How True Love Sets Boundaries And Builds Strong Families

Love that changes a family is not a flutter of feelings; it’s a covenant choice that protects truth, sets wise boundaries, and aims for spiritual growth. We unpack what agape looks like when it governs every other love—friendship, affection, and romance—and how that clarity reshapes marriage, parenting, and the daily rhythm of a Christ-centered home.

I walk through why emotional manipulation is not love, how to draw clean lines with extended family and holiday expectations, and how to keep church commitments from displacing the home as the center of discipleship. We press into 1 Corinthians 13 to see love’s character—patient and kind, yet not rejoicing in a lie—and apply it to hard conversations about sex, identity, and technology with our children. You’ll hear practical steps for fathers to lead with Scripture, prayer, and steady correction, and for mothers to nurture under headship with wisdom and strength.

We also explore distinct callings for men and women rooted in Scripture, forming sons into responsible leaders and preparing daughters to guide homes with skill and conviction. From homeschooling and daily Bible time to courtship and marrying well, this conversation is about ordering our lives so that grace can actually grow. If you need a reset, we end with a path to repent, realign, and rebuild—one small faithful step at a time.

If this speaks to you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so others can find it. What is one boundary or practice you’ll start this week?

Chapters

• 0:00 Opening And Purpose Of The Series
• 2:20 Defining Love Beyond Emotion
• 6:30 Agape Governs Filio, Storge, Eros
• 12:00 Manipulation, Boundaries, And Holidays
• 18:45 Church, Family Priorities, And Balance
• 24:46 Extended Family vs. Headship At Home
• 30:56 Fathers, Sons, And Masculinity
• 37:16 Correcting Wives And Marriage Dynamics
• 44:16 Feminism, Leadership, And Culture
• 51:16 Homeschooling And Daily Family Discipleship
• 58:16 Raising Daughters And Headship

Transcript

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Greetings, Bible believers and followers of the Endtime Message. Welcome to another episode of the Jason Demars Podcast, the place where we explore the incredible mysteries hidden within the pages of the Bible. I'm your host, Jason Demars. It's time to get started on another journey into the heart of God's Word. If it's your desire to grow in Revelation and see the message in the light of the Bible, you're in the right place. Today, brothers and sisters, we delve into the scripture, guided by the extraordinary revelations that God chose to unveil through Brother William Marion Branham, a messenger with a unique calling to fulfill Malachi 4 and Revelation 10:7 and unlock the secrets of the end time message. Our purpose isn't to have another basic Bible study. We're going to dig deep and peel back the layers of prophecy, decoding the signs and perhaps discovering how the Bible resonates within the very fabric of our present day and time. In this podcast, my purpose is to help you grow in your faith through solid Bible teaching through the lens of the message of Malachi 4. So grab your Bible, a cup of coffee, and let's get started. And remember that your feedback, testimonies, questions, and prayer requests are always welcome. Please send them on social media or at jasondemars.com. With that said, let's get into today's podcast. Welcome to the Jason Demars Podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in with me. Whether you're listening on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, wherever you're listening to Facebook, we certainly appreciate that. And we're going to continue on from last week's subject, looking at love, family, inheritance, etc. And you know, the amazing thing about this is that really it covers every portion, every aspect of life when you look at love and can can begin to catch the revelation of what love really is, as we talked about last time. Just gonna go right into it. Defining love. Defining love, love is a power force that extends itself for the purpose of spiritual growth. And so when we're looking at the definition of love, it's not an emotion, it's not a feeling. We talked talked about falling in love or the term eros from the Greek language. True love is not falling in love. It's not an emotion. That is a temporary sensation that comes and goes. It's something that God has given to us. It is a blessing from Him. Its ultimate purpose is to continue and propagate the human race, to help bring fulfillment, to help point us in the right direction. But if we try to take it and make it everything we live by, you know, you'll end up with 15 wives, and women will end up with 75 husbands, 75 men that they've slept with. And it'll, I guess it'll propagate the the human race, but it'll make life misery and a disaster. And not to mention, you know, all those children, all these children, you know, that have inconsistent, foolish parents, you know, it's such the when a home, when a marriage is broken up, that breaks up the heart and the mind of a child. And this is supposed to be like the foundation that they're walking on, and the foundation is broken. How can they truly build a house? The Lord heals, the Lord gives strength, and yet there's so much for that child, that child that they're gonna have to overcome in their life because mom and dad were selfish because mom and dad couldn't work through their problems, refuse to is really what it is. They fell out of love. So because they fell out of love, now they have to find someone else they fall in love with until they fall out of love once again. And again, love, true love is agape love. And we talked about that, the four different kinds of love agape, filio. So agape is divine love, unconditional, unselfish, sacrificial, giving love. There is filio love, which speaks of friendship, storge, which speaks of fondness, and eras, which speaks of sexual love or falling in love. And so love is love is always in the context of what God