Now that it's December, it's so easy to look around and find a million posts, videos, episodes, and photos about goal-setting and choosing your word for the year. However, what we as workings don't need right now is to be told what we should be adding to our plates. What we need to know is how to take items off of our plates to make room for the desserts of life (dreams, time with family, time for ourselves, time with friends, etc.). In today's episode, I'm talking all about saying no and figuring out what YOU will say no to in 2021!
Show Notes: http://www.worklifeglue.com/podcast/justsayno/
Now that it's December, it's super easy to look around and find a million posts, videos, episodes, photos on Instagram, and so on and so forth about goal setting and choosing your word for the new year. However, what we as working moms don't need right now is to be told what we should be adding to our plates. Before you do any of that what I think you should know is how to take items off of your plates to make room for the deserts of life. Things like your dreams, time with your family, time with your friends, time with yourself time with your spouse. In today's episode, I'm talking all about saying no. And figuring out what you will say no to in 2021. Glue. It's messy, it's sticky, it gets everywhere. But it's also really useful. Just like the glue that we need to put together the pieces of our life. As busy working moms. We have after school activities, we have homework, we have cleaning, we have laundry. And you know, we want to spend time with our kids as well in the process, and maybe even have some time for ourselves. This podcast is for the busy moms out there who are balancing work life and everything in between. And we all know that in between encompasses a lot of things. If you're a mom who wants to do the best in all areas of life, but still have time for yourself. This podcast is for you. I love to interview other moms and find out what works for them. get ideas from them, get inspired by them and learn. You know, we're all in this together. But I also like to share my own tips, tricks, struggles, triumphs, and share it all with you. So grab a load of laundry, lock yourself in the bathroom, go for a walk, do whatever you got to do, but I am just so glad you're here. Hey, glue sticks, it is officially Christmas season. So Merry Christmas to you. What comes along with the Christmas season every single year, planning out the new year, of course. And after a year like 2020 or all itching to get to a new year. I'm sure you are the same way. But I know there's tons of information about goal setting out there, you can find that anywhere. What I wanted to do today is to take a different approach. So in order to make room for the goals that you should be setting and thinking about, and reaching your dreams, which I do hope you have big dreams for your life Don't let this hard year deter you from dreaming. But we need to say no to some things to make room for the things that we want to say yes to, in order to build work life glue to get to the point of closing my daycare, which I did earlier this year. I had to say no to a lot of things for many years. And I don't regret it. I'm so grateful that I was able to do that, that I chose to do that to make room for this dream in my heart. So today I'm going to talk about what kinds of things you might choose to say no to in the new year, to make room for your dreams, and also to make it a better year. So before I jump in, I want to just kind of talk about what I had to say no to the last five years basically growing this business, that I wanted to become something that I would eventually do full time to support my family, and to change the world to help other busy working moms. And to you know, just do something bigger with my life. I just had it on my heart. But I had to say no to a lot of things. One thing I had to say no to was eight hours of sleep every night, I usually get about seven, sometimes I get eight. Sometimes they get more like six. Now that's not because I'm staying up super late at night. I am like worthless to the world by seven o'clock at night. It is because I chose to wake up early. So I was waking up at five for a long time. And then I even pushed it to 4am which is when I get up now and have for the past like two years, three years, maybe. Yeah, three years almost. It was right after our second daughter was born. I started doing that to make time for at Work Life Glue because I just wasn't able to fit it in, in other parts of the day during nap times. And at night, I was just too tired at night and nap times are hit or miss. And there's other things I was trying to do as well. Other things that I had to say no to was hours of TV at night, you know, I will maybe watch a show at night, a few nights a week. But that's it. I'm not binge watching anything most of the time. I mean, there's always seasons of life. But in general, I had to say no to that. I've had to say no to calling friends as much as I would like. Now, I'm not saying everybody should do this, but that's just something that it was really hard to fit in. Thankfully, there's texting and there's other ways to get ahold of friends. But I haven't been able to devote as much time as I would love to doing that in this season right now. I had to say no to resting at naptime. I'm almost always working at nap time. If both of my kids who are at home right now are asleep. I am working I'm very rarely taking a rest