281: Seven Practical Rules To Be Kinder To Yourself Today

Ready to quiet the inner critic and lead with calm, clear compassion? Camille shares seven practical, low-lift rules that help you navigate motherhood, work, and ambition without drowning in guilt. From a relatable parking lot moment of chaos to research-backed reframes, you’ll learn how to shift your self-talk, set humane goals, and build systems that support a kinder day.

We start with a perspective flip: imagine your sixty‑year‑old self coaching you through today’s mess with tenderness and wisdom. That lens turns judgment into empathy and opens the door to Rule 1, embracing your uniqueness and learning curve. Then we move into what you can actually control. Let go of outcomes like potty training timelines or teen sleep cycles, and redirect energy toward your choices—your tone, your plan, and your next small step. Camille shows how listing strengths, pairing them with gratitude, and celebrating tiny wins can regulate stress and reinforce progress.

You’ll also hear how focused priorities and simple prep rituals make compassion easier to practice. Two or three daily priorities beat a bloated to‑do list, and a five‑minute nightly review reduces morning chaos. We spotlight Kristen Neff’s best‑friend reframe—swap rigid identity statements for kind intentions you can act on today. The result is a realistic, repeatable approach to self-compassion that works in carpools, conference calls, and everything in between.

Choose one starting point: name three strengths, schedule two gentle goals, or plan tomorrow in five minutes. Then tell us how it goes. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a softer inner voice, and leave a quick review to help more women find practical tools for a kinder life.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And Topic Setup
• 0:31 Why Self-Compassion Matters
• 1:51 Rule 1: Embrace Your Uniqueness
• 3:48 A Parking Lot Moment Of Grace
• 5:03 Rule 2: Let Go Of Control
• 5:17 VA In 90 Days Invitation
• 6:09 Rule 3: Name Strengths With Gratitude
• 6:44 Rule 4: Set Focused, Gentle Goals
• 8:00 Rule 5: Celebrate Small Wins
• 9:12 Rule 6: Prepare To Ease Stress
• 10:08 Rule 7: Be Kind And Think Positive
• 11:14 Kristen Neff’s Best-Friend Reframe
• 11:50 Connect, Community, And Thanks

