Consequences. Punishments. Limits. Boundaries.

These words don't mean the same thing but we often use them interchangeably.

In this episode, we get clear on what exactly is a consequence versus a punishment versus a boundary.

And how parenting through the lens of regulation, connection, and felt-safety is absolutely not boundary-less or permissive parenting. 

It's a way of looking at our kids and asking "What does my child need to be successful?" and then giving them that.

It definitely isn't about making sure our kids are always happy or never frustrated or we always say yes.

It's about changing the lens on how we view their expressions of emotions and behaviors.

And yes- it's about setting boundaries that keep our kids safe and help their brains develop the internalized co-regulation (self-regulation!) they need!

In this episode, I reference a LOT of other episodes.

Has Trauma Informed Become a Behavior Modification Technique?

What’s Regulation Got to do With it

Focus on Arousal not Behavior

Connection can’t not work

We are Always Searching and Yearning for Connection

Felt Safety- what’s that?

Connection or Protection

What Behavior Really Is- free video series masterclass

Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain- online digital course

Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/WhatAboutAConsequence

Over on my website you can find:
Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain
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Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!

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