Is modern masculinity in crisis, and are we veering away from the virtuous path laid out in the scriptures? Join Brother Jason DeMars as we tackle these pressing questions, analyzing the transformative role of biblical masculinity and leadership in today's society. We're setting the stage for a deep dive into the troubled waters of gender roles, authority, and family dynamics as Brother DeMars contrasts the formidable characters of biblical truth with the effeminate images prevalent in contemporary culture. This conversation isn't just a critique; it's an urgent call to action for men to reclaim their scriptural roles as leaders, protectors, and pillars of the family unit, pushing against the tide of modern feminism and societal change.
As we navigate the complex responsibilities of fathers, as outlined by scripture, the weight of a father's word takes center stage. Brother DeMars elucidates the profound duties bestowed upon men regarding vows and oaths—and the unique authority they hold over such promises within their families. Delving further into the sanctity of virginity and the paternal role in upholding purity, the episode does not shy away from the stark contrast between biblical expectations and today's approach to premarital relationships. This thought-provoking journey through biblical texts and their modern-day implications is an invitation to reflect on how we, as a community, can honor and preserve the rich scriptural heritage of gender roles and familial honor.
Is modern masculinity in crisis, and are we veering away from the virtuous path laid out in the scriptures? Join Brother Jason DeMars as we tackle these pressing questions, analyzing the transformative role of biblical masculinity and leadership in today's society. We're setting the stage for a deep dive into the troubled waters of gender roles, authority, and family dynamics as Brother DeMars contrasts the formidable characters of biblical truth with the effeminate images prevalent in contemporary culture. This conversation isn't just a critique; it's an urgent call to action for men to reclaim their scriptural roles as leaders, protectors, and pillars of the family unit, pushing against the tide of modern feminism and societal change.
As we navigate the complex responsibilities of fathers, as outlined by scripture, the weight of a father's word takes center stage. Brother DeMars elucidates the profound duties bestowed upon men regarding vows and oaths—and the unique authority they hold over such promises within their families. Delving further into the sanctity of virginity and the paternal role in upholding purity, the episode does not shy away from the stark contrast between biblical expectations and today's approach to premarital relationships. This thought-provoking journey through biblical texts and their modern-day implications is an invitation to reflect on how we, as a community, can honor and preserve the rich scriptural heritage of gender roles and familial honor.
On today's podcast. I'm going to speak to you about biblical masculinity and looking at the scriptures that really give the gasoline to the headship and leadership of man, and also discussing the failings of modern manhood. Greetings, thank you for tuning in to listen to equipping the bride podcast. I'm brother Jason DeMars from Beaufort, South Carolina, a minister at Bethel Tabernacle. New episodes of this podcast are posted every Friday. You can watch this podcast on YouTube and listen to it on Apple podcasts, google podcasts and Spotify. If you have any questions, testimonies or prayer requests, please let me know jasondemars. com I also have free books and tracts available at my website and shipping is free as well. May the Lord richly bless you. Hey, everyone, God bless you. Thank you so much for tuning in to the podcast today. If you have any questions, please let me know. You can contact me. The best way to contact me is at jasondemars. com and Introduce myself. I'm a missionary and teacher of the message of the hour and we also have materials available at Jason deMars. com For free. You can place an order there and I will mail them out to you for free, as the Lord provides we. We thank you and appreciate you. We want to thank everyone who Supporting this ministry. It's a. It's a great help and a blessing to us. The desire of my heart is not to be a book salesman but to get the message of the hour Into the hands of as many people as I possibly can, and it's your support and your prayers that makes that possible.
