The Jason DeMars Podcast
The Jason DeMars Podcast
A Meaningful Marriage Part 1
Parental advisory due to the nature of marriage discussions. This episode is for those in preparation for marriage and those who are currently married. Could understanding the true essence of happiness and love redefine your marriage? Get ready for an enlightening exploration into how biblical teachings and insights from Brother William Marion Branham can transform your marital journey. We promise you'll gain a fresh perspective on differentiating joy from happiness and how these distinctions can enrich your relationship with your spouse. We unravel the misconceptions that often lead to disappointment, focusing on the divine purpose of marriage as ordained by God, while seeking to recalibrate society's cultural understanding of love and happiness within a meaningful marriage.
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This episode navigates the often unspoken realities and expectations of marriage, shedding light on the importance of personal growth and fulfillment beyond just finding a life partner. We emphasize the necessity of selflessness and mutual respect, offering guidance from the Word of God on overcoming inevitable challenges. Discover the powerful role of preparation, especially for young women, in managing household responsibilities and practicing respectful communication. Furthermore, we delve into the concept of mutual joy, particularly through intimacy, as a God-given blessing designed to enhance marital relationships.
Lastly, we dive into the complex topic of gender roles in both marriage and society, examining traditional beliefs and their biblical justifications. By exploring the concept of "agape" love and the responsibilities of husbands, we aim to redefine leadership, submission, and shared purpose in a marriage. Our discussion also touches on the controversial belief in male-dominated leadership roles in government and religion, reflecting on its implications for family and societal structures. Join us for this thought-provoking conversation that seeks to inspire a renewed joy and meaning in life shared with a spouse.
Using the Bible and the message as our basis. I want to spend the necessary time to look at what a happy marriage looks like. I think we have some huge misconception when it comes to even what happiness is. Our cultural definition of happiness leads to disappointment because of unmet expectations, and our whole Western culture surrounding love and marriage needs to be recalibrated and redeemed by the Word of God. We're going to talk about that today in our podcast episode.
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Speaker 1:So I want to start a new topic today called A Meaningful Marriage. This is probably going to be part one. I don't know exactly how long I'm going to go on this, but it may be two or three parts at least. So when I'm looking at this kind of as an overview, I want to start with everyone wants to have a happy marriage. You don't get into marriage thinking, you know, I want to be miserable and I want to destroy my life, but nevertheless, that's what many people do because they're unprepared or they haven't been able to function in their premarital life with happiness, with joy, and so when they come into their marital life, it just multiplies their misery or their unhappiness. And so if you're going to go into marriage an unhappy person, it's just going to be multiplied.
Speaker 1:So, number one, if you're not married yet, I think you need to learn about what happiness is, what joy is, and to start to pursue that in the correct way. So I guess the first thing to do is to define what happiness is. As I said, in the cold open, our culture has definitions of what happiness is and most of it simply leads to disappointment because expectations are incorrect. And then in the West and the Western culture has infected the world you have a perverted understanding of what the purpose and function and God's plan for marriage even is, and I think all of it needs to be corrected and recalibrated. We need to repent, we need to get our minds and our hearts right with God so that we understand really what happiness and joy is All right. So first thing is to define happiness and then define love in the wider context and then in the context of marriage. Then I want to look at family order, the purpose of marriage, then the functions within marriage relationships, then the besetting sins of husbands and wives. So then, when we begin to understand this, then the joy of the Lord and the deep meaning of life spent together with your spouse can be truly renewed.
Speaker 1:Number one happiness. God made the human heart to seek joy, but the problem is is that we confuse joy and happiness. The second part is that we seek happiness as though it is an end in itself, and invariably this leads us to feeling disappointed, and invariably this leads us to feeling disappointed. So we have this idea of happiness infused in us almost automatically, and often inadvertently, by our parents. I find myself doing that often, and I'm working in my mind at changing how I communicate.
Speaker 1:Did you have fun at camp? Did you have fun with your friends? Did you have fun at camp? Did you have fun with your friends? Did you have fun at youth Bible study? Did you have fun at fill in the blank? Now the focus then becomes fun. Then the question in our minds at all times is am I having fun?
