.jpg)
The Jason DeMars Podcast
The Jason DeMars Podcast
A Meaningful Marriage Part 3
We delve into the biblical foundations of marriage, exploring God's original design for husbands and wives and how understanding these roles can heal broken relationships.
• God created two distinct functions in Genesis: woman as man's companion under authority and as mother of all living
• Woman serves as the bedding ground for seed while man plants the seed to fulfill God's multiplication plan
• Man's duties include providing food, clothing, and fulfilling conjugal rights
• Neglect is perhaps the greatest sin of husbands, often leading wives to emotional withdrawal or nagging
• When husbands fail to nurture the connection before physical intimacy, it creates a destructive cycle
• A virtuous woman follows God's design as crown to her husband; an immodest, controlling woman becomes "rottenness in his bones"
• Marriage should be joyful rather than drudgery, with husbands commanded to "rejoice with the wife of thy youth"
• Children aren't hindrances but blessings that fulfill the marriage covenant's purpose of multiplying dominion
• Modern culture has distorted marriage by delaying it and viewing children as obstacles to personal fulfillment
• True healing comes when both parties understand and fulfill their God-given functions regardless of the other's behavior
If you have questions about your marriage or need guidance applying these principles, please contact me through jasondemars.com. Please keep me in prayer for my upcoming missions trip to Egypt from April 21st to May 5th.
Greetings Bible believers and followers of the End Time Message. Welcome to another episode of the Jason DeMars Podcast, the place where we explore the incredible mysteries hidden within the pages of the Bible. I'm your host, jason DeMars. It's time to get started on another journey into the heart of God's Word. If it's your desire to grow in revelation and see the message in the light of the Bible, you're in the right place. Today, brothers and sisters, we delve into the scripture, guided by the extraordinary revelations that God chose to unveil through Brother William Marion Branham, a messenger with a unique calling to fulfill Malachi 4 and Revelation 10-7 and unlock the secrets of the end time message. Our purpose isn't to have another basic Bible study. We're going to dig deep and peel back the layers of prophecy, decoding the signs and perhaps discovering how the Bible resonates within the very fabric of our present day and time. In this podcast, my purpose is to help you grow in your faith through solid Bible teaching through the lens of the message of Malachi 4. So grab your Bible, a cup of coffee and let's get started. And remember that your feedback, testimonies, questions and prayer requests are always welcome. Please send them on social media or at jasondemarscom.
Speaker 1:Before we go into today's episode. I want to share something with you. Before we go into today's episode, I want to share something with you. Head over to jasondemarscom, where I'm giving away free books. These books have been ordered by believers around the world and many testimonies have been given about the great blessing they have been. I also want you to know that, by God's grace and provision, we are also covering the shipping costs. Free books and free shipping. My purpose is not to sell books, but to proclaim the message of the hour free of charge. I've written these books to build your faith, increase your spiritual revelation and be a witness for God's message in the end time. Here's a list of a few of them a summary of the Revelation of the Seven Seals, the End Time Message Handbook, the Mystery of the Malachi for Elijah, holiness to the Lord and Foundations. Head over to jasondemarscom right now and claim your free books. With that said, let's get into today's podcast. God bless you everyone.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for tuning in to the Jason DeMars podcast. It's been a very long time. I'm recording this in the middle of April and the last time I recorded, I believe, was last November. Just feeling the burden returned to get back to doing the podcast. The last time we recorded and uploaded I was going into A Meaningful Marriage. I was on part two, so this will be part three. If you hadn't heard the other two, it's on the podcast. Whether you listen on Buzzsprout or Spotify or Apple Podcasts or YouTube, you can find it there.
Speaker 1:Make sure to listen to part one and part two and, as always, if you have any questions, prayer requests or testimonies, please let me know. I love hearing from you. I love getting the feedback on wherever you're listening. So greatly appreciate that and apologize for taking so long to get back on, but I'm really, really thankful. Also thankful to the sister that, let me know, look into the camera more. It's very awkward not looking into the camera. So I'm going to do my best to make eye contact with you, although my notes are down here, so I do need to look at my notes. But I will make sure to make eye contact with you and try to connect with you more personally. But on your end, if you're listening, would you please send me some feedback? It's mildly depressing to not hear any feedback from you, to not know whether you're listening or not. Any feedback from you, to not know whether you're listening or not. If you want to email me, you can email me at demjas at gmailcom. I really, really love to hear from you.