is doing. Love is always in the context of how God would love. So the love that God loves us with is agape love. And so God so agape the world that he gave his only begotten son. And the the love between from a husband to a wife is not to be merely Eros love. It says, husbands agape your wives, even as Christ loved the church. And again, we we mentioned, we mentioned before, but we'll mention it again. There's there you you have to have these loves. So if you if the human loves are Filio, Storge, and Eros, those loves on their own merit are selfish and self-serving. So without agape love inserted into these loves, then you have a situation and a circumstance where that love is gonna grow to a certain height and it's going to demand godlike obedience. You're gonna have to obey me, or else you're not following love. And so that's a that's that's the great danger of our society because we have enthroned Eros love in the heavens, and everyone must listen to and obey Eros love. And that's why you have how can how can homosexuality be wrong if people love each other? Well, people call things love that aren't love all the time. You know, parents uh manipulating and squelching the growth of their children, parents say, I love I love my children, and then on the other hand, not providing the place for them to grow, not providing spiritual nurturing and teaching, or you know, one person, one young boy saying to a young girl, Oh, I love you, and that girl just being enraptured by that love that this young man supposedly has for her, but the truth is she he just wants to get her in bed. And so that's eros love. That's selfish, that's self-centered, it's not love, not true love. You know, it's love in that human sense, but it's not love in the true sense of agape love that is aiming for the spiritual growth of another person. And again, when we say unconditional, self-sacrificing love, people can get the idea, you know, no, I'm not to have any boundaries, I'm just to do whatever the other person wants me to do. That doesn't help with spiritual growth. Many times when you're when you're trying to engage in genuine love with another person, they're misunderstanding or they're in a place of they've got they've got a perverted way of thinking from their from their childhood or from their past. And so they're in the they're in this position and they're in the this condition that they're not they're not growing, they're stagnated, and they're hindering and harming you from growing spiritually. And that's where we have to say, wait, time out. We can't go forward like this. We need to have a difficult conversation. You're using this, you're using these terms and these words to try to manipulate and control me. You're using emotion to try to control me. And that's when people are using emotion to try to control you and try to keep you unto themselves for selfish reasons, that's not love. And, you know, we can we can go a thousand different directions, you know. Parents to adult children who are married, you know, the holidays. The parents so badly want their children and their grandchildren to be with them, so they they will do any kind of emotional manipulation and sabotage to try to force their son and daughter-in-law to be with them, or their daughter and son-in-law to be with them, not with the other family, or not on their own during the holiday season. And so, you know, these are tricks and traps that people will make to do it. They'll use they'll use finances, they'll make a little promise to a daughter to try to control, and again, to kind of control that daughter and control that home. And again, we have to watch that because men, men are the heads of the home. You know, it wouldn't be right to for a mom and dad to manipulate their daughter to try to control their son-in-law. Do it doing this will just push them further away, won't make them want to be there. They'll be there, but they'll be resentful. And so love is only love when it's it's given and chosen freely. And so when love, when it's when it's love by force, it's not love. It's it's manipulation. And so, you know, especially around this holiday season, and we're coming in at the end of this month into Thanksgiving, and then next month into Christmas, you know, I would just encourage everyone. There's a book called Boundaries, I think by Henry Cloud. You can find it on Amazon, pretty much any bookstore anywhere. Just a tremendous book with tremendous help. Because, you know, me as a husband, I have to love my wife first. You know, obviously God first. And if there's a contradiction between what my wife is requiring and what God is requiring, I choose God every time. So I love God first, then my family, and then after that. Church, etc., then myself. So, and and many times people put church on the God like level. And of course, you know, that's that's a part of our walk with Christ. That's a every Christian should be in church, every Christian should desire to be in church, and yet we don't put church before the need the spiritual needs of our family. Now, church can help with the spiritual needs of our family, but there's times where we need boundaries and we need to say, hey, without, you know, if we have church seven days a week, something's out of order, we'll never be able to establish ourselves as a family. Or if there's always church events constantly nonstop, you know, how can we ever be in a place where we're where our family is growing together, connecting together as a unit, unit? Next part of that, even is when sometimes when extended families are so-called, extended families are wonderful. Extended families are a tremendous blessing, and they're they're something that we all need, both as children as and as adults, and as grandparents, we all desire and need family, but when that extended family takes precedence in vacation, in holidays, in weekly schedules, when that extended family takes precedence over the direct family, uh mom and dad and children, when that takes precedence, it's going to quickly take things in the wrong direction. I'm