3 Ways to Not Give Up on Your Dream | How to Keep Going When Nothing is Changing

Have you ever wondered if you're behind in life?

If you've been praying, working, believing, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode is for you.

In this special milestone 50th episode of Healing Her Halo, Patience Murray shares three mindset shifts that have helped her stay faithful to her purpose—even when the results weren't visible.

In this episode, you'll discover:

✨ Why serving where you are prepares you for where you're going
✨ How relentless gratitude can transform your perspective during difficult seasons
✨ Why God's biggest breakthroughs sometimes arrive as quiet "suddenlies"
✨ How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else's
✨ What it means to trust that it's already done

If you've been on the verge of quitting your dream, your business, your calling, or even yourself, let this be the reminder you needed today.

Pre-order my new book: Have Patience: It's Already Done for even more practical encouragement and faith-filled strategies for staying the course.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:08

Worried about myself, worried about myself, worried that I ain't getting a well like a claim, not like a claim, like a claim. I've been worried about my mind.

unknown 0:25

Worried about the times.

SPEAKER_02 0:29

Welcome to another episode of Healing Her Halo. I'm your host, Pay Marie, and I'm so excited to be here with you another week. And this is our 50th episode. Woo yay! We made it. And today I'm gonna give you three ways to not give up on your journey. And I hope this puts a spark back into your halo today. The first way, whenever you're on a journey, focus on serving where you are. And I know it may be challenging, especially when there's certain goals that you want to achieve and there's certain milestones that you want to reach in your life, and maybe you feel like you should have been there already. And I know a lot of times I go through that. But the way that I shift my focus is by thinking about how I can improve me where I am to be better for the people that God has called me to. And that really, it really gets challenging in moments where you start looking at the numbers and how many likes you're getting or how many views you're getting on a post when you try to put yourself out there, or even if you're doing a podcast, you're looking at the number of downloads, and maybe there aren't that many downloads in certain seasons, and you start to question whether or not you're being effective. But I just want to reassure you and encourage you right now that if you're even in the act of going after your dream and doing the thing that God called you to do, you are already effective because somebody is watching your journey, whether they're they let you know it or not, whether it's your family, someone close to you, someone that you know, they're they're watching you. And um, trust me, they are inspired by you in some way, whether they verbalize that to you or not. And sometimes we have to completely attach ourselves from thinking about um the response that we're gonna get and focus on how we can just put our energy, put our story, put our faith out into the world and allow that to be the thing that produces fruit at some point and not worrying about when that point is. And many times in my journey, I feel like, you know, man, there's some things that just should have happened already. And I'll often often come back to this point of like, who am I really comparing myself to in my journey? And I had a moment like this recently in prayer time with God. I was crying, boo-hoo on my eyes out, and it was because I was still going back into that default mode of thinking that there was some marker that I should have reached by my big age of 30. And God, you know, and my husband had told me this so many times before, like, I don't know who it is you're comparing yourself to. I don't know who it is you're comparing yourself to. And the same way that he would say that to me, I heard a still small voice say, you know, who are you comparing yourself to? Right? Like, look at everything that you've done in your life where you come from. And I'm from Philly, you know, and I grew up with no mom. My dad was in my life, kind of, you know, and I I give him grace because I understand the struggles that he was dealing with, but I really didn't have my parents in my life. I was raised by my grandmom, and that's a whole story within itself, and I love her. And, you know, there's certain things that I feel like I missed out on in that early stage of my life. But even with that, to become the person that I am today, with the luckily, with God's grace, the accolades that I do have, the impact that I have had in the world, the ways that people have been inspired by my journey, it's like I can't really compare that journey to anyone else's because it's so unique, right? And and I think sometimes we may get into that comparison warp, especially with social media, it's so easy to look and see what somebody else has or some achievement that they've made by some certain marker in their life, but we don't know all the different components that's going into their story. So once we get out of that mode of feeling like, you know, we need to see certain results or we need a certain outcome, we need to have a certain award, we need to have a certain achievement by a certain age, and really just focusing on how we can improve ourselves where we are. Focus on improving yourself where you are at the level you're at, and focus on how you can honor God and everything that you're doing at that phase of your life and