Speaker 1:We internalize that message very well, because it's planted. The seed is planted continuously. All this stuff that we're doing is supposed to make me happy, but it's not making me happy. What's wrong? Something is out of order. And so let's take the message from the book of Ecclesiastes and begin to internalize what the message is. For the sake of time, I don't want to read through Ecclesiastes in the word vanity. And the word vanity speaks of meaninglessness or purposelessness. Go ahead and read Ecclesiastes on your own time. I think it's important within the realm of the study.
Speaker 1:But number one seeking after happiness by becoming a scholar is vanity. Seeking after happiness by not denying yourself any central pleasure sex, food, alcohol is vanity. Seeking happiness by finding the perfect companion is vanity. Seeking after happiness by giving yourself wholly over to work is also vanity. Seeking after happiness by giving yourself wholly over to work is also vanity, all right. So, within the context of each of these things, fleshly pleasure and all its manifestations produces vanity. It produces meaninglessness. Manifestations produces vanity. It produces meaninglessness. Having the perfect spouse is going to be seeking after happiness, and that is meaningless. We're going to wind up disappointed, is what it's saying. Becoming a great scholar and a genius also is vanity, all right. What does ultimately?
Speaker 1:We find that Solomon tells us that what is the true purpose of man, and that's to obey God, love God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole man, this is the whole purpose of man. So when we seek after that purpose, that is where we find meaning. The opposite of vanity is meaning, and when we find meaning we find joy, All right. So we find in marriage that we have a cultural message that's given to us that once you find the woman or the man you're to marry, then you will be happy. And it sort of becomes basically a goal in many people's lives young men's lives I must find a wife. Or for young ladies, I must find a husband. This is a good desire. This is a desire implanted by God for you to find your purpose. But it isn't life's goal. Life's goal is beyond this.
Speaker 1:God created Adam and gave Adam a life mission Take dominion, work and guard the garden and multiply yourself. So this shows us work and guard the garden and multiply yourself. So this shows us how important it is for a man to have a mission that god has called him to, to a separate from his wife. When god gave adam this mission, adam was alone. So we can't look at it and say man must. Man's mission is his wife. It can't be that Man's mission is distinct from that.
Speaker 1:In modern romances we find that the goal is getting the girl and the story often ends at that point in time. Certainly does with Hallmark and many romantic comedies. But the woman cannot be the goal. God made the woman to be the help meat of the man. She is the glory of the man, so she is designed by God to reflect the purpose of the man. If the man himself does not have a mission that he knows God has assigned to him in life and his sole goal is the woman, that means that he's actually committing idolatry, woman worship and leading the woman into self-worship, because if she is the helper in that goal, then she is the goal. She's worshiping herself.
Speaker 1:So you're recreating a marriage where the man becomes subject to what he worships, the woman, and she enters into the leadership position and in turn she will resent him and she won't respect him. She then turns to nagging, disrespecting him. He turns to despise and fear her, because losing her means I have lost my ultimate goal. And so men in this position must repent and turn from his fear of his wife and go surrender fully to God and find his life mission and go to accomplish that life mission. He's going to face many troubles bringing his wife into this mission and turning her heart around to the point that she respects and honors him for his leadership. And so when you discover this problem, you'll have a fight on your hands, because your wife has become accustomed to be the leader and has become accustomed to your lack of leadership, your lack of strength in the home. And so what ends up happening is she will fight against the change, even though the change is for her best. You must stay the course. You must deal with the problems, communicate openly about them and move forward as a man, not under the headship of a woman. It's a horrible mistake that when you face difficulties here's a perfect example.
Speaker 1:I was reading a little article about someone telling a story. So a husband and wife with their little daughter are in the grocery store and at the checkout the daughter is throwing a massive fit. She says I want this, I want this toy, I want this toy, I want this toy. At the checkout counter, dad says no multiple times. Finally, mom is fed up and says I can't stand the crying anymore. Just tell her yes, no, if we give it to her, she'll be spoiled. The father says Mother, takes the toy, puts it in the cart and walks away with the daughter. She stops crying.
Speaker 1:The husband looks at the cashier and shrugs his shoulders. What can I do? He gives up leadership when he says what can I do? What can he do? He can take the toy and put it back. That's what he can do. So this is the typical American male. His wife puts it in the cart and he surrenders. I don't want to make a scene, I don't want to cause a problem. I don't want to cause a problem, I don't want to this that and the other. And he gives in to that and surrenders his leadership and his manhood to his wife. What a shame. We always have the option to follow through. If a person can be stubborn in their whining and complaining to get something. If a person can be stubborn in their whining and complaining to get something, a person can be consistent and honorable and have boundaries and say I said no and follow through to enforce the no.