unless I absolutely need it like right after my baby was born for sure. But now that I'm back in the swing of things if they are sleeping, it is go time I call it my power hour or hours if I'm lucky And I crank out content, I work hard, I'm getting things done. I've also had to say no to social media just for fun, I use it somewhat for fun, but also to build my business and to connect with other moms, which is fun for me for sure. But I have to be more strategic about it. And then another thing I've had to say no to or chose to say no to was cleaning all the things. Now I'm back to not having a cleaner. But I did have a cleaner for a few years, when I was running my daycare, full time, 50 hours a week and trying to do this business, I would have had no time for my family at all, or time for myself, if I was still cleaning during that time, the whole house. So that really, really helped. So now that I've shared that, what are you trying to make more room for, for 2021. Maybe you want to focus on your health, either eating better, making more time for exercise, you know, other various things may be of a health condition. So you're doing different things for that maybe it's your mental health, you know, your mental well being, we're all thinking about health right now with the pandemic, but what maybe you're trying to make room for your health, maybe you're trying to make more time with your family making that a priority, maybe you're trying to make more time for yourself and really focus on giving back to yourself, because you've been giving to all those around you for so long. Maybe you want to focus more on time with your friends or time with your spouse, maybe you're trying to grow a business or work more on your job, maybe trying to get a promotion or something like that you have goals in that area. Maybe you want a hobby, maybe you just want something that's just for you, that's fine. And you want to make more time for that in the new year. Maybe you want to make more time to learn about something. There are so many things you might want to make room for. But we need to think about that for sure. But we also need to be thinking about, okay, now that I know what I want to make room for how am I going to make room for it. So this is something I always think about when I make a goal is where will this fit in? Because I can't just make the goal and hope it's going to happen. Right You have to have an action plan, you have to plan for it. Because the famous quote is if you fail to plan you're planning to fail. So you have to have some things that you are saying no to, to say yes to these things that you want to make time for. Chances are if you're anything like me or the other women I know who are busy working moms, you don't have time just laying around like a blank posts, no waiting to be put on your calendar. No, it's filled to the brim. There are post it notes everywhere, you need to take a few of those off to make room for the things that you want to do. So that's what we're going to be talking about today. And I really want you to think about, you know what areas you want to improve and have that really in your heart so that you can be motivated to take a few things off of your plate. Hey, Mama, are you looking towards 2021 with doom and gloom in your heart? Does it feel like life was already hard enough. And then this pandemic hit and our world got even more divided a crazy election happened. And now you are left thinking you know why even bother? Why even try next year, it's already, you know, defined as a horrible year before it's even started. Maybe you need a little kick in the pants to get back on the right path. Maybe you don't even know where to begin when it comes to organizing all the things, planning your days creating routines, and all the things that come along with being a busy working mom, maybe you're in a new phase, you know, maybe school has gotten back in session, or maybe you've gotten completely distant learning and you're trying to figure out how to bounce it off. And maybe you're listening to this episode and you feel like you're just so overwhelmed. You don't even know what you're saying yes to you don't even know what your goals are. So you can't even start thinking about saying no to things you don't even know where you're headed or why you would be heading in any direction because you're just plain tired. There's good news and my friend I love helping other busy moms figure out what to say no to so they can say yes to some amazing things. I love helping with routines, seeing what tasks can be shifted or outsourced in some way, motivating moms that they can do whatever it is that's on their hearts, if this is something you need help with. So 2020 wine can be an amazing year, I want you to head over to work life flow comm slash coaching and look into booking a strategy session with me. By the end of the call, you will be feeling like you have a new sense of direction with an action plan ahead of you. I really want to make that happen for you. So head over to at Work Life Glue, calm slash coaching if you need extra help, I am there for you. Okay, so hopefully you've had a little time to think about what you are saying yes to you can definitely focus on that more after this episode. But I want to jump into some things that you could consider saying no to now, all of these things, you know, it really depends on what your goals are going to be for the next year. What you already are doing in