The Question That Saves Every Relationship (Conflict Resolution)

Stop arguing in your marriage, family, and church relationships. This 5-word question rewires how you respond — instantly.

Most arguments aren't really about what was said — they're about what...(well, you'll have to watch to find out)!

Using a simple five words question you can begin resolving conflicts and preventing future one from ever taking place!

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Treveal C.W. Lynch (00:02)
You know what it is. You know where you is. Yes, yes, yes. This is the place. This is the space where possibilities become perspective. Guys, welcome, welcome, welcome on in to the I Am the Possible Podcast experience. I is your host, Trevelle C.W. Lynch, Mr. What What. A man on a mission to help you use what you already have to get what.

You've always wanted. This platform is about resourcefulness. This platform is about imagination. This platform is about innovation. This platform is about possibilities. And today we're going to be tackling arguments, specifically arguments within the closest relationships that you have. Those within your home, your family, within your church, as they are your extended family, maybe even on your job. But

I really want to stay in the pocket of those that are closest to us, family members, blood relatives, extended family, and our church family. My church has recently been on a series talking about really conflict resolution, how to forgive and be forgiven, how to reconcile, how to really mend that disconnect that we often have within the real

Within the various relationships that we have. And so today I was really inspired to share my take, my spin on this. And so I'm keeping it extremely simple. And I want to get right into this today. I don't want to hold you up. I don't wanna I don't wanna keep it a secret too long. I wanna just go right into this. But again, five words today. Five words, one question, a powerful framework that's going to help you to argue less.

in the relationships that you have. Now, first, let's talk about sort of why we argue. One of the major reasons that we argue, probably the most has to be the number one reason that we argue.

I want to say miscommunication, but let's let's take it one step further. A misunderstanding. The Bible says, in all of our getting, get what? Get understanding. And many times, the reason that we argue, and the the reason that there's such a disconnect and there's such a discord within our families and our relationships is that we

We think we know. We think we understand the situation. We think we understand the other person. We think we understand why they did what they did, why they said what they said. We we think we understand. We think we know what the problem is. We think that we've figured out the other person. We assume that we know ourselves. And sometimes this could be the furthest thing from the truth.

So, with that said, with with you know, I can only tackle so much within a given episode. Maybe there's a million reasons why we argue. There's a million reasons why we have conflicts. There's a million reasons that we fight and bicker with each other. I'm sure there are. But I can only tackle so much within a given episode. So today I want to drill down to the lack of understanding, the assuming, the assumption.

That we know ourselves so well, and we assume that we know the other person so well. We know why they did what they did, why they said what they said, their motives, their intentions. We feel offended, hurt, discouraged, betrayed, stabbed in the back. You name it, you frame it, you put it into your context. But it all boils down to a misunderstanding. You missed.

Understanding why you guys are arguing. So let's keep that in mind. Let's use that as the framework for the introduction of the framework that I'm about to share. Now, before I go into the five words, the one question, this powerful framework, I want to give you a quick example, an illustration. Because I love using props, I love using everyday items to illustrate, to unpack.

To unfold some of the greater internal issues that we that we face, that we deal with, that maybe aren't on the surface, aren't in our consciousness, we're not aware of. So just yesterday, and I don't know if I've ever told you guys this or not, but I juice, all right. Started juicing a couple years ago, just for you know better health, more energy to feel better, to get more vitamins and vegetables in my body.

throughout the day. And so I've taken on this juicy lifestyle. ⁓ shout out to my boy Harold LaFall, who ⁓ act actually Harold LaFall Jr., who hit me on to it, Good Living Now. Give a plug to my boy Good Living Now. You can find him on YouTube, Instagram, Harold LaFall Jr., ⁓ Good Living Now Company. He has an assortment of ⁓ of ⁓ health health related ⁓ products

And ⁓ just a really good dude, has a powerful testimony. He's a cancer survivor. ⁓ so shout out and salute to my boy Harold La Fall. ⁓ and so when I got connected with Harold, I got connected with this juicing world. And one of the things that I juice on a regular basis is watermelon. I juice watermelon with a couple of limes and mint. And I wanted to share this quick story.

