The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
This podcast focuses on surviving life after a suicide loss, an experience that can be devastating and leave you feeling lost as you try to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart. The host, Melissa Bottorff-Arey, lost her 21-year-old son, Alex, to suicide on August 7, 2016, and brings (& often shares) her insights from her personal journey.
In each episode, Melissa engages in honest and challenging conversations with other survivors of loss, healers, and mental health experts. She also produces shorter solo episodes where she reflects on her own thoughts and experiences thus far. The podcast covers a wide range of relevant topics and addresses difficult questions. Melissa explores all aspects of grief, including trauma, hope, healing, self-care, legacy, and stigma. She believes that we learn to live alongside our grief rather than getting over it. Actual change comes through authentic, meaningful connections and mindful choices.
For supporters or educators, these conversations provide valuable insights and shine a light on suicide and grief genuinely and unapologetically. Listeners who are grieving a suicide loss can find comfort in the community and hope for a better tomorrow. Melissa aims to help others, like herself, transition from merely surviving to discovering a life filled with meaning and, potentially, even happiness amid the leftover pieces around you. You can always schedule a time to chat about being a guest from my main website.
[Please NOTE: This podcast is for only relational, informational, and entertainment purposes. It candidly and openly discusses sensitive and sometimes activating topics. There will be no in-depth or graphic descriptions of the method, but merely the possible mention of suicide, murder, rape, and the like. Be guided and care for yourself accordingly. Also, Melissa is not a doctor or licensed therapist, and nothing on this podcast should be taken in place of, or as, medical/mental health advice or recommendations.]
The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations
Grief Truth #5; August Daily Nuggets
“Guilt and love often feel the same.” August 5 Daily Nugget
Take a breath. Let yourself arrive.
Sometimes we don’t need answers — just something true to hold.
Here’s today’s grief truth.
Guilt and love often feel the same.
Guilt is one of grief’s heaviest companions.
It creeps in through the cracks of “what if” and “why didn’t I.”
But here’s something I’ve come to learn: guilt often masquerades as love.
It’s not always about wrongdoing — it’s about a love so deep, so fierce, that you would have done anything to change the ending.
Guilt says: “I failed.”
Love says: “I would’ve done anything for you.”
When guilt shows up, try to ask it what it’s trying to protect.
Sometimes, it just wants to be seen.
And sometimes, love just needs a place to rest.
Take a breath.
Let the truth settle where it needs to.
You don’t have to carry everything — just what feels true today.
You’re not lost — you’re walking with your truth.
I’ll be here again tomorrow.
Talk soon.
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