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All these different things that we have going on I feel are important and critical, and I've been speaking about manhood, masculinity, femininity and the reason I'm doing that this age is muddy in the waters and while we have great, a great standard raised up in the message, if we fail to Hold to that standard, what ends up happening is that that that evil spirit of this age slowly creeps in and influences us. We don't even realize what's happening, but slowly we're following into the ways of the world and we can. Sisters are working when they don't need to be. They're working because that's the modern ways of this world is we need two incomes. We, if we would be better off if this was the the case. Well, that's the worldly way of thinking. We send our girls off to university. Well, many of those schools and universities are teaching them away from the message, away from the truth, and laying feminine, prince, feminist principles in their hearts, which is wrong and unscriptural. And we let our young men play video games and stay inside and get weak and and, like jellyfish, brother random condemned it. So there's all these different things that we're slowly doing now. We doing it as bad as the world? Certainly not. But just because we're not doing it as bad as the world is doing it or the Worldly churches are doing it, doesn't mean that we don't need to be corrected in it. And I feel like I've. I've had to come to grips with many things and the Lord has helped me, and I believe the Lord will help you by the word. So Look, let's look at this.
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First, corinthians 6, 9. Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not in care the kingdom of God be not deceived, neither fornicators nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind. And the list goes on. So he lists within there, within these sins that disqualify you from going to heaven. He lists within that being effeminate. It's very interesting.
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The modern world has put forward Epheminate men and you know, obviously in the time of Paul in Corinth he's dealing with effeminate men, their Homa, their homosexuals, or they have a homosexual Spirit that's pushing them towards being womenly, lady like, in their, in their, in their mannerisms, their approach. And of course there's a spectrum. Some men act very manly, some are less manly, but nevertheless there there should be that aspect where we're not crossing this line into being a bunch of effeminate men under the thumb and leadership of women. The modern world of Epheminate men has glorified skinny jeans, bangs over the forehead and, in your eyes, the weak and skinny and look of young men, on the one hand, or on the other hand, is the, the, the blubbery, jellyfish like look of men. Every bit of entertainment portrays the man as a bumbling fool, protected and saved by the wisdom and strength of his wife. Then to further that the devil has planted Soy products and almost everything which is a plant phyto estrogen which literally will turn men into jellyfish with breasts. And this soy is Almost every restaurant is frying their food. It's in almost every single, it's in every single snack food, processed food, that you can find. What is it doing? This is a work of the devil. To feminize men. It's turning them into jelly Fish.
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Now, to express that manhood, young men resort to video games, the virtual world, to express that, which then throws fuel to the fire, turns them into weak, pale, rotten in body, soul and Spirit. It's not the way to express manliness. And manliness needs to be expressed, and if it isn't, it will turn into something perverted, narcissistic, deceptive, porn seeking, etc. Etc. But and such were some of you, but you are washed, you are sanctified and you are justified by the Lord Jesus Christ. But in our homes and in our families we need to encourage True manliness and through femininity. Now, manliness starts with Leadership having a vision, having a purpose and working to fulfill that. So we, as parents, moms and dads, we need to be in the home planting that into our, our sons.
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Manliness starts with leadership. Why do I say manliness starts with leadership? Ephesians 5 23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body. For Corinthians 11, 3. But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God.
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So when we look at this, we see headship. Headship speaks of leadership. Adam was first formed and then Eve, and Eve being deceived was in the transgression. The woman is the weaker vessel and by default, then man is the stronger vessel. So man is ordained to protect and to lead. All right. So you, whether or not you lead, you are leading, if that makes sense. You're either leading by actively leading or you are in the position of leading by destroying everything that you stand for, and that is true and right. In other words, you're giving up leadership to your wife, which your wife then will present you as a woman desires to be led to. So the woman desires to respond to leadership. Okay, so the man should desire to lead and to lead his family, and when he leads his family, his wife and children will then respond to that leadership.
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Number one it starts with spiritually. You are to lead the family in worship. You are to lead the family in getting to church. You are to lead the family in having a vision and a purpose and working to fulfill that purpose. That's what leadership is. You have a vision, you have a purpose and you work to fulfill that. If you have sons, you're planting this very same thing in their heart. You're training them to lead. You're training them to have a vision and a purpose and working to fulfill that. As your sons are getting older, they're getting to be the older teenagers You're involving them. Son, I want you to lead in family worship and you there, you stand there and you help them learn how to lead. But they should have been watching it for so long that they know how to do it Right. But the point of the point being is they're in training to provide for a household and they're in training to lead. That's your job. You should be planting that in their heart.
