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How did it support you?"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1685.487,"endTime":1689.578,"body":"How did it not support you?"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1685.487,"endTime":1689.578,"body":"Because sometimes we build"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1689.653,"endTime":1694.274,"body":"something and we're like, oh,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1689.653,"endTime":1694.274,"body":"that didn't do what I wanted it"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1694.35,"endTime":1699.198,"body":"to do. We have more information,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1694.35,"endTime":1699.198,"body":"more data, and then we'll build"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1699.274,"endTime":1703.743,"body":"out what the new or adjusted"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1699.274,"endTime":1703.743,"body":"routine needs to look like for"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1703.819,"endTime":1707.985,"body":"you. And with all of that,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1703.819,"endTime":1707.985,"body":"you'll learn the process for"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1708.061,"endTime":1712.379,"body":"doing it for yourself. In"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1708.061,"endTime":1712.379,"body":"addition, if you are a business"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1712.454,"endTime":1717.227,"body":"owner, I have an extra add on,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1712.454,"endTime":1717.227,"body":"which is the 2025 business goals"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1717.303,"endTime":1721.772,"body":"workshop, business planning"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1717.303,"endTime":1721.772,"body":"workshop, and that you can also"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1721.848,"endTime":1725.787,"body":"sign up for as like an add on,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1721.848,"endTime":1725.787,"body":"or you can do it as a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1725.862,"endTime":1730.635,"body":"standalone. If you're like, I'm"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1725.862,"endTime":1730.635,"body":"good with all the rest of it, I"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1730.71,"endTime":1735.256,"body":"want to do that. And if you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1730.71,"endTime":1735.256,"body":"don't do the visioning workshop,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1735.331,"endTime":1739.876,"body":"I will send you something to do"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1735.331,"endTime":1739.876,"body":"because, again, it's kind of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1739.952,"endTime":1744.8,"body":"foundational for all the things."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1739.952,"endTime":1744.8,"body":"So if that's something that you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1744.876,"endTime":1749.421,"body":"are interested in, I will have a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1744.876,"endTime":1749.421,"body":"link to sign up in the show"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1749.497,"endTime":1754.118,"body":"notes. You are welcome to reach"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1749.497,"endTime":1754.118,"body":"out to me with any questions,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1754.193,"endTime":1758.511,"body":"and on the off chance you are"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1754.193,"endTime":1758.511,"body":"listening to this after the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1758.587,"endTime":1763.132,"body":"fact, when it would has already"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1758.587,"endTime":1763.132,"body":"passed, send me a message if"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1763.208,"endTime":1767.904,"body":"that's something that you want"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1763.208,"endTime":1767.904,"body":"to work on, and one I will make"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1767.98,"endTime":1772.449,"body":"sure to check in with you next"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1767.98,"endTime":1772.449,"body":"time I offer it. It's always"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1772.525,"endTime":1777.222,"body":"good for me to know that people"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1772.525,"endTime":1777.222,"body":"are interested, so that I know"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1777.297,"endTime":1781.767,"body":"that I should add it to my list"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1777.297,"endTime":1781.767,"body":"for next year. And I have a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1781.842,"endTime":1786.463,"body":"number of resources that I can"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1781.842,"endTime":1786.463,"body":"send you to support you in the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1786.539,"endTime":1791.236,"body":"interim, or we can chat about"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1786.539,"endTime":1791.236,"body":"working together in a one to one"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1791.311,"endTime":1795.856,"body":"coaching dynamic. So I hope this"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1791.311,"endTime":1795.856,"body":"has been helpful for you. I"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1795.932,"endTime":1800.553,"body":"would love to see you in the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1795.932,"endTime":1800.553,"body":"workshop series, and I will talk"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1800.629,"endTime":1802.22,"body":"to you all next time."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1802.22,"endTime":1805.441,"body":"Thanks for listening. I so"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1802.22,"endTime":1805.441,"body":"appreciate you being here. If"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1805.499,"endTime":1809.18,"body":"you got something out of today's"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1805.499,"endTime":1809.18,"body":"episode, please share it, leave"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1809.238,"endTime":1812.632,"body":"me a review, take a screenshot"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1809.238,"endTime":1812.632,"body":"and post it on social with a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1812.69,"endTime":1816.141,"body":"shout out to me. Send it to a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1812.69,"endTime":1816.141,"body":"friend or, you know all of the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1816.199,"endTime":1819.766,"body":"above. Want to hang out more,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1816.199,"endTime":1819.766,"body":"join me on Instagram, or, better"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1819.823,"endTime":1823.39,"body":"yet, get on my mailing list to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1819.823,"endTime":1823.39,"body":"make sure you don't miss out on"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1823.448,"endTime":1826.784,"body":"anything, and remember your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1823.448,"endTime":1826.784,"body":"possibilities are as unlimited"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1826.842,"endTime":1830.121,"body":"as you are. Allow yourself to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1826.842,"endTime":1830.121,"body":"shine, my friend, the world"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1830.178,"endTime":1832.48,"body":"needs your light. See you next"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":1830.178,"endTime":1832.48,"body":"time you."}]}