Speaker 1:So, with that said, I do have a missions trip coming up. I'm leaving on the 21st of April. I do have a missions trip coming up. I'm leaving on the 21st of April, the day after Easter, and I'll be gone until May 5th. So pray for me, pray for my family. I'll be going to Egypt and we'll be working with the churches. Some of the churches there, the Lord has opened the door amongst a Pentecostal group and we're working with them and we'll have a chance to meet with their pastors and do some teaching and training with them, which I'm very much excited about. So also, you know, just as another note would really covet your prayers for my family, another note would really covet your prayers for my family. It's always tough to leave them behind. It's not my first choice, it's what the Lord's called me to do, and so I aim to be as faithful as I possibly can, but you know it's difficult. Let's just leave it at that. And since the last time we were on here, there's a lot of changes that have happened. Let's see. I probably recorded. Let me see before the election in the United States. So there's a new president now A lot of things have changed on the ground and there's a big shift prophetically, looking at what's going on in the world, it's quite astonishing really.
Speaker 1:As you look at it in future episodes I want to take some time to look at that and compare that back with prophecy. I believe we're leaving one era, the post-World War II era, which is the sixth trumpet era, and we're entering into, or making a transition into, the tribulation trumpet, the seventh trumpet, where that is being blown once the two witnesses come on the scene, just like the seventh seal, the prophet of the seventh church age brings the opening of all six seals. When he brings the opening of all the six seals, six seals, when he brings the opening of all the seven, six seals, that's the opening of the seventh seal. So the seventh messenger reveals all seven seals, but his seal is really the seventh seal. And same thing for the two witnesses in the tribulation period. They're going to reveal all the trumpets, all six trumpets, but their trumpet is the seventh trumpet. And so that seventh trumpet is the third woe, the third world war. And so we're just. I believe we're leaving the era of the post-World War II liberal consensus, un, all of these things and we're entering into the fruition of all these things, which is the, the image of the beast and the mark of the beast.
Speaker 1:The post-World War II era laid the groundwork for the tribulation period. I don't want to go into any more of that. It's an amazing and fascinating study and subject I'm very thankful to be around. It's an amazing and fascinating study and subject I'm very thankful to be around in the hour of the Supreme Judge. You know, we look at this picture back here 1963. That's the hour of the coming of the judge.
Speaker 1:He came down in order to reveal himself, to make himself known, to show forth his supreme deity, his supreme authority, the white-wigged one, the judge. And when he came, at the opening of those seals, he came down with an open book to make it known. Not just give it to the prophet, but to hand it to us so that we would eat the word and become the word and then prophesy again. Take what's already been spoken by the seventh church age messenger and become the final voice to the final age. It's not the messenger himself that's the final voice to the final age, it is the wise, as it says in Daniel 12. The wise will understand those who receive the revelation of the open book. They're the ones who eat the book. They're the ones who have, having eaten the book, become wise and they will prophesy again. They will take what was revealed by that seventh church age messenger and they will speak that word again with power and authority.
Speaker 1:Just as Brother Branham said, I came to lay the seed. I pray that these men that would come after me would take this and make more sense to it and bring what I've laid down in seed form, that they would bring it to life. Amen, that's our aim, that's our purpose, that's my ministry, that's the desire of my ministry. The purpose of my ministry is to go into the message. Purpose of my ministry is to go into the message, take it back to the scriptures, see it dovetail both in the message and in the scriptures themselves, and bring forth a revelation of the word that God would take that word and write it upon our hearts and that would change us into the same image, from glory to glory. Amen, all right. So, looking at where we left off, it's a little difficult for me to get back in the channel of this. So I pray the Lord gives me strength.