absolutely a strong believer in extended families. I grew up with a strong extended family. But if that extended family, if aunts and uncles and cousins try to take plate, the plate take the place of the connection between mom and dad and the children, it will be perverted. And it won't be mom and dad truly loving their children. It will be mom and dad loving the closeness of an extended family over those children, and those children will feel an empty place in their heart, lacking the connection that they need with their parents. And so this is a critical point as well, because then what becomes the primary influence of those children? Is it their parents, which it's supposed to be? It tells father and mother to be the leader and director of the family. So what ends up happening when extended families are strong is often it'll be a sometimes a father-in-law, but many times a mother-in-law that has strings into every family controlling all the all the husbands, all the sons-in-laws and the sons using emotions, using circumstances. And often, many times there's many healthy things, many positive things, many good things that the mother-in-law is doing, and yet that's not the ordained leadership structure of the family. And so when if as husbands, we don't put, we don't make sure that boundaries are put in place, that we're first loving and leading our our wife and our children, and we're not we're making sure to put that family cohesion first. If we're not doing that, we're not loving our family properly, and we're letting someone else end up leading our family. We know husbands are the is the head of the wife and the head of the family. Not the pastor is not the head of the family, the pastor is the head of his own family. The grandfather is not the head of each individual home under his family, the the the grandmother is not the head of the home and and their family. Once it says, for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh. And so if the the young man is still under the headship of his parents, there's not a oneness there. Oneness is broken, and that's not love. That's not right. That wife, that that wife will never be loved correctly if that young man still has a tether to his to his mother. And so that has to be broken free. Of course, this this shows some level of issues and problems, even between grandma and grandpa, because grand grandpa never brought that boy to manhood, never separated that boy from his mother so that so that the boy could establish his own manhood. And this brings to another point is we're living in such an hour, this is important for dads. Make sure that you create the space and allow your sons to express their masculine nature. Many times mothers will get so fearful and controlling that they don't want and they're they're afraid of their boys becoming men, and so they'll do everything they can to stop that from happening. And so a dad has to step in, you know, in those ages, teenage years, a dad has to step in and call his son, pull his son into adoption, pull him into manhood, from boyhood to manhood, and that's critical. A mother can never bring a son to manhood and can never bring a daughter to from being a girl to a woman. It takes a man to call to that. It's the man's chromosome that decides whether it's a boy or a girl in the womb. And so it's a man that has to bring daughters to womanhood and sons to manhood. And of course, mother is the helper in that, but if mother is left alone to lead and the husband has advocated that place, those boys will never learn how to come to manhood, and they'll always be looking for a woman to validate them, validate their strength, validate their manhood. And that's an empty and lonely life because a woman can never validate the manhood of a man. She's incapable of doing that. Her purpose and function is to nurture and to connect and to see see the hearts and the emotions of others and be able to prayerfully fill in that need. It's not it's not a woman's place, is not to lead. She's not to lead in the home. She's not to lead in, she's to lead her children under the authority of her husband. And her husband should be involved in this whole process. A man that's checked out, oh, we're gonna do this, we're gonna do this, we're gonna do this, his wife says, and he's just like, huh, oh okay, and he's along for the ride. He's not in headship of his home, he's not leading his home, he's not, he's uninvolved, he's disconnected. Why? Because his wife has been nagging and reviling him. If he ever tries to step up and do anything, she nags him, she reviles him, she's rude and mean to him, and he just says, Okay, whatever it is, honey. And so he, a man, in order to love his wife, he needs to step up and correct her. You know, husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church? He, as many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Now, this isn't a vindictive, angry, manipulative, controlling. This is a sit down, open your Bible, and teach. This is when the circumstance arises, you know, your wife is trying to manipulate you. Oh, honey, you don't love me for this because you did this. It's this is this is emotional manipulation. She's trying to express some way that she's not feeling loved. But when you start to say, you don't love me because of this and because of that, this is manipulation. And again, as men, we have to rise above this whole place. And I think this even goes into why do men, why do men get addicted? Or do you why do young men never become men? Why do boys never become men? Why and why do why do men check out? And it's because they're because of the spirit of feminism, because feminism has been allowed to rise, it's a situation where the only place men can express their masculinity is in a video game or watching football or out away, hunt oh out away from women. Stop expressing masculinity, manhood. But the truth is, when it takes time, takes healing, takes strength. But a man that really wants to love agape, love his family, needs to kindly and respectfully and gracefully, consistently with