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Leadership isn't a dictatorship. It's a leadership with love and tenderness, but it's leadership. It's saying no. As a man, you have to be able to not be manipulated by emotion and to be able to they know when the right answer, the godly answer, is no, alright. Or to say yes when the godly answer is yes. Now there's a number of scriptures that really give us the backbone to leadership, but I want you to understand this is in the Bible. Sons are to leave and cleave and form their own fam, form their own household, daughters are given marriage.
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So, moms and dads, your job is to teach your son that you don't go directly to a young woman to try to win her heart. If you are interested in her and you pray about it, speak the Lord, and you've been getting to know her, perhaps through youth camps or through youth meetings or services at your church. If you, if you prayerfully approach this situation and of course this is going into a totally other subject and I want to cover that in full detail but young men are to go to the father of that girl first and speak to him face to face or over the phone and ask for permission To speak to her. And now you, as a father, it's your intention to find out is this a godly man doesn't have a vision. Is this the will of God for my daughter? And, and is he godly? Does he have the baptism of the Holy Ghost? Is he, is he responsible? There should be an Investigatory process that you have and a speech that, speaking to you, have to him not just yes or no, but simply what is your vision? We're not doing recreational dating like the world does. Is your desire, is your intent and your purpose to find out if I want to marry my daughter, if you want to just have fun, goodbye. You have to have a vision, you have to have a purpose, you have to have a desire and it's your job to take control of this. And it's scripturally, it's the father's duty to Approve or or disapprove. He's the one to make the distance. He's the deciding factor in the relationship numbers 30.
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I want to read this. And Moses spake into the heads of the tribes concerning the children of Israel, saying this is the thing which the Lord has commanded. If a man vow vow unto the Lord or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. There it is, a man is the deciding factor. If he makes a Vow to the Lord, it must be done. Now. This assumes everything. This doesn't just Mean a vow to the Lord. Religious matters, spiritual matters, no, if it. If it involves a vow to God, it certainly involves a promise to man, a Signature on a document, whatever it might be. You've made an agreement and you must fulfill that agreement and be true to your word.
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But then he goes further. If a woman also Vow a vow unto the Lord and bind herself by a bond, being in her father's house, and her youth and Her father hear her vow and her bond. Her with it bound her soul and her father shall hold his piece at her. Then are all her vows shall stand and every bond shall wear with she has bound her soul shall stand. But if her father disallow her, in that in the day that he heareth Not any of her vows or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound, her soul shall stand and the Lord shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. And if she had at all any, and husband, when she vowed or uttered out out of her lips Wherewith she bound her soul, and her husband heard it and held his piece at her in the day that he heard it, then her Vows shall stand and her bonds, wherewith she bound her soul, shall stand. But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it, then he shall make her vow, which she vowed and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect a fact and the Lord shall forgive her. All right, we'll stop there. There's more to it, but, but we'll stop there.
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So the point being is dad, you are the deciding factor in the relationship. It is not, and your wife must consult with you. Now, if you're a good, godly husband, you will also communicate what's happening and speak with your wife about it. Now, however, your wife is not allowed to make her own decision. If she makes a decision and you disagree with it, you can disallow it. If your daughter makes a decision and you see that it's wrong, you are allowed to say no, whether it be a babysitting commitment or whether it be a bigger commitment I like to a boy that she made without your involvement, you can Again. This shouldn't be a surprise to your children. You should be. You should read it to them and teach them and show them the truth of these verses so they understand. That is the deciding factor, and your wife should be on board with this as well. She's a Bible believer. She will be on board with this and she'll understand this is headship, that father husband makes the final decision and has the final say in the matter.
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Now, if you're a godly husband, you're gonna you're going to first seek the Lord's will. Right, and you'll seek the Lord, the Lord's will, together with your wife, but you know that the ultimate responsibility to decide falls on you, if, if you and if we look in this verse you see that you're deciding either way, if you hold your peace. You've decided, yes, this, this is okay if. But if you, if you, otherwise, you have to say you can't just say, well, this is too complicated, too stressful, I won't say anything. You have decided, you've said yes, right. If it's wrong and you you know it's wrong or doesn't fall into the vision what the family is supposed to be doing, it's your duty to go. Go in. They know. All right, this goes into decisions, spiritual decisions, physical decisions and emotional decisions.