Speaker 1:Ultimately, let's put it this way can the wife and the daughter overpower the husband? No, he has to surrender himself to the leadership of his wife and daughter, and that's exactly what he did in that situation. What will that produce? A spoiled daughter that nags and controls until she gets her way. And a wife that nags and controls until she gets her way. And a wife that nags and controls until she gets her way. So what I'm saying is what kind of trouble will they produce to him when he says no? Many problems. But I'm also saying is, none of them can overpower him. He is the stronger vessel. He can say no and he can stand his ground. He'll face all kinds of trouble but eventually. Eventually, that family will be corrected. They will see. Oh, when he says no, he means to say no and he stands his ground. So we should respect him.
Speaker 1:The good news in all of this is that when men are not needy and weak, women have a nature in them to respect a strong, masculine man that takes leadership over his family. In time she will cease nagging and disrespect because she knows he won't give in to nagging and disrespect Again. For a season he'll have to rise above her disrespectful and nagging behavior, but and he must never respond with anger and and he must never respond with bitterness to despise and neglect her. In this process he has to separate himself from his feelings, from his anger, and do his duty as a man, knowing that in season. She will submit to him. And this shows the great importance and need for finding your life mission and realizing it's not good for a man to be alone and God has sent you a help meet for that mission. For the young lady, again, it's key that you have self-control. If your husband tells you no, you have to obey him. If you want to be an obedient child of God, daughter of God, your obedience to God in that situation is submitting to your husband saying no, he could be wrong, could be, but you obeying your husband saying is always right in that situation. And again for the young lady, it's the key that you wait upon God and communicate with your father about the right man. God ordains that the young man searches and takes the initiative with the young lady. Thus the young lady is tasked with waiting upon God for him to supply the young man to approach her.
Speaker 1:She cannot make her entire focus for every day of her life. The white knight in shining armor will one day show up for me. Invariably, that supposed white knight will turn out to not be all you thought he would be. He is going to fart in the morning and he's going to burp after dinner. He'll stink when he comes home from work and he'll make dumb mistakes that will disappoint you and he'll make dumb mistakes that will disappoint you. So again, you have to realize that there's always disappointment and you have to anticipate in marriage that there will be disappointments and you have to be ready to understand how to overcome them. Overcoming the disappointments should not be done apart from the Word of God. It should be done as the Word of God commands, the key ingredient in seeking the will of God and knowing that he has a plan and purpose for you, not only in marriage, but he has a purpose for you in being single, in preparing yourself for marriage.
Speaker 1:Later we'll speak more about family order, which we've already begun to speak about, but we'll go into detail about it from the scripture. But the important reality is that a young lady should be learning and growing in responsibility to learn how to keep a house, take responsibility for cooking, cleaning, mending, shopping with frugality and, most important of all, learning how to prayerfully submit to a man. A single sister must learn how to submit to her father. She'll never learn how to submit to her husband if she cannot submit to her father. With this prayerful submission, she must learn how to respectfully express herself. Grow in wisdom of how to hear from the Lord directly in the realm of submission. She must learn how to respectfully express herself. Grow in wisdom of how to hear from the Lord directly in the realm of submission, and to realize that true and lasting satisfaction is not in finding the man of her dreams, but that she finds the man of her dreams. She has such a connection with the Lord that she can be satisfied in her soul, regardless of the circumstances of life.
Speaker 1:With that said, the reality is that happiness comes from knowing God and, on an even deeper basis, it comes from knowing God and, in turn, fulfilling the purpose he has for you. There is a great, great joy in doing, in the doing, in the operation, in the function of our purpose that God has created us individually for. So it's critical we don't seek happiness as an end in and of itself, because it's very difficult to even define what happiness is. I believe happiness comes as a result of seeking meaning, seeking purpose, finding purpose and fulfilling the God-given function you were created for. If we can understand it even more deeply, many times happiness comes as a result of doing difficult things. We can also train our minds to find happiness in the process of life. To find happiness in the process of life. Many people look at happiness as I will get a reward if I do this, if I work hard this week, I'll give myself a special treat. If I do really well, I'm going to treat myself. I think that's an erroneous approach.