That ⁓ really came from from yesterday, from my kitchen. I went out yesterday, I bought the watermelon, the limes, and the mint. And it was my intention to juice it immediately. Because one thing about mint, I don't know if you guys know this, but mint withers very fast. And in my ignorance, because I didn't juice the day that I intended to juice, I let the mint.

sit on the counter. And all of these leaves that you see right now, they started to wither. All right. And they got really soft. And in the little packaging that it came in, these leaves were kind of like shrugged over, kind of like bent over. And I was in the kitchen with my wife. And so I decided, you know what, I didn't juice when I was supposed to. I'll get up tomorrow.

Go down to the store, get some new mint. I'll juice tomorrow because the watermelon is fine. The limes are fine. I just need some more mint. And my wife said, give it some water.

Your mint needs water. It never dawned on me. Water? What are you talking about? Like in my head, I'm like, water. What is that gonna do for the mint that's already dying? Because in my mind, it was a wrap. It was over with. It was dead, or at least dying to the point where it wasn't fresh enough to use for my juicing. She said, give it some water. Pour some water in it that it set on the counter.

This morning when I got up thinking that maybe I was going to need to go to the store to get some new mint. Look at it. Look. All the leaves are standing back up again. All of these leaves, if you're watching on the tube and you should be watching on the tube, okay? Because I know some of you guys are listening on the podcast platform, just audio version, but you should be watching on the tube. All right. So go to YouTube, type it in I am the possible, get the podcast visual.

So you can see this beautiful mint plant like standing strong, leaves erect, and I don't have to go buy a new one. What's the purpose in me sharing this? The purpose in me sharing it is I consider something dead, and I was about to throw it away when all it needed was a little water. All it needed.

Was a little water. Life was still within it. It was still a living plant. It could be revived. It could be replenished, refreshed, renewed. You know where I'm going with this. All it needed was some water.

I liken the water to a fresh perspective. Sometimes the relationships in our lives, we think they're dead, they're dying, hopeless. It's a wrap. Let's throw it away. Let's end it. Let's cut our ties, cut our losses, push them, shove them to the side, throw the baby out with the bathwater, disconnect, disassociate, get away from it. It's dead.

It's over. It's a wrap, as we say. And maybe it's not. Maybe all your relationship needs is a little water, a little fresh, refreshing, reviving, rejuvenating, sprinkle, watering. And the way that we accomplish this is with a fresh.

Perspective. That's how we resolve it, with a fresh perspective. In the world, or I should say, in our inner world, our emotions, our feelings, thoughts, beliefs, values, the things that we use internally to relate to one another with, and to relate with ourselves with, or relate to ourselves with.

They often live and die based on the perspective that we have about the other person, about ourselves, about the situation, about the argument. See, perspective is a position. And a position allows you to see things that you otherwise wouldn't be able to see. Stay with me.

If I'm at three feet and I'm looking straight ahead, there's certain things that are in my view.

If I elevate myself to ten feet.

There's a broader view. There's more things in my view. I'm able to see further, wider. There's more things that come into view because of the elevated position, which allows me to experience an elevated perspective. That's why this podcast, I labeled it, I named it, I coined it, right? The place where

Possibilities become perspective so that your perspective can see what's possible. And today's context for this episode for today: the possibilities is that you can argue less, fight less, have less conflict, have less issues going on within your relationship. That's possible with the right perspective. But you've got to be able to see.

The possibilities. And sometimes you just need a new perspective, a new position. Just like this plant needed a little water. It was still alive. It was still living. It still had life. It was still able to flourish and to stand erect and to and to be all that it was created to be for me as it relates to my juicing.

Going to be able to juice later on today. Put this very plant that I just showed you into that juicer, and it's going to benefit me physically in the same way with the right perspective, with the water of perspective, with the refreshing power of a new perspective, which is a new position. You're going to be able to see how alive the relationship is, how alive you and the person that you argue with most have conflict with most.

You're going to be able to see new hope. You're going to be able to see new possibilities of how you can communicate better, connect better, how you can argue less with these five words, one question, powerful framework. I hope and pray that you have enough of a foundation, because I like to at least lay a foundation before going into the thing that I want to share with you most urgently.

