because these simple things are sometimes the most difficult things to do, and so we don't want to do it, and so our brain somehow dismisses it as being too simplistic, and therefore it doesn't work. When what I've actually found again and again, and over the years I've been doing this, is that I keep returning to the foundational basic things, the foundational basic truths that have always guided me and given me clarity. So, you know, let's talk about these three things, okay? Certainty, abundance, and wholeness and acceptance and self-acceptance. So I wanted to share a little bit of context behind my own personal experience, how I overcame my own fears, and I have many, okay. For a long time, I kind of identified as someone who is super fearful, very timid. You know, growing up, I was very shy and quiet. I was terrified of speaking up. I would never imagine myself having a podcast, I would never have imagined myself overcoming my fear of public speaking to become a facilitator, a leadership facilitator, and becoming a coach, um, getting on your YouTube, I mean, getting on videos, selling online courses, talking about it openly on LinkedIn where you know all sorts of people are there, including your bosses, your ex-bosses, your colleagues, everyone, right? And so I imagine this, right? The image of me before was someone who's really timid, very quiet. You know, I chose initially to work in a research role because that would only mean I just only needed to interact with my screen. I didn't really need to interact with anybody, right? And so then I overcame that, right? And so that was a big, big fear, and an identity that was associated with that fear of speaking up in general, being seen publicly, being judged, you know, both online, in person, and also this fear of not having enough money, you know. So for a period of time, I was like really the sole breadwinner, and you know, this was an identity that was very, very um, the complete opposite to how I was raised, you know. I was raised in a very traditional kind of a uh background. You know, my dad was the one who was the sole breadwinner, my mom stayed at home to take care of us, and then I mean, everywhere and around I looked, the women weren't really the primary providers. They they were like either they were staying at home or they were like the secondary income earner, and the husbands were the main providers and bringing the bacon home and being the breadwinner, right? And so for me, I didn't really have any one that I could role model, and so when you know, we found ourselves in a situation where I was the one who was for a time bringing in most of actually almost all of whatever income we needed for the family, it was very, very difficult. And I always doubted if I could. And over the years, over the decades now, you know, it's like I always have to remind myself to reflect and remind myself that hey, you know, you did it, you see, you can make it work, you came out of it, and you somehow, you know, even when you thought that there was no way you could, you did it, you know. Um, and so these were like a lot of rules, and on top of that, you know, it's also like as you start your business, you are stepping from employee into business owner. There are a lot of rules that you are going to be breaking. Okay, it feels like you're breaking rules because as an employee, you are kind of like conditioned to be compliant. In fact, school is the kind of conditioning and framework that you're put through to prepare you to work in a job, which is to be compliant and to obey the work rules and obey your superiors, and um, you know, everything is obviously very permission-based. You need to ask for budget approval, you need to ask for this, you need to ask for whether you can take a vacation, you know, all of these things. So, when you become a business owner and the rules are completely reversed because now no one's gonna tell you what to do, you have to try things out there, you've got to take risks, you are the one kind of maybe approving the work of if you have virtual assistance, you know. So you are basically the buck stops with you, right? As in, like if if you don't make it work, then you don't make the money. So, you know, it's like a very reverse rules, and for me specifically, right? Even at um a period of time when obviously after I got married, then having to live with someone else and also being aware and mindful, considerate, and sensitive to another person, it meant that also I could no longer just do things however I wanted to do it because I have to take other people into consideration, not just my husband, but maybe also my kids, and your actions now have impact on other people, a greater impact on other people. One of the things that was quite difficult for me, and it was also a fear was the fear of speaking up about what my um you know what my husband actually felt uncomfortable with in terms of when I was at work, and specifically it it felt so far-fetched for me, but my husband had some very specific preferences for how I interacted with um male colleagues in the office, you know, for example, like the use of emojis, not being too over-friendly, not traveling, um, not traveling for work with uh with a male colleague, and which I thought was like, wow, this is really gonna be hard for me to apply and practice. But you know, over the years I have had to be able to feel uncomfortable and say the things anyway, even to a senior leader who's someone who was like way, way, way more senior than me to say, No, you know, I'm sorry, I'm not gonna be able to join you for that lunch or for the afterwork drinks or anything, but you know, we can talk about it in the office for sure. We can