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So this is a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2067.979,"endTime":2072.966,"body":"space where we're all navigating"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2067.979,"endTime":2072.966,"body":"this with their their particular"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2073.043,"endTime":2077.877,"body":"situation is acute in its in its"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2073.043,"endTime":2077.877,"body":"way, and this is an invitation"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2077.954,"endTime":2082.404,"body":"for you to notice where your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2077.954,"endTime":2082.404,"body":"tension is, because we're all"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2082.48,"endTime":2087.237,"body":"navigating this in our own ways."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2082.48,"endTime":2087.237,"body":"Where is the tension for you?"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2087.314,"endTime":2091.611,"body":"Where is the tension in your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2087.314,"endTime":2091.611,"body":"body? Where are you pulling"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2091.687,"endTime":2096.291,"body":"resource to protect yourself"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2091.687,"endTime":2096.291,"body":"from what is happening from the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2096.368,"endTime":2100.895,"body":"stress? Of this situation, of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2096.368,"endTime":2100.895,"body":"the environment. Maybe it's a"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2100.971,"endTime":2105.959,"body":"particular situation. Maybe it's"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2100.971,"endTime":2105.959,"body":"not related to the broader world"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2106.035,"endTime":2110.792,"body":"context. Maybe there's something"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2106.035,"endTime":2110.792,"body":"going on in your own life, to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2110.869,"endTime":2115.78,"body":"take a minute and just notice"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2110.869,"endTime":2115.78,"body":"where you're holding that tension."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2122.68,"endTime":2129.42,"body":"If that tension could say"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2122.68,"endTime":2129.42,"body":"something to you, what would it"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2129.42,"endTime":2129.78,"body":"say?"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2140.16,"endTime":2145.16,"body":"What does that space in your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2140.16,"endTime":2145.16,"body":"body need to hear right now?"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2151.88,"endTime":2157.04,"body":"And along with that, maybe just"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2151.88,"endTime":2157.04,"body":"send it some compassion. Just"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2157.04,"endTime":2163.66,"body":"send it some care, like you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2157.04,"endTime":2163.66,"body":"would a small child, a beloved"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2163.72,"endTime":2171.58,"body":"pet, send it some compassion,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2163.72,"endTime":2171.58,"body":"not to get rid of it, but"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2171.58,"endTime":2176.98,"body":"because it deserves care. And"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2171.58,"endTime":2176.98,"body":"that is a really important"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2176.98,"endTime":2184.86,"body":"distinction. This kind of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2176.98,"endTime":2184.86,"body":"practice isn't to dissipate. It"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2184.86,"endTime":2191.94,"body":"to tell it to go away, to make"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2184.86,"endTime":2191.94,"body":"it stop. It is because it"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2191.94,"endTime":2202.1,"body":"deserves care, because you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2191.94,"endTime":2202.1,"body":"deserve care, and that part of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2202.1,"endTime":2210.68,"body":"yourself also deserves care."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2202.1,"endTime":2210.68,"body":"That's it."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2218.84,"endTime":2222.88,"body":"So I don't have a specific"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2218.84,"endTime":2222.88,"body":"answer to where we go from here"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2223.84,"endTime":2232.96,"body":"in this moment, I do think that"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2223.84,"endTime":2232.96,"body":"where we go is towards care."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2234.1,"endTime":2239.08,"body":"It's towards compassion,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2234.1,"endTime":2239.08,"body":"wherever you are in the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2239.08,"endTime":2246.54,"body":"experience of the world and your"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2239.08,"endTime":2246.54,"body":"life right now, you deserve care"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2247.14,"endTime":2259.44,"body":"and compassion. So giving"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2247.14,"endTime":2259.44,"body":"yourself that, allowing receipt"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2259.5,"endTime":2263.54,"body":"of that, one of the other things"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2259.5,"endTime":2263.54,"body":"that came up that I didn't write"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2263.54,"endTime":2270.14,"body":"in this has to do with honoring"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2263.54,"endTime":2270.14,"body":"your experience, not just of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2270.14,"endTime":2274.22,"body":"hardship, but also of skills,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2270.14,"endTime":2274.22,"body":"everything that you've built"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2274.88,"endTime":2278.36,"body":"while we may be in this big"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2274.88,"endTime":2278.36,"body":"shift, and we're Not necessarily"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2278.96,"endTime":2283.6,"body":"creating like we're gonna go"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2278.96,"endTime":2283.6,"body":"through decomposition before"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2283.6,"endTime":2288.1,"body":"we're in creation. 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Tending"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2309.42,"endTime":2315.66,"body":"the garden of our life makes"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2315.66,"endTime":2321.26,"body":"room for planting the seeds that"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2315.66,"endTime":2321.26,"body":"we would like to cultivate, and"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2321.26,"endTime":2324.5,"body":"I think that is the foundation"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2321.26,"endTime":2324.5,"body":"of where we go from here,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2324.5,"endTime":2331.94,"body":"whatever layer of transition"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2324.5,"endTime":2331.94,"body":"we're currently in. So thank you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2332.0,"endTime":2337.52,"body":"so much for listening. I hope"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2332.0,"endTime":2337.52,"body":"you enjoyed this episode, and if"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2337.52,"endTime":2343.42,"body":"you are willing to share more"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2337.52,"endTime":2343.42,"body":"with me about what you would"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2343.42,"endTime":2347.92,"body":"like to hear on the podcast,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2343.42,"endTime":2347.92,"body":"what you like about the podcast,"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2348.46,"endTime":2355.0,"body":"any questions, topics, any of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2348.46,"endTime":2355.0,"body":"that, please do it however feels"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2355.0,"endTime":2358.78,"body":"most comfortable for you, you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2355.0,"endTime":2358.78,"body":"can fill it out under the"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2358.78,"endTime":2364.32,"body":"podcast, where it says comments."},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2358.78,"endTime":2364.32,"body":"There's also a way you can hit"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2364.32,"endTime":2368.52,"body":"text me. So if that's super easy"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2364.32,"endTime":2368.52,"body":"for you and you prefer to text"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2368.52,"endTime":2371.94,"body":"things, you can just text me. It"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2368.52,"endTime":2371.94,"body":"doesn't send me your phone. It's"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2371.94,"endTime":2375.18,"body":"like, it sends like an email to"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2371.94,"endTime":2375.18,"body":"me. So you can do that. Or you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2375.18,"endTime":2378.42,"body":"can click the link in the show"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2375.18,"endTime":2378.42,"body":"notes that says, Ask Val and"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2378.42,"endTime":2382.28,"body":"fill out a little form where you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2378.42,"endTime":2382.28,"body":"can be as anonymous as you"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2382.4,"endTime":2388.88,"body":"choose to be. So I appreciate"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2382.4,"endTime":2388.88,"body":"you. I'm sending you lots of"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2388.88,"endTime":2394.1,"body":"love, lots of care, and I will"},{"speaker":"Valerie Friedlander","startTime":2388.88,"endTime":2394.1,"body":"talk to you all next time."}]}