Speaker 1:But as we left off before, as we left off before, two things in Genesis express God's function for the woman. Number one she's taken out of man. She's a companion of him. Since she's like him, she becomes his companion, but she's taken out of man because she's under his authority. And two she's the mother of all living. So she's a companion under authority and she's the mother of all living. So she is the bedding ground of seed. She is to multiply life. Man cannot multiply life on his own. He must have a place to lay his seed. But in the beginning, of course, we know that was to come as spoken word, not by sexual pleasure, but by a spoken word, I would say, much like the visitation, according to the time of life, that Sarah had. It is Abraham and Sarah coming together, but it's by the spoken word visitation.
Speaker 1:In Numbers 30, we read before that a father and a husband has a right to disallow any decision his wife or daughter makes. Even her promise to God can be reversed by her father or husband. So man is the head, the leader, the decision maker for his companion and for his children. Woman is the helper, the companion, the child bearer and the nurturer in the relationship. Titus 2, verse 4, says that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, and verse 5, to be discreet chaste keepers at home, good obedient to their own husbands. That the word of God be not blasphemed.
Speaker 1:God's function, his plan for woman, is one loving their husband and children. Two bearing children. Three holiness. Four keeper of the house. So anytime we get out of this realm we're walking out of the original plan of God. God's function, his plan for men is one love and lead their wife. Two train their children for their godly function in life. And three protect their family. So God's purpose for marriage is oneness. God's plan for marriage is multiplied dominion.
Speaker 1:The functions within marriage are different between the husband and the wife for carrying out the plan. That's why there has to be two people to it. There has to be a man and there has to be a woman. There has to be a leader and the seed planter and there has to be a field and the multiplier. And both of those functions are created differently and separately in the marriage. Now, within that, each and each of them have their own weakness.
Speaker 1:We would say there's besetting sins of husbands and there's besetting sins of wives, and so we want to take a few minutes and we want to look at this. I believe as we look at this the besetting sins of each side of the marriage you'll begin to understand how to interact and how to fix many of the problems and issues that you do have in your marriage. Now one thing to understand you know, different cultures have different struggles. So when we're looking at besetting sins of husbands, besetting sins of wives, the problems that we had, I would say, in our message culture, in our message culture, 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago are different than the issues that we have today. One of the main things is that feminism has become so pervasive in society that the domineering man is much less likely to take fruit as it was in the past.
Speaker 1:In the past, you could have issues where women were treated like doormats and absolutely wrong, absolutely missing the understanding your wife is your sweetheart, missing the understanding your wife is your sweetheart. By default, it's critical not to be harsh, not to be rough, not to be abusive. In some cultures this is still a problem. In Egypt, the people are new believers, even to Protestantism, and their history and their society is very patriarchal, and so beating women is looked upon as a normal thing. You know, correcting your wife with some kind of spanking stick or something like this would be a normal thing Now in our society. That did once happen, you know, in the 40s, 50s and before that spanking your wife was a thing. It isn't a thing anymore. I'd never even heard of it until I began to study these things. You know more in depth, and so we live in a different world.
Speaker 1:In America now, if you're domineering and mistreating your wife and controlling and manipulating her, you're a weak man. Stop, don't be a fool. You're ruining yourself. You're ruining your marriage. You're ruining yourself. You're ruining your marriage. Repent With. That said, this is probably not the most common thing, as it once was All right Besetting Sins of Husbands Malachi 2, 14 through 17.
Speaker 1:Yet ye say Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously, yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy covenant, and did not he make one, yet had he the residue of the Spirit, and wherefore one that he might seek a godly seed. Therefore, take heed to your spirit and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth Verse 16. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away divorce, for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts. Therefore, take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously Verse 17. Ye have wearied the Lord with your words that ye deal not treacherously Verse 17,. You have wearied the Lord with your words, yet you say wherein have we wearied him when you say everyone that doeth evil is good in the sight of the Lord and he that he delighteth in them, or where is the God of judgment? Twice, god says in these verses in Malachi 2, that men have dealt treacherously with their wives. Instead of dealing with them as with your companion and one whom you've entered into a covenant with, you're dealing treacherously with her.