always chat about it at work. And so these were things that I had to find a way to overcome the fear, to overcome this sense of um, will they think I'm weird, will they judge me? You know, what will they think of me? Uh, will that will that be an implication on my career? And so these were all the all the fears of kind of like around speaking, right, and being seen for who you really are, and um saying what telling people what you need and what you want. So I definitely had a lot of fears, and so over time, how I managed to overcome these fears, which is really how I think they were all helping me to build my bob, right? My but business owner believes was um being brave and overcoming these fears, whether it's speaking up, asking for what you need and want the visibility, you know, speaking in public and all of these things. I was always guided by a very clear sense of why. And you may have heard about this, like you must have a very big reason for you know why you do what you do, like a reason that often is beyond yourself. So if your reason is to just make money, which mine was, believe it or not, but dig a little bit deeper and you realize that why do you want to make the money? Well, for me, it's because of my kids, right? It is because of my kids, providing a better life for them, providing the best life that I could afford for my kids and for my family. And for me, also I'm guided guided a lot by my values, and my values was all around preserving the family unit, prioritizing the peace and harmony at home, whether that was with my husband, with my kids, with my parents, with even my you know, my own family members. And and then also the other value was to actually to take care of myself, to be happy, because I believe that I can only be the best mom I can be to my kids if I'm un if I'm happy. Because I went through a period of time where it was very difficult, I was very unhappy, I was very frustrated, and you know, no matter how much you try to not show that to people, it it just kind of oozes out from your aura, you know, like you energetically they will kind of sense it, they will feel it as something about you. There's this edginess about you. Um, and for me, obviously, I was very snacky and very sassy, like like passive-aggressive comments that would come out, you know, that would just slip out. Um, and so you know, have a very clear why that will be one way to help you to overcome your fears. So, for me, you know, the way I think like having a clear why cannot just be something like theoretical in concept, but it must be demonstrated and manifested in your daily life, your day-to-day living in all the everyday routines, right? And so, for me, in terms of providing the best life that I can afford to my kids would be of you know the kind of education I wanted to provide them, not just about school, but to me, traveling is education. Where we, you know, we go on a farm stay, we see the northern lights, we visit the British Museums, historical castles, we go see the Grand Canyon, all of these things expand your mind and your perspective, right? And being able to support my kids' like interests, you know. Um, and my kids have sometimes uh quite costly interests, right? But I I feel like it's important to provide these opportunities for my children, and in terms of being able to provide the best nutrition and health care, you know, the lifestyle, the kind of home we live in, the car we have, all of these things. And I know on the one hand, it might sound so privileged, and I do acknowledge and I am grateful for my privilege, but on the other hand, I also believe that it does it isn't just um, you know, it's not like I had no part to play in that, right? There were things that I had to do, difficult things I had to do, and uh I definitely had to put in energy and to put in effort as well. So I think like you know, these are kind of like how you demonstrate your big why in your day-to-day life. Another example would be like I kind of mentioned, right, prioritizing the peace and harmony at home would be the things I needed to, the boundaries I needed to enforce at work. Uh, I I also chose to decline promotions because I knew that would take the time away from my family, which is a priority for me, and also maybe it would make it a little bit even trickier because it would require like lots of business travel with obviously with other colleagues who would be males, and so that would put unnecessary pressure on me, myself, um, on my husband, and on the marriage. And so I decided no to prioritize peace and harmony at home, that would not be something I would want to do, and then taking care of yourself. I feel like sometimes as moms, we forget to do this. Like, we feel the way to be the best mom is to give everything to our kids and our family, but actually, the first priority would be to take care of yourself because, first of all, if you're not healthy, there's no way you can be there for your family. Second of all, if you're not happy, they will for sure sense it, and you can't be the best role model that you can be to them because they will pick up on the words that you use, the vibe that you have, the energy that you give off, the way you do things. And the reason I say this is because I saw that I saw things that my kids were doing and saying that were a direct reflection of how I used to be, and I didn't like that. I didn't like how fearful, limited, um, kind of negative, you know, some of these things were, and so that's when I realized right, the people around us are always reflecting to us what is it that we need to work on, an aspect of ourselves that we may not be seeing and we see in other people. And so the next time someone annoys