Speaker 1:You need to find joy in the process of life. You need to find joy in the everyday purpose, in putting your child to bed, in reading a book, in doing devotions, in having, in having fellowship with your family. The process of doing things in life, in walking, going for a walk, enjoying nature, going for hikes, in lifting weights, in all the processes of life, in cooking, doing your best, learning how to be the best at what you do, whatever it is, is one way of finding joy in the mundane things of life. Proverbs 18.20 tells us Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favor of the Lord. And so the Bible even tells us that we're commanded to rejoice in our wife and to live joyfully with her, and obviously vice versa, from wife to husband.
Speaker 1:Husband, finding your spouse is a great blessing from the Lord. It's a very good thing. It's a place where you find joy if you both operate in the way that God wants you to operate. But if you find the wrong person and get married, it is like rottenness to your bones. All right, remember that Adam was given Eve and it was said it was very good. This is a great blessing, but it isn't the life's mission. It is connected to and part of the mission, but it isn't the ultimate goal. If we seek it as the ultimate goal, we are bound to find disappointment and disillusionment, because only God can meet our every need. Your spouse cannot meet your every need. Only Christ can.
Speaker 1:Period Proverbs 5.18 says let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. So this says that within marriage, we're to rejoice in the sexual activity we can have with one another. This is a part and function. This is at the center of every home. At the center of every home is God's purpose for there to be a sexual relationship between a husband and wife, and both a husband and wife are shown in the scripture Song of Solomon Proverbs that we are to find sex as pleasurable and it is to be a reason for rejoicing. Let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 100% is telling us to enjoy the sexual relationship that we have. It's supposed to be a place of rejoicing, of rejoicing. It should not be a selfish act, but an act that we are rejoicing in the pleasure of the other person, knowing that this leads to greater pleasure for ourselves. Again, even within the act of sex between a husband and wife, there should be unselfishness. It shouldn't be totally self-focused. When we seek the pleasure of the other person, it increases the delight of our own selves.
Speaker 1:Ecclesiastes 9.9,. Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest, all the days of thy life, of the life of thy vanity which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity, for that is thy portion in this life. Again, this is important to understand within the context of marriage. Scripture says that we should not deprive one another of sex only for a season, and this for prayer and fasting, and that the husband's body does not belong to himself. It belongs to his wife and the wife's body does not belong to himself. It belongs to his wife and the wife's body does not belong to herself, but it belongs to her husband. And so we are to.
Speaker 1:Part of operating within marriage is to avoid fornication. Paul says that in 1 Corinthians, chapter 7. He said it's good for people to remain celibate, like me, but nevertheless to avoid fornication. Let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband. See, and Paul says it's important not to neglect this act within marriage. It's an important part of marriage. It's an important part of oneness within marriage, and finding it pleasurable and enjoying it is. I know this is embarrassing for some people to listen to, it's slightly embarrassing for me to say, but it's important because it is an important part of marriage.
Speaker 1:Women should not use sex to manipulate their husband. A man should not neglect his wife because it will lead to lust and adultery. God wants us to use this act within marriage to continue oneness. He doesn't want us to use it as a manipulation tool, but he wants us to use it. A woman will need emotional connection to enter into the physical act in marriage, and so the man has to be sure that he's nurturing and furthering that emotional connection so that the physical connection can take place. So again, a man that lives joyfully with his wife will find joy multiplied back to him. A man that neglects his wife will find frustration multiplied back to him.
Speaker 1:I'm going to transition into a cultural thing. You've heard the statement happy wife, happy life. On the one hand, as I just said, there's a truth to it, but there's another approach to it. That is, I can't stand it. And to me it's almost reflecting a form of feminism that's creeped into culture. Understood correctly sure Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy vanity. Understand it.
Speaker 1:On the other hand, reasons why I don't like this phrase? Because happy wife, happy life. Happy husband, happy life. It's both of us. If the husband's miserable, they're not going to have a happy life. If the wife is miserable, they're not going to have a happy life. If the wife is miserable, they're not going to have a happy life.
Speaker 1:It goes both ways. The wife has to fulfill her purpose. The man has to fulfill his purpose. The man is the leader and it sets the tone in the relationship. But he isn't the only one. She isn't the only one that gets to be happy. All right, it doesn't mean the man has to sacrifice everything and lay down his prerogative as leader. All right.
