The Electric Feminine

BDSM 101

March 18, 2022 Anjua Season 4 Episode 7
The Electric Feminine
BDSM 101
Show Notes

In this episode we speak with SadistriX, a Dom (Dominant in BDSM) educator and activist, breaks down the meaning of BDSM and some of the biggest misconceptions about the BDSM community like fact that Consent is the cornerstone of BDSM. BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission.

SadistriX found the scene several years ago through an event in her city called Kinky Geek Night run by another woman. She served as this woman's apprentice for years until she was given the opportunity to take over for her and is now the owner of Kinky Geek Night in Madison, Wisconsin. BDSM is more than just sex apparently as it can help people learn to get clear on their boundaries and how to express them firmly and with out fear or guilt. SadistriX stresses how films such as 50 Shades of Gray and thirst trapping videos on social media can do additional harm by not offering accurate depictions or enough context and education to the viewers. She points to several problematic moments if not the entirety of the film in 50 Shades of Gray, namely the lack of consent, coercion and manipulation. None of which she says would be allowed at any of her events. She goes on to praise kink educators such as Sunny Megatron who she feels work very hard to keep the community safe and those curious about it informed.

We talked about the WHY behind someone wanting to either dominate or be dominated. What satisfaction or release is granted with being a submissive? SadistriX also speaks to the importance of representation in the BDSM community. While we know seeing other Black, Latinx, Indigenous and Asian faces is a confirmation of belonging there is also the fact of understanding which fetishes can actually be deemed inappropriate. It's one thing to be invited into a White space but it's another thing to then navigate the racism and stereotypes in the fetish scene. This was a fascinating discussion on human desire, pleasure, boundaries, communication and understanding the basics of BDSM. 

*SadistriX social media:
TikTok @sadistrix
IG sadistrix_ 
*KinkGeek Fest: https://kgnmadison.wordpress.com/
*Sunny Megatron: https://sunnymegatron.com/