Speaker 1:Treacherous means to betray a trust or to violate an allegiance. This speaks of neglect of your duties towards the covenant you've entered into with your wife. And the Bible speaks of many duties of a man to his wife. These duties are not mere drudgery, but they're part of our obedience to God and if we perform them with wisdom, it will create joy within the marriage covenant. Exodus 21, verse 10, shows us that man has a duty to provide food, food, raiment or clothing, and the duty of marriage. The duty of marriage speaks of the cohabitation or the conjugal rights, and so if we neglect any of these obligations, it creates a situation where wives will become resentful of their husbands and in that resentment they will likely emotionally check out of the marriage or they will pursue him and become his absolute worst nightmare.
Speaker 1:So it's a sin in men to neglect their wives. That is probably the greatest sin of men. They begin to neglect their wife. They don't talk to her, they don't connect with her, they don't take time to build towards the act of sex together. They simply demand it. They show up quickly and demand it immediately, and when they don't get it, they huff and puff in the corner instead of realizing this is a process. For a woman, this takes connection, connecting the heart, connecting the emotions, connecting the mind and listening, and this connection leads into the act. For men, we just go directly. We're ready when we're ready. For a woman, the whole process of marriage is connected.
Speaker 1:So when men neglect their wives, either their wife checks out or she definitely starts to resent him and she can emotionally check out from him. But more than likely, what she ends up doing in the modern world of today is she begins to nag him. And this is a slippery slope For a husband. If you see your wife nagging you constantly, it should reveal to you that you have somehow neglected her. And so, when you see that nagging, step back and try to understand. Are you leading her? Have you provided food, have you provided clothing? Have you provided you know and that is security, and have you provided the marriage duty to your wife? And again, that doesn't mean you just show up, but it means that you're showing up continually and building towards the marriage bed. And so she will begin to nag him for all his failures and all his mistakes, and then he will tuck his tail between his legs and run and check out from her. So it's this horrible slippery slope.
Speaker 1:It's a sin for a woman to do that. She should not do that. She should directly speak to him. You want to have sex with me? I don't want to have it, because you haven't talked to me, you haven't spoken to him. You want to have sex with me? I don't want to have it because you haven't talked to me, you haven't spoken to me. I want to obey the Lord and connect with you this way, but I just can't jump into it without you taking some time to speak with me. Instead, she will begin to nitpick him about everything that he's done, and that's a sin. She shouldn't do that. But the man being the leader setting the atmosphere of the marriage. Now the woman, by love, can overcome those things as she expresses herself. She doesn't need to nag. She can speak directly to him and love him, even though he doesn't deserve it. Secondly, men, you can step back and say my wife acting this way is a sign to me that something's off that I need to resolve Now. You, as a husband, it's your duty to correct her, but it's also your duty to correct yourself. She shouldn't act that way. Neither should you neglect her.
Speaker 1:Proverbs 12.4. A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. So a virtuous woman is that one that follows the order of the family and home that God has laid out. She's walking in obedience to God and her husband. She's fulfilling her duties that God has assigned her as a wife and a mother and a keeper at home, with the fruit of the Spirit, keeping the three sacred trusts in order in her life. This woman is a crown for a godly man. It crowns his life. But an immodest woman that is loud, rude, would rather have a dog or a cat than children, works in someone else's office and says I'd rather my husband obey me, she is rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 18.22,. Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord. A sign of God's favor on a man's life is when you find a godly wife. A godly man would seek to find a godly wife that would complete his vision of what he wants a home to be, a young lady that fulfills the three sacred trusts that we talked about.
Speaker 1:Proverbs 19.13,. A foolish son is the calamity of his father and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. It's like a Chinese water torture. It's continual dropping. The roof is leaking and it's continually dropping. It's like a Chinese water torture. It's continual dropping. The roof is leaking and it's continually dropping. It's driving you crazy. She's contending with you. Proverbs 19.14,.