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Let's say Now I want you to look at this, deuteronomy 22. Again, this goes back to responsibility. I don't want to go into every detail about this, but I want you to see the role of the father here. If any man this is Deuteronomy 22, and we're going to read 13 through 21.
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If any man take a wife and go in under her and hate her and give occasions of speech against her and bring up an evil name upon her and say I took this woman and when I came to her I found her not a maid, then shall the father of the damsel and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity under the elders of the city, in the gate, and the damsel's father shall say unto the elders I gave my daughter under this man and he hates her and lo, he has given occasions of speech against her, saying I found not thy daughter a maid. Yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity and they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city, and the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him and they shall immerse him in the hundred shekels of silver and give them under the father of the damsel, because he has brought an up an evil name upon the virgin of Israel. She shall be his wife. He may not put her away all his days, but if this thing be true and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel, then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die. But she athrought folly in Israel to play the whore in her father's house, so she'll put evil away from among you.
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This shows us is the father's responsibility to ensure the virginity of his daughter. To be a virgin is a thing of great value and of great desire, right to go into marriage as a virgin, and this puts it forward as something critical. So it's the father's duty to ensure his daughter's virginity when she enters into marriage and he needs to do whatever it takes to do that. Now, why do I see this? I see this number one is, if the husband accuses her and it's a false accusation this man has to pay money to the father, the, the, his wife's father, his father in law. Why does he do that? Because he has brought shame upon her and upon him. Right for saying that.
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Now, if the daughter be guilty, it is the father's failing and she is stoned in front of the father's house. Now, she's not stoned because she had sex outside of marriage. She is stoned because it is virginity fraud. They have committed fraud, you. You have lied about something of value here in our in before God. She's not a virgin and it's. You have committed fraud and you'll be punished for it, and the punishment is the death of the daughter and it's the shame in front of the father's house. It's not. She's not going to be stoned at the penitentiary, she's not going to be stoned at the city gate. She's going to be stoned at the father's house, right in front of the door, to show where the fault, where where the mistake lies.
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The father did not ensure his daughter would virgin. Now how do we do that? How do we, as men, ensure that our daughters enter into marriage as a virgin? We teach them right, we keep them in the right atmosphere. When the wrong atmosphere comes about, we remove them from that atmosphere as quickly as possible. See, in modern society we have it that well, the father is responsible until she's 18, then, when she's 18, until she gets married, she's on her own.
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But in the Bible we don't have this. You're either under the headship of your father or your husband. Now there's an exception. If you're a widow or a divorced woman, you don't fall back to the headship of your father. You have your own household. That's scripture, that's what you can read. That in Numbers 30. It says I'll just read it yes, numbers 30, verse nine. But every vow of a widow and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her. And if she vowed in her husband's house or bound her soul by a bond with an oath, and her husband heard it and held his peace at her and disallowed her not, then all her vows shall stand in. Every bond, whether with she or she bound, her soul shall stand so again, widows and divorced women. They have their own household and we see that with Lydia you and your household will be saved. So she had a household there in the book of Acts, and whether she was a widow or a divorced woman we don't know.
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But the point being is that this is the only circumstances. After you're 18, you're still under the headship of your father and it's your father's duty to be involved. If you marry, you can't say well, she's older, I just don't do that anymore, I abdicate my position. Or the daughter can't say to dad you know, these things have to be taught from the time so that they know what is going on and what is expected to them. You know. Start in simple terms no boy can talk to you. I've had situations where boy wanted to talk, to started talking to my daughter and the friends were arranging that. I had to go directly to the boy and say no, she's too young to be talking to you and I won't allow it. It's fine to be friends within a friend group, but no, it's not allowed for you to talk privately on the phone or text or email, and it's my job as a father to ensure that happens and to do what is necessary to make sure that happens. Take the authority, take the leadership. This is your duty, men, all right, so again, you're to ensure her virginity and you have to speak of the value of virginity from the time they're little, teaching them.