love, put his wife back into the place that she belongs. Not in the place of leadership, but in the place of submission. A woman, when a when true masculinity is expressed, a which is we under we understand is is with strength, with authority, and with agape love. Agape love means that you're looking at the other person and saying, you know what, my function and purpose is to help you grow spiritually. And you're in the you're trying to take my position in the home. And because you're trying to take my position in the home, you're damaging both yourself and everybody else around you. And so, with that said, is how critical it is for us as men in love to sit down and gracefully teach our wives out of the Bible what it means to be a woman, what it means, because unfortunately, many fathers have not sat down and gone through Proverbs and spoken of the evil of nagging, and what the Bible says about a woman nagging her husband and her family, and and what the Bible says about the fearfulness and nagging, and and there's and the reviling and the immodesty and going from house to house and being a gossip. The reason why churches have problems with gossiping among women is because men refuse to be to be strong and to correct them. You know, every circumstance and situation is different. I understand that, and I'm speaking when you preach, you're speaking to general, and you trust that the Lord takes you in a way that brings you to the specific. But the point being is we live in the hour that feminism has rottened the culture to the point that we barely recognize what strong masculinity is. And people feminism has so pigeonholed strong masculinity into toxic masculinity, all masculinity becomes toxic, so even men have to become women, and that's where you have. I've seen the statement recently that uh-oh, if you preach that, the uh the church ladies of both sexes will be upset. And it's true, is many men they want to be a white knight, they they want to come to the rescue of women of the reviling woman. She's she's she's nagging, she's angry, she's controlling, she's manipulating, she's using, she's she's using her emotions, her her tears to try to control and manipulate her husband. Husbands, you have to come to a place where you are not manipulated by your wife. That the emotions, if you've if you've lived a long time and you haven't taken a stand and become the head of your home, you're gonna have to just get over get over the tears, get over the emotion, and get over the silence, silent treatment and all those different things, and just say, this is this, we're going to talk about this. We're going to converse about this, and not through not through emotion, not through manipulation, but we're going to speak directly about whatever situation this is, why you're upset, and we're going to we're going to work through it. You know, in in much of our marriage training material, we're trying to make men more like women. And that's a mistake. Men are literally wired to hear problems and work towards solving them. And women will say, Oh, you just have to listen to me. You have to not try to solve the problem. And and I on some level I understand that. But at the same time, as if women can't understand that men are wired to solve problems, then why should men understand that women just want to talk about it? See, there's there's many of these things we both need to understand each other, right? The the white knights of modern evangelical marriage counseling are just going to tell men to fix themselves, and women are perfect halo garnered saints. And the fact is, this is not the truth. There are many women that have never been corrected their whole life. Daddy never corrected them. And if daddy tried to, mama intervened. Mama never corrected them, daddy never corrected them, the pastors never corrected them. And so, as real men of God, if we want to love our wives and if we want to love the people around us, then it's important that we take the time to bring scriptural teaching to them. The fact is that you can't just go to correction without teaching them. And so go through Proverbs. How do you go through the book of Proverbs and not see the dangers of a nagging wife? And obviously, you know, you have the besetting sins of women, and we have the besetting sins of men, and they're two different things. And even in spiritual life, you know, we need to, we need to see that there's two different kinds of people. There's male people and there's female people, and they have two different functions, and they have two different purposes. Men are the image and glory of God, women are the image and glory of men. Right? The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. And and, you know, I suffer not a woman to teach or to usurp authority over a man, but to learn in silence, as also saith the law. It's not permitted for women to speak, but if they have any questions, let them ask their husbands at home. You know, the scriptures are very clear about this that women are not to be in a position of leadership in the home, in the church, or in society. You know, in America, we live, we live today and we see all the problems that we have, and Brother Branham traces it right back to where the problems that we have today is when women got the vote. So that's the 19th Amendment, when women got the vote. If we want to, if if America wants to become great again, the only way that it'll ever become great again is if we went back to its founding principles, which is that the head of the household votes, only male head of the household votes, and only owners of property get the right to vote. That's it. If you don't own property and if you're not a male, you can't vote. If we did that, if you look at the demographics, this would usher in an age of probably would have two parties and they would both be one would be extreme right wing and one would be moderate to right, would be far, would be basically. The Trumps of today. And so make the change in the world that would be needed to happen. It'll never happen. Even though you see lots