you and pisses you off, it's always good to take a moment to pause and just reflect because they are showing you an aspect of you that you have, and rather than criticizing and complaining about them, it is also worthwhile to take a moment to look at okay, which aspect of me, where in my life am I also irritated, annoyed, impatient, for example, inconsiderate, right? And it may not be a direct reflection, as in if someone you know pisses you off at work, it does not necessarily mean that you are the same sort of a person at work, it could be that this is how you treat your parents, or it could be how you treat your your husband, right, at times on certain topics, and so this is always an opportunity, right? So the first thing is to just be really really clear about your big wife and me, it's my kids and also my my values, right? The the peace and harmony at home that I value. Um, and then the second way to overcome those fears of you know the doubt, lack, and judgment is to just get clear also on what you're willing to do. Because I mean, we talk about overcoming our fears, yes, we have our big whys, and then we do everything for the sake of our big whys, but we also want to know there will be certain things we're willing to do for the big why, and there were things that we're we're not willing to do for the big why, and it doesn't mean that you love your kids any less, like in my case, it's not that I love my kids any less, but it's just that there are infinite number of ways you can get something done, right, and achieve a goal, and so you also want to be clear on what you're willing and not willing to do. So, for example, in my case, what I wasn't willing to do was to deprive my kids in their growing years, and you know, I went through this period of life as well, like I could actually not spend as much money, for example. Um, if we didn't travel to these places, if we didn't live in a certain kind of house, if we didn't have a car, or even drive a certain sort of car, if we didn't eat out so much. But to me, these are all coming from a place of lack, meaning you still believe that you need to hold back and deprive in order to have more. And and that just somehow never sat well with me because I know that we want to have a bit of balance, you know. You hear about you only live once, you'll know, and you don't want to go crazy and be reckless and jeopardize everybody and everyone because you just want to live for the moment, but at the same time, you also don't want to deprive yourself because these years will never come back, these years with your kids will never come back, and it is the molding time, it's so foundational. Like I said, this is the time when they're very young, when they are forming also their own belief system, what they see or what they believe is possible for themselves, you know, and so I think it's so important to not deprive them because you're so fearful that you are going to run out, the the lack, right? The the fear around the lack, not have enough. Um, and I'm saying I'm not saying to ask you to get into tremendous debt, even though that is exactly what we did. We we do have debt, um, but that's also because we're confident and we know that we can pay it off, and um, we know it's manageable risk and we know it's manageable debt, right? What you don't want is to have it go completely out of control and you're totally reckless. And for me, even though I go into debt, I always want, I always am clear what am I gonna get out of it. You don't just go into debt for something that is like a black hole that you don't get anything out of it, right? And so I definitely wasn't willing to deprive my kids, right, of the lifestyle. And that is the reason why I continued to work a job, because for me, working a job and earning the money that I could earn through a job was like it was like a lot easier, I would say a lot easier than actually growing a business, to be honest, right? And and that's the reason why I didn't just quit my job and go all in on on the business. A period of time we did, and I realized I tried that and that really wasn't for me because it meant that I had to pull back on everything else. When you when you're worrying about money and you don't have like this regular income coming in, there are a lot of things that you need to you tend to be more mindful of, right? And so that kind of didn't enable me to provide that kind of like the best I could afford kind of lifestyle for my kids, and that would which was one of my which was a big why for me, and so it didn't work out, and plus I think like when you are always constantly stressed about money, it is really hard, really, really, really hard for you when you're panicking about money to actually be creative and to think out of the box, right? It's just harder. I mean, some people for sure can do it, I'm just not one of those people, so you also need to know yourself what works for you, and but what I was willing to do was I was actually very willing to accept trade-offs, right? So, my trade-off in terms of the business growth is I know I'm growing a lot slower, a much slower pace than some other people who maybe just put like 2,000% into their business and and and everything else can they can just push to the side, and that yeah, that that could be something that people can do, but it wasn't something I wanted to do, and so I was willing to accept the trade-off of a slower pace of business growth while my kids were growing up. And in the meantime, I was also willing to to work in a job, but I would always um focus on doing jobs that I enjoyed that really leveraged my talents and my gifts and my skills, and I also learned and overcome the fear of negotiating for the