Speaker 1:Number one this phrase means the woman is the focus of, and the leadership and the leader of the relationship. Number two if she's not happy, then the whole house is in turmoil. Everyone has to walk on eggshells because this selfish, loud, rude wife and mother will make the whole house miserable if you upset her. Three it encourages a selfish and self-centered approach in women. Four it expresses a goal in life that is not according to the word.
Speaker 1:The mission of a husband is not to have a happy wife. If we aim at happiness, we will be sure to miss it. Aim at doing the will of God and achieving the mission you're called to and then, in turn, you will find moments of happiness. But understanding, being satisfied in God, is much more important than achieving this elusive happiness. Five it pulls the man out of his mission as a leader and then turns him into a wife-worshiping parasite that the woman herself cannot even respect. Live joyfully with the wife of thy youth, but understand that there's a greater picture, that the end in and of itself is not making someone happy, but the end in and of itself is not making someone happy, but the end in and of itself is obedience to God and producing what he has asked us to produce.
Speaker 1:Malachi 2 says that he created the union, the covenant of marriage, in order to produce godly seed, godly offspring, godly offspring. So this is what God's, this is a great part and the main part of God's mission is to multiply a godly seed. So the function of a home is not in and of itself the wife. It's not in and of itself the children. The function in and of itself is the glory of God, so that your children become believers. They're born in a covenant household between a man and a woman. In the covenant with God, they are holy, they are sanctified, and they are then entered into this place where they are raised in the fear and admonition of the Lord. They're being taught the covenant, they're being taught the Word of God. The Word is being placed in their heart on a daily basis. They're learning how to function within the realm of being a Christian. They're learning the Word of God and they grow up and they're as arrows shot out to go and attack the enemy. They then create their own household that's following the word of God and that's multiplying the godly offspring. This is what God wants. This is the Great Commission. It's not just to go across the world to make disciples, but it's making disciples in our very own homes, where there's children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren all know how to serve and walk with the Lord. We shouldn't be producing children with a bunch of baggage. We should be producing children that know how to function in a home. If we're Holy Ghost Christians, we should be learning the word ourselves, teaching the word ourselves to our children. This is God's purpose and this is God's function and plan within the home All right.
Speaker 1:Next is love. Love is misunderstood in Christian society. We have let Disney and we have let Hallmark define what love is within a marriage. That's simply eros and filio. Ephesians 5.25,. Husbands love, agape your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it. Verse 28,. So men to love, agape their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. Both of those spots agapo is used. It's not philostorgos, which means family love, it's not eros, which is erotic love, but it's agapo.
Speaker 1:Mount says agapo is to love, value, esteem, feel or manifest generous concern for, be faithful towards, to delight in, to set store upon. Thayer's definition is of persons to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of, to love dearly, to be well-pleased, to be contented at or with a thing. Another one of my books and I didn't write down which it's from one of my dictionaries says it's to demonstrate love or to love based on its regarded value. So a husband is to understand the value of his wife and he's to esteem her. He is to be generous towards her, he's to be faithful to her, he is to be contented with her. So when we look at love, we don't understand it merely as a feeling. In fact I don't see anywhere where it is rooted in a feeling, but it's rooted, in fact, in the inherent value of a wife to a husband. So the inherent function and value that God places upon this woman in your life is you're to then regard her that way, esteem her that way, value her that way and then manifest generous concern, be faithful to delight within her. So a husband is to delight in his wife.
Speaker 1:Even the Bible says to again, uncomfortable moment, but again to delight in her breasts. To delight in her breasts this is a command of Scripture To delight in her body, to delight in the sexual relationship that you have, to enjoy the friendship that you have with her, because what of a value of companionship that she has, to understand her value as a mother and to do everything to supply the need that she has. Again, it's not the duty of the wife to supply the financial need of his wife. The Bible says it's a duty in Exodus 21,. It's a duty of man to provide food, to provide clothes and to provide food the sexual relationship to his wife. It's his duty to initiate these things and bring. You bring the goods to make clothes, or you bring the money to buy clothes, you bring the money to supply food for the family and you bring the initiative in the sexual act. This means that there needs to be a connection between the hearts of husbands and wives so that the sexual act can take place. It's not just merely showing up and having sex but it is that but it is showing up and having a heart connection with her, nurturing her so that she knows she's loved, she knows she cares for, so that she can surrender herself to the act between the two of you. And you're to take delight in all of this. So husbands, love your wives as your own bodies. So you supply all the needs of yourself, so you supply all the needs of your wife. And we'll read it later.