Okay.

Here it is. You ready?

Keeping in alignment with the foundation. Most arguments are because we don't understand. There's a lack of understanding. We assume we know. We assume we know them. We assume we know ourselves. We assume we know the situation. And because we're so locked in to that old perspective, that old position, that old way of thinking, then we, we, we fight, we push back, we defend, we argue.

We try to gain ground, we try to have our way, we try to control, we try to manipulate because we think we know.

And here it is. And I want you to be open to this. I want you to open up your awareness to this. I want you to, I'm I want you to be teachable, coachable, pliable. This is gonna be hard for some of you, but if you really care about those other people in your life, if you really care about arguing less, fighting less, having less conflict, I want you to lean into this one. You ready?

Your assumptions may not be truth.

Your assumptions may not be truth. Ready for the second one? I'm gonna hit you with a couple gut punches first. Ready for the second one? Your default initial interpretation may not be truth.

I know it feels like truth.

You feel like you have evidence. You feel like you have enough information. You feel like you know what's going on.

But perhaps you don't.

I can't tell you how many times in my own family, with my wife, with my four children, with people in my church, I've had to raise my hand and say, hey, you know what? Let me raise my hand first. I was wrong. I missed it. What my intention didn't know any better, didn't have a clear understanding, missed the mark. Me. It was me. It was on me. I'm able to share this, teach this, preach this.

Coach this because I've done it. I don't play games on this podcast. I don't play games when I preach and teach in person, giving you theory, read it in the book, then I teach it to you. Something someone else said. If it's not something I'm doing and continuing to do, if it's not a belief, a value, a practice in my own personal life, if I'm not doing it, I'm not going to share it.

Your default assumption, your default interpretation may not be truth. Occasionally, you may nail it, but I can promise you this most of the time, you don't. It's what we call the knee jerk reaction. It's the default, it's the primed, it's the trained reaction.

Way of thinking and being and doing and going about life. And when someone says something or does something, you initially interpretate it to be this, you attach a meaning to it instantly, and then you speak out of it, you act out of it, you respond out of it, you react out of it, and it causes conflict, fighting, arguments. Because you are trigger happy, and then they are trigger-happy.

You pull your trigger, boom. And then they they fire back. They clap back, as we say. You clap, they clap. You clap, they clap. And both y'all ain't understanding a doggone thing. See, this takes humility. This takes humility. This takes a little bit of, hmm, I could be wrong. Hmm. I don't know it all. It requires that. It requires that.

And that's not as hard as it sounds when you start to practice it. When you get detached from being right, when you get detached from always having to know, man, life gets fun. Life opens up so wide. my goodness. Talk about the mercy and the grace of God. Talk about miracle signs and wonders. Talk about a good life. Talk about a high quality of life. my lord, things start popping when you stop caring about being right.

Having the last word, having the first word, getting in your word. Man, when you don't care nothing about that, this thing opens wide up. So, with that being said, here it comes. Here we are. We have arrived at the moment that we have been waiting for. Five words, one question, powerful framework. Ready? Here we go.

What else could this mean?

That's that fire, baby. That's fire. Come on somebody. That's fire. What else could this mean?

Woohoo! I'm about to jump about this chair. That's so powerful. Those are the five words. That's the question that you're gonna ask yourself when you are confronted with a problem, an issue, a text message that you don't like, a phone call that you don't like, a voicemail that you don't like, somebody say something to you that you don't like. What else could this mean?

Why? Why is that so important? Why is that so powerful? I'm glad you asked. Because it is an it is an acknowledgement that your default, primed, trained, practiced way of thinking, being in the world may not be truth. See, we often hear something instantly interpreted.

instantly assign a meaning to it and this is happening internally subconsciously within seconds it happens so rapidly that unless you practice awareness you ain't aware of it it's happening internally all cylinders we're like we're firing on all internal cylinders like boom boom boom boom boom interpret meaning react within seconds boom boom boom and then we have the nerve to actually think that we're correct

Yeah. We actually have the nerve to think that our initial response, and it's not even a response, it's a reaction, because a response is like more intelligent, thought, ⁓ thoughtful, right, more more introspective. Like we've taken time to to you know really really take an assessment of of of of the situation.