your life, your current season. So these are all just ideas. Definitely don't choose everything on this list. Because you will, you know be saying no to like everything you love in your life. But these are some things to just consider saying no to to make more room and create more energy, depending on you know what the saying no is some of them are focused on creating more time and some of our focus on creating more energy by reducing stress and things like that. So just listen to these, maybe you'll come up with some of your own. And you could head over to the workplace glue moms Facebook group and share your own ideas after listen to this episode, we keep the conversation going over there. So make sure you've joined. And you can share your ideas there after listening to this, but some of my ideas for things you could say no to, I know a huge time suck for everyone, including myself is social media. So there are lots of ways you could say no to this, I doubt any of us are going to say no to it completely. I mean, if you have that willpower or have that on your heart, go for it. But you might take a break for a while, maybe you'll deleted off your phone, you know, for the weekends or a certain period of time, maybe you'll sign out every time you use it or sign out most of the day and then only sign back in for a certain amount of time. Maybe you'll have set times that you work on it, maybe I'll put your phone away, you know when it's family time or work time, some way to say no to social media. So just kind of analyze your heart and think about if that is some area that you could definitely step back for from to not only create more time in your life, but create more energy because we all know, comparison pops up a sense of inadequacy, maybe you see things you want to buy or see things other people are buying and you feel like you should be doing that too. And there's a whole keeping up with the Joneses. If you take that off your plate a lot more, you'll have so much more energy and freedom in your mind to go do those things that you want to do. Another super obvious one, but one to bring up for sure is TV. So maybe you are watching a lot of TV, maybe you're not, but you just want to, you know, look at that area as an extra piece of your life that you don't absolutely need to be doing. And let's think about ways we could maybe cut that out or refocus it so that you're still getting that time to kind of vet out and not do a whole lot. But you could also be doing something else at the same time. So if let's say you're wanting to exercise or fit in a hobby or fit in more time with your spouse, maybe you'll use TV time, in conjunction with those other things to say yes, while also kind of saying no to that. So you're not you're saying no to just sitting on the couch, watching TV and doing nothing else. And you're saying yes to incorporating something else, while you're watching TV, maybe you will limit how much TV you'll watch, maybe only watch one show, or only watch certain days of the week, you know, limiting that time and then you're saying yes to something else in place of that on the other days or for the other hours, maybe you will switch your TV watching to only be watching things that are educational in some way or that you know, push you to think outside the box. Like if maybe you have a goal to be more open minded or to learn more about food or something like that. Maybe you can switch your TV watching to be about those types of things. So that's just a way to rethink. You don't have to say no completely to these things. But maybe you think about how you can do it in a different way so that it's serving you more. Another thing I know we don't want to hear is saying no to sleep. Now, I think sleeps very important. I think we all need a certain amount of sleep. But I would love to have like a sleep expert on at some point. So if you know one, send them my way. But I have learned just over the years that it's not necessarily about the amount of sleep you get. It's what cycle of sleep you're in when you wake up and the quality of sleep. So I think you know, we all could definitely use more sleep. But I have found for me six to seven hours, I'm functioning great. And so I wake up earlier, maybe you will wake go to bed later and sleep later in the morning, but get more time at night to work on something. Now I'm not saying to only sleep like three or four hours or even five hours, I think you should consistently be getting a good amount of sleep for your body. But you know, maybe for a season you take one hour off of your sleep a few nights a week or during the weekdays and you work on whatever it is that is your goal for the next year. If you are working in a more traditional setting, maybe you'll say no to lunch breaks being a complete break. Maybe instead of going to a restaurant or hanging out with people during your lunch break or just sitting and eating. Maybe you will eat and work on something at the same time or eat quick and then spend all the rest of the time you know working on your hobby exercising, calling a friend writing a note to your mom or your grandma you know whatever your goal is maybe you could fit it in during your lunch break and do those in conjunction with each other Now, I think it's a really great idea to reward yourself from time to time. For you know, things like eating really healthy, maybe you have a little cheat meal, quote, unquote, to reward yourself for eating so well, or exercising