Speaker 1:House and riches are the inheritance of fathers and a prudent wife is from the Lord. So a wife who continually undermines her husband, doesn't honor his authority, treats him like a child by scolding him and seeks to control him is referred to as a house that is in disrepair, a roof that is leaking water on your head constantly on a rainy day. So as you look at those two verses, the father raising a wise son father can raise a wise son or he can raise a foolish son. House and riches are the inheritance of fathers. You have control over fathers and sons. You have control over what kind of son you produce. As a father, you also have control over whether you're going to pass on an inheritance right.
Speaker 1:A prudent wife is something else that comes from the Lord. You don't have a whole lot of control over that, other than praying, seeking the mind of God, looking for the right kind of family and the right kind of person. But if she's going to become a prudent wife you have to trust in the Lord. For that you have to follow His leadership and that's a gift from the Lord. Ecclesiastes 9, verse 9, live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life, of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity, for that is thy portion in this life and in thy labor, which thou takest under the sun. So a godly wife is a source of joy to a man. Your relationship should be one where there's joy present. God gave you her and he wants you to rejoice in her. He wants you to enjoy this wife. He wants you to enjoy the time that you have with her. He wants you to enjoy the life that you've created with her. He wants you to enjoy the time that you have with her. He wants you to enjoy the life that you've created with her. He wants you to enjoy your companionship. He wants you to enjoy the marriage bed. He wants it to be a joy for us. That's his design. If it's not that, then what have you invested into your wife? What have you invested into that relationship? What kind of time, what kind of focus have you put there?
Speaker 1:Proverbs 7.11,. She is loud and stubborn. Her feet abide not in her house. 1 Peter 3 shows us that the proper adornment of a woman is a meek and quiet spirit. Meek speaks of being easily led. This is God's original design. He designed for Eve to be led by Adam. Anytime she gets out of that order, she's out of the will of God. Anytime she gets out of that order, she's out of the will of God. So she is to have a meek and quiet spirit, of course, led by the right channels, her husband in Christ. So her feet in this place, her feet abide, not in her house. She's not content with her house. She's loud, she's not abide, not in her house. She's not content with her house. She's loud, she's aggressive, she's seeking after men, she's seeking after attention and she refuses correction. She's stubborn, she does it her way. She doesn't want to listen to what anyone else says, she doesn't want to receive correction. And her feet don't stay in her house. Her feet go to other houses to be a busybody, to try to control their house. She's not content to be at home.
Speaker 1:Colossians 3.19, husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them. So even if your wife tries to control you and nag you for no reason, it's your obedience to God to not be bitter against your wife. Bitterness towards your wife speaks of despising her. So you might care for her and love her, but in this twisted way within a marriage. Care for her and love her, but in this twisted way within a marriage. When a man neglects his wife, she in turn resents him and mistreats him, and then he in turn despises her. So, whether she deserves it or not. You shouldn't be bitter against her, because bitterness leads to unforgiveness and to hatred. So repent. I think that's the thing. Repent to God and repent to your wife for being bitter against her. If you're bitter, you could say it's the way she treated me, it's the way she did, it's your sin.
Speaker 1:Now I understand there's a lot of emotion behind this. I'm speaking things and it's maybe going fast and correcting you, but I want you to understand. I understand I've been through many, many trials, many difficulties in my marriage, and my wife has been through more. But here's the thing is it's a lot easier to have your heart humbled before God and to make these things right. The devil will do everything he can to keep you holding into that pride, keeping it inside. Talk about it. Have the hard conversations with love and respect and get rid of that bitterness.
Speaker 1:God does not command us not to be bitter against someone because it's easy, but rather because it's necessary for us to behave ourselves as Christians and for there to be true oneness and connection in our marriage, regardless of what the other one does. You have to do. You're responsible to God. For your part. You have to do. You're responsible to God for your part. So there's this aspect where there is the joy of the Lord, where there is the joy of the Lord and there is a true and genuine meaning of this life that you're sharing together. Proverbs 5.18 says Let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe, let her breast satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished always with her love. And so, husbands and wives, marriage isn't supposed to be a dull duty. Marriage is supposed to be a joy and a delight and a rejoicing. And I understand, my goodness, there's ups and downs and there's hard times and difficult times, but there should be plenty of times where you're doing what the scripture just told us to do. This is a command of God. My brothers, be obedient to the Lord. This is what he wants you to do. This isn't a sinful thing, this isn't an evil thing. This is a joyful part of marriage, and go do what God says to do.