Of ourselves and and the other person. And and then we respond with intelligence and with and with temper and with and with grace and with love. But that's not really what we often do. We often react because we're so busy. We got a million things going on. It just comes out of what we would consider left field. We don't stop to process it. We just boom, knee-jerk, react.

And the reason that the five words I know are so simple, but they are so powerful. And why this question is so powerful is because it does what we often never do. It causes us to slow the heck down. Why do you think in therapy, or when someone is acting irrationally, the first thing someone says is, hey, stop, take 10 deep breaths.

Breathe, breathe. They're trying to interrupt the freight train of emotions, the freight train of internal reaction. They're trying to interrupt that. Take ten deep breaths.

Three, the sympathetic nerve is being reacted or being triggered, right? The calm down mechanism is being initiated, getting it online. So you can think, process, so you can slow down. So that you don't say something that you don't mean, so that you don't say something that's damaging, so that you don't come back with something.

That really hurts that other per person's feelings and really damages the relationship. Cause when it's boom, boom, boom.

Wa w once it's out your mouth, it's so much work to have to try to reel that back in. And the truth is you can't reel it back in. You just have to do the work of trying to reconcile that and to do the and do the hard internal work that most people are not willing to do. To be able to really confront within yourself, hey, why did I say that? Where did that come from? And to really do the revisiting and the redefining.

Of the conclusions and the concepts and the work that is going on within us. That's for another episode. That's for my workshops. That's for my coaching clients. That we have to go through these things to really unpack these things. But for today, the idea is what else could this mean? These these these quick five words, this one question, this framework, it sets you up to it's it's it's an internal acknowledgement.

That I may not be right. Do you know how many arguments you're having because you either think you're right and you're defending your perceived rightness, or you are thirsty to be right. You want to be on your soapbox so bad. You wanna have this sense of validation so bad. And it's probably because at some point in your life you never had it.

Mom and dad never gave it to you, your siblings never gave it to you, you never felt validated in other places. And so now, as an adult or young adult or teen, ⁓ if you're listening, you are so thirsty to experience that validation that you've placed greater priority on you feeling valid within yourself to be right and to fight anything that comes against it.

That you're blind to the idea that you actually could be wrong. And if you would admit that you could be wrong, it would open up the space for reconciliation, for healing, for that new perspective to come in that will elevate you to a new position that will then allow you to see new possibilities. It's the plant, it's the water. Your relationship doesn't have to die, it doesn't have to wither. That

Relationship might be worth saving. It might be worth working for. But this is the decision that you have to make. And it is not necessarily about you doing a lot of work with the other person. It's more about you doing the work within yourself. You guys know I work off of a very simple framework. Here it is. If life was at the top and you looked at what are the things that lay a foundation for anything to live, just like the plant, how did it get new life?

The relationship. How does the relationship continue to live and flourish and blossom and bloom, right? Let's just call that life at the top. Very simple bonus framework for you. Underneath life, there is relationship. Nothing lives without relationship. But beneath relationship, there is no relationship without communication. See? And without communication, right, there is no relationship. But in order to have communication,

Clear, constructive, continuous communication, which is connectivity, connecting, getting through to one another, or getting through to yourself, or just getting through in general, you must have clarity. Clarity. If I'm ⁓ fixing a battery on my car, let me just make this make sense. ⁓ and I go to put, you know how you have the positive and the negative, right?

Sometimes if you've never changed your battery for years, it gets all that corrosion around that port. And whenever you change your battery, finally have to change it. What do they do? If you take it to like AutoZone or something like that, they spend time there scraping off all of that old stuff that's on top of that of that battery port. Why? Because the connection, the connection has to be clear. There has to be a clear connection where I

Without clarity, the connection is going to be strained, is going to be lessened, it's going to be weakened. So you have to have clarity. You have to have less contaminants and complications, less, excuse me, less things in the way. That scraping off of that of that battery port is just clearing the way of complexities and contaminants, things that get in the way of a clear connection.