Transcript

Camille: 0:07

So, you want to make an impact. You're thinking about starting a business, sharing your voice. How do women do it that handle motherhood, family, and still chase after those dreams? We'll listen each week as we dive into the stories of women who know. This is Call Me CEO. Hey, hey everyone. This is Camille Walker with Call Me CEO. Today we're going to talk about something that I get asked about a lot, which is self-compassion. How do you know if you're self-compassionate enough and how do you give yourself the kind of compassion you deserve? Well, I'm going to break it down to seven rules to follow really quickly and easy wins where you can find more self-compassion today. Number one, I want you to think about what makes you unique. You know, each of us has different experiences that we've gone through. And the more I've been a mother and the longer I've lived my life, I realize that any judgment that I felt in the past is often because I have not yet experienced what that person is going through. And I will oftentimes in my younger years, and even as I continue, see things and look at things in a way and think, why would they do that? Or why would they choose that? Or why is their child out of control? And then you get older and you experience those things and you become smarter and you become compassionate. You see that person going through that thing, seeing that person with a child that's tantruming or having the issue, whatever the case may be, and you have compassion for them. Well, I want to challenge you, my friend, to think about the things that you're experiencing as a mother and imagine, if you will, what you might say to yourself in the future. Give yourself, uh, I don't know, 20 years from now, say you're 60 years old and you're looking back at yourself as a young mother now. And I want you to look at yourself and talk to yourself with the same compassion you would afford someone else. The key to becoming compassionate is to think about yourself in a way that challenges those unique parts of yourselves and embraces them in this learning process. Listen, we're all imperfect. We all are here doing things for the very first time, whether it's becoming a mom for the first time, a mother of two for the first time, a mother of a three-year-old for the first time, or maybe starting a new job. Each of us are going through different stages and learning along the way. Please afford yourself the compassion that you would give to a stranger once you've gone through a similar experience. I remember once when I was a mom of three. And goodness, I think being a mom of three with two incar seats, what a new nursing baby carrying a toddler and having to get to and from places. And I had a circumstance in the in the parking lot where I couldn't, I couldn't get things together. Kids were running all over the place. My baby was crying. And I had a mom that came up to me and just said, Hey, is there anything I can help you with? I've been here before and I, you are doing such a good job. Like, what can I help you with? And it was such a wonderful extension of her to take that time to recognize me and see herself in that moment and reach out in a way that a loving person would. And that's the kind of compassion that I want you to understand that you're developing for yourself and you can talk to yourself in that same thing, in that same way. Number two, I want you to let go of the things that you cannot change. There are so many things in this world, especially as a mom, that we simply cannot change. We cannot control the way a child wants to potty train. We can't control the way our teenager wants to sleep in in the morning. There are things we might want them to do and teach them to do, but at the end of the day, that child is going to go to the bathroom on the toilet when they're ready. When they're good and ready. I don't know if you've been in that situation. But for me, it is so easy to get wrapped up in what it is that I want my child to do. And sometimes there are things we simply can't control. So that's my number two. Number three is to identify your strengths. Now, with identifying your strengths, I really want you to sit down and grab a pen and paper. And with your strengths, I want you to turn this into a gratitude practice. Because I have found that when I take a minute to sit down and think about the things that are good or the strengths that I do have and tie those in with gratitude, I often find that those are the times that I really feel more connected to really what's going on in the present moment. I think a lot of times it's easy for us to see all of the things that could be going wrong or all the things that we could be doing wrong. But when we take a moment to think about our strengths and what it is that we have to offer with those strengths, we are much more able to combat the day or to come at our problems with a fresh new perspective. If you're looking for more flexibility in your life, have you ever considered what it might be like to run a business of your own from home? That is why I have created VA in 90 Days, which is a program to help you learn how you can do virtual assistant work from home, setting your own schedules, finding your own clients, being your own boss, and doing things from home that help make another business owner's life that much easier. This program has everything you need from A to Z: how to set up your business, how to discover your marketable skills, and also how to set up clients that will love and rave about you while all setting your own schedule. Tune in to CamilleWalker.co to learn more about how you can set up your own virtual assistant business today. Number four is to set goals. Now, this I give you with a little piece of warning because by nature I tend to be a goal setter to do all the things. And this is not what this is about. I want you to think about the things that are a priority, but for me, in a given regular mom life busy work day, I might have to choose two things, maybe even three. That's ambitious, that has to do with work-related things or two things that are related to my house. But that's it. Like you really have to make those specific goals. And if they're not important, they can wait. And if they haven't gotten done, then that's okay too. You can move on to that next day. When you're setting a goal, I want you to set goals to set time for yourself, to really set goals to take time to reflect on what you have gotten done and embrace those in-between moments that is really what life is made of. And getting those things done, those in-between moments, those are the kind of goals I want you to set. So sit down and think about what those goals are. Number five is to celebrate your accomplishments and to really appreciate the time that you have put into whatever those goals are. When you're checking those things off the list, take a minute to pause and pat yourself on the back and think, I did that. And really celebrate those moments because if we're not taking time to celebrate, that teaches our kids as well that we're here to just be doers of things and not actually live in that moment. So really take time to celebrate. Number six is to prepare. Now I don't know about you, but weeks that I don't prepare for my week ahead, I find that I feel more frazzled and I'm harder on myself. So if I'm going to be more compassionate with myself, it always turns out better if I have somewhat of a plan in play. So for me, that's taking five minutes the night before to review with my husband what's happening the next day. On Sundays, we take time to review the week and talk about things that we need help with each other for. And I do this with my kids as well. We really try to plan and prepare. Um, grocery delivery saves me every week. And I think it's things like that can that can really help you ease anxiety and stress. And we know that if we are practicing self-compassion, we offer ourselves less anxiety and less depression. So giving yourself that space to just plan as best you can, but also be willing to, you know, let things go, like we talked about number two. Number seven, and this is the most important, is to be kind to yourself and to think positively. You know, there's so much power in our minds, and self-compassion is the only way to really live our lives because we are with ourselves all of the time. The space that you keep in your mind is literally where you live. I was explaining this to my daughter just the other day and saying, you know, wherever you go, no matter where you are, if you're in the school bus, if you're in your classroom, if you're at home, you need to become best friends with the person that lives inside you because no matter where you go, there you are. And she thought that seemed really kind of bizarre, like, well, why would I need to be my own best friend? And I think we oftentimes forget that there is so much strength that can come from really appreciating ourselves and talking to ourselves in a way that is compassionate. One of the leaders in this way of thinking is Kristen Neff. And she says, for example, rather than saying, uh, I'm a patient and understanding mom to my kids, think I'm going to be kind to myself. Okay. Another thing that she says is, rather than say, I, rather than saying my body is amazing just the way it is, and I accept myself this way, think I'm going to treat myself the way I would treat my very best friend. Do you see those slight twitch changes that she made where she talks about it's not only about accepting and loving yourself, but simply treating yourself the way you would a best friend. And I think if we can allow ourselves to think of ourselves that way and challenge those negative thoughts about, you know, if I'm feeling this way about any good given certain circumstance, explore those feelings, but also challenge yourself. What else could be true about what you're giving of yourself as a woman, a mother, a wife, a partner, a sister, a cousin, whatever it might be, and allow yourself that grace of knowing you have so many unique, wonderful things about you. You are not here to simply do a task list. You are here to be and to love and to live. So I hope, my friend, that you take these challenges and just pick one. Maybe it's just to recognize your strengths. Write down your strengths today and think about what it is that you appreciate about those strengths and that gratitude that you have for those strengths. I love you. I'm here for you, I'm cheering you on. I hope that you find peace within knowing that you are exactly who you need to be and you're amazing. Bye. If you'd enjoyed this conversation, I'd love for you to join me online on Instagram at callme CEO Podcast and CamilleWalker.co. You can find like minded women just like you who are looking for positivity and inspiration in both motherhood and business. Thank you so much for being here, sharing the show with your friends. It truly means the world to me.