best and highest salary I could get for that job, regularly asking for it, like asking for the money that you want, substantiating it with data, you know, doing the work of looking at all the things that you've worked on, and then putting in the effort and time to make sure you get really good at what you do so that you can ask for the most that you can ask for and demonstrate the value and and all of that, right? So I was willing to do all of that, continue to upgrade myself to learn new skills. I invested in from my own money, right? A lot of programs in a lot of programs, in a lot of courses. Um, I tried a lot of things in terms of like the business building and just just try lots of different things. I was willing to throw spaghetti on the wall to try all sorts of different things to put myself out there to gain experience because not only do you gain experience, you are also then practicing um kind of like desensitizing yourself from all these kind of fears in your mind, right? And so I was willing to do all that. And the other thing that sometimes it doesn't, I still have to remind myself to do is to continue to enjoy this step-by-step process. No matter whatever you're doing, whether you're in a job, whether you're in a job you hate and you love, or you like wish you could get out of, or you're in the business and you wish things would move faster, or you're dealing with family members who are very difficult and you find challenging, is to like the day-by-day step-by-step process, is is really the point of it. So rather than you could go through your whole life and really not enjoying this whole entire step-by-step process, which actually is going to be all the the whole accumulation of these step-by-step is actually going to be called your life. So you can go through all of these step-by-step in a very miserable fashion, or you can choose, and it is a decision, you can choose to enjoy the whole step-by-step process. And the challenging ones that are really hard for you to find joy in sometimes is just maybe just like I said, take a step back and pause and look at what is it that I can learn from this? What is the insight that this whole experience is going to give me, you know, and how can I integrate that into my life's experience and wisdom so that it will help me be able to maybe it'll help me to um be able to better manage someone else like that in future, right? Or maybe deal with an a future scenario with this person in a more sensitive, patient, and kind way. Maybe. So that would be the second thing I would say. You know, the first was just getting clear on your big why. The second is really also getting clear on what you're willing to do, what you're not willing to do. So that you also don't get pulled in all directions, right? Because now these days everyone's thing something and everything can work, right? And so I think you need to be clear about what is it that for you what you're willing to do and not do. And then finally, the third one is all about getting the tools to help you to overcome these fears. Because sometimes we're kind of like in that fear tunnel, and it is a tunnel, it's called a fear tunnel for a reason because you can't see anything else. You as much as you like to say think out of the box and you know, widen your perspective and see things from a different angle, it's really hard for you to do that when you are kind of like in so much fear and in that tunnel, you're kind of like consumed by the whole problem and situation, and you're very worried and you're very stressed or you're very fearful, and it definitely helps to get some outside help or some outside tools to help you, and so um I like to just simplify it, and I I I mean I know sometimes some people will think, Oh, this is so kind of scary and crazy, but there's nothing scary and crazy about it. But I just feel like it conveys the idea clearly, at least for me, and I don't mean to upset or disrespect or offend anyone, but I like to use the the phrase like brainwash, the old me, the the old me and the way of thinking, feeling, speaking, and acting that the old me would would do, and install a new program into this new me, this new version of me, this way of thinking, feeling, speaking, acting, and kind of like you really have to wash out that brain, okay? You really have to wash out the old way of thinking and feeling and speaking and acting and all the habits and all your routines. Um, and then you need to kind of like really install new programs, right? And just like when you have a garden that's full of weeds and unwanted plants and trees and whatnot, you need to clear it out first. So that's the washing part of it, and then you then put in the new seeds and the new plants and the flowers and everything that you want to have in your new garden. And of course, before that, that assumes that you need to have an idea of what kind of your ideal dream garden looks like, right? And then then you can get to work to clear out the old and then plant the new. And so, even I mean, just going along with this gardening analogy, you also need tools as you're planting the new stuff, right? Um, and it's the same thing with our mind. If we think of our mind like the garden, then we also need some tools to help us. And so, for me, like really simple ones that anyone can start with right now, it's free, you can do it anywhere, anytime, is to just remind yourself to reflect. You know, I think like I don't know about you, but here in in Singapore, everyone is so fast-paced here, everyone is so caught up with either it's the latest trend, it's the new food place that opens, it's the crowds, it's the you know, it's the pace of work, it's the long hours, it's like the tons