So, in the same way, within yourself, your relationship with yourself, and your relationship to someone else, it begins with clarity. That's why we started with most of our arguments are misunderstanding. You get understanding through clarity. So many times when you're reacting, it's not out of a clear place. You're not, you're not responding out of clarity.

You're responding out of a conclusion within yourself that happened years ago and it's just been there and building up. That's why I say it's your normal way of thinking and being and doing life. And if you really want to argue less, you really want to reconcile, you really want to, you know, kiss and make up, as we say, man, we've got to really be able to look within ourselves and not judge, not criticize, not condemn ourselves, but be real enough with ourselves to say, yo.

I'm not clear about myself. I don't have a lot of clarity about who I am, what I am, why I am. I don't I don't have a lot of clarity. And that can be fixed, that can be addressed. I coach that, right? That that that's something that I do. That's something a lot of people do, right? But it's you wanting to go and find the right person, the right fit to be able to do that inner work with, to get clear about that. But as it relates to you relating to someone else, it starts with clarity.

Clarity helps you then to have the connection, which is the communication. The communication then leads to the relationship, and then the relationship leads to life itself. If you don't have the relationship, the communication, connection, the clarity.

You'll be just like that plant. Like I was gonna let it die. My wife said, give it some water. It just needed something else. It needed some life giving. And your relationship, it just needs some life giving. And this is how you're gonna give it some life. You're gonna ask yourself this question. Here comes the framework. So I said five words. What else could this mean? Those are the five words. Those five words form the one question that you're gonna ask yourself. Remember the mind.

The brain is wired to answer questions. Ask it quality questions. It gives you quality answers. So you're asking yourself, man, what else could this mean? And you're doing it in a posture of curiosity. Not to pile on, not to get more angry, not to find more ways to make it just reinforce what you already believe. No, you're looking for what else could this mean? Now, this is what's happening in the moment. Text message, voicemail, email.

⁓ you saw something on TikTok, you saw something on Instagram, somebody made a post. You're asking this internally. This gives you the ability to settle down within yourself, to regulate within yourself, to consider something else. And you're still going to need to do the work of asking that person directly, hey, this is what I'm receiving from this. Is this what you meant? This is what I'm receiving. I'm not saying that this is what you meant.

But I'm asking for clarification, going back to clarity. I'm asking for clarification. This is the way I initially interpreted it.

I would like to know what did you intend? Because if my interpretation does not align with your intention, then let's get on the same page here. Let let let's let's get on the same page. You see what's happening? This is a lot of questioning within yourself of the other person. There's a lot of cultivating of ⁓ curiosity and and constructive conversations happening.

Way before you ever get to the arguments. By the time you've done these steps, by the time you follow this framework, asking the question within yourself, then being regulated and settled so that you can then approach that person in love with a calm voice, with a calm ⁓ physical posture, right? 93% of all communication is nonverbal.

So sometimes we respond with such an attitude physically that the other person feels that 93% energy and they don't even hear what you're saying because you're coming through hot. You you you already coming in hot physically. The way you look, your posture, 93% of you says, I'm pissed, I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm blaming, I'm finding fault in you physically.

So they don't even hear what you're saying. You see what I'm saying? Right? You hear what I'm saying? This is all good stuff. I know it's good stuff. It's been working for me. It's good stuff. 28 years in my in in the relationship that I have with my wife. 28 years relationship, 26 years married, four adult children, 26 years of parenting in the church, 25 years, corporate America, 20 years. I'm giving you my resume to

Remind you that I've been in this game of relationships and and and relating and communicating and reconciling and doing the inner work. I'm on to something here. We're on to something here. You're on to something here if you're leaning into this, right? It's about the humility, man. And the essence of it all is curiosity over conflict. Curiosity over conflict.

Condemnation, curiosity over, over, over, you know, hey, I know that you did me wrong. And now I want to let you know how I feel about it. You don't know. You don't know. You don't know. You don't know what that person meant. And the even deeper side, which I certainly don't have time to go into today, the deeper side is you don't know the inner workings of that person's life well enough.