focus on how you can best serve with everything that you have, with all the information, all the knowledge, with all the story that you have available for your phase of your life at that time. That's number one. Okay. Number one, focus on the people that God called you to serve and focus on how you can improve yourself to better serve those people. And number two, this number two is really about a mindset shift because it's about being relentlessly grateful. And it's not just about being grateful, but relentlessly grateful, right? Looking around and really pulling from the earth something that you can feel grateful for. And sometimes it feels like an aggressive action, right? And sometimes when you think about gratitude, you think, oh, I'm grateful, you know, just for the flowers and making it really lofty, and you know, but really being like some days, like when it gets challenging and when you need to fix your perspective on life, like it can get really challenging. It can almost feel like an aggressive action to need to pull, like today, I will be grateful today. I'm gonna look around and I'm gonna see what I have in my life to be grateful for. I refuse to go back to my old programming and start complaining about my situation. And you can catch yourself, right? Right in the moment where you're about to complain, you can catch yourself when you're about to complain and turn that into a positive declaration about what you want to see happen and what you expect to see happen in your life. And you have to be sensitive enough with yourself to be able to recognize when you are going into that negative loop or when you are about to go into that negative spiral, negative spiral, and really just go in the wrong direction. So be relentlessly grateful. So let's say even if something isn't going right at your, let's say if you're at a job and maybe you're not getting um the opportunities that you feel like you deserve, right? Maybe you feel like you're being overlooked. Maybe you feel like, you know, you're you're just not your value isn't seen, it isn't appreciated. And instead of looking at all the things that you feel like you're not receiving, you can switch that and look around and see, okay, what am I, what am I benefiting from in this situation? What can I be grateful for in the sense of I'm developing my skills? I had the opportunity to serve with my gifts in some way. And just really looking at how you can reframe and create those positive declarations around the things that you feel uncomfortable about or around the things that are making you upset, it's going to really give you some feel and give you that power back to focus and stay alert about the good things, the good positive things that God has for you. And it's not easy. It's easier said than done, that's for sure. But after going through a few different seasons in my life, I can say with full confidence that once you take that first step of just focusing on where you're serving and being your best self in that situation, giving yourself 110,000% to where you are, and just really focusing on how you can honor God and everything you do, be relentlessly grateful, even when things aren't going your way, just focusing on pulling something out that you can be grateful for and thankful for, and even write those things down so you can reflect on those things, or just the act of writing it down, cemented and showing that I am going to be a different person today. I'm going to focus on the positive. I'm going to focus on what God can do for me today, not my circumstance. And that brings me to point number three, and it's about staying alert. You got to stay alert because some sudden leaves are quiet. Some sudden leaves aren't loud. Some sudden leaves aren't these big bolsterous changes in your life that happen all of a sudden. Sometimes they come in the form of a phone call in the middle of a day. And you got to be sensitive enough to identify when God is giving you one of those subtle suddenlies, right? And in order to even be sensitive enough, you your faith has to be non-negotiable. It has to be so non-negotiable that my faith is not up for negotiation. I believe, I trust that God has something good for me. I know that where I am, I'm meant to serve, I'm meant to honor God in everything that I do. I'm grateful for what is being worked on in me in this season of my life. And I'm choosing to stay alert because I believe, I'm stubbornly convinced that at any moment, God can change things around for me. And it has nothing to do with my current circumstances. God can create a stream in the middle of a wasteland, right? So combining that way of thinking together, it's all going to converge to this new way of being that you're going to show up in the world. All of that energy that you are creating from the way you're shifting your mindset, the way that you're choosing to believe, the way that you're choosing to declare and show up in the world, it's going to show up in your actions. So even though it's like the mindset shift, your actions are going to show what you believe. Right? Your actions are going to show what it is that you believe inside. And you've got to know. You've got to know without a shadow of a doubt that if God did it for you before, He can do it for you again. You've got to know that. That has to be a belief that's ingrained in you. And sometimes there are things that will challenge your beliefs, especially again, when you have been tolling away at something for years. And I'm not just talking about you started this last week, you didn't see anybody engaging with this, so you just scrapped it. I'm talking about for the people that have been doing something