Speaker 1:But scripturally it says that a man that wouldn't provide for his own is denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. It is not a woman's job to go out and work a job and supply money for the family. It is nowhere in Scripture does it put that responsibility on the woman. If the husband becomes sick, if he becomes disabled, okay, but even so, a husband should find every way and every means possible to overcome the sickness, to overcome the disability and provide for his wife. And in today's day and age, almost all the time, there is a way to do that Almost all the time. Not all the time, but almost all the time. And we cannot sit on an excuse and say, well, my wife, you know, she has this qualification and she can do this. No, we follow the scripture and be men and do what our obligation is to do for our family. All right, now we understand.
Speaker 1:1 Corinthians 11,. 7 tells us that the man is the image and glory of God. But the woman is the glory of man. So man is to reflect God in his leadership position. The woman is to reflect man in her submissive position. So man is submissive to God. So the woman reflects the man in her submission to the man. All right, and so fathers must have a vision.
Speaker 1:Brother Branham says I like a man of vision, I like people that's got something they're fighting for, not just lay around. Well, whatever comes my way, it'll be all right. Oh, be up and at it. And Lincoln never let his education stand in the way. He had something to do. I think every Christian ought to be their way Find your purpose and go do it, amen. So man is to have the vision that God has for him. It's not his own vision, it's a surrendered vision to the vision and plan of God.
Speaker 1:Then the woman is to enter. When she gets married to this man, she knows what his mission and vision is and she enters into that mission and vision as the helper. It's not two individuals with their own mission and vision, living under the same roof as sexual roommates, but it's oneness of vision. When God brought them together, he said they are one flesh. That's not just a sexual act, that's beyond that, that's one in life, mission and vision to accomplish that purpose together. He is the one that sets the tone. She is the one that enters in as the helper of that direction, one that enters in as the helper of that direction.
Speaker 1:Now sons are to be in the family under preparation to find their life mission and to be a provider and benefactor to a wife and children, daughters, are to be in a family under preparation to be a helper, a child bearer and a homemaker. This is what school is for. This is what life preparation is for. This is why we teach our children. This is what they're supposed to learn. It's not to go and get a government school and go to a university and become a little communist in a public education.
Speaker 1:Christians cannot send their children to public school. This is sending them off to the world and wondering why they come back worldly. We cannot do that. Our children are not missionaries. They're disciples in training. We don't send them to the school system to become missionaries. They will invariably be trained there and discipled in the ways of the world and become good little communists. That's not what we're sending them for. We are preparing our arrows to be launched. We don't give them to the enemy to prepare them to be launched. We prepare them ourselves or in Christian schools that reflect the values that we have, so that they learn about creation, they learn about family order, they learn about the proper functions in life and of course they need to learn how to read and spell and write and do mathematics etc. But it should be all within the function of the Christian faith.
Speaker 1:The public school is not within the function of the Christian faith. It is effectively atheist, evolutionary, humanistic, and we can't send our children there and wonder why and be curious oh, I don't know why. They're unbelievers. I do. It isn't complicated, it's not hard to understand. God can be gracious to us in the midst of our stupidity, but let's not run headlong into stupidity. 1 Timothy 5.8,.
Speaker 1:But if any provide, not for his own, especially for those of his own house, he's denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. A man is to provide for his own family. First of all. It goes this way, within the context of what Paul's talking about he must provide for his wife and he must provide for his children. Secondly, he should provide for his widowed mother, he should provide for his elderly father, extended family, see, should take care of them. But the first obligation is to our wife. Our first obligation is not to give an offering to the homeless person. Our first obligation is tithe back to God. Secondarily, provide for the needs of our wife and for our children. And then, third, if after that, then we provide for the needs of others within the realm of the church. So, first the tithe, then you provide for your family, then when you have enough to give to others, you do that All right. So sons need to be prepared for that duty and responsibility of provision and leadership. So, dads, when you're in the home and leading the family in worship, teaching them, give your son an opportunity to do that so that when he gets married it's not the first time that he's done it and he does it under the watchful leadership of father. And daughters need to be allowed to take the time to learn how to cook, learn how to clean, learn how to do laundry, and I believe that sons should learn how to do all of these things as well. Sons need to learn how to manage the grill. Sons need to learn how to be independent individuals.