of things we gotta do. It's like everyone is just so caught up with everything. And if we don't make time to just reflect and just pause, it's easy to get swept up by everything, and you don't even know what is your own anymore, right? And so we want to just pause, we want to just reflect, and that's the reason why I journal every single morning and every single evening. We want to journal just for ourselves. That time is for ourselves on our own reflections, on our own insights, on what's the intention for the day, how do I want to show up, what kind of a person do I want to be, and all of these things. Like, I would just write like stream of consciousness, right? Don't really think or plan or anything, just whatever comes to mind. I kind of like just write it. And sometimes, you know, the the whole point of it is not to like have the best written essay. I know for us in Singapore, here we're always needing to be the best, you know, excellence is everything, but it's just this whole this this practice allows you to put your thoughts on paper and then for you to see your thoughts on paper. And sometimes we don't realize these are the things that are going on in our mind until we see it on the written page. And then you can then decide and really make intentional choices. Hey, you know, is this really what I want to continue to do, or do I want to make a shift? And so this is really how we look at the reflection, we ponder on it, we see the insights, and we integrate. Integration is so important, integrate it into our lives, meaning to say we apply it, right? We apply it to our lives and we live it out, and we live it out. And this is how we solidify that wisdom into our lived experience, right, and who we are becoming, because I think business building really is about changing who you are, right? And that's what I mean by brainwashing the old version of you and installing a new program. You are literally changing who you are being, the person that you are, and so this will be a very simple way to do it. But if you want to get like even deeper, okay, like I like to get very much deeper, is you could also explore other tools. Like, obviously, for me recently, I've been very into the whole um uh spiritual ancient wisdom around Kabbalah, and so I've been learning a lot about that, um, and also learning about human design. Human design is just like an operating manual for life because a lot of times we well, not a lot of times, but most of us, not all of us, come to life without an operating manual. Human design is that operating manual, it is a way of better understanding yourself. Um, how you best operate with, in other words, your energetic blueprint, right? How you make decisions, how you take actions, how do you decide to pursue one thing over another, how do you overcome challenges in a way that works for you because you are not the same as everyone else, and even though you might follow a guru or some mentor, they are not you, you're not them, your experiences are different. So it's all about also understanding yourself, and human design is really, really great for that. And so, one of the ways is understanding yourself so that you know you know where the fear is coming from. Like, is this something I need to listen to? Is this really even a fear? Is this really my mind? And and all of these things, right? So it gives us clarity, that's another tool. Um, so Kabbalah, of course, there's of course journaling, like I said, journaling, right? Reflections, and then there's Kabbalah or some sort of ancient spiritual wisdom. I think there's a lot of wisdom, obviously, that's why it's called wisdom, in all these kind of ancient practices. I like the Kabbalah, the human design, and then of course the map method, you might have heard me talk about it. This is really about change. I mean, it's literally changing your own self-talk, right? And working with your superconscious. And actually, all of these things is all about helping you to raise your level of consciousness. There is nothing supernatural about this. We all have multiple levels of consciousness. So, as you're listening to this podcast, obviously you're using the lowest form of consciousness, which is actually paying attention to the words that are coming out of my mouth, maybe. Or if you're doing something, maybe you're focusing on whatever task that you're doing, that's another level of consciousness, a very rational, logical part of you. And then we get higher and higher, right? And then we just get to the point where we are actually um thinking beyond ourselves, beyond our physical bodies, and we are going into a much higher level of consciousness. A very simple way to think about this is like if you had the most perfect ideal version of yourself, how would she behave? How would she speak? How does she interact with people? And for me, it always comes back down to this person, this highest version of me always is literally the embodiment of love, right? This highest version of me personifies what love looks like. So, if if you are love, what would you do? What would you how would you say things? How would you treat other people? Would you treat them in patience with impatience? Would you speak unkindly and in a very curt manner to them? Or if you envision and like imagine yourself being this highest version of you and it's just exuding love, vibes, and energy, right? You would be patient. You know, it would be like the best version of yourself when you're when you're with your kids, isn't it? Like full of love, pure love, right? And you'll be very patient, you'll be very kind, you'll be so understanding, you'll be compassionate. Even if someone did something that really annoys you or really