To be condemning them. You don't know what they went through in their childhood. Some stuff they've never told you.

You think you know that person so well. There are things that that person has never told you. We all got skeletons in the closet because some of these things are so hurtful, so embarrassing, so emotionally damaging that we don't even want to speak of.

They produce so much shame, so much blame internally. We don't even want to speak of them. So, no, you don't know your spouse as well as you think. No, you don't know your friend as well as you think. No, you don't know your coworker as well as you think. No, you don't know that other person as well as you think. Back off a little bit. Stop thinking you know.

You know how we preach and we say, if you ain't heard nothing else, hear this. If you ain't heard nothing else, hear this. You don't know as much as you think you do. And it's okay. It's okay. Knowing is not required for reconciliation. Knowing is not required to kiss and make up. Knowing is not required to heal. Knowing is not required. It's a posture of curiosity. It's a posture of

Of saying what else could this mean? Because what I think it means now is damaging. What I think it means now is hurtful. What I think it means now is pissing me off. What I think it means now is really overwhelming and really cutting me deep. And before I own this hurt, pain, suffering, before I really adopt this, before I really say this is what it is, before I pretend.

Like I'm over it. It is what it is. Before I pretend like I'm over it and it ain't really went nowhere. As one once said, the body knows the body the holds this trauma and drama, it holds it. So it it really ain't went nowhere. You think you got over it. No, you didn't. You suppressed it. Before you play those games, ask yourself this question. What else could this mean? If nothing else, if nothing else, what that question will do for you is slow you down enough.

regulate you enough, give enough of a gap where you can either receive a greater revelation, receive a greater perspective, receive a better approach.

to receive a better whatever you need, to then go to that other person.

And seek clarity so that you can preserve and advance the communication, which will then preserve and advance the relationship, which will then ⁓ preserve and advance the life.

of that relationship. So you're going to argue less. And can you imagine if the two of you agree on doing this, you and the other person that you argue with most, the other person that you have confagine both of you putting this to practice and mutually agreeing that you're going to ask yourself these questions and you're going to pause before you ⁓ you know, like a like a judge with a with a little mallet, right? Before you

Boom, sentence them and send them to hell and send them write them off. Before you call them dead and toss them away and say that the life of that thing is over with. Before you bang your gavel, gavel.

You're gonna ask yourself, what else could this mean?

You're going to allow yourself to consider that question. And then you're going to approach that person with the curiosity of clarity. What did you really intend? What did you really mean by this? Sometimes you'll be led to say what you interpreted initially, sometimes you won't. Maybe they don't need to know what you initially interpreted as.

Sometimes silence is the best thing in that context. Like you don't have to share what you thought it meant. Sometimes you will acknowledge what you thought it meant, but but you're going to go to them with a posture and with an intention seeking clarity. And let them tell you what they meant. And if they meant to hurt you and harm you, if the if if if it was their intention to hurt and to harm you, you have to handle that accordingly.

Okay, maybe that person isn't the person that you need to continue that relationship with. Maybe there needs to be a separation. Maybe there needs to be some, okay, this isn't healthy for me. This isn't healthy for us. That's okay as well. I'm not advocating for that, but I'm not also advocating for you to reconcile ⁓ a relationship that's that's emotionally damaging, right? I'm not I'm not on either side. I'm giving you a question.

Some words, some language, and a framework that's gonna set you up to not knee-jerk react in and through your misunderstandings. You see? Not that quick, fast, irrational, illogical, right? Fast reaction. It's about responding. And it's about you slowing down and doing the work within yourself first.

All right. Hope and pray that this has blessed you, gave you something to work with. And yeah, man, just know that I'm praying for you, that other person, ⁓ that that you guys reconcile, that you guys heal, that you guys respect each other, love each other, give yourself space, time, that you guys give yourself this mutual consideration that you could be wrong. Yeah.

You could be wrong. You could have missed it. But the good news is you don't have to play that game. Maybe that's what you've been trained to do. Life has conditioned you to do that. But you're a big boy now. You're a big girl now. You don't have to continue. You can choose to continue, but you don't have to continue. There is a better way. And you can choose that better way. All right?

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