of young men moving that way, we see such a polarity in society today. We have Gen Z men are coming to the place where they're voting and they're far to the right of Donald Trump. And then you have Gen Z women and they're voting for communists. So it's that's quite another topic. But the point being is, you know, women unchecked by the patriarchy, which is patriarchy is a good word. It is a biblical word. It is the foundation of society. And you either have a good patriarchy or a bad patriarchy. We have a bad one now because they have forfeited their rights as the stronger vessel. Men are the stronger vessel. And they're not, and women aren't meant for leadership. They weren't designed for leadership. It's not that, well, the fall happened and therefore women can't lead. You know, when Paul says that women can't teach or usurp authority over a man, what does he appeal to? Does he appeal to the fall? No, he doesn't appeal to the fall. He appeals to Adam was first formed and then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. So women are more easily deceived. That's biblical. You can't argue with that. And women are weaker than men. So women do not have the disposition to lead. They will lead when there is a vacuum of authority, but they will do it in such a way towards their nature that will lead towards everything has to be everything has to be fair, everything has to be even. We don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. We don't want to ruffle any feathers. And so that's why that's why you have a country moving towards democratic socialism, is because that's the direction that unfettered women will take. And so they're not meant to be in that position of leadership. They're not meant to be in that position of their authority. They're not designed or created that way by their creator. And that might offend people, but I don't care. I'm speaking the truth to you. And really, if you took the time to examine it, you would realize that's the truth. And so you say, what are you what are we talking about here? We're talking about love and we're talking about family and we're talking about setting things in order. Dads, be involved. I hope that all of you are homeschool families. I believe that homeschooling is the is what God has designed. Train up your child in the way that he shall go, and when he is old, he'll not depart from it. We're not supposed to outsource that job to professionals. That's mothers and fathers are to do that. In Proverbs, over and over again, it says, Don't forsake the teaching of your mother, don't forsake the instruction of your father. We've outsourced that to experts. We send them to school, Christian school or public school. We send them to church, to Sunday school. That's our jobs. Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but raise them up in the in the instruction and the correction of the Lord. And so it's fathers' duty to teach and instruct their families how to walk with the Lord and how to live for the Lord. Fathers, of course, you know, Wednesday night, Wednesday night you have church service, but really fathers on a daily basis, whether it be at dinner time, whatever time works for you, dinner time or just before bed, fathers should sit down with their families. Open your Bible. Sit down and open your Bible. You know, go verse by verse. Go to Proverbs. Go verse by verse and explain to them the scriptures. You say, I don't know how to teach. You can read, read a few verses and make a few comments about them. Any man can do that. And if you do that every day, you're gonna get good at it. And husbands, if you're if you haven't had, if you're just married and you haven't had kids yet, start doing it with your wife. Open, let's go to Ecclesiastes. Let's read through, read through the whole Bible. Do it verse by verse. You start out with a few songs, sing a few songs together, worship the Lord, open your Bible, read, read through a few verses and make some comments about it. It'll be you'll you won't be very good at it at first, but as time goes on, you'll get very good at it. Every man should be capable and should be doing that with his family. And if dad, if dad is traveling or he's out of town or he's not there, then mom can take up the mantle. She can do it as well. Because it's her duty to lead the children. And if you have a son who's coming to manhood, work him in. Let him do that from time to time. Then when you're done reading, have your prayer requests written out in your Bible, and then ask anybody, is there any new prayer requests? No. Okay, let's pray. And then you just bow your heads and pray. You should do that every day of the week. And then that is your duty to train them up and teach them. But not only that, as parents, we're supposed to help them find what they're bent and their direction in life and what they're leaning towards, and to help them find the type of job or trade or direction that they should go in their life. And for raising daughters, I know many, many people disagree with me and they they say our our daughters should go to college, our daughters should get a this kind of degree or that kind of degree, or go off and get a career first. But I don't, in scripture, in scripture, there's no intermediate state for young ladies. They're either under the headship of their father or they're under the headship of their husband. And so they a daughter should stay in her father's house. And her father should look at that as it's my responsibility to provide for her until it's the responsibility, until I hand that daughter over. I give her in marriage to another until she's under the headship of another. Daughters, daughters should be should absolutely become avid readers. They should become students of domesticity and of the Bible and of history. They should be capable of, they should become capable of teaching at homeschool, teaching at home sons and daughters. They should be in preparation for running their own household. Every doubter, oh, this situation and that situation. It's our duty as parents, if we love our