Using AI to Rewire Your Mind: Ask Better Questions, Heal Better

What if the reason you feel stuck… isn’t because you don’t have answers—but because you’ve been asking yourself the wrong questions?

In this powerful episode of Healing Her Halo, Patience Murray (Pae Murray) explores how AI prompt engineering can teach us something deeper about ourselves: the quality of our lives is often shaped by the quality of the questions we ask.

Drawing from neuroscience, real-world examples, and personal reflection, this episode breaks down how your brain actively searches for answers based on the questions you feed it—and how that impacts your thoughts, emotions, and even your body.

You’ll learn how concepts like confirmation bias, the reticular activating system, and rumination influence your reality—and how you can begin to take back control.

This episode also explores how strategic questioning is used in industries like sales and healthcare to guide outcomes—and how you can use that same power to guide your own mind toward peace, clarity, and confidence.

Most importantly, you’ll walk away with practical, powerful questions you can start asking yourself immediately to shift your mindset, calm your nervous system, and align with the life you truly want.

✨ Because healing isn’t just about finding answers—it’s about asking better questions.

💭 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

•  Why better questions lead to better emotional and mental outcomes 
•  How your brain searches for evidence based on what you ask (confirmation bias) 
•  How your attention is filtered through the reticular activating system 
•  The impact of rumination on stress and the body 
•  How to use AI to generate powerful, state-shifting prompts 
•  How to guide your mind toward peace, clarity, and confidence 

🔑 Try These Questions Today:

•  What would it feel like if this worked? 
•  What would I be doing right now if I believed in myself fully? 
•  How will my life look once I make it big? 
•  What version of me already knows how to do this? 

💫 Connect With Healing Her Halo:

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 Website: paemurray.com

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to another episode of Healing Her Halo, a women empowerment platform for women who've experienced trauma and the struggles of mental health. This is a safe space to gain guidance on how to navigate through the storms of life and how to stay present in the light when the sun shines again. Be sure to download, share, and subscribe so you can help heal another woman's halo. Now here's your host, Patience Murray.