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Mother should teach the daughters about sex and the, about the importance of purity and being a virgin when you enter into marriage and, again, not being a virgin and main name only. There shouldn't be kissing before marriage. Really, there shouldn't be hugging before marriage. There shouldn't be this. What brother Adam says there's sensation when a man hugs himself up to a woman. There's a sensation. Avoid that until you're married. This loose hugging amongst our youth group needs to stop. It's wrong, it's sinful, it shouldn't be done, and you, as its fathers, that must be involved to put this to an end. It's not up to mom, it's not up to pastor, it's fathers. It's up to pastor to teach the truth so that fathers apply the truth in their home.
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Let's look at Exodus 22, 16 and 17. And if a man in Tisa made that is not betrothed and lie with her, she shall surely endow her to be his wife. We're 17 and for father utterly refused to give her unto him. He shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins. So the value of virginity? This man has taken her virginity. It isn't a default amongst Christians, amongst believers. Well, my wife, my daughter, had sex with a man. Therefore she must marry him. No, the father can utterly refuse to give her unto him. Marriage and divorce, we'll talk about that another time. But in this situation she's committed fornication. You're not required to give her unto him if he's not a godly, good man, which maybe he repents, maybe something happens. But at that moment, my goodness, he's done something that's horrible. I would certainly wouldn't want to give my daughter unto him who's taken her virginity. And there he says he's to pay the money, the dowry of virgins. So he's to pay a price for what he's done. But what's the point of this is it's the father's decision whether he gives her unto him Again.
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Sons marry and start a new household. They leave and cleave, but daughters are given in marriage. That's why it says they marry and are given in marriage. This is the picture of men and women. Men marry, women are given in marriage. The father gives his daughter. It's not just a ceremony. We have that in our modern. Who gives this woman to beat this man? That's just a farce for most families. Well, I'll tell you what. For my family, it's not.
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We believe in the Bible and daughters are given in marriage and our duty to lead our families. Now, leadership has a vision and it puts this vision forward. Now it's your job as a father to make sure you speak. You're speaking to your wife about this, speaking to your wife in front of your children about this, and that you're teaching it to them. If the church doesn't teach it, so what? You teach it. You take Numbers 30, you take Deuteronomy 22, you take Ephesians 5, you take Exodus 22 and you teach it to your family and you show that this is God's purpose. All right, we should have a vision, we should have an ambition, we should be. It says that children are arrows in your quiver. Well, you take an arrow and you shoot it. So when you shoot it, you have a direction that it's supposed to go. And so when we do that for our sons, we don't raise our sons the same way we raise our daughters.
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God values purity and virginity in both sons and daughters. We're supposed to be teaching that to them, putting that in the right place and controlling the atmosphere that our young people are in and getting them to the baptism of the Holy Ghost so they have their own walk with the Lord. However, it isn't just to say get filled with the Holy Ghost and everything's fine. You have a duty of leadership in the home to teach and to instruct and to help them to understand the value of virginity and the role of the Father in the romantic relationship of his daughters, and that your sons should never approach the girl directly but should approach the Father, and that we don't do recreational dating like the world does. I'll date this one and decide if I like him. I'll date this one and decide if I like them. If that's creeping into your church, it should come to an end quickly because Father has put an end to it, because it's sinful and unscriptural and wrong.
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Well, I didn't even get to my quotes or other things I wanted to go through, so I guess we're going to continue this thought next week, this podcast next week. We certainly appreciate you, appreciate your support, appreciate you listening in Please, if you would, if you're listening to this on Apple podcasts. Please give me a rating on there. I would greatly appreciate that You're giving your review there. If you're listening on YouTube or ex formerly Twitter, please comment, please repost, please share, greatly desire your help and support in this and spreading the message of the hour. So thank you again. May the Lord richly bless you. Thank you for listening to equipping the bride podcast. New episodes are posted every Friday. I want to remind you that if you have any questions, testimonies or prayer requests, please let me know at JasonDomarscom. I also have free books and tracks available at my website, and shipping is free as well. Please, I ask you to remember the believers and the missions work in the Middle East in prayer. May the Lord richly bless you.