children, it's our duty to be sure that they marry well and that they're prepared for marriage. You know, in modern society, again, we put it off all to the experts. The the pastor should do all the counseling. Well, me as a father of three daughters, I look at it as it's my duty to make sure that they marry well. So I need to be in a place and a position where they're around the right people and around the right families that have the same vision as we have, so that she can enter into a home and be a housewife and be in preparation and prepared for doing that. And so it's our job and our duty to prepare her to know how to be a housewife. And part of that is being capable, intelligent, strong, but we say independent, but it's not independent. That is not how we should be raising our daughters. We should be raised raising our daughters to be under headship. Yes, have their own walk with the Lord, own individual walk with the Lord, but that's always in the context of under the headship of her dad or under the headship of her husband. This is biblical. If we raise our sons and daughters exactly the same way, both to go to college, both to get a career, we are absolutely evil. And that sort of comes into our next teaching and next portion of looking at what is, we've talked about what is love, what is evil. Evil is a power force that hinders spiritual growth. And it always has a scapegoat. It always has someone to blame. And so when we're we're looking at this, if we raise our, if we raise our sons the same way we raise our daughters, then we're it we're we're absolutely evil because we're hindering their growth. And like we were what we were talking about before, we were talking about we're talking about headship, we're talking about the home, we're talking about the training that's supposed to go on in our home for sons and daughters and and in our families. And so it's really critically important for us to understand if we want to love our family well, it's providing what God commands us to provide for our families. He the Bible says, He that would not provide for his own has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. And of course, that's immediately speaking about financial provision, but it goes beyond that into spiritual provision. What good would it do as Christian men for us to merely provide a paycheck for a family? It needs to go way beyond merely a paycheck, it needs to be actually be the things that God commands us to provide. Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but raise them up in the teaching and the correction of the Lord. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church? Church, he taught her, he corrected her, and he provides all good things for her. And so we can't we can't separate love, we can't separate love into that little box of, oh, I have strong emotions for my wife and my family. Sure, you should. That's called natural affections. And one of the curses of the last days is that the people are without natural affections. And so we certainly most definitely need to have natural affections towards our family. We need to have, you know, genuine feeling, you know, not only of Filio, not only of Storge, not only of Eros. We have to have all those towards our wife. We have to have true affection towards our children. But unless it's governed by agape love, and agape love is a power force to extend yourself for the purpose of spiritual growth. Unless we have that as the governing force behind all the rest of our loves, it becomes selfish, becomes self-centered, and it doesn't have the truth of the word, it doesn't have the Lord Jesus Christ at the center anymore. And you know, as mothers and fathers in our in our homes, understanding in our position and our place, and then even modeling that leadership correctly to our children is a part is a part of loving them well. You know, if I if I put my children before my before my wife, this is an example, this is not an example of loving my children well. This this is this is turning things upside down, and this is the example. Then then we we bring them to a place, our children to a place, where they're going to have, they're either going to propagate what they've seen us give an example to them, or they're uh and they're gonna have to overcome the prop the unhealthy example that we've given to them. And so it's it's paramount for us to let the Lord search our hearts and correct us in these places and positions. And so I've never even looked at my notes yet. We're 40 minutes in and haven't even read my first scripture, although I've referred to many scriptures, but 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4 love suffereth long, so charity, love suffereth long, agape suffereth long and is kind, agape envieth not, agape vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil, rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. So it gives us a list of what love is and what love is not. Love is patient, kind, bears, believes, hopes, endures, and rejoices in the truth. And I think that's that's wonderful. And it shows even that love has boundaries because love is not some things, and love is some things. So love rejoices in the truth, it doesn't rejoice in a lie. So if your child says uh comes home cu comes to you and says, I there your your boy your boy comes to you and says, You know, I think I'm a girl, it doesn't rejoice in a lie, it rejoices in the truth. No, son, you're a boy. That's that's not correct. Let's sit down and talk about this. How did God make us? Did God make any mistakes? When he designed you, he didn't make a mistake. And there's there's spiritual forces in this world that are driving people towards evil and towards dysfunction. And so you sit down and speak with them in love and in tenderness, but you teach them through the Bible. You know, this these things, you know, we're living in such an age where this homosexual and transgender thing is going on. So when we're teaching children about the pro, you know, every parent should take the time to teach their children about