so well for so long. Maybe reward yourself with a new purse or something or some kind of monetary item that you buy, for not spending money for a whole month or something like that. I think rewarding yourself can be really, really helpful. But I think we can fall into the trap of rewarding ourselves all the time, for just making it through the day. So maybe you have a glass of wine at the end of the day, because you are rewarding yourself. Maybe you are having a cheat meal every night because you ate so well at the beginning of the day, maybe you are buying things to reward yourself because it feels good, just for being alive and making it through during a pandemic. Now, none of these things are necessarily wrong. But if you look at your life and think, okay, let's be honest, I'm rewarding myself all the time, with monetary items or with time for vegging out on the couch or something like that. Maybe you need to start saying no to some of those things and reward yourself by doing something to make your life better just channel in a different way. Not something that's overindulgent, that may be adding to more stress or, you know, creating an addiction of some sort, maybe channel into bettering yourself in some way or working toward a goal. Another thing to say no to as really hard as comparison. So if you can think of all the ways that are causing you to compare yourself to others, maybe it is social media, maybe it's TV, you're seeing characters on TV that have all these things are doing amazing things and it doesn't seem realistic, because it's not, maybe you should cut those things off. Because they're sucking away your energy, they're sucking away your confidence, which leads to a lack of motivation, which leads to you no longer working towards your goals. So think about what things are causing you to compare yourself to others. Maybe it's even books, maybe it's friendships, I mean, I'm not saying cut off all your friends, but maybe try not to talk about certain topics or don't talk to them as much if it's really making you compare your life to theirs, or do some of your own soul searching and soul work to eliminate that comparison, or at least decrease it. piggybacking off of that, one thing to say no to all the time on my book, our toxic people. Now we all have toxic people in our life in some area, and we can't always get away from them. But if you know somebody is toxic to you, and maybe they're a great person, but they just bring out the worst in you for some reason, or they just are toxic to you in some area of your life, or they just make you feel really icky. And you just don't really like being around them. Think about ways that you can, you know, get away from them more quickly, spend less time with them, not be around them, things like that. There's lots of great books. And I'll actually be talking about a couple at the end of this episode that you can use when you know analyzing who the toxic people are in your life and trying to stay away from them or create boundaries around them. So they're not sucking your time or your energy. A huge thing I think we all should be working on all the time is our mindset of not having a toxic mindset. So many of us just let our minds run how they are wired from birth. And I don't think we're wired to be negative, but we are wired to you know, pick up the world around us and internalize that and a lot of the world around us is negative. And so it's very easy to have negative thoughts a lot and not even realize it to have thoughts that are limiting you in many ways because our mind wants to keep us safe. And to keep us safe means you know, we're scared of a lot of things we put ourselves down because we don't want to step outside of our comfort zone because it's not safe in our mind. But really that's where true happiness that's where true fulfillment and growth and progress lives. But we need to open our mind up to that and really analyze what thoughts are we having. So you know, maybe therapy, maybe books you could read, talking about journaling are all things that can really help you with your mindset. But even just noticing that you do have a negative mindset is the first step. Another thing you could consider saying no to in 2021 are relaxed limits in your home. So I'm not necessarily talking about like being a lazy permissive parent because I think all of us are aiming to be the best parents we can be but I'm talking about allowing yourself to have limits for your own time. I think Especially in a pandemic, when a lot of us are stuck at home with our kids, we feel like we need to be with them. 24 seven, and we feel bad and guilty if we have limits around our time, but I am giving you permission to have very strict limits about when you are 100% mom, and when you are working on something else, I think it's totally healthy to work and have your kids be napping. And this is nap time. And if you're not napping, you need to stay in your room, obviously not for hours and hours. But you know, depending on the age of your child, all children usually go through a phase where they fight it, that doesn't mean they don't need it, it just means you need to really lay down the law and be firm. And I'm giving you permission to do that. Within reason, of course. But I think it's so important for our kids to see that. And maybe it's not just nap times, maybe it's waking up too early in the morning, which is something we deal with. But our kids know 6am is when you come out if you're up before that, that's your own choice, but you're not coming out until after six mom is not mom until after six. Same with bed times, you know being really strict about that. Because you need your time, you cannot pour from an empty glass. And the only way to fill your glass up is to not be needed. 