How to Overcome Self Doubt and Personal Insecurity on your way to Becoming the Person You were Meant to Be

Welcome back to Beyond Common Business Secrets. 
In this very special podcast episode , I share  how to use various strategies and self-talk tips to overcome your personal insecurities and doubts. Ease your mind and release the pressure you're putting on yourself by changing your mindset. How to Believe in yourself and your abilities even when the world seems stacked against you!

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In this episode  I share simple steps of how to overcome your inner critic  and insecurities that are holding you back from reaching your potential and becoming the person you were meant to be. How I turned some of my life's biggest messes and turned them into my message and become a 2 time published author. 

Tracey loves inspiring & empowering women to look and feel their best so that they can make more money and improve their overall quality of life while making a greater impact in the world. She does this through her Beyond Common Method of Success Essentials Framework.  

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00:12

Hi,i

00:13

Welcome back to Beyond Common Business

00:16

Secrets.

00:17

I am so

00:19

grateful that you're here today. We have

00:23

such a special episode for you.

00:26

It is all about

00:28

How to

00:29

Shine Your Light Into The World

00:33

and

00:34

How to Overcome

00:37

Things That Hold Us Back.

00:40

So how can we

00:44

as women in business

00:46

continue on our personal journey

00:50

to overcome

00:51

self-doubt,

00:53

to overcome self-sabotage and any

00:56

insecurities that pop up along the way?

01:00

I don't know if you have ever had

01:03

anything like this happens in your life.

01:06

But i know

01:08

I have been somebody that has struggled

01:11

with

01:12

Impostor Syndrome,

01:14

with feelings of self-doubt,

01:17

feeling less than or like I was

01:20

unworthy of love

01:23

and

01:24

unworthy of success for so many years.

01:28

It wasn't until

01:30

I started surrounding myself

01:32

with people

01:34

that had

01:36

the

01:36

positive attitude and sort of that

01:38

can-do spirit that I really started to

01:41

see that

01:43

you

01:44

really could manifest things into being.

01:48

If you

01:49

surround yourself with people that are

01:52

always doom and gloom, and tell you

01:54

everything that's going to go wrong in

01:55

the world,

01:56

you know what?

01:58

They love to be right and they generally

02:01

are.

02:02

So today we're going to dive in to

02:05

how

02:06

when even when the odds are stacked

02:09

against you,

02:10

and you feel like

02:12

nothing's going your way,

02:14

how you can dig deep and

02:18

just

02:19

do it

02:20

anyway. I know this is funny but this

02:23

actually is the week that

02:25

my new book,

02:27

Women Who Shine, which is a collaborative

02:30

book that I co-authored with 30 other

02:34

women,

02:35

and it

02:36

launches this week so we're so excited

02:38

about it. But it is a timeless classic

02:42

book.

02:43

So even if you are hearing this podcast

02:46

episode much later,

02:49

This is still

02:50

worthy of your time and attention

02:53

because

02:54

this story that I want to share with you is a

02:57

lot about my personal struggles with

03:01

overcoming self doubt,

03:03

self-sabotage and just insecurities from

03:05

when I was young.

03:07

and

03:08

I have always had this dream in my heart

03:12

of being a

03:14

published author.

03:16

However, I was not the best at grammar. I

03:20

don't know if you guys have heard me

03:21

talk about this before, but I was

03:25

diagnosed with dyslexia, which was 

03:28

Unpopular, and uncommon, like it was just

03:31

something you didn't talk about, you just

03:33

sweep it under the rug.

03:34

So it was just kind of try harder

03:37

was what people told you,

03:40

and it's a challenge it makes it hard to

03:43

read and enough challenges and fighting

03:46

against that made me kind of crawl into

03:49

my shell, just like a turtle for a long time,

03:51

and not

03:52

really ever believe that I could realize

03:55

the dream of having a book published.

03:58

So the first time I got to accomplish

04:01

this was last year, when Beyond Common 12

04:04

Essentials for Success in the Workplace

04:05

came out.

04:06

And then when the opportunity came up

04:10

for the inspired impact book series, The

04:14

Women Who Shine Book,

04:16

I jumped at the chance because it was

04:18

such an opportunity

04:20

to go through the process and do it with

04:23

30 other amazing women, inspirational

04:26

Authors. And I just had to do it. I knew

04:30

there was a story in my heart.

04:32

Now, I always want to be a published

04:34

Author. I even found this 

04:37

like a craft that I had made

04:41

back when I was a nine year old girl that

04:43

said, “Oh Tracey Watts is a published

04:45

author.”

04:46

And it's so funny that we discovered it not

04:48

that long ago at my mom's house. But she

04:50

hit it away. I think she's afraid I'm

04:51

Going to share it with the world or

04:52

something.

04:53

So hopefully, I can get it out of here.

04:55

Again mom, if you're listening I need

04:57

that

04:58

people want to see it.