sex. Mothers, you should teach your daughters about sex. Fathers, you should teach your sons about sex. The good, bad, and the ugly. That's so that's that sounds sounds bad, but the that's a fact. We're living in an age that the young people's smart devices are going to teach them about sex. So, parents, you better, you better be ahead of the of AI and the devil. You better be age-appropriately planting in the seeds, and your kids should be aware of the evil, evils of homosexuality and the evils of transgenderism and gender dysphoria and and the mental perversion of and mental and physical perversion that comes along with that. We need to be talking and training our children so that we know that those things are wrong. And so that's part of rejoicing in the truth. But it, you know, love, agape love itself has boundaries because God Himself defines what love is and what what agape is and what agape is not. Agape is not envious. Agape is not boastful, arrogant, rude, insistent on its own way, irritable or resentful, rejoicing in evil. Amen. So love is one, love is this, but love is not this. And again, many of our human loves are actually complicated forms of evil. Right? So we we get envious, we get boastful, we get arrogant, we get rude, we insist on our own way. You know, especially in families, you insist on your own way, and you want everyone to follow just your way. And of course, our way should be God's way. But I what I mean assisting, insisting on our own way, I want my family to be together every Christmas. I want all the extended family to be with me, and I insist on it. That's not love. You say, oh, it is love because you love your family. It's it's not love. Love is not love unless it's freely given. So agape love is not a feeling. You don't fall into agape love, it's a choice. It's actually, especially in marriage, it's a covenant. You make a covenant and then you never fail from that covenant. Agape love is an action that permeates and transcends all our human loves. It should permeate and transcend all our human loves. It's also not a manufacturing. True Christian love is not a manufacturing of love. We're not forcing ourselves to do this. Yes, we're surrendering ourselves. Yes, we're choosing to do it, but it's not something we have to manufacture. Does a sheep manufacture wool? If you have the agape love of God in your heart, that will be expressed on the outside. Because remember, the agape love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost, which is given to us. So it's something that not even the right hand should know what the left hand is doing. How can the right hand not know what the left hand is doing? Because the brain, the brain is directing the right hand and the left hand, right? So how does how do you the right hand not know what the left hand is doing? It's because it's just coming from from a genuine heart of sincerity and love. And so again, love is a power of force to extend yourself for the highest good of others' spiritual growth. Evil is ultimately anything that goes against the purpose of God. And that's the very beginning going against the purpose of God. Abel going against the purpose. You have the story of Cain and Abel, you have the story of Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve both scapegoated. Adam blamed his wife, and after committing evil, he blamed his wife, and then he blamed God ultimately for giving him the wife. The woman blamed the serpent. So evil always has a scapegoat. Cain. Cain and Abel. Cain refused to receive correction from the Lord. And when he was wrong, instead of admitting he was wrong, he attacked the person that was right. So evil seeks to preserve itself. Evil always has a scapegoat and has for its unknown purpose the hindrance of spiritual growth. So evil is anything that hinders or stops spiritual growth in order to protect its own spiritual sickness, and it always has a scapegoat. All of us have done evil at some point in our lives, but evil people are usually not aware that they are evil. They think they're normal and average, and probably they're a bit above average. And they will never evaluate the fruit of their lives. They think that everything they do is for the greater good. They don't look around and see that there's confusion, hurt, anger, pain, and evil. But they'll always tell you that's someone else's fault. All these people are so stupid that are around me. They never can own their own faults. Someone else is always to blame for what happens around them. To go further in illustration, another example would be children. You're raising children and you're raising them to always be dependent on you and always to look to you for everything. You're not teaching them how to live, you're living for them. That's evil. Another example is a pastor creating reliance on himself. The people can't make decisions for themselves without asking the pastor for permission. They can't grow spiritually, they just have to be attached to the pastor. And the pastor is preaching everything that he preaches about, and every approach that he takes is forcing the people to be reliant on him. And the true picture of real being real spiritual is that you agree with everything that I say and never question me. That's evil. Instead of teaching our daughters about modesty and being a homemaker, we f let them follow the ways of the world, go to school, go off to be in college, get a career. To me, that's absolutely evil. We have gone so far aside in the message from the truth of the scripture. Does the Bible say, I would that the younger women go to college and get a career? It's not what it says. The scripture says, I would that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the home. When in Titus 2 it says that the that the older women should teach the young younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, and to be keepers at home, and to be chaste, and etc. etc. You know, and so the godliness, the picture of godliness for a woman, you know, is different than the picture of godliness for a man. When Paul