24 seven you need that time you are not created moms are not created to be parenting and momming 24. Seven, it's not how we are wired, we are supposed to have a village around us helping us. A lot of us don't have that we need to create boundaries and limits within our home. This is something I'm very passionate about. Probably you can tell. And maybe it's not even you know, being away from your kids, maybe you're with your kids, but you're working. You know, you say you're gonna do this right now. And I'm going to work and that's way easier said than done. It's something I work on every day. It's very hard, especially with little little kids. But the sooner you start, the better off your kids will be because they'll be more independent, they'll be able to start things on their own, they won't need you for everything, they'll be more self sufficient, more creative, more imaginative, you know, the list goes on and on. It's so good for them. And it's also good for you because you're able to do the things that you're wanting to do. So really think about saying no to having no limits in your house when it comes to your time. Okay, another thing you know, this is little, but when you think of different things like this, maybe this will spark a different idea and you paying your bills individually. I said no to this a few years ago, it's so nice to have them on auto pay. If you are, you know, money is tight what I actually did when we were really sitting down and looking at our budget and switching things up, I called all of our bills, you know, the different companies that we have bills with. And I asked them to move all of our payment dates, due dates to the end of the month, so that all the money was already in our account. So we didn't have bills coming out, you know, all at the beginning of the month, before we had all of our paychecks in, I move them all to the end of the month. And now they just auto pay. And so I always am budgeting every week. But if this is something you're just starting out on, and you're worried like, I'm worried for the auto payment to come out on the second of the month, because you know, I don't know if we'll have enough money in there yet. Move them all to the end of the month, most places are happy to do that. It's no big deal. And that way you have the money in and you can just do auto pay. So it's one less thing you have to do, obviously be tracking it so you know what's coming out. But it's one less step to go in and pay every week, you just have it come out automatically. And that will save you some time to be working on something else. Now, that's one small example. But I'm sure there's other things in your life like that, that you're manually doing, that you could find a way to batch, you could find a way to automate in some way so that you're not spending time on these things that you really don't need to be doing. Another thing you could say no to is mindless driving. I think driving is like the most amazing thing when I get to do it. Because first of all, either you don't have kids with you when you're doing it or they're strapped into their seat, which is amazing when you have a little kids who are constantly running around. It's the one time where nobody's running around and it's beautiful. And maybe you put on some music for your kids or an audiobook. And then you can either pop one headphone in or just have it playing on your phone and you listen to something else. And it's amazing. I think driving is such an amazing time for multitasking. So you could be listening to an audio book, you could be listening to podcast episodes like this one. You could be you know, recording a voice memo that you're going to send to your grandma about how much you love her. Maybe you're speaking out the words of a book you're going to write or you're just journaling your own thoughts by talking. You know there's so many things you can do while driving that are safe and multitasking. So If you have a commute, or you're driving your kids, you know every day to school or after curricular activities of those are still going on, you know, what could you be doing while you're driving now, I think it is important to like, also socialize with your family and stuff like that. But if you can use some of that time to be learning or, you know, entertaining your mind in some way, I just think it's super helpful and easy to do, because your kids are strapped in, and they're not going anywhere. And it's a beautiful thing. Okay, so those are all things you could say no to. And I'm sure there are many more, I would love you to go to the work life glue mom's Facebook group and add more. But now I'm going to talk about outsourcing now. And delegating, I guess you could say, I know a lot of people talk about this, but I'm going to talk about it too, because the more we talk about it, the more it will be normalized. And the more you won't feel guilty about it. So what do I mean by outsourcing, I mean, you stop doing certain things in your life, you hand them off, there are so many things we do as moms that we just don't have to do. And let's take advantage of this modern society that really beats us up as moms and