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Welcome to another episode of Healing Her Halo. I'm your host, Patience Murray. And this episode is really about asking yourself better questions in an effort to heal better. And really becoming your own prompt engineer. Before we even begin, I want you to take a moment with me. Take a breath and just be intentional. Because what we're talking about today isn't something you rush through. It's really something you sit with. I want you to think about all the times you've ever thought about a question. Repetitive questions that may circle through your mind. Whether they're good, whether they're bad. Just think about all the times you've even thought about a question. I want to start with something we're all beginning to understand in this new era of technology. As you know, when we're interacting with AI, if you ever use ChatGPT or any tool like Claude, you know that in order to get better results from AI, you have to give it better prompts. And you can't just type anything, throw random words together or expect something powerful back just from vague information. You have to be intentional. Tailored, specific, strategic in how you ask. There's a term for this called prompt engineering. And what's interesting, almost ironically poetic, is that this is now a real job. There are people whose entire career is built on learning how to ask better questions. Think about that. People are getting paid to learn how to ask better questions. And when you really sit with that, it makes sense. Because the quality of what you receive is directly tied to the quality of what you ask. Now, a prompt engineer studies patterns, language, structure, context. They don't just ask anything, but they ask with direction, with intention, with a sense of the destination already in mind. And that isn't something that's only happening in the tech space. This is being used across several industries. In healthcare, AI is being used to analyze patient data and support clinical decisions. But the quality of those insights depends solely on how the question is being asked. And a vague question gives you vague insight. A precise question can reveal something life-changing. In business, in marketing, companies are using AI to understand behavior, shape messaging, and influence decisions at scale. Now the difference between a weak prompt and a strong one can change how millions of people respond. So asking better questions, it shapes outcomes, influences direction, and in some cases it can actually impact lives. So let me ask you something. What if you became your own prompt engineer? What if your mind works the same way? What if your brain requires the same level of intentional prompting in order to produce better answers in your life? Because whether you realize it or not, you are always asking yourself questions. All day, every day. Some of them are loud, some of them are quiet. Some of them are so automatic you don't even notice them. Why is this happening to me? What's wrong with me? Why do I have to be at this job? Why do I feel like this again? Why can't I figure this out? Why does this never work? And here's what you have to understand. Your brain does not ignore those questions. It does respond. And from a neuroscience perspective, your brain is actually wired to seek answers, to find evidence. And there's something called confirmation bias, which means your brain automatically searches for information that supports what you already believe or what you're asking. So if you ask, why does nothing work for me? Guess what? Your brain begins scanning your memories, your past, your present, looking for evidence to confirm that idea. And it will find it. Not necessarily because it's true, but because it's consistent with the question. There's always something to consider with the questions that you ask yourself. And maybe you've heard, but there's something called the reticular activating system. It's actually a part of our brain that filters everything that we notice. It decides what gets our attention, what gets ignored. So whatever question you ask, your brain starts highlighting things in your environment to match that. So if you ask, what's gonna go wrong? You'll start noticing things that are gonna go wrong. You'll start noticing the tension, the problems, and all the ways that it could potentially fail. If you ask, why am I always anxious? Guess what? Your brain will start to highlight every moment that supports that narrative. And what kind of life is that? How useful is asking those kinds of questions? Not so much. Your brain in many ways functions like a search engine. And you can think of your question as the search term, and your mind retrieves results to match that. But it doesn't just stay in your thoughts, it moves into your body. When your mind repeatedly asks fear-based or negative questions, your body responds as if something is wrong. Your heart rate increases, your breathing becomes more shallow, your shoulders tighten, your chest tightens. Research called this rumination, replaying negative thoughts or questions over and over again. And studies show that rumination increases cortisol, your stress hormone. And over time, that impacts your mood, your focus, your sleep, your energy, and your sense of safety. So it's not just mindset. This is your nervous system, this is your biology, this is your lived experience. And if we zoom out, we can see that this principle isn't just internal, it's something that creates the world around us. And it's something that the world already understands. Some of the best salespeople in the world don't force others to make decisions. All they do is guide them through the questions they ask. Tailored, strategic questions, intentional questions that they already know the answer to, but they're questions that slowly lead you down a path until you arrive at the destination, at a conclusion that you think is your own. And if you're not aware, you can be led by people, by systems, by environments, but more importantly, you can be led by your own thoughts, by the questions your mind keeps asking yourself. So let me ask you something. What if you sold yourself on the wrong reality? What if you convinced yourself that you're incapable, that you're behind, that you're not enough? Not because it's true, but because you've been asking yourself the wrong questions all this time. And I say that because that's been me for years. But I can definitely reassure you that the questions that lead you to the answers that reinforce your insecurities, your fears, your doubts get you nowhere and it's no point of wasting time doing that? What if every time you asked, why can't I do this? Your mind actually went to work building a case against you? What if you've been unintentionally collecting evidence for a version of yourself that was never meant to be? But what if there's another way? What if instead of being unconsciously influenced negatively, you became intentional about curating the world around you and the world within you? What if you empowered yourself through strategic self-prompting? Asking questions that flourish you, that don't shrink you but shift you, questions that don't confirm the fears that you have, but actually cultivate your faith. What if you could guide your mind to arrive at a different destination? And that affects the state of your body. A state filled with hope, with clarity, peace, good energy, possibility. Not because anything in your circumstances changed overnight, but how you asked yourself questions did. Now, here's a question that's been really grounding me lately, and anytime I feel unsure or I feel like life is life, I asked myself, what if you're right where you're supposed to be? What if everything is working together for your good? What if you're not behind? What if you're not late? What if you're not lost? And different variations of that. And there could be guiding questions that you have, but my one at the top is definitely, what if you're right where you're supposed to be? And you could take that for you, if you're a person that deals with anxiety or just feeling like you should be further along in your life than where you are right now. Because when I ask myself that, something shifts. My shoulders, they loosen. I breathe deeper, my mind slows down, and I can actually feel the pressure leaving. And I can feel myself being more present in the moment. And what we need more right now than anything is more presence, not living in our mind, not living in our fears. It's so much to be afraid of, so much to be scared about every time you turn on the TV, every time you open your phone and scroll through social media. But there's signs to back up what I'm saying in terms of the shift that you can create, you can generate this shift. The thoughts you think about activate either a stress response or relaxation response in your body. So when you ask a question that invites peace, your nervous system begins to settle. Over time, this actually changes your brain. This is called neuroplasticity. Your brain strengthens pathways you use most. That's simple. So if you consistently ask fear-based questions, you strengthen fear-based thinking. If you begin asking calm, intentional, possibility-based questions, you strengthen clarity, peace, and resilience. Which means peace becomes more accessible for you. Not because your life is perfect, but because your mind knows where to go. So if you could guide your mind toward the destination you already desire, towards calm, towards clarity, towards confidence, towards a deep sense of assurance, that no matter what happens, you are equipped to handle it. What if you could ask yourself questions that don't come from panic, but pull directly from your divine intelligence? The part of you that already knows. And this is where AI can actually become a tool. Not something you rely on like a source completely, not your truth, and you're not outsourcing your truth to AI. But it's a support system, it's a part of your support system. Because sometimes when you are overwhelmed, you don't have the capacity to think of all the things at one time. You don't have the capacity to think of all the questions on your own. You might have one, and maybe that works for you, but you can use AI to help you generate other questions. So instead of staying stuck, you can expand your options. It can generate questions once you begin to ask it to help you give other questions. If it's not, what if you're right where you're supposed to be? Maybe it could be, what if this is working for me, not against me? What would I be doing right now if I believed this would work? What actually matters in this moment and what can wait? What does the calm version of me already know? What if I'm not late and I'm being prepared? What if peace is available to me right now? And you don't rush past it. You just sit with it. Because the answer you look you look for is already inside of you, it's not outside of you. It's already within. Now, I love to ask other questions as well, especially when I'm having space to myself to really visualize or hyper-visualize where I want my life to be. What I picked up along the way in my personal development journey from listening to amazing teachers and speakers and thought leaders is not only asking yourself questions like the ones I gave before, but asking questions that put you into the state of being as your future self. So it could be, what would my life feel like when I'm living in the future I've always imagined? Or what would my life look like when I'm winning? And just sit with it and let your mind go to work and let you utilize your imagination not for your fears, not for your insecurities, but for your dreams, the things that you really want to see happen in your life, because what you focus on, you will attract. And the questions that you ask yourself will either guide you closer to that dream or pull you further away from it and reinforce it with evidence of why you shouldn't be there. So as we close, I don't just want you to walk away from this inspired or thinking that that was a cool thought. I want you to walk away with something that you can actually use right now. Because you may not be able to control everything that happens to you. We know that. But you can't control the questions that you ask yourself. You can choose the prompts you give your own mind. You can decide what direction your thoughts are going to move in. And that influence is what your brain starts looking for anyway. That's what your body starts feeling. And with those emotional charges connected to the thoughts that you're generating, that's creating the life. It's reflecting from you. But that's also your power. And it's a power that you can start using immediately. I hope this was helpful and I hope this helped put a spark back into your Halo today. As always, download, share this with a friend that may need it, and follow us on Instagram at Healing Her Halo. And I look forward to hearing from you. If there's someone that you want us to have on the show, if there's a topic that you'd like us to cover, let me know. Until next time.

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