gives instructions in 1 Timothy chapter 2 and in Titus 2, he gives separate teaching instructions for young men and for young women. This is what we should teach the men, this is what we should teach the women. Why? Because they have a different manifestation of godliness in their lives. Men are supposed to express masculine spirituality. Women are supposed to express feminine spirituality. And if we try to blend and mix the both, both of them, it's perverted. Yes, of course. Men and women both learn the same thing from the scriptures. But then when it comes to the outworking of godliness, that's going to outwork differently. You're not going to be, you're not to be raised to be a spiritual leader in the home for women. They're supposed to be under the authority of their husband. Yes, they're supposed to spiritually lead their children and teach their children, but again, it's separate and different. Sons are to be raised up to be the heads of households and to be the provider for a household. Daughters are to be raised up to be keepers at home. We're not doing that. Why are we not doing this? Why have we departed from the original faith? Once again, we have need of being corrected. Why are we sending daughters off to a career? Well, that's what society demands. That's what we have to do. And if we don't do that, there's this danger and that danger. Why are we living by fear and the dictates of the devil? I mean, this is almost it is almost completely lost to message believers. Completely lost. How sad, how pathetic we are in this day. What a disgrace. Can we can I just finish this way? Is if we're not number one, leading our family in the way the biblical model shows, we're not modeling Christ in the church. We're modeling the world and the devil's program. The devil's program is to have an androgynous group of people that can do whatever they want to do and fulfill their heart's desire so that they can be tools in his hand for evil. God's purpose and program is he made a man one way and he made a woman a different way, and they both have separate and different functions. Why are we raising our children to be exactly the same? Oh, you say they're modest, they're dressing this way, but you're sending them off to school to be indoctrinated by some communist professor in order to get a great degree for a career that we shouldn't be aiming for. Why are we aiming our daughters for a career? You're gonna get career women and you're gonna get girl boss, girl bosses in the home if they ultimately get married. Why are we leaving them to this place where they're getting married in their late 20s and early 30s? This means that parents are not leading their children. It is my duty as a father to be sure that my children marry well. The Bible says, Blessed are the children of youth. Well, now we don't even how can we get a blessing when we're getting them married in their late 20s and early 30s? They've left their youth. It's a disgrace and it's sad. Did Abraham say, Well, I guess it's just Isaac's job to find a wife? He says, No, I want I want Isaac to have a wife that is from my people, and I want it to be the wife that is of God's choosing. And so he sent his servant out, find Isaac a wife. It's the parents' job to be make sure they're in a place and and in a situation. If you're living in a in a an area and in a church place where there's not a lot of believers, you you you have two choices. You have to you have to travel and befriend people that have the same vision, the same heart, and have have the kind of families that you want your children to marry into. And if if you can't move there, then you have to travel there. That's that's the choice. Because if there's no if there's no good choices for young men for your daughters to marry, and you're just leaving them up to the world, they're going to go, they're going to go to college, they're going to get a career, and they're going to wind up in this position where they're going to be leaving the message, going out to the world, and the young men will be getting older and saying, Where are all the young ladies? And it's because parents have failed to lead. It's because women, women want to control and men want to check out. Men step up and lead. Women submit. Do what God has called you to do. It's not just about dressing modestly and doing things the way the world does them. We do it the way the word says it too. And we should be increasingly get more like the word, not increasingly get more like the world. So here's the thing. You say, I've I'm I see what you're saying, brother Jason, but I've messed up, my kids are this old, I'm in the middle of this. Correct it. Even if you have to go back, your daughter's in college, she's got a career, if you have to go back and come to her and say, I made a mistake, I didn't know this, I wasn't raising you right. Please forgive me. Would you would you consider you know coming back home and finding this the right way? Again, same thing for son. Son, I wasn't pointing you towards the career, I was just letting you have fun and do whatever you want to. I wasn't it's it's time we have to make some changes we have to we have to develop some things and we have to turn things around here this is the vision teach them take them time take give them time to learn and adjust and consider it's our job to do whatever we can if you're a grandparent and your kids are all grown and you didn't do it right and you feel like you need to to go and apologize to them and redirect redirect them and they may reject it that's fine but you're doing your part to make things right and go along the the right right path and right direction and God can use that god God might use it and yet God might not use it but the point is to have your heart right and so I'll I'll finish there thank you so much for listening in please please share this please like please comment please uh respond to this email if you've gotten this by email and you're listening we'd love to hear your feedback and hear back from you so appreciate you may the Lord richly bless you