Speaker 1:Vodibakam writes in his book what he Must Be. It used to be common for men and women to a marriage certificate not too long after collecting their high school diplomas Not anymore. So he began in an article in the Houston Chronicle entitled Singles in no Hurry to Marry. One need not argue for marriage right out of high school to see the significance in current trends. Arma's article is based on research that shows that one-third of men and one-quarter of women between the ages of 30 and 34 have never been married. Those numbers are nearly four times as high as they were in 1970. 70. So marriage is on the decline, but I believe that shouldn't be so for message believers, those who are seeking to be true and genuine Christians.
Speaker 1:Marriage and marrying in the youth. Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Marriage shouldn't be something we put off way too late in life, or we should be getting. The function of parents is to get their teenagers ready and prepared for a life on their own. If you're not doing that, then you're falling down in your job. That's your primary job. The job isn't to get them to school and get an education. The job is to prepare them for marriage and family.
Speaker 1:And so Psalm 127, 3 through 5, lo, children are inherited of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man, so are children of the youth. And so, as we look at this, this is God delights in getting married young. God delights in having children. Young, he says it's a blessing to you. A quiver full of children makes you to not be ashamed, and so, of course, in today's society, you're almost ashamed to have a lot of children. Children are a blessing. Children, when we see them with God's eyes, they're not a hindrance to marriage. They're actually a fulfillment of your purpose within marriage. It's to multiply dominion and so, in that it's a great portion of your marriage covenant and marriage vow to be bringing forth children, and God wants us to do that and that's part of His purpose for us, part of His function for us within marriage.
Speaker 1:And as we look at this whole procedure, I know there's many reasons and there's sicknesses and there's different things that people go through to, where that they can't have children, and I understand that what I'm talking about is people that have the attitude that children are a hindrance to life. Well, I can't wait for the moment that my kids graduate and get married and my wife and I can carry on with having fun again married, and my wife and I can carry on with having fun again. You know the attitude is wrong and the vision for marriage is wrong. Children, you know your parenting never ends until you're in the ground. Now, of course, there's a balance to that.
Speaker 1:When your children get married, it's not your job to control and try to control their marriage and be involved in it and manipulate that. If you're allowing your parents to have the influence over your marriage, then you actually don't even have a family. Family is when the headship is Christ husband, wife, children. When somebody tries to get somewhere in between whether it be a pastor, to get in between the husband and wife, or there's a string attached from the husband to his grandpa or to his pastor or to his father or mother, someone else is controlling that family and it's not actually a family. And so you know God wants us, but God also wants us to be. The Bible says teach your children and your grandchildren. You know so part of marriage, the properly functioning marriage, is teaching, teaching. Teach your grandchildren, teach your great-grandchildren. It's your duty before God to do that, to teach them, to instruct them, to help raise them up and to prepare them for the life of marriage. So I guess that's the end of this portion of my teaching on marriage. This is the end of part three. There may be more to come.
Speaker 1:I want to look through my notes and study this a little bit more, but if you have any questions for me, I'd love to help address those. I will definitely take some time and answer those for you. You know, it's our desire to help heal marriages, help heal hearts, and I believe that the Holy Spirit and the Word of God have all the answers for us. I know that over many years there's a lot of hurts and a lot of pains and a lot of things that can build up and brokenheartedness that can be there, but I believe that God's a healer. If we can really see our position and function in marriage and understand God's purpose for us and understand our duties as a husband, our duties as a wife, we can come together and God can bring healing from the emotional damage that's happened over the years. But if you have any situation you want to speak to me about it, feel free to contact me through my website, jasondemarscom. God bless you. Thank you so much for listening in. Keep me in prayer on the missions trip that's upcoming.