upsets you, or did something you felt is so wrong, you would still be able to see the person with compassion. And even though you did not condone the behavior, you would still be able to see the value of that person as a person. You know, there's a sense of, I think there's a spirit of humanity in all of us that we, if we really went deep enough, it's there. And so this is what I mean by raising your level of consciousness. And things like human design, the Kabbalah map, and even things like journaling and meditation, they help me to elevate my level of consciousness. And being a business owner, it is really about that, it is actually a process of elevating your level of consciousness. Yes, no doubt, you can be a business owner with a much lower level of consciousness, and I think we can all think of people like that where they are just in it for the money. But the question I will ask you is whether is that the kind of business owner that you want to be? If you are, this podcast is not for you. My teachings and my concepts and my ideas are probably not for you. Versus you are a business owner, you want to create a business or have a business because there's something you want to do, there's a difference you want to make, there's a group of people you want to help, there's a teaching you want to share, something that you overcame that helped you so much that you want to share with other people so that they also can be helped, right? And so if you are that kind of a business owner, and if that's what you want to do, it really demands, it doesn't just require it, it demands that we raise our level of consciousness to be a completely different person than we were before, because the old version of us that we were before is only going to get that level of results, and you know that because that's where you are right now, and the results and the outcomes and the goals that you want, right, in the future requires and demands you to be that future version of you right now, so it's all about pulling that future version of you to the present moment now, and how you do that is by demonstrating all of these things that we talked about, right? The certainty, um, the abundance, the wholeness and self-acceptance in today, right, in present day. And in order to pull that future version of you and actually um apply it today, that creates a lot of fear, right, and uncertainty. And so we need these tools to kind of to help us to overcome these fears so that we can be that future version of ourselves right now. Okay, so I hope today's episode made sense. I know we kind of went into some very deep, deeper areas, probably something you maybe don't expect to hear from um someone who is trying to talk about you know business building. But this is what I found. Personally, I found like the whole process of building a business has really forced me to um really look deep into myself, who I am, who I want to be, what am I trying to do here? You know, like it started off as just making a a little bit of extra money and then it went really deep. Um, but I know that when I have gone through this process to go really deep and be very clear about what is it about what's my big why, why do I want it? What am I willing to do? What am I not willing to do? Who am I being, overcoming these fears? These going through this has been the biggest thing that helped me to get the results that I wanted. Okay, and the results are really only kind of like the byproduct that comes after you've done all of this work. So, um, my next steps for you maybe just to leave you with maybe just three questions now to take some time to reflect on and answer is the first is to ask yourself, what's your big why? Why why do you want to do what you say you want to do? Secondly, what are you willing to do and not do for this big why? And third, what are some tools that you're going to try try out and what are you going to use to help yourself? Okay, so um I hope this episode was something that was useful for you. If you like to learn more about how to overcome the fears when you're starting and building a business, get my free course where I share my what I call the MES framework. MES stands for Mindset, Energy, and Systems. I feel like these are the big three three components that really helped me, give me a framework to help me to um overcome these fears and what are the important things to look at when I'm starting and building a business. So you can get that at Sharon Sing Sudo.com forward slash start to get the free five-day course, and I'll also put the link in the show notes. And then if you are a working mom and you're thinking about starting your own business, or maybe you just started one and you just want some help overcoming your fears and doubts, getting more clarity about what exactly it is that you want to start, maybe how you want to assign clients in a way that feels natural to you, then you can always um follow this show. I talk about these topics all the time here in different ways and different aspects of it. You can also follow me on LinkedIn. I am at Jaren Sing Sidu. I also post there regularly around these topics. And please share this podcast with someone else you think would benefit from it. Um, and you know, leave a review if you if you really liked this episode or this show. It helps, I think, the algorithm. Somehow I've been told I've learned that it helps the algorithm if you do it on Apple Podcasts. If you're listening to someone else, it's alright. I don't think I am not aware of any kind of review page you can do. Um, but definitely share it with someone you think would benefit from this show. Okay, that's about it from me this week, and I'll talk to you again next week. Bye.