makes us feel inadequate, and use the good parts of it, the online resources, the outsourcing the different apps and things you can use that make your life easier, let's use some of the benefits of being a mom, in this day and age, when we do have it pretty hard, I would say. So one thing I want you to outsource is just doing it all, you know, think about some things in your life that you just don't need to be doing. We have so much on our plates, it is time to take some of those things off. One big thing if you can fit it into the budget or find a way to figure out a way to not be cleaning all the time. Cleaning is something that's going to keep happening, you're going to have to keep doing it Your house is going to keep getting dirty. There's no rule that says you have to be the one cleaning it. Now I am still doing the cleaning in our house, you know, we're in a transition period where we are not budgeting for that right now. But there was a time I was outsourcing that and it was amazing. And I would highly encourage anybody to do that. If they can fit it into the budget. Maybe you hire out the deep cleaning. And you still do like the regular maintenance, maybe you just hire out the regular maintenance and you take an hour on the weekends to do some of the deeper cleaning. Or maybe you hire it all out and you are even better for it. Because now you just opened up so much time and less stress in your life and you have so much more time and energy for other things. Another thing moms can outsource is meal planning. You know, maybe you sign up for a meal subscription service, maybe you are using a cookbook like the cook once eat all week. cookbook, I really loved using that earlier this year. That's another idea where it's just laid out for you. And so you don't have to do all the planning. Maybe you hire somebody to do it. Maybe you buy a resource online, there's also five dinners one hour, which is a great tool. I will link to all these in the show notes. But there's so many ways in this day and age, you do not have to be meal planning every single week. Take advantage of those in some way, there's got to be at least one you could incorporate at least some of the time. So you're not doing that task all the time. That takes up a lot of your energy, mental space and your time. Another thing is grocery shopping today in this day and age, especially with the pandemic, I am so grateful for the beauty of grocery pickup every place I know now including all the which is amazing because it allows me to not only save money, but also save time now because I don't have to go in is grocery pickup. So you order it all online, you go pick it up and it's ready for you. You don't have to go into the store with your screaming child who wants everything that they see or tries to get out of the cart, or you know what have you you don't have to deal with that energy sucker that is draining you and you also don't have to spend time focusing on that. And that's something we have to do every week, every other week minimum. So you could save so much time by outsourcing that to apps and grocery pickup. And then another thing you could outsource is childcare. Now I'm sure a lot of you are working moms who have childcare in some way like daycare during your working hours but I do want you to consider every once in a while outsourcing childcare on your time off. So maybe one night a week or one night every other week or one night a month or one day on the weekend. Or a few hours here and there you have your spouse, watch your children, you have a friend and you guys trade off you have a family member, watch them or you send them to daycare on you know one of your days off once In a while, don't take advantage of it. I was talking provider we don't like when parents never want to spend time with their kids. But every once in a while is totally understandable and necessary. There are moms that I would encourage, like you need to send your kids to me, when you're not working this one day, because you need some time to yourself. I think it's so important that we get time away from our children where we're not working, you know, our nine to five, that we get some time to do those extra things we haven't had time for to make time for ourselves to go hang out with some friends, if we're able to, you know, go do something that fills us up or work toward our goals. I think it's so important. Our kids are so important. But it's also important to get time for ourselves. So if you're not making any time for that, there are so many ways to outsource childcare, like I said, you could swap with a friend. I know it's really hard during a pandemic. But think outside the box. Sometimes we are limiting ourselves by just closing off doors to certain things and not really considering alternative ways to do them. I think there's so many different ways we can outsource things that, you know, maybe you have an idea for something. And if you're in the Facebook group, you can write about it in the post for this episode. And we can get different ideas from each other. Because like I say, we collectively are the experts at being working moms and being good at it. And I think we can learn so much from one another. So after listening to all this, I hope you guys got some ideas of things that you could say no to in 2021. My task for you this week is to decide one or more things that you will be saying no to in the new year and make a plan, you can't just decide it and then let