year after year after year after year, trying to get better at something, trying their best to refine what it is that they believe that God put them in here to do, and they're not seeing any movement for you. Joe Olstein said, Some of the battles God allows in your life isn't just about you. It's to make a statement to the people around you. Nothing speaks louder when people see the favor on your life, when they see you overcoming obstacles that should have stopped you. So even if you're in a season right now where you feel like, man, I should have been further along by now, or man, I feel like I should have gotten some something out of where I am right now. Just don't focus too much on the when and the how. This is something me and my husband to talk about a lot. Isn't he doesn't focus on the how about anything, he just focused on the vision that God gave him. And that's his faith is a big part of why I even fell in love with him. But you have to focus on where you are and how you can best serve where you are, because you gotta know without a shadow of a doubt that it's already done. It's already done. And these points that I'm talking about are actually in my book, Have Patience. It's already done. Pre-order the book now. But in there's so many more points that I can go through with you from the book. But the biggest ones that I feel like that will help somebody today who has been holding on to a dream, holding on to a vision, holding on to this small seed of hope that they could actually make something happen in their life. They could actually have the dream that they had since they were a little girl, or maybe they could actually build the business that they believe that's meant to be on the cover of Forbes, right? Number one, just focus on serving where you are. Number two, be relentlessly grateful. And if if you got it, get aggressive with it, get aggressive with it and pull something that you really are grateful for from your day. Even if it if nothing, if it looks like nothing in your day went right, you got to be aggressively serious about finding something grateful. And number three, you have to know without a shadow of a doubt that it's already done. You have to know that if God did it for you before, he can do it again. And you have to be stubborn about that faith. You have to be, you have to be relentlessly faith-filled as well. Okay. And these terms I'm using are very intentional because that's what it feels like sometime. It feels like a war to believe. Okay. But I hope these three ways, these three mindset shifts, these three different ways of looking at the world, I hope it puts a spark back into your halo today to fuel you, to help you continue on with your journey. All hope is not lost. If God did it for you before, he can do it for you again. And if you need some encouragement, if you need a boost to pick me up in your week, in your day, in your year, just to remind you of how to shift your mindset back onto the things that are gonna get you staying in the journey and not prematurely giving up on the thing that God called you to build. Pre-order my book, have patience, it's already done. You can find the links on my my social medias, or you can also go to paymoraytv.com and order the book now. But it's it's a journey. Nobody gets gets it overnight, nobody figures it out, maybe even in a couple of years, right? We are always in route. Maya Angelou said she's always been in route. Even in her 80s, she was still in route, right? So we're never getting to the point where we're completely finished. There's always more to learn, right? And right now, if you I'm trusting, I trust and believe if you adopt these subtle shifts in how you think about your day, how you think about your life, how you think about God and how God thinks about you. I trust and believe that whatever you're hoping for, praying for, working towards, whether it's a new job, whether it's a new new person in your life that you've been manifesting, right? Or whether it's um an increase in your business that you haven't been seeing, there are subtle shifts and subtle suddenlies, right? Information that's being delivered to you, right? People that are coming into your life. And you have to be sensitive enough and you have to still be optimistic enough to believe that God is still at work in your life. Because if you feel like it's you've already lost, you have.

unknown 14:23

Right?

SPEAKER_02 14:23

If you feel like you've already lost, you're not even taking a phone call. If you feel like you've already lost, you're not even going to the interview to give it another shot. You're not even trying, right? So you have to stay optimistic and you got to be aggressive about it, right? Because everything in life will give you something to not believe for, right? It'll give you something to feel like all hope is lost, right? So you have to be the person, you have to be the cheerleader for yourself at times, believing that where you are is where you're meant to be, that there's always something to be grateful for, and that God's already got it. Already got it worked out, it's already done. Okay, I hope this episode put a spark back into your halo today. And as always, I want to hear from you. Download this episode to let me know if it was effective for you. Comment, leave a comment, leave a review on the podcast. And if you're watching this on YouTube, go ahead and subscribe to my YouTube channel and also leave me a comment so I know that this message resonated with you today.

SPEAKER_00 15:19

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SPEAKER_01 15:41

I've been worried about my mind. Worried about the times. I'm worried about.