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Building"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2589.971,"endTime":2594.551,"body":"a space that you can trust."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2594.629,"endTime":2599.442,"body":"Trust yourself that hold space"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2594.629,"endTime":2599.442,"body":"for you to trust yourself, that"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2599.519,"endTime":2604.255,"body":"will hold you while you learn to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2599.519,"endTime":2604.255,"body":"listen to yourself while you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2604.332,"endTime":2609.145,"body":"seek listening to yourself. 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A"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2650.21,"endTime":2654.557,"body":"battlefield won't allow you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2654.635,"endTime":2659.293,"body":"space to take a breath a 90"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2654.635,"endTime":2659.293,"body":"second reel or whatever, doesn't"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2659.37,"endTime":2663.795,"body":"really allow much room for"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2659.37,"endTime":2663.795,"body":"breath. I know because I'm not"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2663.873,"endTime":2668.53,"body":"really good at doing cuts and"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2663.873,"endTime":2668.53,"body":"there's not a lot of room. 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Those"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2673.11,"endTime":2678.001,"body":"may be the spaces to expand the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2673.11,"endTime":2678.001,"body":"spaces with other human beings."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2678.078,"endTime":2682.426,"body":"So I invite you as we close this"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2678.078,"endTime":2682.426,"body":"episode, if you feel it"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2682.503,"endTime":2687.006,"body":"available to you right now, to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2682.503,"endTime":2687.006,"body":"just take a breath with me."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2687.083,"endTime":2691.741,"body":"Thank you for being here. And"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2687.083,"endTime":2691.741,"body":"just a reminder, there is this"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2691.819,"endTime":2696.632,"body":"new feature where you can text"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2691.819,"endTime":2696.632,"body":"me your thoughts, it goes to my"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2696.709,"endTime":2701.522,"body":"email, rather than to my phone."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2696.709,"endTime":2701.522,"body":"So don't worry about bothering"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2701.6,"endTime":2706.257,"body":"me on my cell phone. I would"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2701.6,"endTime":2706.257,"body":"love to hear from you. And this"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2706.335,"endTime":2711.148,"body":"is a really simple way for you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2706.335,"endTime":2711.148,"body":"to send me a message and let me"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2711.226,"endTime":2715.961,"body":"know your thoughts. I have some"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2711.226,"endTime":2715.961,"body":"exciting interviews coming up"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2716.038,"endTime":2720.929,"body":"soon. So I hope you will join me"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2716.038,"endTime":2720.929,"body":"sending you lots of love and I"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2721.007,"endTime":2725.509,"body":"will talk to you all next time."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2721.007,"endTime":2725.509,"body":"Thanks for listening. I so"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2725.587,"endTime":2730.4,"body":"appreciate you being here. If"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2725.587,"endTime":2730.4,"body":"you got something out of today's"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2730.477,"endTime":2735.29,"body":"episode, please share it. Leave"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2730.477,"endTime":2735.29,"body":"me a review. Take a screenshot"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2735.368,"endTime":2739.87,"body":"and post it on social with a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2735.368,"endTime":2739.87,"body":"shout out to me, send it to a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2739.948,"endTime":2744.45,"body":"friend or you know all of the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2739.948,"endTime":2744.45,"body":"above. Want to hang out more"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2744.528,"endTime":2749.341,"body":"join me on Instagram, or better"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2744.528,"endTime":2749.341,"body":"yet, get on my mailing list to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2749.418,"endTime":2754.076,"body":"make sure you don't miss out on"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2749.418,"endTime":2754.076,"body":"anything. And remember, your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2754.154,"endTime":2758.811,"body":"possibilities are as unlimited"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2754.154,"endTime":2758.811,"body":"as you are. Allow yourself to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2758.889,"endTime":2763.78,"body":"shine my friend. The world needs"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2758.889,"endTime":2763.78,"body":"your light. See you next time."}]}