Speaker 1:1 Corinthians 16, 13 says watch ye stand fast in the faith. Quit you like men be strong. Quit you like men is one word, it's andrismai. It means to render brave or manly, to show or behave oneself like a man, so that we understand that bravery is one for one with being a man. So to be a man means to be brave, it means to be strong. So we should be preparing our sons to learn about strength and bravery. They should watch father preparing himself to be strong and brave. It's not.
Speaker 1:Brother Branham says time and time again that God hates a coward. Brother Branham says he hates a coward, but God hates a coward. Look that up. God hates a coward. God doesn't want men to be cowardly, he wants that it doesn't matter if you're five foot six or six foot four. He wants you to behave like a man. And we have means to make ourselves strong.
Speaker 1:Back in the day we used to work in the farm and carry heavy things and do that to make ourselves strong. Back in the day we used to work in the farm and carry heavy things and do that to make ourselves strong. We don't have that anymore, but we have. Some people do, but the majority of us don't. It would be good if we all moved a little bit towards that. Gardening and having a little bit of a place to work and move our bodies would be very good. But the thing of it is we do have a means of accomplishing this and that's called lifting weights and getting out and moving our bodies, and to me it's a requirement for being a man Be strong, and if you don't especially when you hit the age of 40, you begin to lose 1% of muscle mass every year. And so it's critical that we move our bodies, exercise our bodies, lift weights, etc. Because in order to be brave, there needs to be an aspect of I can move my body and I can handle myself. And again, this is not just physical bravery and strength, but it is also spiritual bravery and strength.
Speaker 1:1 Corinthians, 6, 9 through 11 gives us a list of things that will deny us entry into the kingdom of God, and one of them is being effeminate. So a man that is sissified and effeminate in God's sight is a denial of manhood and therefore is a denial of the kingdom of God, because it's an abomination for a man to dress and act like a woman and it's abomination for a woman to dress and act like a man. So this transing of people in God's sight, it will deny them entry into the kingdom of heaven. It is a mental disease, mental disorder. People should be shamed and ashamed of themselves for engaging in this and culture needs to change. Homosexuality and transgenderism is a mental disorder. It's a mental disease.
Speaker 1:All societies Christian societies prior to this regarded it this way, dealt with it this way. It was a punishable offense because it is an unfunctioning society. You turn a society into homosexuals and transgender, that society will be dead within a few generations. So to do it to be a functioning country, we must deny the ability and the capability of being homosexual or transgendering people and the fact that we have doctors and hospitals allowing for transitioning them using dangerous drugs and dangerous surgeries. This is a sick society that's on its road to destruction. It must be stopped, it must be outlawed period, or our world cannot function anymore.
Speaker 1:And if we had real men standing up for the truth and much of this is driven by the feminist mindset of constantly catering to people's feelings and emotions we must not do that. We must, as men, tell women no, this cannot be done. You're not allowed to lead with your emotions and with your feelings. Because a functioning society cannot exist by being led by emotions and feelings and catering to everyone's emotions. It must be led by truth and proper function of the world. And the world cannot function with a bunch of gay, trans people. It doesn't work. You can't have families. There must be children born in a society or the society dies. Well, praise the Lord. I'm going to finish on that point.
Speaker 1:God wants men to be men and he wants women to be women. He wants men to lead. The Bible forbids women to usurp authority over men, to be in subjection, as also sayeth the law. Men are to lead in the home first. The first realm of government in the world is the home. If men understand their purpose to lead as the home and enforce what God wants to be enforced, then the world will function better as a whole. Then the second realm where the world is to function is in the church and within the realms of the church the man is ordained to lead. And then the third realm is in society, in the body politic.
Speaker 1:Men are to lead in the functions of civil government, not women, and so women shouldn't be in the military, women shouldn't be in politics, Women shouldn't have the vote. The head of household should vote in society, and women shouldn't lead in the judiciary and they shouldn't be police officers. And so God has set this order and function. The man is supposed to guard and keep in the garden, not the woman, and so the man is supposed to be in civil government, in the church and in the family, the leader. This is God's purpose, this is God's function of a functioning world. God bless you, thanks for listening in and once again, thank you for those who support the podcast. If you're listening in, you're a regular listener. Please consider supporting us on a regular basis. May the Lord richly bless you.