it be, you know, you have to actually do something. So this week, I want you to hire that cleaner, I want you to talk to your mom about watching your kids a couple hours here and there. Or have the discussion about your spouse about them cleaning more often or what your schedule will be for the cleaning. So it's not all on you or taking a night off once a week, I want you to delete those apps, make a plan whatever it is, like I said, Don't say no to all of these things, you'll get really overwhelmed really quickly. But pick one or two and make a plan because failing to plan is planning to fail. So I want you to go over to the Facebook group. The link is in the show notes and share with us what are you going to say no to in the new year. I want this to be a community based podcast where we help each other we hold each other accountable. We give each other ideas so head over there. Make sure you share what you are going to say no to in 21 Okay guys, it is time for the mama survival tip this week. My mama survival tip that can go a lot along really well with what I talked about in this episode is cycling, breakfast snacks, lunches, you name it. So like I said, outsourcing meal planning, I think is a great thing. But on top of that, if you can just cycle through certain meals, it makes your life so much easier. So when I sit down to meal plan, I don't have to think about breakfast. I don't think a lot about lunch. And I don't think a lot about snacks. I use the same breakfast and snacks every single week. And I don't feel bad about it because it saves me so much energy. Plus, my kids are knowing what to expect. They complain less because they just know what's coming. And I can tell them no Friday is when we're having french toast sticks as your special treat. Today we're having eggs and toast or whatever. And they just get used to it and it makes your life easier. You don't have to think about it in the morning makes your mornings go better. Same with snacks and even lunches lunches I pretty much cycle on a monthly basis. Now that I'm not doing daycare, but I know a lot of daycare providers also cycle lunches, it's just really easy. You can even go as far as writing out what you know is needed for those meal so that your grocery list is pretty much already done for those weeks. And it just saves you so much time cycle at least one meal of the day so that you know what's happening. And you just repeat it every week every month, you know what have you but that way you know what to expect. And it just takes a lot of your brain power away from meal planning, because that's really not the most important thing in your world right now. So what has earned the Mama's seal of approval for this week, I have two books that I have read that have really helped me in my life that I think could really help you, especially if you read them now. I think this is an amazing time to be reading these books because it goes with exactly what I was discussing in this episode. So one book is called essentialism. And I will have links to these in the show notes. But that book is really great. It's all about saying, no, it's all about only doing the things that are essential and why that's important how to do that, how to figure out what's essential. It's basically like minimalism for your time. And I think it's really, really helpful, and really takes this whole episode a whole lot further. So if you want to read more, definitely check out that book. And then another critical book I think everybody in the whole world should read is boundaries. It is so helpful. There are multiple different ones, I think like boundaries with kids and boundaries in different situations, but just their main first book boundaries is so helpful for things like setting boundaries with your kids, setting boundaries with your spouse of things you will do and things you won't do. Things you will, you know, be okay with and things you won't. And things like setting boundaries with toxic people, and really analyzing who you want in your life and how to cut out toxic people or how to at least decrease the amount of time and energy you're giving them. If you want more information on that I would definitely recommend that book. It was super helpful for me, and I know it will be super helpful for you. So those two are in the Mama's seal of approval for this week. I hope this episode was helpful, and I hope you got a lot out of it. If you are liking this podcast, I would greatly appreciate if you would leave a review and a rating for this podcast. So if you're on Apple podcasts, head over to the page for work life glue, and at the bottom, you can leave however many stars, you want to give the show, hopefully five but you know I appreciate any feedback. And then leave a little review, leave a little bit of something that you're enjoying or the reason why you keep coming back to this podcast. That just really helps this podcast be seen by more busy working moms, helps me get my message out helps grow our community so that we are all helping each other and so we can all learn a lot more and grow a lot more together. So it not only helps me but also helps you and I would greatly greatly appreciate it if you've been enjoying the show. That's all I have for you guys today. I hope you enjoyed and I hope you are having a wonderful Christmas season. I can't wait to see you again next week. So go get something done. Go love on your kids and go live your dreams. I'll talk to you next time.