04:59

But I had a story in my heart that

05:03

is a lot about going way back to when I

05:06

was a little girl

05:07

not realizing that some of the things I

05:10

didn't deal with that were traumatic in

05:12

childhood

05:13

showed up again and again for me in my

05:16

personal life, in my business life and

05:19

they

05:20

reared their ugly head as

05:22

insecurities and feelings of

05:25

Shame, unworthiness, and self-doubt.

05:28

So

05:29

working through all of that and handling

05:31

it though it's messy, though it hurts and

05:34

sometimes, this story is hard for me to

05:36

talk about,

05:37

but

05:38

I just believe with all my heart that if

05:42

I

05:44

know that

05:46

my story

05:47

in the book, “Women Who Shine”

05:50

it's called, The Light That Shines Bright.

05:52

If my story can help even just one

05:54

person who is struggling with any of

05:56

these insecurities, then i know it was

05:59

worth it for me

06:00

to step into the light,

06:02

share my story

06:04

knowing that yes, I have fallen down. Yes

06:08

I stumbled,

06:09

Yes it's not perfect, I get

06:12

bruised banged up but I don't die and I

06:15

keep getting up again and again.

06:18

Life is like that. Business is like that.

06:21

Parenting is like that.

06:25

Going to the gym lifting weights, being

06:28

on on a healthy diet,

06:30

doing what's right is like that. So we

06:34

face these types of challenges every day.

06:36

They are not easy but they are simple.

06:40

So women who shine is literally 30

06:43

inspiring stories of women shining light

06:46

into the world, and it is going to be

06:50

available on August 25th

06:54

2021.

06:55

For you to purchase this book,

06:58

makes an awesome gift for anyone on your

07:01

list. There's so many women out there

07:04

that I know

07:06

would love and enjoy these stories so

07:08

much because, as a female business owner

07:11

especially if you're in the salon or

07:14

creative space, we all need to know that

07:17

there are other people going through the

07:19

same challenges that we are. There are

07:21

other people

07:22

that have struggled with the same things

07:24

that you have, and you are not alone. You

07:27

are not alone. You are amazing. You can do

07:31

this and sometimes, reading other

07:33

people's stories of struggle

07:36

and things they've 

07:38

had show up in their life as challenges

07:40

or obstacles actually define us and make

07:43

us bigger and better. I know this story is

07:46

kind of hard for my family sometimes to

07:48

hear, but I 

07:50

love

07:51

everything about my entire journey.

07:55

Though I get choked up, it's still it has

07:57

made me who I am.

07:59

and I know there have been conversations

08:00

in the past, even with my mom where she's

08:03

like, “Oh,

08:04

I didn't realize and it's like that's, 

08:07

Okay, I love you. You were doing the best

08:10

you could with everything that you were

08:12

given.

08:13

And I

08:15

know that, and and I can only

08:19

commit to

08:21

doing a little bit better when it comes

08:22

to raising my children. I can only commit

08:25

to

08:26

showing up in the world and sharing with

08:28

people that even when

08:31

you think

08:33

that everything's okay, you still might

08:36

need to hug your child a little bit more

08:40

if you are a family that has struggled

08:43

with divorce.

08:45

Because sometimes even though

08:48

we don't address these things we think

08:51

everyone's okay,

08:52

you never know

08:55

your child, your parent, your sister, your

08:58

Brother, you never know how someone else

09:00

is interpreting it.

09:02

You know

09:03

there could be five people going

09:05

through the exact same thing we've all

09:08

Experienced. This just more recently

09:10

with 

09:12

everything, with a pandemic and the thing

09:13

Is, there's a bunch of different

09:15

people going through the facts of what

09:17

actually happened.

09:19

But the way we interpret it and how we

09:21

show up in the world,

09:23

and how

09:24

It affects us differently.

09:26

So that's what led me to being so

09:30

honored and so humbled to do the Women

09:32

Who Shine Book series because

09:34

I know that

09:36

not everyone

09:38

could figure out how to handle

09:41

struggles like divorce in your

09:43

family.

09:44

How when you're young and diagnosed with

09:46

an Autoimmune Disease, how do you handle this? And

09:49

then how do you take the road to

09:53

lead you to being able to help others

09:56

though this story is deeply personal to

09:59

me. It's not

10:01

uncommon, it's not extraordinarily

10:04

special, it is my personal journey of how

10:09

I have embraced the beauty industry and

10:12

always look at everything I  do in life,

10:15

that it's my opportunity to serve and

10:18

really care for my clients.

10:20

So whether I was doing a haircut,

10:23

coaching another salon owner, coaching

10:27

salon professionals in any of my

10:30

Beyond Common Success Essentials Courses,

10:33

giving people the skills

10:35

to

10:37

earn a beyond common living,

10:39

rise up and find their voice, no matter

10:41

what i'm doing, you're finding the right

10:43

hair products so that you look and feel

10:45

amazing.

10:46

Giving you the signature cut and color

10:48

whatever it is,

10:50

I always apply

10:52

the same

10:53

principles and essentials to it.

10:56

And when we are really present

10:58

and show up as our whole authentic self,

11:02

I think everything is so beautiful and

11:04

it really

11:05

makes the biggest difference in the

11:08

world.

11:09

The more that I share my past struggles,

11:12

and challenges that

11:14

have happened, because this story

11:17

originally and I know I'm creating a

11:20

little bit of mystery because I want you

11:21

to get the book because you'll love it.

11:23

The thing is that, though this story

11:26

takes place at the beginning of when I

11:28

was very young,

11:29

it still

11:31

shows up at many other points in life

11:34

as i've made challenge changes and tried

11:36

to break through to a different

11:38

level. The thing is that when we are

11:42

given

11:43

opportunities to challenge ourselves to

11:46

break through the status quo,

11:48

to 

11:50

jump ahead to what they call, “Our

11:54

Zone of Genius, to break through

11:57

so that you're not only

11:59

living and working in your zone

12:02

of excellence, that you actually get to

12:03

break through to your zone of genius.

12:05

When these opportunities present

12:07

themselves, a lot of those old patterns

12:10

of insecurity, self-doubt and imposter

12:13

will flood the gates again. Just even

12:17

publishing a book, starting a podcast,

12:20

starting a coaching business, when I

12:22

already had a really successful salon

12:23

Business, the thing people say to me all

12:26

the time is, why would you do that? You

12:28

were so successful!

12:30

Why would you want to do a start-up

12:32

right now?

12:33

and the thing is that,

12:35

I

12:36

know

12:37

in my heart of hearts

12:39

that I

12:40

have a bigger impact to make.

12:42

I had to get this story in front of more

12:45

people so that if they're struggling or

12:48

they know someone that is, that they can

12:51

share it and understand that I got you, I

12:54

see you,

12:55

and I am here to cheer you on because

12:57

girl, you can do this.

13:00

And we need to be here to support each

13:02

other and that's what's been so amazing

13:05

about The Women Who Shine

13:07

on Book Launch and doing it with so many

13:10

other women. It has been an amazing

13:12

Sisterhood. I've had so much fun and as I

13:16

had.

13:17

As I said, this is deeply personal to me

13:20

and I

13:22

have struggled through sharing this

13:24

story. And sometimes, I get choked up and

13:26

cry about it,

13:27

and other times, I

13:30

have tremendous joy and gratitude for

13:33

who I've become in the process of going

13:36

through this.

13:37

Who

13:38

I have been able to positively impact

13:40

because

13:42

I was able to share this story. 

13:44

Setting an amazing example for my

13:47

children, they know it hasn't been hard. I

13:49

haven't sugar coated them. I

13:51

haven't isolated them from this. I

13:54

have

13:55

wholeheartedly authentically shared all

13:57

of the pain and struggle and let them

14:00

know that sometimes

14:02

things are not easy, and

14:05

those are the moments that define who we

14:08

are and help us

14:09

on our journey to becoming who we were

14:12

meant to be.

14:14

So my hope for this book is that, we are

14:18

able to get women who shine

14:22

into as many

14:24

people's hands as possible

14:27

so that,

14:28

we can inspire women

14:32

and encourage them to step into their

14:34

power

14:35

and truly shine bright

14:39

in into the light that they were meant

14:41

for.

14:42

So I strongly encourage you

14:45

To share the link, to get

14:48

your Women Who Shine Book

14:50

and

14:51

comment on the podcast. Let us know

14:54

what you think. I would love to hear more

14:57

about

14:58

what everyone thinks of the Women Who 

15:01

Shine Book.

15:02

And I hope you really enjoy my story

15:06

which my personal story is light that

15:08

shines bright

15:09

i just really hope that this story

15:12

will just really inspire

15:15

people to never quit no matter what. Even

15:19

when it feels like the entire world is

15:21

stacked against you,

15:23

even if you just

15:24

get back up

15:26

bruised,

15:27

beaten down a little,

15:29

your hair a mess, whatever it

15:32

takes, if you can just make that one next

15:36

step,

15:37

it's going to take you on the road to

15:40

becoming the absolute best version of

15:42

yourself.

15:43

I

15:44

am so grateful that you're here and I

15:47

cannot wait to hear

15:49

all about what you think of

15:52

The Women Who Shine Book. Thank you so

15:55

much for being here and make sure you go

15:59

and get your copy today.

16:01

Thank you thank you so much from the

16:03

bottom of my heart. I cannot wait to

16:06

share this book with the entire world.

16:08

And I am so grateful that you guys are

16:11

the first to know about it.

16:13

So amazing. Thank you so much and I will

16:16

see you on the next one.